If you want to know what's on her mind, and what she's thinking...she needs to feel totally comfortable with you and trust you to the hilt. No question. If she doubts or doesn't feel comfortable talking with you about what she's going through- she won't risk divulging much at all. Maybe she will be a little general, or give you a crumb of information, but she won't go into depth and rawness.
She's learned that when she is open about what she's feeling, she can't help but be afraid of being judged and misunderstood. She's lost important people in her life, that now, she lost her voice. She's quiet. She's withdrawn. Her depression is deep. But most would never know it with the facade she puts on to not burden anyone or be asked questions. So she doesn't speak up much anymore. Not like she used to. She's not open like she used to be.
She doesn't share stories like she used to. Her abundant advice she always gave happily to those who asked, is now refined, short, and shielded. You'll catch her covering her mouth slightly, because something inside her WANTS to be open and how she always wore her heart on her sleeve, but she stops herself because she doesn't have the energy in her anymore to talk about issues.
So let me say this, if she doesn't open up to you like she used to, don't be offended or hurt. Know she's going through things that has quieted her words. Now, if you are part of the rare few that she actually opens up to freely, honesty flowing, and deep rawness of her thoughts and feelings...know she feels 100% at ease with you to actually open up to.
Don't take it for granted. Take what she's saying seriously and be attentive. This doesn't happen often. Don't make her regret she did. Make her confirm her feelings of trust with you by being there, listening, not using her words against her, not making her defend what she feels, and not betraying that trust. Because if you do, you won't ever get it again.
#Abdullah
Almost. It’s a big word for me. I feel it everywhere. Almost home. Almost happy. Almost changed. Almost, but not quite. not yet. Soon, maybe.
Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.
Do you stand up for your partner? Do they trust you to protect them? A true friend, keeps your secrets, watches your back and stands up for you when you're not around and stands beside you when you are.
Maybe it's easy to stand up for them with strangers, but what about when it's your own family or a close friend that's talking bad about your partner, what do you do then? Do you go along with it, sit there and say nothing, or do you speak up for them? Or what about your partner's family, do you stand by and let them talk down to them or push them around?
This is one of the most damaging situations in a relationship, being with someone who is too weak or afraid to stand up for you. How can your partner trust you if you don't protect them, or worse, betray them by joining in with criticizing them?
Your partner has opened their heart to you, allowed themselves to be vulnerable and share their pain, their fears, their hopes and dreams with you, you are the person that they should be able to trust the most. It's up to you to show them who you really are, show them that you are a person of integrity, a person with the courage to protect their dignity and their heart.
We all try to be tough, to be strong, but deep down, we all want to feel that someone has our back and will do whatever it takes to protect us. Courage is not the absence of fear, it's being afraid but doing what is right anyway. When you show your devotion by protecting the one you love, you earn their love, trust and loyalty.
(This post is not implying that you should protect an abuser or if a loved one is trying to help you get out of a toxic relationship. It's to encourage people in a healthy relationship to support each other better.)
#Abdullah - Love, Life & Relationship.
#Relationships #Love #Loyalty
A story doesn't exist unless it's Told.
Later, the coffee gets cold.
Later, you lose interest.
Later, the day turns into night.
Later, people grow up.
Later, people grow old.
Later, life goes by.
Later, you regret not doing something...
When you had the chance.
Life is a fleeting dance, a delicate balance of moments that unfold before us, never to return in quite the same way again.
Regret is a bitter pill to swallow, a weight that bears down upon the soul with the burden of missed chances and unspoken words.
So, let us not leave anything for later. Let us seize the moments as they come, with hearts open and arms outstretched to embrace the possibilities that lie before us. For in the end, it is not the things we did that we regret, but the things we left undone, the words left unspoken, the dreams left unfulfilled.
Every man hopes to have a good woman by his side, but many don’t realize that women with genuine hearts come with real, powerful emotions. They feel everything deeply, love with intensity, and give their whole heart to the people they care about.
A good woman is loyal to the core, but her tender heart means she can also become frustrated, hurt, or emotional when something doesn’t feel right. This isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s simply because she cares so deeply.
Sure, she might have her moody days, but one thing is certain: when a good woman loves you, it’s a rare, precious kind of love.
It’s a love you won’t find anywhere else. Value it.
‿ℒℴνℯ⁀💕 Abdullah
#Abdullah #KittyCat
When you finally meet someone who tries their hardest to be with you regardless of how difficult you are, stay with them.
Stay with them because finding someone who is willing to be with you at all costs doesn’t happen every day.
"Secret&Seductions"
"Perhaps, somewhere, someday, at a less miserable time, we may see each other again" - Abdullah.
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