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So have y'all just missed every single post where an intersex person tells you not to refer to intersex animals as "biologically nonbinary" or do y'all just not care what intersex people have to say. Genuine question

Saw a post a bit ago that was like "Is it just me or is like every intersex blogger really angry all the time, who pissed in your cereal bro?"

Wow I fucking wonder why we're pissed off. Really. No idea. I wonder if it has to do with having to deal with

Being systematically mutilated legally

If you weren't mutilated, almost nobody has a body like yours

You can't research how your sex organs & hormones function without seeing baby surgery gore and reports of how everybody like you was "fixed"

Having the US president declare us nonexistent

Being told we're freaks all our life and we need fixing

Have a long history of being killed at birth

Slurs for you literally fucking everywhere including in a scientific context and if you point it out people call you dramatic

More slurs for you if you ever dare to try to look at adult material

Any and all fiction that is listed as intersex is all stereotypes and obvious fetish material for perisex people - There is almost no representation.

Whenever you hear about people like you they're referred to as having a sex disorder, never being intersex

People who support the entire framework of your excising and mutilation go in your comments to concern troll about how they don't actually support that

Having almost no research done into our oppression — so there is a lack of statistics about systemic intersex assault/rape/murder — people use this to tell you it isn't happening (despite nearly every intersex person you've met has reported being victimized in some way)

Strangers online think they are entitled to your full medical history

A significant number of people online think you are a porn trope and are shocked to find out tou exist in real life

Your gender identity is erased and ignored because it doesn't make sense to perisex people

You are reduced to a discourse topic

Being considered "rare" (because we are actively being suppressed with violence) — people use that "rarity" to say you don't matter

People thinking its acceptable to sexually harass you and ask you about your genitals just because they find out you're intersex

Getting told that you're exaggerating when you say your group has been the victim of a successful extermination campaign — & that is why we are so invisible

Everyone ignores all of this ^ and tells you that someone else has it worse than you so you should shut up if you ever decide to speak up.

Wow. I wonder.

A new TikTok page that shares the stories of little girls / women who went through FGM. Please boost this page as much as possible, like share & follow!

as a fellow teenage radfem don't let the creeps get to you, they are the weird ones for harassing a kid as a grown adult <3

thank youu <3

same thing with non-binary womyn. wanting to escape womynhood is so SO normal but basically no one in our world understands being a womyn means nothing but being an adult human female. not conforming to sexist assumptions and stereotypes doesnt make you not a womyn

I wonder if women who identify as men see males as the "basic, default person" in a way. TIFs dysphoria sometimes begins with discomfort toward their breasts because they've been sexualized, or the trauma inherent in puberty and getting their period, or the expectation to wear makeup or objectifying clothing - and then they think, "Well, men don't have breasts or periods. They don't have to wear makeup or clothes like that."

I wonder if it's less about truly "feeling like a male" and more about seeing the male as the standard person who does not have all these additional problems and expectations and identifying with that.

Sometimes I wonder what the world would be like if there was no patriarchy, no gender roles, no men.

I imagine I'd be more secure in myself. I would be less afraid to allow my body to exist as it naturally is. I could jump into a lake shirtless and never feel the real or imagined lingering eyes on my back. There would be no "man-peering-through-the-keyhole" psychological phenomenon women experience - the urge to always be palatable to the male gaze. I could feel completely comfortable cutting all my hair off in the summer so I could comfortably tend to my garden without sweat dripping from my hair. There would be no "does this hairstyle fit my face" bullshit that men interestingly never subject themselves to. I would walk home alone at night in the city and I wouldn't feel the urge to check behind me every minute. I could stretch my arms high in the air without the urge to immediately put them back down lest others see that I am human enough to grow body hair - to be human as a woman in this world is to be a beast - I could lay on the warm sands of a beach without the urge to cover my legs with a towel for the same reason. I wouldn't ever feel anxiety when making connections with other women because I would know with confidence they won't sell me out for a corn chip of validation from the patriarchy, because there wouldn't be one. Other women wouldn't look down on me for existing against the grain. And there wouldn't be the other kind of human to beat, rape or kill me for the same. Other women wouldn't be pushing their daughters, themselves, or me to conform to the identity of "decorative object to be oggled" because there would never have been anyone to start the demand.

I could rip my clothes off and grow my claws, my fangs. I could become the beast I'm meant to be. I could run to a hilltop with my sisters under a full moon and dance around a fire while we howl "This is freedom! This is freedom! This is freedom!" We could laugh heartily, loudly. We could feast decadently on all the delicious things we deny ourselves. We could take up all of the space we desire. We could love - truly love - one another and the Earth. Life would flourish.

I am deeply saddened that will never be the world.

I hope you don't mind, I'd like to recommend you some authors for your journey as a young Feminist.

Audre Lorde and bell hooks are two of the most prominent Black, Visionary, Feminists to have ever written. They are foundational staples in Visionary Feminism.

Lorde's short speeches "The Master's Tools Will Never Dismantle The Master's House" and "There Is No Hierarchy Of Oppressions" are staples of Feminist literature and if you have access to your local library they can be found in The Selected Works of Audre Lorde, curated by Roxane Gay. "Sister Outsider" is also a staple book of hers.

I specifically recommend "Feminism is for Everybody" by hooks as well as looking into some of the many talks she was a part of before she passed that are all uploaded on YouTube.

Judith Butler is a highly academic read, but very easy to listen to if you look up interviews with them. If you're interested in higher academia Feminist thought, "Gender Trouble" is a great place to start and "Who's Afraid of Gender" really gets into current events and modern politics.

Leslie Feinberg is also a staple lesbian author. You can find a free PDF copy of "Stone Butch Blues" on Feinberg's website - lesliefeinberg.net.

I also recommend Kimberlé Crenshaw, Mikki Kendall, and María Lugones. Crenshaw is a key voice regarding Critical Race Theory and she has many speeches and talks that you can find on YouTube. Mikki Kendall is the author of "Hood Feminism" - which is a staple on my own shelf. Lugones was an Argentine feminist philosopher and similar to Butler, she was deeply academic. Her work is in dialogue with another Peruvian humanist thinker, Aníbal Quijano, regarding colonialism and power.

Most of those books should be available at your local library and almost of these thinkers have talks and speeches freely available on YouTube as well. I truly wish you well in your growth as a young Feminist voice.

i really appreciate this!! ill definitely look into these the next time i go to the library ：）

the facy that SO many of them are fathers is absolutely sickening.

I wish all of these men a slow, violently tortuous death.

this is what a lot of men want it’s so terrifying

I feel a bit iffy about young kids in radblr spaces, so I just wanted to come in and say I hope you stay safe. Radfems get a bunch of death and rape threats. Apart from that, there are a lot of very grotesque topics we discuss that can be triggering for a sensitive audience.

I also recommend turning off anons. People feel way more comfortable being unapologetically hateful when they don't have to directly link their profile.

💯 turning off anons now! probably shouldve a while ago