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get okay with being some level of burden on others, seriously

“Today I forgive myself. Not just once. Again, and again, and again. As many times as it takes to find peace.”

— Unknown

Franz Kafka, Letters to Friends, Family, and Editors

current thoughts while trying to be social

Love is patient. Lust can't wait and is impulsive.

Love is kind. Lust is cruel, critical, and manipulative.

Love does not envy. Lust seeks more than it earns.

Love does not boast. Lust serves self at the expense of others.

Love is not proud. Lust is easily threatened.

Love is not rude. Lust is disrespectful and thoughtless.

Love is not self-seeking. Lust is demanding and uncaring.

Love is not easily angered. Lust is temperamental and retaliatory.

Love keeps no records of wrongs. Lust does not forget offenses.

Love does not delight in evil. Lust commits wrong to get its own way and rationalizes it.

Love rejoices in the truth. Lust encourages lies and covers up misdeeds.

Love always protects. Lust takes for selfish gain and lacks concern for consequences to others.

Love always trusts. Lust is suspicious and jealous.

Love always hopes. Lust says one chance and you're out.

Love always perseveres. Lust retreats when it is no longer convenient.

Love never fails (it is constant, enduring, and faithful to the end). Lust ends when self is no longer served (it is fickle, insecure, and unfaithful).

Hello Elle, do you have any tips for maintaining a professional network? I know the basics when it comes to networking such as reaching out to people via Linkedin, attending networking events and reaching out to professionals who work at companies of interest. However, I am not sure how to maintain a longlasting professional network effectively as I am not from a background where networking was taught. How often do you suggest reaching out to members of your network? What do you speak about when you reach out to them? How do you provide value to your network if you are still studying at university and are not in an established career?

Hello Anon,

Really great question! Let's see...

Regarding timelines, follow the 2-2-4 Rule:

After your first meeting, reach out the next day to thank them for their time and ask them to put you in touch with members of their team/company.

Two weeks later, follow up again with an update on your correspondence with those they originally put you into contact with. Thank them again for their time.

Two months later reach out and request to speak again. During that conversation update them on your professional development and (if you're interested in their field or company) ask them directly for potential in's.

After the two month mark, send them a brief noteonce every 4-5 months.

What to speak about:

My conversations usually go like this: I thank them profusely for taking the time to speak with me, I ask them how they're doing, we make small talk for a few minutes, and then I get to introducing myself thoroughly and explaining why I reached out. I also always come equipped with 3-5 questions about their career and any advice they have for me. And I always always always close the conversation with asking them to connect me with other people in their network.

The most important thing is to make the conversation as smooth as possible. You want them to like you and you definitely don't want them to feel uncomfortable so be flexible. One of the most recent men I've networked with got his hands on my resume and when he saw that I put 'classic rock' as one of my interests he insisted we talk about it for the entire 30 minute call and I had to just go along with it! So have a clear goal in mind but allow yourself to be flexible.

How often should you reach out to your network?

As often as you can handle! When I was doing my internship this summer I had at least one chat daily with a member of the firm. At first it was tedious but I eventually got into a rhythm and it just worked for me. So decide how many times per week you feel comfortable meeting with members of your network and go from there!

How do you provide value as a college student?

Short answer: you don't. And frankly, you don't need to because no one expects you to. I wouldn't worry about providing value until you're a full time worker because at this age, everyone knows exactly why you're reaching out to them and there's no need to pretend you want anything out of them except a job. This is the one time in your career where you can be positively selfish and let people help you out of the goodness of their hearts. There's absolutely nothing you can give them that they would need right now so don't worry about trying to do so!

Hope that helps!

-Elle

How do you romanticize your life? Xx

I guess I do a lot! Let's see, I:

Set my alarm 15 minutes early and open my blinds so I can stretch in the sun before starting my day

Sit in a sauna for 15-30 minutes daily while drinking cold lemon water

Consume sappy harlequin novels like they’re going out of style

Go on 2-3 hour long walks in nature several times per week

Meditate for 30 minutes before bed

Repeat affirmations in the shower and while brushing my teeth

Tell myself I'm beautiful every time I look in the mirror

Work at a daycare 3x per week because I love squeezing toddlers

Rub glycolic acid all over my body and top it with a rich cream after showering

Eat tons of watery fruit and drink 2 gallons of water daily

Host Charcuterie Sundays, Taco Tuesdays, and Pizza Fridays

Stay out all night Saturday and sleep all day Sunday

Listen to musical theatre while working

Watch at least one cheesy Netflix Romcom per week

Volunteer at my local nursing home once per month

Eat a bit of dark chocolate every night before bed

Keep a dream journal

Add to my vision board and read through my list of long term and short term goals daily

Exfoliate my face and body every Sunday night

Light a candle every evening

Purchase cheap beauty, health, love, and happiness spells on Etsy

Listen to Neville Goddard every morning while getting ready

Make my own floral arrangements and often gift them to other people

Walk bare foot in my backyard because it feels amazing

Open a recipe book at a random page and cook whatever I land on

Get on my knees and pray every night before turning out the light

Repeat "Thank you, God" in my head more times than I can count daily :)

Lovingly,

Elle

Skin cycling works sooo well!! I’ve been doing it for about a month and my skin looks incredible 😍

Skip Google for Research

As Google has worked to overtake the internet, its search algorithm has not just gotten worse.  It has been designed to prioritize advertisers and popular pages often times excluding pages and content that better matches your search terms 

As a writer in need of information for my stories, I find this unacceptable.  As a proponent of availability of information so the populace can actually educate itself, it is unforgivable.

Below is a concise list of useful research sites compiled by Edward Clark over on Facebook. I was familiar with some, but not all of these.

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Google is so powerful that it “hides” other search systems from us. We just don’t know the existence of most of them. Meanwhile, there are still a huge number of excellent searchers in the world who specialize in books, science, other smart information. Keep a list of sites you never heard of.

www.refseek.com - Academic Resource Search. More than a billion sources: encyclopedia, monographies, magazines.

www.worldcat.org - a search for the contents of 20 thousand worldwide libraries. Find out where lies the nearest rare book you need.

https://link.springer.com - access to more than 10 million scientific documents: books, articles, research protocols.

www.bioline.org.br is a library of scientific bioscience journals published in developing countries.

http://repec.org - volunteers from 102 countries have collected almost 4 million publications on economics and related science.

www.science.gov is an American state search engine on 2200+ scientific sites. More than 200 million articles are indexed.

www.pdfdrive.com is the largest website for free download of books in PDF format. Claiming over 225 million names.

www.base-search.net is one of the most powerful researches on academic studies texts. More than 100 million scientific documents, 70% of them are free

Things you think every woman should learn?

How to pose in pictures

How to to use basic power tools

How to clean your home

How to kick some ass

How to host 

How to sleep well

How to say no!

How to masturbate

How to chop things 

How to keep a finance journal

How to fix a button

How to bake a basic cake

How to get stains out 

How to enjoy your own presence

How to grow a mini herb garden 

How to fold your clothes properly

How to jumpstart a car

How to make one pot pasta 

How to buy vegtables

driving makes me so sad the whole time driving I kept on thinking about how I wish I lived in the Netherlands riding bikes n shii

LEAVE ALL YOUR LOVE AND YOUR LONGING BEHIND YOU CANT CARRY IT WITH YOU IF YOU WANT TO SURVIVE

last day of high school-

I havent written here in a while, im a bit ashamed and embarassed because of my lack of progress but I remember that good things take time.

Who cares about the past, thinking about the past and constantly reliving it by being in a cycle of self loathing and self hate does nothing for me. Side note: god do I want to leave my area… i feel like it would push me out of my comfort zone.

Anyway this summer I want to finally commit to myself. Not be a prisoner of my past wether it be: past trauma, past relationships, limiting beliefs, self hate, self loathing, obsession and attachment.

I have always been on my own, this time I am enjoying and nurturing myself rather than seeking someone else or something else to do it for me

we are all very lonely and desperate for friendship i dont think you will really embarrass yourself by unabashedly seeking it out. i think you will find many other people are also looking for it. people will gravitate towards you if you just let them. its going to be fine

So my sister wants to start sewing more, because

a. She’s 5′ 11″ and can never find pants long enough for her legs or shirts long enough for her arms.

b. She hates synthetic fibers as much as I do and it’s difficult to find natural fiber clothes that aren’t made of cotton

c. She’s a biologist and would physically fistfight microplastics if given half a chance

So her gift from mom and dad for her birthday was a sewing machine. Not a super expensive one but a good solid serviceable one.

And recently she asked “So where do I GET wool or linen and thread that isn’t polyester” and mom was like ‘go ask your sister’

And I, of course, crashed into the group text like “GET A PEN I HAVE WEBSITES FOR U” and honestly I’m thrilled about this

SenshiStock’s gallery consists of millions of pictures that are free to use as reference.

General Drawing Poses Sit and Kneel Dramatic and Reaching Drawing Poses Magic and Hogwarts Drawing Poses Staff Weapon Pose Reference Hammer, Axe and Bat Pose Reference Sword Weapon Drawing Reference Small Bladed Weapon Pose Reference Gun Weapon Pose Reference Bow and Arrow Archery Stock Foreshortening and Perspective Poses Dynamic Flying Falling Action Poses Deafeated or Laying Drawing Poses Magic Crystal Magical Girl Wand Weapon Transformations and Dance Cards Back Pose Reference Pin Up Inspired Poses for Drawing Performances Poses Life in General Poses Fights and Fighting Pose Reference Leaning Poses Classic Sailor Senshi Poses Wings Sailor Moon Villains Pairs Romance or Couples Pose Reference All the Male Stock Hanging Stock Drawing Reference Three or More Groups Instruments Mirrors Whip  Technobabble  

A mouth-watering fuck-ton of hand references.

[From various sources]

dropbox containing linguistics textbooks

contains 34 textbooks including etymology, language acquisition, morphology, phonetics/phonology, psycholinguistics, sociolinguistics, & translation studies

dropbox containing language textbooks

contains 123 language textbooks including ASL, Arabic, Bengali, Cantonese, (Mandarin) Chinese, Croatian, Czech, Danish, Dutch, Estonian, Farsi, French, German, Greek, Hebrew (Modern & Ancient), Hindi, Hungarian, Icelandic, Indonesian, Irish, Italian, Japanese, Khmer, Korean, Latin, Lithuanian, Nahuatl, Norwegian, Polish, Portuguese, Punjabi, Romanian, Russian, Serbian, Slovene, Spanish, Swahili, Swedish, Tagalog, Tamil, Thai, Turkish, Urdu, Vietnamese, Welsh

dropbox containing books about language learning

includes fluent forever by gabriel wyner, how to learn any language by barry farber, polyglot by kató lomb

if there’s a problem with any of the textbooks or if you want to request materials for a specific language feel free to message me!

FAMOUS AUTHORS

Classic Bookshelf: This site has put classic novels online, from Charles Dickens to Charlotte Bronte.

The Online Books Page: The University of Pennsylvania hosts this book search and database.

Project Gutenberg: This famous site has over 27,000 free books online.

Page by Page Books: Find books by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle and H.G. Wells, as well as speeches from George W. Bush on this site.

Classic Book Library: Genres here include historical fiction, history, science fiction, mystery, romance and children’s literature, but they’re all classics.

Classic Reader: Here you can read Shakespeare, young adult fiction and more.

Read Print: From George Orwell to Alexandre Dumas to George Eliot to Charles Darwin, this online library is stocked with the best classics.

Planet eBook: Download free classic literature titles here, from Dostoevsky to D.H. Lawrence to Joseph Conrad.

The Spectator Project: Montclair State University’s project features full-text, online versions of The Spectator and The Tatler.

Bibliomania: This site has more than 2,000 classic texts, plus study guides and reference books.

Online Library of Literature: Find full and unabridged texts of classic literature, including the Bronte sisters, Mark Twain and more.

Bartleby: Bartleby has much more than just the classics, but its collection of anthologies and other important novels made it famous.

Fiction.us: Fiction.us has a huge selection of novels, including works by Lewis Carroll, Willa Cather, Sherwood Anderson, Flaubert, George Eliot, F. Scott Fitzgerald and others.

Free Classic Literature: Find British authors like Shakespeare and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, plus other authors like Jules Verne, Mark Twain, and more.

TEXTBOOKS

Textbook Revolution: Find biology, business, engineering, mathematics and world history textbooks here.

Wikibooks: From cookbooks to the computing department, find instructional and educational materials here.

KnowThis Free Online Textbooks: Get directed to stats textbooks and more.

Online Medical Textbooks: Find books about plastic surgery, anatomy and more here.

Online Science and Math Textbooks: Access biochemistry, chemistry, aeronautics, medical manuals and other textbooks here.

MIT Open Courseware Supplemental Resources: Find free videos, textbooks and more on the subjects of mechanical engineering, mathematics, chemistry and more.

Flat World Knowledge: This innovative site has created an open college textbooks platform that will launch in January 2009.

Free Business Textbooks: Find free books to go along with accounting, economics and other business classes.

Light and Matter: Here you can access open source physics textbooks.

eMedicine: This project from WebMD is continuously updated and has articles and references on surgery, pediatrics and more.

MATH AND SCIENCE

FullBooks.com: This site has “thousands of full-text free books,” including a large amount of scientific essays and books.

Free online textbooks, lecture notes, tutorials and videos on mathematics: NYU links to several free resources for math students.

Online Mathematics Texts: Here you can find online textbooks likeElementary Linear Algebra and Complex Variables.

Science and Engineering Books for free download: These books range in topics from nanotechnology to compressible flow.

FreeScience.info: Find over 1800 math, engineering and science books here.

Free Tech Books: Computer programmers and computer science enthusiasts can find helpful books here.

CHILDREN’S BOOKS

byGosh: Find free illustrated children’s books and stories here.

Munseys: Munseys has nearly 2,000 children’s titles, plus books about religion, biographies and more.

International Children’s Digital Library: Find award-winning books and search by categories like age group, make believe books, true books or picture books.

Lookybook: Access children’s picture books here.

PHILOSOPHY AND RELIGION

Bored.com: Bored.com has music ebooks, cooking ebooks, and over 150 philosophy titles and over 1,000 religion titles.

Ideology.us: Here you’ll find works by Rene Descartes, Sigmund Freud, Karl Marx, David Hume and others.

Free Books on Yoga, Religion and Philosophy: Recent uploads to this site include Practical Lessons in Yoga and Philosophy of Dreams.

The Sociology of Religion: Read this book by Max Weber, here.

Religion eBooks: Read books about the Bible, Christian books, and more.

PLAYS

ReadBookOnline.net: Here you can read plays by Chekhov, Thomas Hardy, Ben Jonson, Shakespeare, Edgar Allan Poe and others.

Plays: Read Pygmalion, Uncle Vanya or The Playboy of the Western World here.

The Complete Works of William Shakespeare: MIT has made available all of Shakespeare’s comedies, tragedies, and histories.

Plays Online: This site catalogs “all the plays [they] know about that are available in full text versions online for free.”

ProPlay: This site has children’s plays, comedies, dramas and musicals.

MODERN FICTION, FANTASY AND ROMANCE

Public Bookshelf: Find romance novels, mysteries and more.

The Internet Book Database of Fiction: This forum features fantasy and graphic novels, anime, J.K. Rowling and more.

Free Online Novels: Here you can find Christian novels, fantasy and graphic novels, adventure books, horror books and more.

Foxglove: This British site has free novels, satire and short stories.

Baen Free Library: Find books by Scott Gier, Keith Laumer and others.

The Road to Romance: This website has books by Patricia Cornwell and other romance novelists.

Get Free Ebooks: This site’s largest collection includes fiction books.

John T. Cullen: Read short stories from John T. Cullen here.

SF and Fantasy Books Online: Books here include Arabian Nights,Aesop’s Fables and more.

Free Novels Online and Free Online Cyber-Books: This list contains mostly fantasy books.

FOREIGN LANGUAGE

Project Laurens Jz Coster: Find Dutch literature here.

ATHENA Textes Francais: Search by author’s name, French books, or books written by other authors but translated into French.

Liber Liber: Download Italian books here. Browse by author, title, or subject.

Biblioteca romaneasca: Find Romanian books on this site.

Bibliolteca Virtual Miguel de Cervantes: Look up authors to find a catalog of their available works on this Spanish site.

KEIMENA: This page is entirely in Greek, but if you’re looking for modern Greek literature, this is the place to access books online.

Proyecto Cervantes: Texas A&M’s Proyecto Cervantes has cataloged Cervantes’ work online.

Corpus Scriptorum Latinorum: Access many Latin texts here.

Project Runeberg: Find Scandinavian literature online here.

Italian Women Writers: This site provides information about Italian women authors and features full-text titles too.

Biblioteca Valenciana: Register to use this database of Catalan and Valencian books.

Ketab Farsi: Access literature and publications in Farsi from this site.

Afghanistan Digital Library: Powered by NYU, the Afghanistan Digital Library has works published between 1870 and 1930.

CELT: CELT stands for “the Corpus of Electronic Texts” features important historical literature and documents.

Projekt Gutenberg-DE: This easy-to-use database of German language texts lets you search by genres and author.

HISTORY AND CULTURE

LibriVox: LibriVox has a good selection of historical fiction.

The Perseus Project: Tufts’ Perseus Digital Library features titles from Ancient Rome and Greece, published in English and original languages.

Access Genealogy: Find literature about Native American history, the Scotch-Irish immigration in the 19th and 20th centuries, and more.

Free History Books: This collection features U.S. history books, including works by Paul Jennings, Sarah Morgan Dawson, Josiah Quincy and others.

Most Popular History Books: Free titles include Seven Days and Seven Nights by Alexander Szegedy and Autobiography of a Female Slave by Martha G. Browne.

RARE BOOKS

Questia: Questia has 5,000 books available for free, including rare books and classics.

ARTS AND ENTERTAINMENT

Books-On-Line: This large collection includes movie scripts, newer works, cookbooks and more.

Chest of Books: This site has a wide range of free books, including gardening and cooking books, home improvement books, craft and hobby books, art books and more.

Free e-Books: Find titles related to beauty and fashion, games, health, drama and more.

2020ok: Categories here include art, graphic design, performing arts, ethnic and national, careers, business and a lot more.

Free Art Books: Find artist books and art books in PDF format here.

Free Web design books: OnlineComputerBooks.com directs you to free web design books.

Free Music Books: Find sheet music, lyrics and books about music here.

Free Fashion Books: Costume and fashion books are linked to the Google Books page.

MYSTERY

MysteryNet: Read free short mystery stories on this site.

TopMystery.com: Read books by Edgar Allan Poe, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, GK Chesterton and other mystery writers here.

Mystery Books: Read books by Sue Grafton and others.

POETRY

The Literature Network: This site features forums, a copy of The King James Bible, and over 3,000 short stories and poems.

Poetry: This list includes “The Raven,” “O Captain! My Captain!” and “The Ballad of Bonnie and Clyde.”

Poem Hunter: Find free poems, lyrics and quotations on this site.

Famous Poetry Online: Read limericks, love poetry, and poems by Robert Browning, Emily Dickinson, John Donne, Lord Byron and others.

Google Poetry: Google Books has a large selection of poetry, fromThe Canterbury Tales to Beowulf to Walt Whitman.

QuotesandPoem.com: Read poems by Maya Angelou, William Blake, Sylvia Plath and more.

CompleteClassics.com: Rudyard Kipling, Allen Ginsberg and Alfred Lord Tennyson are all featured here.

PinkPoem.com: On this site, you can download free poetry ebooks.

MISC

Banned Books: Here you can follow links of banned books to their full text online.

World eBook Library: This monstrous collection includes classics, encyclopedias, children’s books and a lot more.

DailyLit: DailyLit has everything from Moby Dick to the recent phenomenon, Skinny Bitch.

A Celebration of Women Writers: The University of Pennsylvania’s page for women writers includes Newbery winners.

Free Online Novels: These novels are fully online and range from romance to religious fiction to historical fiction.

ManyBooks.net: Download mysteries and other books for your iPhone or eBook reader here.

Authorama: Books here are pulled from Google Books and more. You’ll find history books, novels and more.

Prize-winning books online: Use this directory to connect to full-text copies of Newbery winners, Nobel Prize winners and Pulitzer winners.

good poems i’ve read recently

all they want is my money my pussy my blood - morgan parker

compass - joan naviyuk kane

dear, beloved - sumita chakraborty

dead things - muriel leung

desire’s dog - joy harjo

for those of you who are home, welcome - akosua zimba afiriyie-hwedie

kal - fatimah asghar

lessons - jacqueline woodson

mulberry fields - lucille clifton

son of msippi- henry dumas

self-portrait with and without - chen chen

a story - li-young lee

year of the monkey - paul tran

charlie texting that he is screaming whilst lying on his phone in a dark room is officially the most accurate depiction of any person, ever

“I’ve learned that millions of people can believe in you, and yet none of it matters if you don’t believe in yourself.”

— Unknown

Short Description of DBT Skills

This is just a short directory to explain, in one sentence or two, what these concepts mean, and what the use of each skill is by defining it.  Come to this page if you can’t remember what IMPROVE or DEAR MAN stands for, but don’t want to have to read the long post that introduced those skills on SBD.

See the DBT Skills Masterpost for posts that go into each of these skills or sets of skills in depth.

Mindfulness Skills:

Wise Mind: The Wise Mind is the balance between Emotion Mind and Logic/Reasonable Mind

Observe: Notice without getting caught in the experience.  Experience without reacting to the experience.

Describe: When a feeling or thought arises, or you act, acknowledge it with a description of the thought or action or sensation, etc.  Describe to yourself what is happening and label your feelings.

Participate: Enter into your experiences, act intuitively, be completely immersed in the experience, in the present.

Non-Judgmental: See, but don’t evaluate.  Focus on the “what” happened, not on what “should” or “should not” have happened.

One-Mindful: Focus on the moment–do one thing at a time and completely focus on what you are doing or whom you are with.  Let go of distractions.

Effective:  Do just what is necessary in a situation to achieve your goals.  Focus on what works, and direct your efforts there.  Act skillfully, because the more you practice acting skillfully, the more Effective you will become at attaining your goals.

Distress Tolerance Skills:

STOP:  Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed Mindfully

TIP: Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing/Paired Muscle Relaxation/Progressive Muscle Relaxation (used to change your level of distress quickly)

Distract using Wise Mind ACCEPTS: Distract yourself with Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, Sensations

Self-Soothe: Use the senses (vision, hearing, taste, smell, touch) to soothe your physical self in order to make your emotions less painful.

IMPROVE the Moment: Improve the moment with Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing in the moment, Vacations, Encouragement

Pros and Cons: Examine the short term and long term pros and cons of acting and not acting on your urges/impulses using a chart.

Radical Acceptance/Reality Acknowledgement: Acknowledge what is, let go of fighting or denying reality.  Use TURNING THE MIND to commit to acknowledgement over and over again.

Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills:

Clarified Priorities: What is most important to you in this interpersonal interaction 1) Obtaining your objective, 2) Maintaining the relationship, or 3) Maintaining your self-esteem/sense of self-worth

DEAR MAN: Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, stay Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate (used for saying “no” or asking for something; obtaining your objective)

GIVE: Be Gentle, act/be Interested, Validate, use an Easy manner (used for maintaining a relationship)

FAST: Be Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, be Truthful (used to maintain your self-esteem/sense of self-worth)

Emotion Regulation Skills:

PLEASE: For reducing vulnerability, treat PhysicaL illness, balance Eating, avoid mood-Alerting drugs (as in street drugs or non-prescription drugs), balance Sleep, get Exercise

ABC: Accumulate Positive Emotions/Experiences: For reducing vulnerabilities in the Short Term: Do pleasant things that are possible now.  For reducing vulnerabilities in the Long Term: Make changes in your life so that positive events will occur more often.  This helps “build a life worth living for you.”

ABC: Build Mastery: Engage in activities that make you feel competent and in control.

ABC: Cope Ahead: Cope ahead of time with emotional situations.  Rehearse a plan ahead of time so that you are prepared to cope skillfully with emotional situations.

Opposite Action: Change emotions by acting opposite to current emotions/urges. Used for when emotions don’t fit the facts of a situation.

Check the Facts: Check out whether your reactions (emotional or behavioural) fit the facts of the situation.  Changing beliefs and assumptions to fit the facts can help you change your emotional reactions to situations.

Problem Solve: When the facts themselves are the problem, solving emotional problems consistently and effectively will reduce the frequency of negative emotions and increase your sense of competency in regards to dealing with these emotions/urges.

-Pandora

DBT Skills and Related Information Masterpost 2.0

All the content in this post uses the Skills Training Manual (Second Edition) by Marsha Linehan as the basis of every post on skills and concepts.  Rather than just copying out what is written in the Manual, I’ve elaborated on these skills, concepts, and their components using what has been taught to me in my DBT group sessions as well as my own personal understanding of the skills.  Nevertheless, the Manual is the basis and starting point of all the posts here except for the “Other Information” section.  Everything that is covered in the Manual’s Skills component will eventually be covered in posts contained in this masterpost.

General DBT Information:

Goals of DBT (Coming Soon)

Options for Solving Any Problem

The Biosocial Theory of Emotional and Behavioural Dysregulation

Short Description of DBT Skills

How to Analyze Behaviour: Chain Analysis (Coming Soon)

How to Analyze Behaviour: Missing Link Analysis (Coming Soon)

My Personal Experience with DBT (Coming Soon)

Mindfulness:

Intro to Mindfulness (What Is Mindfulness, What are the Goals of Mindfulness, What Does it Mean to Practice Mindfulness)

Wise Mind, Emotion Mind, and Logic Mind

Mindfulness “What” Skills (Observe, Describe, Participate)

Mindfulness “How” Skills (Non-Judgmental, One-Mindful, Effective)

Distress Tolerance and Radical Acceptance:

Intro to Distress Tolerance (What is a Crisis, When to Use Distress Tolerance Skills, Goals of Distress Tolerance)

The STOP Skill

The TIP Skill

The Pros and Cons Skill (Coming Soon)

The Distract using Wise Mind ACCEPTS Skill (Coming Soon)

The Self-Soothe Skill

List of Ideas to Help You Self-Soothe

How to Create a Self-Soothe Kit (Coming Very Soon)

The IMPROVE the Moment Skill

What is Radical Acceptance / Reality Acknowledgement

More Info on Radical Acceptance

How to Practice Radical Acceptance / Reality Acknowledgement

How to Practice Radical Acceptance / Reality Acknowledgement for Abuse Survivors

Things which may interfere with Reality Acknowledgement

Willingness, Half-Smiling and Willing Hands

Willingness, Willfulness, and Turning the Mind

Interpersonal Effectiveness:

Intro to Interpersonal Effectiveness (Coming Very Soon)

Myths that Interfere with Interpersonal Effectiveness (Coming Soon)

Clarifying Priorities and Objectives in an Interpersonal Relationship (Coming Very Soon)

Interpersonal Effectiveness Part 1: DEAR MAN

The DEAR MAN Skill, SBD Version (Coming Soon)

How to Write a DEAR MAN Script (Coming Soon)

Interpersonal Effectiveness Part 2: GIVE

The GIVE Skill, SBD Version (Coming Soon)

Interpersonal Effectiveness Part 3: FAST

The FAST Skill, SBD Version (Coming Soon)

Troubleshooting Interpersonal Effectiveness (Coming Soon)

Emotion Regulation:

Intro to Emotion Regulation

What Emotions Do For You and Myths about Emotions

Factors that Make Regulating Emotions Difficult

How to Identify and Describe Emotions (Coming Soon)

The Check the Facts Skill

How to Check the Facts Skill Method 1

How to Check the Facts Skill Method 2

The Opposite Action Skill (Coming Soon)

Intro to Problem Solving (Coming Soon)

The ABC Skill: Accumulate Positive Experiences/Emotions, Build Mastery, Cope Ahead

List of Values and Priorities

List of Pleasant Events

How can I build positive experiences?

The PLEASE Skill (Coming Soon)

Troubleshooting Emotion Regulation Skills (Coming Soon)

Other Information:

What is Self-Enquiry?

What is Urge-Surfing?

I need help identifying emotions?

How can I let go of emotional suffering?

How do I cope with interpersonal problems?

NOTE: This post will be updated on a semi-regular basis as we add more DBT posts to the blog. If you’re seeing a reblogged version of this, be sure to check the original post to see if it has been updated.  This is a Work In Progress and will be updated regularly as I write more posts.   Each time I write a post, it will get immediately added to the list.   Also additional posts may be added that are not already included on this list.  Now that the inbox has been re-opened, feel free to request one of the topics on this list that you would like me to prioritize.  I’m currently in the process of learning the Emotion Regulation unit, so those posts are likely a couple weeks away at least and I won’t be able to get to them if they’re requested until I’ve learned about them in my DBT group. This post will be reblogged every time four or five new DBT posts have been added to it, so that you can have an up-to-date record.

-Pandora

I want to live in a Claude Monet painting

d’you ever just stop and think about how fucking amazing artemesia gentileschi was

This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.

Just thought I'd remind everybody this:

Your past, younger, and more afraid self would be so proud of you

That scared kid who didn't know what tomorrow would be like? They're proud of you for making it even longer than tomorrow

That person who has lost all hope? They're amazed and inspired by how strong you've become

That insecure person who hates their looks? They think you've become absolutely gorgeous flaws and all

The past you may have been unsure of themselves, but you being alive right now is proof that you can survive anything. And that you'll someday be exactly what your younger self wished they were

Titsayy