~Kitten

~Daddy

😈

~Kitten❤️❤️❤️❤️

Remember Kids;

Always give your Master aftercare. Especially if he is a sweet angel who doesn’t want to hurt you but does it because he knows both of you feels better when and after its done. After everything is said and over with, he needs that reassurance that he isn’t a bad person, a bad boyfriend, a bad Master. Just like you need that reassurance too.

~Daddy

Sounds like you Kitten 😋❤️

Yes SIR. That she does… 😊

~Kitten

Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

~Kitten

!!!😍😍😍

~Daddy

Damn right 😋😉

Go ahead and push me to my limit

~Kitten

~Daddy

Tease? 😈

The code to get nudes from Crystal and some of unaware tumblr followers is making them see: 🍈🍈

~Daddy

😈😋

~Kitten ❤️❤️

When things go wrong

Pup was hurt yesterday. 

It was an accident. We have been practising bondage. Until I met Pup I thought it was something I was relatively good at but until I met Pup I had never been with someone who was double jointed and has some hypermobility. When permitted to try, she always manges to wriggle out no matter how careful and precise I am. 

I am learning how her body works and her range. She is happy for me to practice on her. Often bondage is not a sexual act with us. It can be - definitely, but sometimes it is a bonding exercise more than a sexual act. 

Rope takes patience. Focus. Precision. Communication. Care. Many of the elements we encourage in D/s in general. 

Yesterday she was in a hogtie. Not the first time but this time she was also wearing nipple clamps. Pup doesn’t enjoy the feeling of pain but she does enjoy enduring it. I had a theory that perhaps the element of pain would have some impact on her ability to free herself.

 I was taking photos of her when I noticed a wince. I stopped to check her bonds and make sure she was O.K. 

The source of the wince was identified as the pain from her nipples and that’s when I made a foolish mistake. 

I took them off. 

I had meant to stop the pain. There was no warm up and nothing to help counteract it. This was not a time for pain and roughness. What I stupidly forgot was that the clamps would hurt more coming off than they hurt being on. 

I promise. I knew. 

I should have checked. She should have been untied first. She should have been told to brace and prepare herself. I should have held her. Any of these things would have been better than simply reaching down and releasing them. 

The pain shocked her. It hurt. She bucked and thrashed.

New ties. New knots. Sudden pain. Thrashing. Not a good combination. 

Her eyes welled. Her body twisted. Her shoulder dislocated with a loud “pop”.

The safety scissors came out. The rope was cut. I stroked her hair. I let her lay on the floor as I gently lay on top of her. Pressing against her softly and helping her calm. 

Her breathing settled and I helped her get dressed. Telling her I was proud and explaining I had to take her to the hospital - I was not going to attempt to put her shoulder back myself.

Pup was fantastic. 

Even though she was clearly in pain she was able to remain calm. She paused before we went in, taking my hand and explaining rope marks and an injury meant it was better if she spoke for herself - worried that the difference between being seen as a kinky but consensual couple who had an accident and an abusive situation could be the difference between Pup presenting as calm, confident and capable rather than silent and constantly deferring to me. 

We had spoken about this before. She knew I understood that it was better if I fought my instincts to take control and be overprotective. That’s not why she mentioned it. 

As this beautiful girl sat next to me. Tears still in her eyes, cradling a limp arm and barely able to move without wincing in pain and she wanted to comfort me. She wanted to let me know she didn’t blame me. She wanted to reassure me she wasn’t upset. She wanted to make sure I knew she wasn’t taking charge because she lost trust or thought I had failed in my role. Here was pup, injured and in pain, wanting to comfort and reassure me. 

All through that night she comforted and reassured me just as much as I did for her.

Today has been a quiet day of rest and puppy pampering. I bathed her and shaved her. I carried her everywhere when possible because a strapped shoulder and pain means she couldn’t crawl. It was a “Netflix and chill” day. 

She is doing well. Currently curled between my legs. Gently worshipping me (a calming activity for her). She is a well kept and happy pet. She hasn’t even complained about me taking her devices away.

This too is D/s. Two partners comforting and reassuring each other when things go wrong. Identifying how to prevent it in the future. Caring for one another when we’re hurting or injured. 

It might not be sexy. But this too is us.

–Spencer–