Dragongoblinhybridboy

I love Twitter bc everyone is dumb

It’s a struggle to want to be seen as the same gender as a cis man but also not wanting to have the fact that I’m trans erased.

Yes, I’m a man like he is. No, I don’t get treated like one. I’m not getting paid like one. Doctors think I might change my mind about not wanting to get pregnant and are more concerned about what my future cis straight husband might want after I detransition, a thing they’re sure will happen despite me having zero desire to detransition and being happier living as a man. Cis women act like I’m forcibly turning them into lesbians if I show any sign I might want them sexually, even though lesbians either want nothing to do with me or think they can “fix” me. Cis gay men don’t want me in their spaces and accuse me of wanting to do conversion therapy on them.

None of this is how a cis man would be treated but I’m still the same fucking gender as him. Kind of like how a gay man and a straight man and a bi man and an ace man are the same gender but get treated differently. If you can wrap your head around this concept, the rest should not be that hard for you.

Compassion fatigue, activism fatigue, secondary trauma, all of those are very real things. Being burned out doesn't mean you're a bad person, or that you don't care. It means your brain needs a break, because it's meant to deal with stress in short bursts, not a constant, nonstop deluge of stress. (And that's true no matter how privileged you are/aren't. That's just how human brains work.) Don't ever feel guilty for feeling burned out; it does not reflect on you as a person. You have nothing to be guilty about.

And, don't ever feel guilty about taking some time to rest, taking a step back from the news cycle, social media, filtering certain tags, etc. etc. You can always come back to it. You need to give yourself a break, or you'll have some kind of breakdown, be it mental, physical, or both. And there is a difference between staying informed and doomscrolling. There is a difference between "selfishness" or "self-indulgence" and self-care. There is a difference between "not caring" and taking a step back for the sake of your mental health. And yes, there is a difference between "I don't care," and "I just don't have the mental/physical/emotional/etc. bandwidth to deal with this right now." (It should also be noted that just because someone isn't posting about current events or what have you, doesn't mean they don't care about them or aren't doing anything. They could be doing stuff you can't see, or maybe they feel they have nothing to say that hasn't already been said, or maybe blorboposting is what's keeping their mental health okay. You don't know, so just be kind.)

people making fun of trans masc and men’s names always falls so flat, because they tend to be some of the most beautiful and classic male names that exist? liam, will, jack, finn, izzy, viktor, lucas, theo etc . and you know if we were instead en masse choosing names like apollo, achilles, hades, dionysus they’d find a reason to make us feel pathetic for it too. one can make anything look stupid if you try hard enough, and people try really hard when it comes to trans men and mascs and what we choose to do with our own autonomy.

sorry not to complain but some of y'all really cannot stand gnc people, huh?

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Posting it instead of reblogging it so this is harder to hide/get rid of for the staff<3