I Think R/BenignExistence Is My Favorite Subreddit 🥲 I Love These Pleasant Little Glimpses Into Strangers'

I want to speak quietly and gently to my fellow people pleasers for a minute.

We don't believe it, and we will deny it with our last breath, but social fatigue is a real thing. It is not selfish, nor is it lazy, to tell the people you love that you're taking a day, or the weekend, or whatever you need, to rest and recover from how draining it is to be around people.

We tell ourselves that we can't disappoint anyone, that they're going to be mad at us (one of my favorite, relatable jokes is "Hi, I'll be your waiter tonight. Are you mad at me?"), or the most insidious of them all: I don't deserve to rest.

I outrank that voice in your head, and I am here to gently and lovingly remind you that you are worthy, your friends who matter understand, and that you don't owe anyone anything.

For anyone who needs it: I give you permission to cancel that thing you're dreading tonight or tomorrow. I give you permission to rest and recover your HP, so you aren't going into next week with disadvantage.

I love you, friends. Take care of yourselves and take care of each other.

Hey, don’t cry. Free online database of Japanese folk lore

You are not “unnatural” or “bad” if you 

Have low to no empathy

Have hyper-empathy 

Have a personality disorder

Have more than one person in your mind

Have scary/violent thoughts

Don’t have the energy for interaction every day

Can’t take a shower/brush your teeth very often

Don’t like certain noises/textures

Don’t want to forgive them

Know you did nothing wrong

Love yourself 

ppl are so annoying “you can’t paint ur bedroom pink you’re an adult” i did not spend my entire life waiting to grow up and control my life to paint my bedroom beige

“But here’s a little secret for you: no one is ever the same thing again after anything. You are never the same twice, and much of your unhappiness comes from trying to pretend that you are. Accept that you are different each day, and do so joyfully, recognizing it for the gift it is. Work within the desires and goals of the person you are currently, until you aren’t that person anymore, and everything changes once again.”

— Welcome to Night Vale: Episode 75: Through the Narrow Place

Anti anxiety.

Edit: I made the assumption that as I left the original posters name on the photo and the fact it is a photo people could deduce that it was not my own.

I found this image on Pinterest and thought it would be helpful, I attempted to find the original to reblog but the name @ceebycee does not come up when I search it and I was unable to find the original.

I do not claim this is my post and I am not trying to steal someone else's just thought that it could be helpful.

I'm sorry if I have caused any issues or offend anyone in sharing this information.