Strength, Structure, And Accountability—building Trust And Respect Starts With Clear Communication.

Don't be presumptuous

We're halfway through locktober and if you're anything like me the desperation and distraction is really taking hold. I see a lot of content that fantasises about this being a time of constant teasing. The reality might be coming home from work, cooking dinner, doing the dishes, giving your Goddess a massage, then busying yourself for an hour or two before bed.

This is where it gets difficult. You aren't entitled to any kind of sexual gratification. Yeah, you want to be horny and easily controlled. But it's Her decision whether to reward you or not, and part of your training should be learning not to be more bratty than She desires.

To be the best submissive you can be, you have to get over the urges to chase your own satisfaction. You get plenty of chances to give in to them when She initiates and wants to use your desperation to manipulate you. That's the time to melt into a horny mess.

Shock Collar (Bracelet) for his Balls. 😈

I instructed My slave/husband to buy one of these Remote Shock Puppy for Me several months ago. Once this shock trainer arrived, I looked it over and ordered him to attach it to a locking bondage belt that I secured around his waist. I immediately started experimenting with the shock settings on this wicked little device. My slave’s waist is that it is easily concealable under his clothes and he can wear it anywhere we go (except if we’re flying somewhere of course). 

I really enjoy that I am able to discipline (shock) him when we are out in public like at a restaurant, shopping mall, and so forth. I usually shock him whenever I see is his attention wander from me, or he dares to glace a little too long at another woman.  Sometimes I just give him a shock when we are out and about for My own amusement because I like to see him squirm! Of course this shock trainer is absolutely great to use on My slave around the house. This shock trainer has a fairly good range and I love the fact that I can use it to summon him or administer punishment to him remotely and at various level of intensity wherever My slave is around the house, or in the yard, with just a simple touch of a button! (Isn’t technology wonderful?) 

Since I have been using this shock trainer on him for several months now, I have seen a huge improvement in his obedience, politeness and attentiveness towards me. Some of my girlfriends have noticed all the positive improvements in My husband’s behavior. I few weeks ago decided to let two of my girlfriends in on My little “secret” and told them about the shock trainer. I gave them the remote control so they could try using the shock trainer on My husband and see for themselves how much fun it is (for the one in charge). They loved it! 

One of My favorite uses for this shock trainer is when I allow My slave the privilege of licking My sweet pussy or having sex with Me. I like to give him a shock combined with a command like “faster”, “slower”, “deeper”, “harder”, etc. He responds incredibly well to this sort of training and this way I can control his actions so he provides Me with the exact sexual simulation and experience that I want when I want it. Using this approach with the shock trainer, I have also been able train my slave not to cum inside me until I (sometimes but not always) give him permission to do so. He would rather hold back his cum with all his will rather than risk receiving a merciless torture session including high intensity shocks for squirting his cum without My permission.