Flr-philosophy - Quintessence Of FLR

"(182) While we are Florida, my sub, Butler has only been allowed one release every Saturday after his discipline session. I think that is customary in the S&M world for a slave to release after his whipping should he be allowed to do so................. Last Saturday, just to keep things interesting I made him release BEFORE I whipped him. Later, after his discipline, he begged me not to do it that way again. He said my crop hurt twice as much. I understood. Before an orgasm, a male has so many powerful endorphins surging through his body that the crop doesn't hurt nearly so badly. However, after an orgasm, a male is weak and defenseless..................... The more he begged the more interested I became in using the crop on him after his release. He pleaded with me to pity him. My body responded to his piteous requests in the usual manner- by soaking my panti................... Yeah, I'm like that. Be careful about the kind of woman for whom you dream. She might appear.........Get my movie made!" Ms Lane

How to be a good husband

Disclaimer: FLRs differ from one another, and this is not by any means meant to apply to everyone.

Show your Wife proper respect

The way you conduct yourself around your Wife is very important. You must make sure that your submission is expressed implicitly, and explicitly in the way you interact with your Wife.

Lowering yourself to greet your Wife is a common and effective show of submission, whether it be: kneeling, bowing, prostrating, etc. Couple this gesture with something along the lines of “How may I serve, Goddess.” Make sure that you do this the moment She enters the room, regardless of what you’re doing, so that She knows you have no priority higher than Her.

In the same vein, keep your head lowered in Her presence after the initial greeting. It helps to cement the mutual understanding that you are beneath Her.

When given an order, act quickly. Show some urgency! Show Her you’re worthy with an enthusiastic “yes, ma’am!” This lets Her know that She is being taken seriously, and that you are paying attention. However, make sure go at a speed where you can still fully control yourself, a clumsy husband is not useful!

When your Wife is scolding you, show Her that you are taking what She says to heart. Make sure your body is facing Her, and nod along. Make sure you acknowledge Her corrections. A sincere “I’m sorry, Goddess” or a “I understand, ma’am,” can go a long way. The best default position for this situation is being on your knees, with your hands folded on your lap, bowing your head. You must make sure She knows you understand and are ashamed of your mistakes, and that you know what you need to fix.

When your Wife raises Her hand, you might flinch, it’s only natural. But never attempt to block Her, or dodge away. These are signs of resistance. DO NOT RESIST YOUR WIFE! You may drop to your knees, but keep your body straight, and your face exposed. Do not beg for mercy, simply apologize for your wrongdoings. You may even want to thank Her for giving you harsh correctional measures! Remember that serving your Wife is your purpose, She is only helping you fulfill that purpose when She punishes you.

Learn what is expected of you

Know what your Wife typically wants from you. You should keep a schedule, it’s unacceptable if She has to remind you to cook dinner everyday. There are certain jobs that you should just do without your Wife having to order you.

Have an idea of what responsibilities you have to attend to. Wake up at the right time to make breakfast fresh, so that it’s hot and ready the moment She wakes up! Know what time She finishes work, and start dinner so that it will be ready when She’s back. Clean, dust, mop, do the menial tasks that your Wife is above.

These are just commonplace duties for a husband, but you must cater to your Wife’s specific expectations as well. Maybe She likes a foot rub while She eats, comply without Her having to command you! Show Her that you are of some worth to Her, that you are capable of serving Her effectively!

Know what you must do on a day-to-day basis, on weekends, and for special occasions. Your Wife should never have to remind you to do something that you do on a regular basis. Your Wife should not have to micromanage you. Understand Her expectations, you should make life more convenient for Her, not more stressful.

Work on your appearance

To start off with the basics, make sure you have proper hygiene and grooming habits. Work these things into your schedule so as not to bother your Wife, preferably when She’s out of the house. Also make sure to know Her preferences! Cut your hair the way She wants, shave however much She prefers, apply whatever cologne She finds appealing.

For clothing, defer to your Wife’s preference. Remember that you don’t have autonomy over the way you present yourself. You belong to you Wife, so must dress the way She wants you to.

This also applies to your figure! Your Wife might want muscle bound, built, toned, thin. Whatever Her preference, work yourself to meet Her standards. Never forget the nature of your relationship with Her, you are property. By allowing Her to dictate the way you look, you are offering another part of you to Her. It is a wonderful sign of devotion, sacrifice, and subservience. Women are above men, we are objects for Women to use as they see fit. 

Go above and beyond

Everyone needs relaxation from time to time, but do not get complacent. If you find that you have a few hours of free time regularly, ask your Wife for more responsibility. Your job is to serve Her, not to sit around.

You might consider getting a part time job. Help pay the bills, it might free up some extra cash so that your Wife can indulge Herself. And you know that She deserves it, so get out there! (As long as you have Her permission).

You could incorporate yardwork and gardening into your schedule, make the house nice and tidy inside and out. Just remember to always run your suggestions past your Wife, She knows better, and you should always defer to Her judgement.

Some situations may call for a bit of initiative. Make sure that when you act outside of both what is routine, and explicit commands, that you should be extra careful. With that warning aside, let’s consider an example. Say your Wife comes home and She’s silent, disgruntled, just generally in a bad mood. She might be hung up on something frustrating that happened during the day. Fetch Her paddle, whip, etc. Crawl to Her, ask if She would like to use you. Let Her take out Her frustrations out on you. Then while She eats your homecooked dinner, rub Her feet, worship Her Pussy, whatever She wants. Let Her know that the moment She comes home, She should feel in charge, and be waited on by an adoring husband.

Be what She wants you to be

This is the golden rule, as the true sign of submission is obedience

The above are general guidelines on how to serve Her properly, but ALWAYS defer to her wishes. It’s fine to have preferences, but remember how meaningless your they are when compared to Hers

Privilege

I think a lot of submissives forget just what a privilege it is to be able to serve her, and how special it is.

First of all, submissives must let go of their own fantasies to truly enjoy the benefits of what submission really is. It must become about serving her, her pleasure, her needs, her desires, her fantasies, and her way of doing things. It's all about becoming hers.

The fact that she chooses you, keeps you in a chastity cage, and allows you to serve her, is a huge privilege that very few others ever get the opportunity of doing so. Once you have Mistress, she is to be cherished! You are being granted access to her, not just her body, but on an emotional level as well.

The D/s dynamic isn't just about sex. It's about the entire lifestyle, and connection you create with each other. That's something special. The fact that she likes you enough to want to dominant you, and make you hers, is a huge privilege.

She doesn't have to grant you access to her body, whether that be, with your mouth, or your penis. Any access to her is a privilege. She doesn't share herself with anyone else that way. You're her rock, she comes home to you, and you pleasure all of her sexual needs. She holds you responsible for all that, what a privilege!

When she gives you this privilege, she is no longer afraid to hold back. She can be upfront about all of her desires, and she will tell you exactly what she expects of you. She gets to use you as her personal sex slave, and you get to be there for all of it. You get to be there to help her learn and grow, and this helps you grow deeper into submission to her.

Allowing you to taste all parts of her body, to worship her, her scent alone is a privilege. To see her completely relaxed while giving a massage, and falls asleep because you did such a good job, this is a privilege. She expects you to be there to serve because of this privilege. You are hers.

Belonging to her is the biggest privilege you can have. It was never about getting off, or making her do things to cater to your fantasies, or topping from the bottom. Don't undermine her, don't insult the privilege she's giving you by allowing you to serve her.

Understand the privilege she is giving you. Understand your place at her feet. Even her feet are a privilege. You see? Access to her body is a privilege, not a right. So honor that privilege by serving her the way she wants to be served, and becoming the obedient boy she deserves. She chose you!

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