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In essence, the most attractive qualities in a Dominant Female form a captivating blend of confidence ( Confident Queens) , intelligence,

Don't be presumptuous

We're halfway through locktober and if you're anything like me the desperation and distraction is really taking hold. I see a lot of content that fantasises about this being a time of constant teasing. The reality might be coming home from work, cooking dinner, doing the dishes, giving your Goddess a massage, then busying yourself for an hour or two before bed.

This is where it gets difficult. You aren't entitled to any kind of sexual gratification. Yeah, you want to be horny and easily controlled. But it's Her decision whether to reward you or not, and part of your training should be learning not to be more bratty than She desires.

To be the best submissive you can be, you have to get over the urges to chase your own satisfaction. You get plenty of chances to give in to them when She initiates and wants to use your desperation to manipulate you. That's the time to melt into a horny mess.

Gynarchy is coming.

How to be a good husband

Disclaimer: FLRs differ from one another, and this is not by any means meant to apply to everyone.

Show your Wife proper respect

The way you conduct yourself around your Wife is very important. You must make sure that your submission is expressed implicitly, and explicitly in the way you interact with your Wife.

Lowering yourself to greet your Wife is a common and effective show of submission, whether it be: kneeling, bowing, prostrating, etc. Couple this gesture with something along the lines of “How may I serve, Goddess.” Make sure that you do this the moment She enters the room, regardless of what you’re doing, so that She knows you have no priority higher than Her.

In the same vein, keep your head lowered in Her presence after the initial greeting. It helps to cement the mutual understanding that you are beneath Her.

When given an order, act quickly. Show some urgency! Show Her you’re worthy with an enthusiastic “yes, ma’am!” This lets Her know that She is being taken seriously, and that you are paying attention. However, make sure go at a speed where you can still fully control yourself, a clumsy husband is not useful!

When your Wife is scolding you, show Her that you are taking what She says to heart. Make sure your body is facing Her, and nod along. Make sure you acknowledge Her corrections. A sincere “I’m sorry, Goddess” or a “I understand, ma’am,” can go a long way. The best default position for this situation is being on your knees, with your hands folded on your lap, bowing your head. You must make sure She knows you understand and are ashamed of your mistakes, and that you know what you need to fix.

When your Wife raises Her hand, you might flinch, it’s only natural. But never attempt to block Her, or dodge away. These are signs of resistance. DO NOT RESIST YOUR WIFE! You may drop to your knees, but keep your body straight, and your face exposed. Do not beg for mercy, simply apologize for your wrongdoings. You may even want to thank Her for giving you harsh correctional measures! Remember that serving your Wife is your purpose, She is only helping you fulfill that purpose when She punishes you.

Learn what is expected of you

Know what your Wife typically wants from you. You should keep a schedule, it’s unacceptable if She has to remind you to cook dinner everyday. There are certain jobs that you should just do without your Wife having to order you.

Have an idea of what responsibilities you have to attend to. Wake up at the right time to make breakfast fresh, so that it’s hot and ready the moment She wakes up! Know what time She finishes work, and start dinner so that it will be ready when She’s back. Clean, dust, mop, do the menial tasks that your Wife is above.

These are just commonplace duties for a husband, but you must cater to your Wife’s specific expectations as well. Maybe She likes a foot rub while She eats, comply without Her having to command you! Show Her that you are of some worth to Her, that you are capable of serving Her effectively!

Know what you must do on a day-to-day basis, on weekends, and for special occasions. Your Wife should never have to remind you to do something that you do on a regular basis. Your Wife should not have to micromanage you. Understand Her expectations, you should make life more convenient for Her, not more stressful.

Work on your appearance

To start off with the basics, make sure you have proper hygiene and grooming habits. Work these things into your schedule so as not to bother your Wife, preferably when She’s out of the house. Also make sure to know Her preferences! Cut your hair the way She wants, shave however much She prefers, apply whatever cologne She finds appealing.

For clothing, defer to your Wife’s preference. Remember that you don’t have autonomy over the way you present yourself. You belong to you Wife, so must dress the way She wants you to.

This also applies to your figure! Your Wife might want muscle bound, built, toned, thin. Whatever Her preference, work yourself to meet Her standards. Never forget the nature of your relationship with Her, you are property. By allowing Her to dictate the way you look, you are offering another part of you to Her. It is a wonderful sign of devotion, sacrifice, and subservience. Women are above men, we are objects for Women to use as they see fit. 

Go above and beyond

Everyone needs relaxation from time to time, but do not get complacent. If you find that you have a few hours of free time regularly, ask your Wife for more responsibility. Your job is to serve Her, not to sit around.

You might consider getting a part time job. Help pay the bills, it might free up some extra cash so that your Wife can indulge Herself. And you know that She deserves it, so get out there! (As long as you have Her permission).

You could incorporate yardwork and gardening into your schedule, make the house nice and tidy inside and out. Just remember to always run your suggestions past your Wife, She knows better, and you should always defer to Her judgement.

Some situations may call for a bit of initiative. Make sure that when you act outside of both what is routine, and explicit commands, that you should be extra careful. With that warning aside, let’s consider an example. Say your Wife comes home and She’s silent, disgruntled, just generally in a bad mood. She might be hung up on something frustrating that happened during the day. Fetch Her paddle, whip, etc. Crawl to Her, ask if She would like to use you. Let Her take out Her frustrations out on you. Then while She eats your homecooked dinner, rub Her feet, worship Her Pussy, whatever She wants. Let Her know that the moment She comes home, She should feel in charge, and be waited on by an adoring husband.

Be what She wants you to be

This is the golden rule, as the true sign of submission is obedience

The above are general guidelines on how to serve Her properly, but ALWAYS defer to her wishes. It’s fine to have preferences, but remember how meaningless your they are when compared to Hers

Guys think with their cocks. So controlling a cock is mind control. Chastity IS brain washing.