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Anyone want a tarot or rune reading?
Send me $5 with a note that includes your email address and the word “tarot” or “runes” somewhere in it and I’ll email you a single-card reading. If you forget to specify tarot or runes, it’s dealer’s choice and I’ll pick whichever I feel like.
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This is your reminder that ace rings are as old as 2005
2005
It’s almost 2020 as of writing this so do the math… that’s about 15 years old
AVEN was founded in 2001
The asexual flag was announced as the official asexual flag in 2010
The ace rings are older than the ace flag and only about four (4) years younger than AVEN
Keep this info laying around somewhere, you’ll need it whenever an acephobe on tumblr makes a claim about the asexual community
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Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!
day 27 - daud, dishonored
happy pride month of 2020!
Gillian Anderson said asexual rights and I`m living.
Sex Education S2E4
day 23 - florence, sex education
happy pride month of 2020!
Parvati Holcomb: The Unaccountably Happy Face of the Unreliable
The Outer Worlds, the new space RPG courtesy of Obsidian, helpfully provides your player character with exactly the sort of ragtag gang of misfits which you are probably expecting in such a game. Today, we’re going to talk about the most important of them.
Parvati Holcomb, likely the first companion you meet and definitely the first companion you can recruit, is a well-written female-character. Her talents for engineering and her incredibly positive and cheerful outlook quickly draw comparison with the character of Kaylee from Firefly (allegedly one of the main inspirations for the character), but there is one very clear difference between the two.
Parvati Holcomb is an asexual character.
While the term “asexual” is never actually used in the game, Parvati’s experiences and worries were so obviously born form the real-life experiences of asexual people that I was not the least bit surprised that she had been written by an asexual woman:
I was, however, properly delighted that Parvati had always been intended to be an asexual character, even before an asexual woman took over as Parvati’s writer; Chris L’Etoile, the original writer, explicitly made the decision to create a warm and loving character, someone who could see the beauty and hope in a failing colony, who could express all the wonder they wanted their players to feel, and then he decided to make her asexual as well.
The stereotypical ‘link’’ between asexuality and ‘coldness’ is even explicitly referenced by Parvati herself, when she explains her fears about starting a new relationship: “I’m not much interested in… physical stuff. Never have been. Leastways not like other folk seem to be. It’s not that I can’t. I just don’t care for it. It’s been a problem, in the past. The folk who wanted to be with me, back in the Vale? They didn’t - They said I was cold.”
The first response offered to players? “You’re about the warmest person I ever met. To hell with them.”
Indeed, The Outer Worlds is a game which, over and over again, tells us that Parvati is not cold or unfeeling. This is a young woman who names a robot the moment she fixes it, who worries if the Captain calls the ship’s computer “it”, who checks in with crew members and, in a game with a reputation system (rather than a Mass Effect style morality system), acts as the world’s most adorable conscience.
And, while Parvati does find her relationship with Junlei complicated, those complications have very little to do with her sexuality and far more to do with her being a young woman, away from home for the first time, and experiencing possibly the first great love of her life. There are miscommunications, a night of drowning sorrows, endless over-analysing of each other’s words and actions, and the need to go to four different worlds just to plan a date. As the player character can say:
PC: “If you two marry, you’ll be saying, ‘Haha, just kidding. Unless you’re not.’” Parvati: “I resent you saying such, on account of it being uncomfortably likely.”
But once Parvati has worked up the courage to tell Junlei who she is, the relationship works well. Well enough for Parvati to find a new home with Junlei once the fight is over:
Now, I always expect an Obsidian game to have some awareness of the wider spectrum of human sexuality - Fallout New Vegas included some same-sex relationships, and the player character could be played as straight, gay or bisexual, depending on which perks you picked. But I wasn’t expecting the only great romance subplot in an entire game to include an asexual woman actively pursuing another woman. Were this just one relationship among many, it would still be beautiful, but for it to take centre-stage and not have to share that space with anything else? It’s phenomenal.
And, just when I think that The Outer Worlds couldn’t get any more lovely, it did this:
Yep, that’s the option to identify your character explicitly as asexual. There’s even the option just afterwards to clarify your character as aromantic as well, which Parvati takes perfectly in her stride with a nice little nod to the player’s strong relationships with their friends. Either revelation is meant with the same response from Parvati:
“So we’re… we’re kin-like. That makes me, well - unaccountably happy, Captain. It’s a lonely thing, being different like this.”
Judging from that reaction, the Captain is likely the first fellow asexual who Parvati has met, and the relief in her voice was such a punch to the gut. Because Parvati’s right - the loneliness of feeling “other” sinks in fast and there’s nothing quite like the relief when you finally feel like maybe you’re not alone after all.
And the idea that this game and this character might give that moment of relief to someone out there, well, that just makes me unaccountably happy as well.
day 1 - parvati holcomb, the outer worlds happy pride month of 2020!
day 14 - jet siquliak, the penumbra podcast (design by @robinkasznia)
happy pride month of 2020!
day 9 - zolf smith, rusty quill gaming
happy pride month of 2020!
day 27 - jonathan sims, the magnus archives happy pride month!
day 6 - todd chavez, bojack horseman
happy pride month!
day 23 - raphael santiago, shadowhunters happy pride month!
day 18 - jughead jones, archie comics happy pride month!
day 11 - maya, borderlands 2 happy pride month!
It's almost Ace Week!
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I’ve been reading Tarot for twenty-one years. I would love to read for you!
Basic 3-Card Past/Present/Future - $5
Six Card Past/Present/Future (inner self, outer self) - $10
Seven Card Triangle - $12 (good for pressing, current queries)
Seven-Card Star - $12, major or minor arcana, $20 for both (good for seeing inner and/or outer influences)
Ten-Card Horseshoe - $18 (good for seeing unexpected influences in current situations)
Ten-Card Celtic Cross - $18 (general outlook or specific queries)
Twelve-Card Horoscope -$25 (general outlook) This is a complicated reading and takes me a while to lay and interpret, hence the price jump.
Prices include a picture of the spread and analysis sent to your email.
Send an ask with any questions, or you can go right ahead and include the query for your reading in your paypal payment to paypal.me/aitchell
I also take Venmo and cashapp
Turnaround time at the moment is 24 hours.
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hey so my girlfriend is trying to get some extra cash doing tarot readings, she’s really good at them and I’m not just saying that…. I was the most skeptical person ever about these but there’s just something there and nowadays I’m way more open to spiritual stuff…
if you could support her that would be amazing. she’s been putting so much effort into all of it and only got one sale so far, so genuinely i’d appreciate it so so much!!
here’s a link to her shop: SimplyAWitch on Etsy
and to her instagram: simplyawitch
List your fave characters from 10 different fandoms and tag 10 people.
Tagged: @the-halo-of-my-memory (Thank you~ 👋😊)
1) Anders/Justice - Dragon Age 2
2) Elim Garak - Star Trek: Deep Space 9
3) Craig Boone - Fallout: New Vegas
4) Albert Rosenfield - Twin Peaks
5) Illya Kuryakin - The Man from U.N.C.L.E.
6) Hermann Gottlieb - Pacific Rim
7) Credence Barebone - Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them
8) Pike Dexter - Big Eden
9) Billie Lurk - Dishonored 2
10) Peeta Mellark - The Hunger Games
Tagging: @ratspit-village @astriaage @the-ever-chaos-collective @springacres @eluvinyan (But only if you’d like~ 📺📚 💖✨)
Tagged: @the-ever-chaos-collective (Thank you~ 😘👉 ❤️)
slow burn or love at first sight // fake dating or secret dating // enemies to lovers or best friends to lovers // oh no there’s only one bed or long-distance correspondence // hurt-comfort or amnesia // fantasy AU or modern AU // mutual pining or domestic bliss // smut or fluff // canon-compliant or fix-it// reincarnation or character death // one-shot or multi chapter // kid fic or road trip fic// arranged marriage or accidental marriage // high school romance or middle aged romance // time travel or isolated together // neighbours or roommates // sci-fi AU or magic AU // body swap or gender bend // angst or crack // apocalyptic or mundane
Tagging: @the-horae @host-of-chthon @pedlimwen @amervalk @springacres @nivjolteon (But only if you’d like~ 📚 📖✨)
You said for mutuals to tag you and it looked fun so @baronvonriktenstein
slow burn or love at first sight // fake dating or secret dating // enemies to lovers or best friends to lovers // oh no there’s only one bed or long-distance correspondence // hurt-comfort or amnesia // fantasy AU or modern AU // mutual pining(I write too much mutual pining) or domestic bliss // smut or fluff // canon-compliant or fix-it(like every mass effect fic ever)// reincarnation or character death // one-shot or multi chapter // kid fic or road trip fic// arranged marriage or accidental marriage // high school romance or middle aged romance // time travel or isolated together // neighbors(I actually wrote an au like that) roommates // sci-fi AU or magic AU // body swap or gender bend // angst or crack // apocalyptic or mundane
I’ll tag @crqstalite @confundere @the-ever-chaos-collective
Tagged: @the-ever-chaos-collective (Thank you~ 😌🙏✨)
1. Star Trek: The Original Series, 1966
2. Twin Peaks, 1991
3. Hannibal, 2013
4. Almost Human, 2014
5. Yuri!!! On Ice, 2016
Tagging: @simper-fi @maleficarum-regrets @brighteyesandwits @the-horae @eternion (But only if you’d like~ 📺❤️)
Got tagged by @the-good-queen-alysanne
List 5 TV shows that changed you and made you feel better, than tag 10 people. (do I even have that many followers?)
1. The Owl House
2. Hazbin Hotel
3. Helluva Boss
4. Game of Thrones (up to season 4 plus all Dany scenes)
5. Vikings
@no-starless-sky @ariana-blackoff-holmes
Want to Talk About Ace Community? - Undergraduate Research Study
Hello! My name is Laura, and I’m studying asexual identity and online community for my bachelor’s essay. Tumblr played a huge role in developing my asexual identity, so I am curious about others’ experiences. I am looking for participants who are 18 years or older and identify anywhere on the ace spectrum to interview about the role online community has or has not played in asexual identity development and expression.
I am a student at the College of Charleston undertaking a research study for my bachelor’s essay on asexual identity and online community. The purpose of the study is to promote a more nuanced understanding of asexual identity by exploring the significance of online community in the lives of asexual individuals.
This study will combine qualitative research and journalism, resulting in a final paper that will be accessible to readers outside of academia. I hope that this approach will help raise awareness and increase understanding of asexuality.
I will conduct one-on-one interviews with participants, which will last at least 30 minutes and cover topics related to asexual identity and social network activity.
For more information, please contact me @flyingtothesea or cergoll@g.cofc.edu.
This research study has been approved by College of Charleston Institutional Review Board for the Protection of Human Research Participants. Approval code: GLFL-10-11-2016
Let's see if I can get this right...
Heterosexual: Fuck that.
Homosexual: Fuck this.
Bisexual: Fuck you and also you.
Pansexual: Fuck everything.
Demisexual: Fuck you in particular.
Asexual: Fuck no.
Asexual Awareness Week: Day 2
[ IMAGE: A 9x9 aesthetic layout; the images are as follows, top to bottom, left to right: A Moon on a dark blue background, A hand dropping stars, A silhouette against the sky with drawings of planets and stars, A purple nebula, A drawn silhouette filled with space with “You only know a part of me. I am a universe of secrets.” above it, A purple Moon as it moves across the sky above a city, A star looking into a telescope that bends in a circle with the words “Discover Yourself” in the middle, A crescent moon on purple clouds, Black and white picture of two hands (palms up) covered in glitter that looks like stars.]
what i say: omg he's so hot i'm gonna die
what i mean: we live in an overtly sexual culture that doesn't recognize sensual and aesthetic attraction as separate from sexual desire and as an ace individual i am incapable of expressing my appreciation for someone's beauty in a simple way that doesn't have a sexual connotation please bear with me
I just read this super sad post about this girl who’s asexual and married and everyone is basically telling her that she doesn’t deserve her husband/she’s just a prude/she should just do it anyway. So I want to tell you all right now that if people tell you this, or if they tell you you’ll never have a relationship, it is BULLSHIT. My husband is asexual and I’m not. He’s sex repulsed, we don’t have sex, we never have. And it doesn’t matter to me. You know what does? He does. His mental health and wellbeing matter to me. Because he is my best friend and he’s one of the smartest, kindest, funniest people I’ve ever met. And he’s had people tel him that he’s broken and it makes me SO ANGRY because they are WRONG. Being different doesnt mean you’re broken. If you don’t like sex/don’t want it/etc. Do not let anyone tell you that you’re inferior because you’re not. Do not let anyone convice you that you’ll never have a relationship because they’re wrong(if you want one). You are not broken, and it will be okay.
Gather around, baby aces, and I shall tell you a tale of ye olde days of 2011
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