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“unbinding” spell jar

sort of like an “unbinding” jar, i made a spell jar to release the hold my favorite person has on me.

a favorite person in the context of borderline personality disorder is a person who you have an unhealthily strong bond with. you base your self worth on how this person treats you.

INGREDIENTS:

a jar

a picture of the person you are unbinding

two scrolls of paper with your names on each one

string

red chili flakes (used for banishing negativity)

table salt (to cleanse and purify)

black candle (to banish bad energy)

white candle (to purify)

optional: an artifact that symbolizes your friendship

STEPS:

gather your ingrediants. write your name on one slip of paper, and the other person’s name on the other. connect the two pieces of paper with a piece of string.

light a black candle. with your intent in mind (severing the connection between the two of you), burn the string connecting the papers.

tear up the picture of the person. doing so carefully, burn the picture and the slips of paper.

add the ashes to your jar.

add red chili flakes and salt to your jar.

optional: in my jar, i added a ring that she handmade for me.

light the white candle. keeping your intent in mind (sealing off the jar and thereby banishing and severing your bond), seal the jar with the white candlewax.

intent is very important. your purpose for this jar is to channel that bond into it, cleansing your life and banishing that negative energy and unhealthy bond.

Please Reblog is Your Blog is Safe for Non-Binary People.

Early Riser

Wake up early. Not because “the early bird catches the worm.” Not to force yourself to be more productive. Not to “rise and grind” your life away.

Do it for entirely the opposite reasons. 

Give yourself a chance to slow down before the hurriedness of the day envelopes your thoughts and your body. Do the thing that relaxes you. Do the thing you love that you never have time to do. Allow yourself to be still and intentionally prepare for the day ahead. 

Wake up early to find your magic, and use it to forge through your day. 

New Monterey Bay Aquarium Spotify Playlists Just Dropped!

Tunes for tuna. Pieces for pisces. Vibes for tides. Head into the weekend with some curated Spotify playlists picked out by Aquarium staff! Match them up to our livestreams or rock(fish) out with some music to soothe your sole: 

Krill Waves Radio

Relax, focus and flow with some ambient, mostly instrumental lofi hip hop beats from our YouTube Krill Waves Radio video series! All music © Chillhop Music 

Our Favorite Tunas

Let a little ocean into your life with these classic tunas, perfect for every sea-son.

Float On with the Drifters Team

Comb jellies. Sea nettles. Moons. These are the jams our team listens to while caring for our Jellies/Drifters Gallery!

Jelly Cam Jams

Drift away on waves of chill instrumental beats with our Jelly Cam playlist. 

Sea-lestial Sounds (Moon Jelly Cam)

Wishing on a sea star for a soundtrack to enhance your relaxocean while watching our Moon Jelly Cam? Whale sea what we can do. 

It’s a Bay-utiful Day (Bay Cam)

Wave goodbye to anxiety—this playlist of chill instrumental music is shore to relax and calm while you’re watching our Monterey Bay Cam! 

Sway This Way (KF Cam)

Swayt! Swayt! Don’t tell us—you need some sweet instrumental songs to sooth your sole. A playlist for the Kelp Forest of us, if you will. 

Chasing the Blues Away (OS Cam)

Feeling blue? Time to tuna in to our Open Sea Cam and its playlist, swimming with mellow and cinematic instrumental beats to chase those blues away. (“I’m blue da ba dee da ba di” not included) 

Birb is the Worb (Aviary Cam)

Songbirds, meet shorebirds. We’ve got a delightful and light selection of instrumental sounds perfect for pairing with our Aviary Cam! 

You Otter Listen Up (Otter Cam)

Paws what you’re doing. This happy, upbeat instrumental playlist is the pawfect accompaniment fur your sea-cret Sea Otter Cam sessions (that’s what second monitors are for anyways, right?) 

Pengwinning Tunes (Penguin Cam)

Birds of a feather listen to this collection of whimsical instrumental tunes together. And watch the Penguin Cam with it. 

Take an Elasmobreak (Shark Cam)

And fin-ally! A collection of fintastic instrumental music to dive into while watching our Shark Cam!

Hi, it's just in, people like me?? Apparently? Where the hell did this come from???? Y'all wildin out here!!!!!! Just liking people willy nilly and all

x

if you’re reading this i hope you find the strength to get through whatever it is that’s causing you so much trouble or pain at the moment

You’re so strong. I promise, this is all worth it. I love you. Everything is going to be okay.

my honest, best and most fulfilling advice for young girls and women is to not cater to what other men think, need or desire from you. in fact, if you don’t like a man for any reason, be honest with yourself and don’t spend time around him if he makes you uncomfortable in any way. if possible, set as many boundaries as you desire. block and do what you must. you’re not here to coddle a man’s feelings.

from a very early age i was taught to smile and be polished, make myself small (as small as i could) so a man would enjoy my presence. i didn’t listen to my intuition when a man showed red flags and i wish i did.

listen to you. to your voice and other girls’ voices. the male gaze is not at all important or defining of your worth, talents and accomplishments. if a man bothers you or harms you in any way, do not be silent! you are allowed to take up space. you are your own human being and not an extension of his judgment. 

(terfs/transphobes/creeps: do not interact)

I have to try this:

murderer: (via text) im going to kill you

me: (a week later) omg im so sorry… i saw this when i was in the middle of doing something else and then just completely forgot about it

Body language is completely unique to every single individual person and the science of body language is almost if not completely unreliable and if I have to listen to one more person claim they can “read” me by my body language I’m gonna flip.

MULTIPLE people in my life have told me they can “tell” I’m “self conscious” because I look at my feet when I walk and they say it like they want me to open up about some social insecurities, like I have some wall they’re about to break down and we’ll have a moment

And I tell them the same truth every single time:

As a kid we had two MASSIVE Holly trees in the backyard and my dad and my uncle, both well meaning but perhaps poor planners, said “yes a great place for a swing set is directly beneath those.”

So they built it there and the issue is that entire section of yard was a Minefield of dried Holly leaves with one final mission before they became dirt which was to Stab themselves into a child’s foot

And being that my siblings and I had some feral rage aversion to wearing shoes, we took to running to the swings on our tiptoes, staring at the ground for the leaves

And to this DAY I still look at the ground when I walk out of habit formed by a decade of that

And NO body language guide and NO BBC Sherlock wannabe would EVER source that

two old guys and little Momo

pillow talk

Something that bears mentioning: I get why we need to shame straight girls who fetishize mlm ships but. To any straight girls who consistently relate to or resonate with mlm dynamics on a deep level or see themselves in queer male characters. if by any chance this post from a tiny tiny blog crosses your dash. Please take this moment to very privately consider the possibility that you might not be straight. Or a girl.

you and your soft eyes can get me to do just about anything

You know what the second I stopped saying “I wish I had a friend who-“ and started being “the friend who-“ my life has gotten 100% more fulfilling

hold my hand while we look at the stars and talk about how our souls have known each other for a hundred lifetimes

I think a lot about gaining weight as a form of healing

Okay, does anyone want to be friends and eventually become more...and we open up about our past and cry in each other's arms? We go out for dinner dates and brunches, but also for 2am drives to nowhere in particular. But we're so happy to have each other, it doesn't matter where we are. So, then we run away to a different place where we can live together and have a mini farm with a couple of cows, chickens, and dogs and cats roam about the land. But we don't worry about then because we're completely secluded from the world. It's only us, and our animals, and our land that we call a home. Again, to reiterate, we can just be friends too I'm okay with that but like... Does anyone want this??? Just me? Okay.