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Okay, here’s the problem with the idea that oppressed groups can “alienate allies” by not being nice enough:

You shouldn’t be an ally because oppressed groups are nice to you. You should be an ally because you believe they deserve basic human rights. Hearing “I hate men” shouldn’t make men stop being feminist. Hearing “fuck white people” shouldn’t make white people stop opposing racism.

Your opposition to oppression should be moral, and immovable. Your belief that all humans should be treated with equal respect shouldn’t be conditional based on whether or not individual people are nice to you.

This isn’t related to my blog aesthetic but I’m tired of seeing posts where people are making others paranoid that they’re in a coma or something. You’re not. I know lots of us know it’s just a bad “joke,” but some people don’t have the luxury of being able to believe that after seeing others tell them otherwise.

You’re awake. Everything is okay.

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well …

so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private 

please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here

 please, kiddos, stay safe

reblog if

you are a calm person who loves fries, sleeping, binge-watching stranger things, is able to distinguish between a character and actor himself

and is looking for someone to converse with from time to time

basically, im asking if anyone wants to be mutuals

im so lonely here and im trying to step out of my introverted zone pls be gentle to me

also just saying but im really picky with what i want to see on my dash so if i don’t follow you im really sorry

First of all:

If he/she/they

Controls what you wear or acts upset when you wear what you want

Wants you to stay inside to themselves constantly

Get jealous over everyone

Cry or get mad when you have a problem and blame themself

Let you be completely dependent on them (or make it out to be that you could)

Tell you they can’t live without you

Make you feel the need to be whatever they want you to be

Make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or should be

Cause you to cry at night because you love them so you won’t leave them but you’re confused

Cause you to feel like you’re in a cage

They. Are. Toxic.

It does not matter if they “mean to”

They are still toxic

They are still causing you pain

Your relationship is most likely codependent and/or emotionally abusive

You need to get out of that relationship

It will hurt

But as someone who has been there

It is much better to leave and cope

Than to not leave and have them leave you alone

Or to continue being emotionally abused

It’s serious

It is not “how he thinks a relationship should be”

It is not “his jealousy”

It is:

Potentially emotionally abusive

Draining

Painful

Potentially codependent

Damaging

Toxic

Toxic

T o x i c

I’ve been there, did that more than once because they will manipulate you. Even if they don’t mean to.

You w o n t be able to handle it if you don’t get out.

It is unhealthy

If this sounds like your relationship

Please please please leave