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The narcissist will refuse to discuss…

The narcissist will refuse to discuss what triggered you, but they'll gladly demonize how you reacted. They'll twist the narrative to shift the focus away from their own harmful behavior and onto your emotional response. They'll gaslight you into believing that your feelings are the problem, that you're the one who's too sensitive, too emotional, too crazy.

They'll use your reaction as evidence of your supposed flaws, as proof that you're the one who's broken, who's defective. They'll tell you that you're overreacting, that you're being too dramatic, that you're making a big deal out of nothing.

But they'll never, ever take responsibility for their own actions. They'll never acknowledge the hurt they've caused, the pain they've inflicted. They'll never validate your feelings or apologize for their own behavior.

Instead, they'll continue to manipulate and control, using your emotional response as a weapon against you. They'll use it to silence you, to shame you, to keep you in line.

But don't fall for it. Don't let them convince you that your feelings are the problem. Don't let them gaslight you into believing that you're the one who's crazy.

You are not crazy. Your feelings are valid. And the narcissist's behaviour is not your fault.

As long as I see you, touch you, smell you, kiss you, My day automatically gets 10 times better Your presence is like a ray of sunshine Warming my heart and soul with love

Every smile from your lips Brightens the darkest corners of my mind Every word spoken by you Feels like a melody soothing my soul

I feel complete when I'm with you Like two puzzle pieces fitting perfectly together Your essence lingers in the air around me A sweet fragrance that intoxicates my senses

And when our lips meet in a tender kiss It's like fireworks exploding in the sky An electrifying spark that ignites passion within me Turning ordinary moments into extraordinary memories

You are my sunshine on a rainy day My anchor in a stormy sea of life With you by my side, I am invincible As long as I have you, my day automatically gets 10 times better.

We need more signs like this

Sexual Questions ;)

1. First kiss? 2. First time masturbating? 3. First sex toy? 4. First kink tried? 5. First time doing oral? 6. First time having sex?
 -Turn Ons 7. Biggest turn on? 8. Biggest turn off? 9. Quickest way to get horny? 10. Weirdest thing that ever turned you on? 11. Top 3 places to be touched? 12. Ultimate fantasy? 13. Do you like the idea of a three or moresome? 14. Do you send nudes? Do you like receiving them?
 -Preferences 15. Sex or masturbation? 16. Spit or swallow? 17. Cut or uncut dicks? 18. Rough or sensual sex? 19. Oldest person you’d sleep with? 20. Loud or quiet partners? 21. How much foreplay do you like? 22. How much teasing do you like? 23. What is too big for you to take? 24. Do you do hookups or only sleep with a partner? 25. How much kissing do you like during sex? 26. What’s the most attractive part of the body?
 -Location 27. Would you have sex in public? 28. Last place you had sex? 29. Where would you most like to have sex? 30. Do you like spontaneous sex, or do you need to be in the mood? 31. Could you go through with a hookup at a strangers house?
 -Kinks 32. What’s your biggest kink? 33. Are you okay with name calling in bed? 34. Would you do any BDSM? 35. Do you prefer to tie somebody up or be tied up? 36. Do you like orgasm denial/forced orgasm? 37. Do you like overstimulation? 38. Do you like having pain involved? 39. Do you like biting/being bitten? 40. Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it? 41. Do you have any strange or extreme kinks? 42. Have any roleplaying preferences? 
-Masturbation 43. Do you own sex toys? How many? 44. What do you masturbate to? 45. How often do you masturbate? 46. How often do you use sex toys to masturbate? 47. Do you masturbate with penetration? 48. Do you go for multiple rounds or settle at one or no orgasms?
 -Oral 49. Do you enjoy giving oral? 50. Do you prefer giving or receiving oral? 51. What makes you orgasm the fastest when receiving oral? 53. Can you deepthroat? 
54. Do you like playing with your clit? If so how do you prefer to do it? 55. What’s your breast size? 56. How often do you go braless? 57. Do you finger yourself? 58. How familiar are you with your g-spot? 59. Do you squirt?
 -Sex 60. How often do you do unprotected sex? 61. How loud are you in bed? 62. Do you enjoy having nipples played with? 63. Do you like/dislike cum? 64. How good are you at dirty talk? 65. Do you get sleepy after an orgasm? 
66. Do you trim, shave or leave pubic hair untouched? 67. How do you prefer partners pubic hair? 68. How many orgasms can you have in a day? 69. How many other people know your bra size? 70. What do you wear to bed? 71. Any funny sex stories? 72. What food if any would you use during sex? 73. Would you give somebody a sex toy as a gift? 74. What’s the weirdest porn you’ve ever seen? 75. Do you often get horny in public? 76. Ever used something that isn’t made for sex in the bedroom? 77. Have you ever walked in on somebody or been walked in on? 78. Do you have any friends you’d sleep with?

*Narcissistic Personality Disorder* (NDP) is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance.

○ They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them.

○ People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

*How do narcissists act?*

*Narcissistic Personality Disorder* (NDP) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and ones behaviour, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration

Others often describe people with NPD as *cocky,*

*manipulative,*

*selfish,*

*patronizing,*

and *demanding.*

*How does a narcissist apologize?*

*If* they do apologize, it's often insincere and accompanied by excuses or justifications for their behaviour, says Dr. Michael Kane, chief medical officer at Indiana Centre for Recovery.

*“They often & seldom shift the blame onto someone else or make empty promises to change in order to appease the situation,”* Kane notes

Here are some signs of *Narcissistic Personality Disorder Narcissism* vs. *Narcissistic Personality Disorder*

● Having narcissistic tendencies -- like bragging or making themself the centre of attention -- are normal when they occur occasionally.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is different.

● Symptoms are more severe, occur across different situations and environments, and make relationships with others challenging, if not impossible.

Here, Zachary Rosenthal PhD, a clinical psychologist at Duke Health, answers questions about NPD and what you can do if you suspect that you or a loved one has the condition.

Dr. Zach Rosenthal discusses the symptoms of NPD, how it is diagnosed, and the individualized approach he takes for treating the disorder.

*What are the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder?*

Use the acronym *“SPECIAL ME”* to remember the signs of NPD.

1. SPECIAL ME

1. Sense of self-importance

Preoccupation with power, beauty, or success

Entitled

Can only be around people who are important or special

Interpersonally exploitative for their own gain

Arrogant

Lack empathy

Must be admired

Envious of others or believe that others are envious of them

2. How is NPD diagnosed?

○ Trained mental health professionals conduct a structured interview to learn more about an individual’s typical behaviour patterns. If someone consistently displays at least five of the SPECIAL ME traits, they meet the diagnostic criteria for the condition.

*Is NPD genetic?*

*No, there is no gene for NPD, and people are not born with it.* Like other mental health conditions, the environment is a major factor. Children who are encouraged to believe they are extraordinary and always deserve the best - sometimes at the expense of others - could later develop NPD. In these children, traits like confidence are rewarded, while qualities like empathy are not.

○ *Are narcissists bad people?*

Narcissists are not bad people; *it’s their behaviour that’s problematic.* They have been conditioned to believe that they are special and deserve to be treated better than others and approach the world accordingly.

*Can I have a relationship with someone with NPD?*

It depends. If your romantic partner, family member, or boss has NPD, they can make your life challenging. Because they put themselves first, you may feel belittled, and your mental health could suffer. Coping strategies include setting personal boundaries and gently walking away if they are breached. However, this is not always easy to do. Calling your partner a narcissist won't help either. Instead, you should focus on your well-being and decide what you are willing to tolerate.

*Can people recover from NPD?*

Yes, but changing a learned behaviour takes time and effort. People with NPD do not generally seek help on their own, and if they do, it is often because of a co-existing problem, like anxiety. Because there is no proven medication or therapy to treat NPD, providers take an individualized approach. Getting to know the patient and establishing a trusting relationship are key components of treatment. If a person is willing to change and their therapist can help them bridge the gap between their current and desired behaviors, there is hope for recovery.

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The Ten Commandments Of Sucking Cock

There are a variety of opinions on this subject, but I wanted a definitive list of must-haves after years of personal experience and discussions with Men about what they like and want.

1. Lose your ego. In this moment, you are a cocksucker; embrace it. You will choke, spit up, and be covered in throat slime. The Man you’re servicing may treat you roughly, even rudely. Accept it. You’re a cocksucker with only one function: pleasing him. Do it without pride.

2. Tease him. Men love teasing and edging at the start of a blowjob. Their balls tighten and the juice within begins to churn in the anticipation of what is to come. Lick the head, especially the underside. Flick it with your tongue. Gently stroke the shaft with your hand every so often. Smile.

3. Eye contact. As you take his cock into your mouth, look up at him. A guy loves fucking holes, but eye contact makes you more submissive TO HIM and tells him that he is your Master.

4. No teeth. Obviously there will be some Men who like teeth running along the shaft of the cock, but that’s rare. Avoid it as much as possible. One trick is to extend your tongue out of your mouth slightly, providing protection from the lower teeth (and also opening the throat) as the cock slides in and out of your mouth.

5. Deepthroat. Not everyone manages to master deepthroating, but this is a skill that can be learned through training. Get a dildo and train your gag reflex. Push yourself. You can improve. Men want deepthroat, and you’re their cocksucker of the moment. Learn it.

6. Don’t forget the balls. A Man’s balls are the most sensitive part of his body. Why would a cocksucker neglect such an opportunity to please a Man or heighten his pleasure? Cradle them in your hand while sucking. Roll them around gently. Occasionally take your mouth off his cock and swirl your tongue over them. One added advantage of this is the more direct exposure to his testosterone-laced musk that concentrates around his balls, which will send you deeper into subspace.

7. No blueballing. Once you start to suck his cock, you’re in it until he squirts his last drop of cum. No complaining about aching jaws or a lack of interest. You’re a cocksucker (remember the first commandment) and you’re expected to do your job TO COMPLETION.

8. Moan and dirty talk. Moaning while sucking cock serves two functions: (a) it tells the Man how much you love the size and taste of it, and (b) the vibrations of your moans rising up from your throat stimulate his cock. You can occasionally tell him how much you love sucking his cock, but don’t overdo it! SHOW HIM you love it with your smiles and enthusiasm!

9. The Man does what he wants. It doesn’t matter what he wants to do, roll with it. He’s the Man and you’re his cocksucker. If he wants to throat-fuck you, fine. If he wants to slap his cock on your face or tongue, don’t object. This especially goes for his cumshot. If he wants to cum on your face, let him. If he wants to cum in your mouth ...

10. You must swallow. Nothing upsets a Man more than seeing a cocksucker spit out his cum. It is an ugly and disrespectful rejection of his virility and Manhood. If you don’t like the taste, swallow it anyway. You will survive. Remember, you’re sucking this Man’s cock in order to please him, and his cumshot is your reward for a job well done. Swallow it with pride!

Has. Everyone. Lost. Logic.?

Dead and cold city, not asking for handouts of pity.

A witty idea, but not logical to direct it to us.

Hate written on a vanilla cake, taking our faith down where the ground surrounded by brown.

Brown lunch, cold lunch I'm hunching over to cover a forbidden lover's tears made by heteronormative fears.

When everyone turns on us, it's hell.

Lost in their Logic to put me down where my true-self never will be found.

All around an idea to be a free world of restriction while having strict friction of where the world slides.

As some keep their pride, they're in hide, lied by the people they used to confide into.

Lost in who and where they will be people, where they'll lose the feel of needles in their hearts.

It's not hard to come into logical reason, only if they would listen.

Missing the point of the world outside of old paper scripts.

Everyone is every one of them.

Every one of them who won't care to listen to new logic, not feeling apologetic.

I don't plan to let it stay, but I sure do hope that sometime on a hell-hot day, we can let children not be scared to let out their gay.

And to tell people to not always follow old scripts and to improv of who they love.

and then...

Everyone can enjoy.

Group sex can provide healing and pleasure to all individuals involved. It can even keep intimacy exciting and unique. This is because the group could be strictly females or males or one that consists of males and females making love to each other.