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Madeleine Hinch is Britain's first female Olympic field hockey title

Madeleine Hinch was born in 1988. Her journey into field field hockey began unexpectedly. It was a schoolteacher who pointed out her exceptional catching and diving skills during a rounders match, a perfect combo for becoming a goalkeeper. Initially reluctant to play in goal, she grew accustomed to the role with each passing season. This perseverance led to a promising medal at the Youth Olympic Games. In 2008, Madeleine won her first international cap. Unfortunately, she narrowly missed out on a place on the British team for the London Games. Nevertheless, the athlete quickly established herself as a pillar of the squad. In 2014, she won her first international medal with England, silver at the Commonwealth Games.

Two years later, Madeleine was at her very best at the Rio Olympics. With composure and precision, the goalkeeper pulled off a remarkable feat, saving all four penalties in the final against the Netherlands. This performance in clutch time earned her the first British title in the history of field field hockey. She continued her rise by winning bronze at the 2018 Commonwealth Games before announcing a temporary retirement from the international scene.

In May 2019, Madeleine made her return to the national team, and in 2022 she won her only gold medal at the Commonwealth Games. In March 2023, she officially announced her retirement from the sport.

MEN ARE LETTING DOWN WOMEN

Men are easily disposable,

Women are indisposable,

During a crisis, a war, or a violent uprisal, the tyrannical opponent targets the man because men are easily disposable.

That is why it is easier for a despot to shoot and kill a man in cold blood and behave ignorant and unremorseful.

But women are indisposable, and for this reason, they easily become the engine of any uprisal.

It is difficult to contain a protest where women are at the forefront providing a buffer for men to escalate the combat.

Women are the most vocal and the most animated.

They stoke the fire, escalate the push , and accelerate the combat.

Why is this so?

Because women want men to step up and fight for them.

Because women want a life where their offspring can easily access food and other essential resources.

Because women have the daunting role of nurturing offspring into the next generation.

Therefore , they are the first to raise the alarm, and thereby, men have to come out of their armoury and attack the villain.

Women feed the warriors. They nurse the injured. They covertly collect intelligence information from the opponent.

They even choose to sleep with the enemy.

This is to ensure their men rise up and advance with the combat.

History has all this written in our Afrikan books of literature.

From The Abushiri revolt to the Chimurenga war to the Maji Maji rebellion to the Mau Mau revolt to the Dahomey revolution.

This is how nature made it.

When thieves raid a village, it is women who have been gifted with the role of alerting the men using their high-pitched screams.

However, in a society where men are effeminate, and women are becoming masculine, such combat will suffer fatigue in the early phase of escalation.

Women will get tired because men will have lost the drive to push forward.

— and effeminate men will betray the combat, they will be traitors and betrayers of the combat, this is why in ancient times, when a warrior was captured by the opponent, he was deported, excommunicated or terminated.

Because once captured, he will throw the combat under the bus, and the entire dream will fizzle. To be rekindled again by another generation of agitated women.

Therefore, men must rise up, and we must continue fixing our frames and mindsets. We must resist any attempts by the enemy to enrol us in the Roman circus to numb the fire in our bellies.

Resist any attempts to corrupt your character for thirty pieces of silver.

This corruption will leave an ugly indelible mark in your soul that will devour you forever.

Therefore, men, before you lose hope, remember why your woman raised the alarm.

Don't bury her voice in your digestive organs.

10 Clear Signs Your Wife Hates You

It’s a sad reality that love could degenerate into hatred.

When lovers are starting, they never anticipate a day will come when they will start to loathe each other.

That spouse you can’t live without may gradually become your worst nightmare.

Getting to this point is usually gradual.

This is why marriage is hard work.

It’s for two adults, a man and his wife, who would keep choosing each other each new day.

A woman who loved you passionately from the beginning won’t just start hating for no reason.

Something must trigger it.

It starts with anger, and then resentment builds,

Over time, it becomes a full-blown hatred.

Many women have moved the level of deep affection for their husbands to nursing feelings of hatred for them.

As a matter of fact, getting to this point means the marriage is almost over, except steps are taken to address the issues that brought about this.

Have you seen some behaviours in your wife lately that were absent from the beginning?

You can’t stop wondering what happened to your ever-sweet wife.

It has gotten so bad that she doesn’t care if anything happens to you.

And amid arguments, she won’t stop telling you how much she hates you.

I’m afraid to tell you that you don’t need to take that as mere words.

The following are signs your wife hates you.

1. *She stops caring about you.*

When a woman who once cared about every detail about you stops showing she cares, it’s a red signal.

And it would help if you didn’t take it lightly.

Naturally, women are nurturing beings.

When they are in love, everyone knows.

They put in so much effort, and one of the ways they express this love is to show care.

From constant verbal expressions of their love to showering their husband’s gifts,

They want the men in their lives happy.

They are always ready to go the extra mile to make their husband happy.

If your wife has been doing this but suddenly stops, it’s a clear indication that there’s fire on the mountain, and if you still treasure what you both share, you may need to take deliberate steps to salvage your home.

2. *She stops being intimate with you.*

Whenever you try to make sexual advances to her, and she rejects it constantly, it’s a pointer to the fact that she hates you.

No matter how much you try to catch her attention through your gestures, she’d have none of it.

And no, there’s no way you can force her to do what she’s not willing to do.

Women usually attach emotions to sex, making giving themselves to someone they don’t love difficult.

But she will readily give herself to you when she’s happy and in love.

3. *She stops showing interest in your affairs*

One of the ways couples express love to each other is through the interest they show in their spouse’s endeavors.

If she’s ever-present in every aspect of your life,

She’s always available to support and encourage you at all times.

But she stops showing interest, and she sounds so indifferent when you fill her in on some crucial steps you’re taking,

It shows she has lost her love for you.

And at this time, she’s only putting up with you.

4. *She starts criticizing and belittling you*

Sharp criticisms from people we love hit deeper than from people who know little or nothing about us.

When your wife, who used to believe so much in you and gave herself to ensuring that you become the best version of yourself, starts criticizing and belittling your efforts,

It’s a sign that she has developed a hatred for you.

Everything you do nauseates her.

She makes you feel you’re not good enough.

She taunts you with her words.

To her, nothing you do makes sense.

5. *She starts making decisions on her own*

Before now, you both made decisions together as a couple.

You both consider many factors before you pick the most logical one.

Even to the minutest details, she carries you along.

Of course, this is how a healthy marriage should be.

But now, she makes decisions independently without running them by you.

Sometimes, you get to know when she mentions it in passing or don’t even hear of it.

She starts saying, *“I don’t owe you an explanation.”*

And she is unbothered about your feelings.

She deliberately makes these moves to spite you, and she doesn’t give a damn.

*This is a sign that she hates you.*

6. *She stonewalls*

From constantly arguing with you, she could start stonewalling.

She gives a silent treatment.

When she notices your presence, she leaves the room.

She avoids having conversations with you.

Her response to your questions is always a one-word answer or silence.

She treats you as if you don’t exist.

It’s an obvious sign that your presence disgusts her.

7. *She starts doing the exact thing you hate*

Being with you for some time, she knows what you like and hate.

Once she starts doing those things you hate and she refuses to budge no matter how you talk to her about it,

It’s an indication that she has lost her love for you.

When a woman loves her husband, she does everything to please him. One of which is doing what he likes and avoiding what he hates.

8. *She stops confiding in you*

When she stops discussing essential matters about her with you,

She now seems to you like a stranger and not a wife.

And you observe that her friends and family have become her confidant, which means she has lost her love for you.

When love is lost, trust will surely be missing as well.

9. *She tells you, The female gender is an interesting and mostly emotional bunch.*

When in love, they invest their words, time, and resources, including their emotions.

Most women won’t hesitate to express their love verbally.

However, when your once-loving wife looks you in the eye and tells you she hates you.

Please just know that there is fire on the mountain!

Her words are an indication of how she truly feels.

10. *She starts being unfaithful*

This seems to be the height of it all.

A woman who loves you will do everything to see that the marriage works.

She makes every effort to ensure that her love for you is sustained.

However, when you observe that she starts getting emotionally attached to someone else without giving a damn about how you feel,

It’s a clear indication that you’ve lost her.

Some women whose husbands cheated on them sometimes do this to pay back.

*_Conclusion_*

For many reasons, a woman who once loved you starts developing hatred toward you.

When there’s a misunderstanding in the home, it’s essential to resolve it.

If you allow it to linger, you already give room for resentment.

Once hatred sets in, it’s almost impossible to save that marriage, yet, it’s not impossible to resolve it.

Especially if you both still want the marriage.

13 BEST WAYS TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU

1. PREPARE HER

Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER

Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS

If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER

If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES

If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING

If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER

Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE

Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER

Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side

10. DON'T CHEAT ON HER

Just because she is not in the mood today, doesn't mean you cheat. She might come around tomorrow depending on how you two treat each other, but if you cheat on her you might lose her for good

11. BE PATIENT WITH HER

Life is fluid, with ups and downs. Sometimes she may not be in the mood just as you are also sometimes not in the mood. Understand her

12. PUT HER ABOVE YOUR PENIS

Show her that she is more important to you than sexual pleasure. There is more to marriage than an orgasm. Once you make her a priority, intimacy will be richer

13. GENTLY ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG

Don't assume or get furious that she is denying you sex. Simply ask her if she is OK, she will open up and you two will grow closer

Remember: Sex is the gift of marriage from our Creator. So, these are the best tips to all marriages to eliminate misunderstanding on the sex issues for a healthy and happy relationship.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

God bless us all.

HOW TO TURN ON WOMEN

1. Display confidence in yourself and your actions.

2. Pay attention to what she says and show interest in her thoughts.

3. Compliment her focusing on both physical and personal attributes.

4. Communicate openly and honestly.

5. Make her laugh with your sense of humor.

6. Surprise her with romantic gestures.

7. Take the lead in initiating physical intimacy, and show your manly desire.

8. Always be aware of her boundaries.

9. Be empathetic towards her feelings and experiences.

10. Use gentle touches to convey your attraction.

11. Maintain Personal Hygiene.

12. Dress in a way that makes you feel confident and attractive.

13. Share and explore new experiences together.

Stop letting people consume you. they didn’t call? go to sleep. they didn’t message you? put your phone down and have a better day. they left you on read? delete the conversation. they didn’t make an effort? match their energy. never let your happiness depend on anyone

Has. Everyone. Lost. Logic.?

Dead and cold city, not asking for handouts of pity.

A witty idea, but not logical to direct it to us.

Hate written on a vanilla cake, taking our faith down where the ground surrounded by brown.

Brown lunch, cold lunch I'm hunching over to cover a forbidden lover's tears made by heteronormative fears.

When everyone turns on us, it's hell.

Lost in their Logic to put me down where my true-self never will be found.

All around an idea to be a free world of restriction while having strict friction of where the world slides.

As some keep their pride, they're in hide, lied by the people they used to confide into.

Lost in who and where they will be people, where they'll lose the feel of needles in their hearts.

It's not hard to come into logical reason, only if they would listen.

Missing the point of the world outside of old paper scripts.

Everyone is every one of them.

Every one of them who won't care to listen to new logic, not feeling apologetic.

I don't plan to let it stay, but I sure do hope that sometime on a hell-hot day, we can let children not be scared to let out their gay.

And to tell people to not always follow old scripts and to improv of who they love.

and then...

Everyone can enjoy.