💚💜♠️ sending so much love to any tumblr folk who are on the asexual &/or aromantic spectrums like me. ♠️💜💚
♠️What is Asexuality?♠️
An Asexual is a person who rarely or never experiences sexual attraction. They are not drawn to people sexually and do not feel compelled to act on attraction to others in a sexual way. Asexuality does not preclude you from experiencing other types of attraction (including romantic attraction) to people of the same or different gender to yourself, or define whether you want to be in a committed relationship.
💜Why is awareness important? 💜
An absence of attraction is much harder to define than a presence; and lack of awareness means many people have no idea that there are words to describe their experiences or others who feel the same. While the term has been in common use since the 1960s, many people are well over the age of 25 when they first hear the word - especially if they experience romantic attraction to the opposite gender and haven’t had much exposure to the broader LGBTIQAP+ community. When you’re told all of your life that romantic feelings about someone are inextricably linked to sexual attraction it can be confusing when your experiences don’t seem to match. It can also be hard to tell what is hyperbole and what are thoughts that allosexual (the opposite of asexual) people have the intention of doing?
There is are strong social and cultural messages which use the development of sexual thoughts, sexual relationships and having children as markers of age and maturity. It can be difficult to express a lack of sexual desire without being invalidated or challenged by the people around you or your own built in expectation that sex is fundamental to being human. Are you medically or psychologically unwell? Are you repressed? Broken? Prudish? A late bloomer? Will this “all make sense” when I meet “the right person”?
While most identities on the LGBTIQAP+ spectrum are becoming better protected from medicalisation and psychiatric diagnosis - Asexuality has a long way to go.
It is still very common for people who are questioning or on the Asexuality spectrum to be offered medical testing and treatment aimed at curing their Asexuality. Most GPs still routinely recommend blood tests to check hormone levels, assessment for depression or other mental illnesses, recommend counselling or prescribe medication to boost libido.
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♠️Celibacy Vs Asexuality♠️
Celibacy is like being on a diet. You still want to have sex and have sexual thoughts about others but are choosing not to act on them at that time. Whether it’s based on your beliefs or availability of a suitable partner varies but that desire is still present even if intentionally suppressed.
Asexuality is like not experiencing hunger because you’re already eaten enough. You don’t have sexual thoughts about others or feel compelled to act on them.
💜Attraction Vs Libido💜
Libido is typically the amount that you think about sex and how much you want to engage in sexual activities either partnered or solo. Libido is on a spectrum for people of all sexual orientations. They normally range from high to low. Libido can fluctuate and change over the lifespan and it can be influenced by hormone levels as well as some medications.
Attraction is usually whether your libido is directed at a particular person or type of person. Attraction can also be seen as the extent to which you want to act on sexual thoughts about a particular person.
Asexual people can and do experience a range of libidos from high to low. However they do not experience attraction, therefore are less likely to feel compelled to act on it and rarely associate it with a specific person.
♠️Attitudes towards Sex♠️
Asexuality is a wide spectrum, individual wants and needs vary but all are valid and normal.
In broad terms: Some asexuals are sex positive, they may not experience hunger but still get pleasure out of sharing a meal with someone. Some asexuals are ambivalent towards sex, it’s something they can take or leave. Some asexuals are completely or partially repelled by the idea of personally participating in sexual activity with a partner.
Resources:
Asexuality Visability & Education Network (AVEN) www.Asexuality.org
‘Finding Asexuality in the Archives’ by Michael Waters (Article on the history of Asexuality)
‘Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex’ by Angela Chen (Nonfiction book) http://www.angelachen.org/ace.html
The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker (Nonfiction Book)
A-Ok Podcast (30-60 min interviews with people on the Asexual &/or Aromantic Spectrums) https://www.aokpod.com
There are a lot of fictional books for adults and teens with asexual characters & if anyone is interested I can provide links 😊
Boost the hell out of this. Liking is good. Reblogging is better.
I think a lot of people understand why this is bad, but in case some don't let me explain.
The nation was horrified by the recording of George Floyd being murdered. But what if it had never been recorded? Would Derek Chauvin still be out? Would they have tossed the case due to insufficient evidence?
Look, the 2020 protests resulted in laws being passed to hold police accountable. Were they fully successful? No. Does more need to be done? Yes. But there was more being done than I've ever seen.
Now, in the space of a few months we have
The SCOTUS ruling prisoners don't have the right to an appeal.
The SCOTUS ruling that cops can't be sued for failing to Mirandize people.
The SCOTUS rule the government can charge nonIndigenous people for commiting crimes on tribal land, stripping Native Americans of tribal sovereignty.
And in Arizona, people can't record cops within 8 feet of an arrest.
This is not an accident or a coincidence. Conservatives are sending a message that no matter what cops do, they will back cops up. They are saying that they don't like cops being held accountable. These rulings should be taken as retaliation for any policy passed that protects BIPOC and hold police accountable.
Honestly, I don't care who they cast as Percy Jackson in the new tv show, I just want it to be Percy.
Did I have a preconceived notion of what person looked like growing up. Yes. Do I have a couple specific ideas of how I want Percy to look in the show to better represent me and also other people. Yes. But for me, it doesn't matter the face, or the hair, or any of that, as long as it's Percy.
The Percy who taught me that just because I'm different doesn't mean I'm broken, and doesn't mean that I can't accomplish things. The Percy that learns to be proud of who he is, and taught me to be proud of who I am. Heck, Percy Jackson was one of the first characters in Media, one of the first people ever that truly had me questioning my gender, what gender means to me, and who I was, in order to help find my identity. I wanted to be him. Now, he has helped me want to be me.
So come on Disney, do it. Cast an Actor of color, a trans kid, a genderqueer kid, a kid who really is neurodivergent. Or has freckles or acne. Or isn't the "conventional" muscular body type. Don't worry, go ham. Because Percy is Percy, no matter what he looks like. Because it doesn't matter what somebody looks like, it matters who they are.
Because Percy is and always was a good kid. And as long as you have that, you have Percy.
Seeing our identities and the world around us reflected in the books we read is vitally important. This Pride Month and all year long, we’re excited to spotlight some incredible LGBTQIA+ stories and creators.
Check out some YA books to dive into and #ReadwithPride!
A joyful book about a queer Black girl who runs for Prom Queen to win a college scholarship…but then finds herself falling in love with one of the other girls in the competition. Start reading here!
A body-positive YA love story between two boys who must spend 15 days living with each other over school break. Start reading here!
Two teens. One bridge. Four ways their story could end. A powerful novel about mental health, identity, and how our choices shape the world around us. Start reading here!
After their brother is killed, Liam faces the world without the person they loved the most. Their brother’s best friend is the only one who knows what they’re going through…for better or worse. Start reading here!
Zara’s family has waited years for their visas to be finalized, but now that dream is in jeopardy. Zara seeks justice to stay with her girlfriend and in the only home she’s ever known. Start reading here!
When bi influencer CeCe breaks up with her famous girlfriend and starts dating a boy who is very much NOT online, she’ll find out what it means to speak her truth. Start reading here!
After Morgan is saved from drowning by a mysterious girl named Keltie, everything they’re each trying to hide will find its way to the surface. Start reading here!
Boy meets boy. Boys become friends. Boys fall in love. A sweet coming-of-age story that explores friendship, love, and coming out. Start reading here!
A story about three boys whose lives will become intertwined in a story of HIV, friendship, love, and self-acceptance. Start reading here!
A hilarious, snarky, and utterly addicting book that explores friendship, sexual orientation, mental health, and falling in love (even if things might be falling apart around you). Start reading here!
When Rukhsana’s conservative Muslim parents catch her with her girlfriend, Rukhsana’s carefully planned future begins to collapse around her. Start reading here!
After Ben comes out to their parents as nonbinary, they’ll move in with their estranged older sister and find friendship, love, and acceptance along the way. Start reading here!
Over the course of one summer, two boys will have to face their biggest fears and decide what they’re willing to risk – to get the thing they want the most. Start reading here!
This heartfelt series follows two boys, Ben and Rafe, who struggle to find who they really are in the midst of falling for one another. Start reading here!
A pulse-pounding novel about love, betrayal, and a serial killer that features a bisexual protagonist. Start reading here!
A riveting story of ambition, music, and innocence lost - and a deep relationship between two girls who could be something more on their quest for stardom. Start reading here!
The Lunar Chronicles meets Rook in this queer #OwnVoices science-fantasy novel that features asexual, bisexual, and lesbian characters working together to put an end to a deadly epidemic. Start reading here!
In Aster’s family, all the girls are raised to be witches and the girls are raised to be shapeshifters. But Aster is fascinated by witchery–can he find the courage to save his family and be truly himself? Start reading here!
A story about loss, grief, and finding the courage to discover one’s identity. Start reading here!
A powerful novel about navigating death and navigating life, at a time when the only map you have is the one you can draw for yourself. Start reading here!
Hello besties. Since Ramadan is starting I’d just like to point out something about the “nsfr” tags. (It would be cool if y’all reblogged)
I’m not sure why those even started but they really go against the purpose of fasting itself. One of the very important aspects of fasting is self control and patience, muslims are supposed to live their regular lives while fasting and practice control over hunger or anger etc.
Thus, tagging food or drinks or maybe even nsfw content as “nsfr” doesn’t make sense, regardless of how cute it is to see non-muslims try their best to be super inclusive and make spaces more friendly. But just a psa for this year: it’s okay to post the same way as you do all year, this month is just our time to exercise patience:) !!
And if certain Muslims feel the need to really block certain posts for the day, they always have the option to block tags like “food” or “nsfw”.
AND a race one since the most affected regions will be Africa, Asia and Oceania
PLEASE DO NOT THINK FOR EVEN A SECOND THAT YOUR VOICE WILL NOT HAVE AN IMPACT THIS IS LITERALLY THE BARE MINIMUM
I'm sorry for putting this in the BLM and stop Asian hate tag but in the last few days posts tagged with "Palestine" have not been showing up.
You guys just have to trust me on this one and click here okay?
hello i made a uquiz about which eurovision song you are bc i liked eurovision and i miss it link in the reblog for searchability reasons