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The Addams Family (1991) dir. Barry Sonnenfeld
I was high off my ass last night and had this dream where I was in this dense ass forest and sitting there was a tall woman. She was so tall I couldnāt see her face but she was wearing gold and I was like āuhā¦hi?ā And she said āI made you, do you know that?ā And I nodded and she was like āI hear your thoughts. Why do you hate my creation? Why do you try to destroy yourself? I made you perfect as you are. Please donāt break my heartā. Then she started crying and it flooded and I woke up with fucking heart palpitations like what does it Meanā¢ļø????
"I shouldn't lose myself again." she said. "Just to be loved by someone else."
Where's your identity? // ma.c.a
Imagine the bat kids all living together. But instead of the manor, they all share the same Gotham City apartment.
Like, they all collectively decided that they didnāt want to rely on Bruceās money anymore so they rent out a penthouse apartment. (Everyone contributes but letās be real, most of the money is from trust-fund baby Timothy Jackson Drake).
Itās nice, but certainly not Wayne Manor. Itās spacious, but not too much for 7 (+Damian who sleeps over when he fights with Bruce) adult vigilantes. The place has four bedrooms, one of which is used as an arsenal/costume storage room. Which, consequently, means that sharing rooms is a necessity.
So:
Dick and Jason
Barbara, Cassandra, and Stephanie
And Tim and Duke are the room set ups.
But just imagine the possibilities.
Sunday dinners consisting of various takeout joints that always devolve into Bruce Wayne roasting sessions
Roommate / sibling bonding time
Thereās a huge uproar in teasing when someone brings a friend/partner up to the apartment
Alfred calls regularly to see if the place hasnāt burned down
A chore scheduling wheel in the living room
Board game nights
Listening to pump up music together before patrol
Making Instagram and YouTube videos regularly in the house which are immensely popular
Using post it notes to spell out messages on the windows (āFUCK THE JOKERā is a popular one)
Ugh I know this is my own AU but honestly itās my favorite thing just let me have this DC
feel free to comment / add on! Iād love to see your guysā takes!!
Oh to live in the Victorian era wearing an elaborately detailed dress that drags through the the flowers as I walk across an open field with a melancholy look on my gorgeous face
Iām going to follow every witch on tumblr. :DĀ
Things to bring back in books:
Chapter titles
Actually having a synopsis on the back instead of reviews no one will read
Hi loves, hope you all are doing well!
Today we are going to be learning about Samhain, since we are now officially in the spooky scary time of the month!
Samhain is a festival of Celtic origin (Ireland, England, Wales, Scotland and France) and is also known as Celtic New Year's Day.
It marks the end of the harvest season and the beginning of winter, also called the 'darker half' of the year.
Traditionally, it is celebrated on October 31st at sunset and ends on November 1st sunset.
Samhain was the time when the doorways to the Otherworld opened (the veil between worlds becomes the thinnest), and this allowed supernatural beings and souls of the dead to come into our world.
Due to this, Samhain is known as a festival for the dead.
Black, Orange, Purple, White, Gold, Silver
Black cats, Bats, Owls, Ravens
Apples, Pumpkins, Butternut squash, Sweet potatoes, Turnips, Apple Cider, Root Vegetables, Tea Brack, Hazelnuts, Pomegranate
Obsidian, Jet, Onyx, Bloodstone, Smokey quartz, Aquamarine, Carnelian
Sandalwood, Sage, Patchouli, Sweetgrass
Allspice, Rosemary, Sage, Nutmeg, Mint
Bast, Ishtar, Anubis, Cernunnos, Herne, The Horned God, Loki, Odin, Osiris
Carving pumpkins!
Recreating old family recipes
Hazelnut and Blackberry picking
Decorate your altar (If you have or use one!)
Bake some Samhain inspired recipes such as brack!
Search for fossils!
Decorate your home!
If you have cats at home spend some or more time with them!
See you later loves! I will try to update some more spells and maby recipes later on!
1- Hecate
Greek Titan of Witches, Witchcraft, Sorcery, and Crossroads.
When I first began this project, I knew that I wanted to end with Hecate. She is simultaneously the final and the first, our alpha and omega of Witchcraft. She dominates popular witch lore, but you would never know it as she resides in the shadows, side plots, and brief mentions. Only when you seek her out does she reveal herself to you, lighting your path while casting shadows and ghosts. Many, if not all, modern Witches, Pagans, and Wiccans see Hecate as a Goddess of Witches, amongst other appropriate attributes, and continue her worship and reverence now several thousand years ongoing.
As is the case with most of Greek Mythology, Hecate has multiple origin myths and genealogies. This is most likely the result of her originating outside of the Greeks, and being adapted and merged with the existing pantheon. Most traditions have Hecate as the daughter of the Titans Perses, titan of destruction, and Asteria, titan of falling stars and nocturnal prophecy. Hecate was their only child, and was able to retain her powers post Zeusā coup as she helped him fight the Giants. As child of Asteria, her grandmother was the Titan of the Moon, Phoebe, and her cousin was Olympian lunar all-star Artemis.
There are various stories in which Hecate plays a part. Her most notable and appropriate for this time of year, however, is her integral role in assisting Demeterās search for her beloved daughter, Persephone. Upon Persephoneās decent into Hades, Hecate, through the light of her torches, helped Demeter discover her daughter in the underworld. As such, Hecate has become a chthonic Goddess, and Persephoneās yearly attendant and psychopomp to the underworld. Her position as gatekeeper and guide to Hades solidifies many of her numerous attributes.
Hecate is associated with ghosts, necromancy, and magic. She is identified with crossroads, torches, and dark hounds. She was a common household deity for the Athenianāher shrines placed in doorways and city gates to both protect from restless spirits and bestow blessings and safe passage. Her worship and cult was as extensive as her various attributes, with temples and shrines scattered across the Mediterranean. As a key figure in the Persephone saga, Hecate was integral in the ancient Eleusinian Mysteries, impacting secret societies and occult rituals to this day.
Out of all her characteristics, her association with the crossroads is perhaps the most pertinent to my series. Most often, we think of crossroads as the intersection of two roads, yielding four directions. This was not always the case, however, as it was more common to have a proverbial āfork in the roadā, yielding three directions. This is the kind of crossroads in which Hecate resides. Her statues depict her in triplicity, forearms outstretched, holding torches, keys, serpents, daggers, etc. One face in each direction, Hecate is the arbiter of passages, and in this way is the consort of the God Hermes.
Hecate is one of the original Triple Goddesses of Witchcraft, if not the primordial one. Her triplicity has defined much of Modern Pagan theology, with her stance representing the three phases of the moon, Waxing, Full, and Waning (Maiden, Mother, Crone respectively). Her mythological genealogy as the granddaughter of Phoebe and cousin to Artemis has yielded Hecate as a Goddess of the Moon in her own right, most often known as the unseen phase of the moon, the New Moon (however she is just as often associated with all moon phases). In Greek/Roman Mythology, Hecate joins many lunar goddesses in addition to Phoebe and Artemis, including Selene and Diana. The five were often conflated, confused, and worshiped both in tandem and in conflict. This ever shifting, impossible to pin down, lunar association echos her transient nature of existing in the shadows.
Hecate is both mysterious and severe. Her face is hidden behind her torches, or on the dark side of the moon, however her presence is a constant. She is life, death, and rebirth. She is both light and dark magic. She was beloved in her association with rites of passage like childbirth, and feared in her role as Queen of Shades, present at the final rite of passage, death. Her nature has permeated my entire series in such a profound and indescribable way, I can only show you:
#93: Lilithā often worshiped by modern Pagans in tandem with Hecate #92: Circe: Daughter of Hecate #89, #54, #39: Bewitched: A common expression āFor Hecateās Sake!ā Occurs throughout the show. #79: Aradia: Daughter of Lucifer and Diana. Often seen as the daughter of an amalgamated Diana-Hecate. #70: Medea: Priestess of Hecate #67: Charmed: The Halliwell Sisters: Appears in the episode āThe Wedding from Hellā #56: Ceridwen: Often worshiped in tandem with Hecate as Dark Mothers by modern Pagans. . #52, #27: Practical Magic: The necromancy ritual the Owenās Sisters perform, albeit pronounced incorrectly. āBlack as night, erase death from our sight. White as light, Mighty Hecate make it right.ā #10: Willow Rosenberg: Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Mentioned in several episodes and referred to as āQueen and Protectress of Witches.ā #7: American Horror Story: Coven: Supreme Fiona Goode invokes Hecate āCome to me Hecate, Mother of Angels, Cosmic World Soul.ā #5: The Weird Sisters: Macbeth: Hecate is their master
This list is pretty fitting for a Goddess whose name etymologically may mean āshe that operates from afar.ā She is seldom a central figure or even visible, however witches from the Owens to the Goodes, from Willow Rosenberg to Endora, invoke her name and ask for her spirit, guidance, and presence. Hecate, in many ways, is both the first witch, and the last. She is our alpha and omega. She is the embodiment of power and strength. As a Goddess of Witchcraft, she does not merely exist in the margins of society like the rest of usāShe is the margin itself.
Hail Hecate.
āHecate, Cerridwen. Dark Mother take us in. Hecate, Cerridwen. Let us be reborn.ā Ā
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Full offence but parents of autistic/ND kids need to stop literally insulting them to their faces
iāve put on the first harry potter movie to keep me company while i draw, and can i just say: the way that harry+co immediately jump to suspecting snape of Nefarious Evildoings simply because heās kind of a dick will never not be funny to me. they donāt even know he used to be a death eater at this point. they know literally NOTHING about him theyāre just like āwell he was mean to me in class the other day, so heās probably a spy for voldemortāĀ āyeah that seems legit. letās set him on fireāĀ
Me in a state of constant denial even tho I love astrology and only shame is pulling me back from admitting that I completely believe in its power
like/reblog if u are:
a bitch
a bastard
an all around fool
an omnipresent all-powerful being
a sparrow
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capable of moving at immense, incomprehensible speeds
an eldritch being
no one will know which one u chose! :D
ā¾ be kind to your mother
ā¾ give to charity
ā¾ cuddle with familiars
ā¾ read tarot or tea leaves
ā¾ write your own poetry
ā¾ keep your altar tidy and clean
ā¾ organise your jewellery
ā¾ watch the sun set
ā¾ paddle in the ocean
ā¾ turn your lights off at night to appreciate the night sky
ā¾ set spells at crossroads or under the moon
ā¾ be kind to yourself
ā¾ appreciate long autumn/winter nights
ā¾ treat yourself well
ā¾ take a painting class
ā¾ make your own candle
ā¾ place a lunar themed charm on your keys
ā¾ keep a torch on you
ā¾ charge your witchcraft tools under moonlight
ā¾ decorate yourself with lunar symbols
ā¾ listen to a nighttime play list that makes you think of Her
need a cheat sheet for the astrological symbols? hereās one!
Taurus Full Moon Spread š„āØ
This earthy full moon will bring about stability and comfort along with the need to analyze how well we have (or havenāt) been working towards our life goals.
Dm for paid readings
Feel free to use for yourself but do not repost
APPRECIATION POST FOR HERMES BC HEāS SO WONDERFUL AND IM SO THANKFUL FOR THE GOOD FORTUNE HE BRINGS ME!!!
There are 3 brands of character songs, any song you associate with a character will fit one or more of these categories:
1. The lyrics fit
2. The song just carries those Character Vibes, often times inexplicably, regardless of lyrics
3. You really liked that song at the same time you liked the character
These are the facts
Know what Iām salty about?
In all my art classes, I was never taught HOW to use the various tools of art.
Like yes, form, and shape and space and color theory and figure drawing is important, but so is KNOWING what different tools do.
Iām 29 and I JUST learned this past month that India Ink is fucking waterproof when it dries. Why is this important? Because I can line something in India Ink and then go over it with watercolors. And that has CHANGED the ENTIRE way I art and the ease I can create with.
tldr: Art Teachers: teach your students what different tools do. PLEASE.
the mcelboys said trans rights!
Please specify where theyāre downloaded from for your smartphone. Such as iPhone App Store, Android Google Play, etc.
Mine for iOS (from the App Store) are:
MoonPhase - extensive moon data, includes lunar calendar
The Moon - includes symbols, crystals, and advice for the day based on current moon phase
Wicca - spells, witchy dictionary, herb correspondences, journaling capabilities, not religiously affiliated despite the name
Spellcaster - spells
Tarot - flashcards for studying tarot
Golden Thread Tarot - free mobile readings, multiple spreads, card meaning database, free mini lessons
Stone - crystal correspondences, beautiful images
Essential Oils - metaphysical correspondences, scientific uses, application methods, safety, blends, personalized list of current oils
AboutMyWoods - lists local regionās plants and wildlife
Okay I found out Hyacinthus was resurrected and I feel betrayed that I didnāt know it. Can someone who knows enough about him just a make list of every information we have about him? I donāt wanna miss anything out. Heās my favorite boi.
Spell pouches/bags are wonderful, and really fun to makeāyou can fill them with things to set a particular intention to carry with you, or supplies for a spell on the go. Here are a few Iāve made before, but these are so easy to come up with yourselfājust research meanings of items, find ones that speak to you! These ones use mostly items which are very easy and cheap to come across, to make them more accessible to low budget or closet witches š
Use ideally a red or pink pouch, put in as many of these as you like.
Rose quartz
Ruby
Garnet
Rose petals
Lavender
Jasmine
A small charm eg. A heart
A sigil for love
Then close the pouch and say āI fill this with objects of love, and seal it with my intention to find romance. So I will it, so mote it be.ā
For this, use a green or blue bag.
Aventurine
Emerald
Jade
Smoky quartz
Cinnamon
Nutmeg
Mint
Sage
A coin/other symbol of prosperity
āMy life will be full of prosperity, I invite it and am ready to receive. So I will it, so mote it be.ā
Use an orange or purple bag.
Amethyst
Gold
Carnelian
Cinnamon
Lavender
Peppermint
Nutmeg
A symbol of your job/desired job
āMay this pouch bring me assistance and good fortune in my career. I invite success, so I will it, so mote it be.ā
Use a blue bag.
Agate
Carnelian
Clear quartz
Red jasper
Onyx
Dandelion
Rosemary
Thyme
Nettle
Cord/thread in blue to symbolise rebinding yourself during healing
āI charge thus pouch to bring me healing in whatever way I require. May my pain be eased: so I will it, so mote it be.ā (you can change this to be more specific to a certain kind of healing)
Use a purple or blue bag.
Amethyst
Blue agate
Rosemary
Lavender
Bay leaf
Bead/charm which you find calming or have a connection to.
āI fill this pouch with my need and intention for calm. May it channel a sense of calm when I need it most. So I will it, so mote it be.ā
Little ways to connect to the elements while youāre bedridden or stuck inside.
Keep jars of dirt from special places.
Grow cacti or succulents.
Make a mini sand garden.
Hang macrame with crystals or stones.
Keep a bouquet of flowers.
Hang herbs from your walls/ceiling.
Get a little plant starter kit, keep seedlings by your window.
Keep some books on plants and geology around.
Watch nature documentaries.
Keep pebbles and crystals under your pillow.
Make a miniature garden/landscape using fake or real plants!
Reach down and feel the energy of the earth below you. Sometimes this is easier on the floor.
Burn candles that smell like the earth/forest/your favorite place.
Drink herbal tea.
Get a mini waterfall or fountain.
Keep plants that grow in water.
Get a water essential oil diffuser.
Make a spray from infused water.
Open windows when it rains.
Set up a bird fountain outside.
Fully savor your next glass of water.
Keep blues and sea green colors around.
Watch videos or documentaries on aquatic/marine life.
Watch the raindrops or condensation on your window.
Keep a bowl of water around.Ā
Listen to water/rain ambiance.
Burn candles that smell like the ocean or the rain.
Use a washcloth to wipe down your face/body.
Keep jars of water from your favorite places.
Open your window.
Use room spray/mist.
Burn candles that smell like the wind.
Hang wind chimes.
Listen to air/wind ambiance.
Get a small fan for some air flow.
Burn incense and watch the smoke move through the air.
Use your breath.
Hang feathers in your room.
Hang scarves and cloths around your room, watch the breeze sway them around.
Get some air plants.
Use an app that lets you see the sky/night sky.
Watch the clouds from your window.
Meditate, allow your senses to explore the air around you.
Burn candles/incense.
Hang red or orange curtains.
Get a Himalayan salt lamp.
Use a wax melter.
Get an electric candle.
Use a heating pad or electric blanket.
Listen to fire ambiance.Ā
Use the heat of your body.
Watch gifs/videos of fire.
Keep a lighter nearby when you need a little flame.Ā
Place a little tealight in a fireproof vessel near your bed.
Feel the warmth and strength of the sun.
Build up energy with your hands, imagine itās fire.
Drink tea with warming spices (cinnamon, cloves, etc.)
Nature edition
General edition
Divination edition
Worship edition
Stale energy edition
Thanks to @healing-water-witch for giving me the idea and contributing!
reblog and make a wish! this was removed from tumbrl due to āviolating one or more of Tumblrās Community Guidelinesā, but since my wish came true the first time, Iām putting it back. :)
My gods are with me.
They encourage me.
They comfort me.
They help me come into my own.
They push me forward.
They teach me strength.
They teach me kindness.
They teach me to never let anyone get the best of me.
My gods are with me.
All you storm and weather witches listen up here, all of us secretly really get off on storms and that crackly energy in the air and the rumble of thunder and the flash of lightning and the wild feeling of freedom. So we donāt want to be caught off guard when a sudden storm arrives and we havenāt got all the jars out or weāre in the middle of something right?
Well, hereās an updated list on how to tell when a stormās coming your way:
- read the clouds:Ā
cumulonimbus clouds - cumulonimbus clouds develop when cumulus clouds (pillowy, cotton wool-y, flat base) develop vertically or billow upwards. a cumulus cloud that turns into a cumulonimbus can develop into a powerful thunderstorm within an hour.
arcingĀ āarcusā shelf clouds - these wedge-shaped clouds resemble a shelf, and can be described as rolling. these can also be a sign of foul weather incoming, especially if theyāre turning darker.
cloud color - you may be thinkingĀ āwell no shit Raven, dark clouds = stormy weatherā, but well hereās dwelling into some specifics. Sure, very dark clouds mean the weather is going to turn stormy real quick, but did you know that green clouds mean severe weather? like those gray-greenish clouds that are very deep and tall? yeah those mean something big and mean is on its way. black clouds mean that there is a coming storm that does not have strong winds. brown clouds meanĀ that there is a coming storm that does have strong winds. gray clouds usually mean a new or a light storm. however, gray skies mean that the storm is affecting a large area and may remain for awhile āred sky at night sailorās delight, red sky in the morning sailors take warningā has some grain of truth to it too. red sky in the morning means bad weather is moving in.
- use your nose:
take a deep inhaleĀ - itās true, you can smell incoming rain. ah, nothing like the sharp, strippingly fresh smell of ozone before a storm. thereās a whole science behind this, and I can cover how some chemical reaction caused by an electrical charge like lightning or a generator involving atmospheric nitrogen and oxygen molecules splitting, but thatās not the point here. the point is, you can smellĀ the ozone. sweet, pungent, a zing, sharp, bare, thatās my description for it. so get ready to use that nose of yours.
- halo around moon and sun:
high clouds will refract a ring of light around the moon or sun, a halo around the moon indicates that a warm front is approaching. like that sayingĀ āring around the moon? rain real soonā. Iām using a lot of sayings, huh. double halo around the moon could mean strong winds.Ā
- watch smoke from a fire
pressure determines which direction the smoke is gonna go. high pressure? smoke goes upwards. low pressure? smoke goes downwards. when smoke spirals downwards, bad weatherās on its way.
- humidity
now, I live in an area where humidity is at a constant high, so this probably wonāt work for me and everyone else who lives in high-humidity regions. but here goes. high humidity precedes a storm, so check for signs of humidity like frizzy hair, curly leaves, swollen wood, or just feel it.
- count the stars
if youāre out at night, the stars could be an indicator. the more stars you see, the clearer the skies are. no stars mean heavy cloud coverage and couldĀ signify coming storms.
- observe the birds and the animals
birds -birds can sense bad weather coming and they usually fly low or seek refuge before a storm, and theyāll go quiet. thatās part of the reason why itās so oddly quiet before a storm.
butterflies and bees - they will usually return to their homes before a storm for safety so you probably wonāt see them out and about.Ā
adapted from my older (and jarringly slightly inaccurate) post on @sharpshootress. just as I posted this, a storm started right outside my window, how fitting.
Ring Magick
Rings have always been used in magick, whether as a form of talisman, amulet, or enhancement in your magick.
Oneās hands both have different meanings and attributes, they are not identical nor are they twins, they are sister and work with each other like yin and yang.
Metals also have a large influence on how the energy flowing from your hands are directed, especially when it comes to your intention.
Fingers & Hands
Right Hand
Gender~ Masculine
Attributes~ The Right hand is seen as the hand of assertive action. Destruction and creation, this makes the right hand more preferable. This makes it a good partner for Gold
Left Hand
Gender~Feminine
Attributes~The Left hand is seen as intuitive and wise. Which makes it a good partner for Silver.
Thumb
Planet(s)~Mars & Venus
Attributes~Willpower and Logic
Pointer/Index Finger
Planet~Jupiter
Attributes~Influence, Money, Decision Making
Middle Finger
Planet~Saturn
Attributes~Success, Focus, Intellect
Ring Finger
Planet~Sun
Attributes~Ambition, Commitment, Power
Pinky Finger
Planet~Mercury
Attributes~Dreams, Communications, Memory
Metals and Alloys
Gold
The Sun
Gender~Masculinity
Element~Fire
Sign~Leo
Attributes~Success,Power,Wealth,
Silver
The Moon
Gender~Female
Element~Water
Sign~Cancer/Aquarius
Attributes~Truth,Loyalty,Dreamwork,Purity,Wisdom
Copper
Venus
Gender~Feminine
Element~Water
Sign~Taurus
Attributes~Luck,Love,Wealth, Exchange of powers
I Love Yall ā¤ļøš§æ
Iāve got just about a year under my belt now, so Iām very much still a baby myself. But hereās a few things I wish Iād known, or think might be helpful.
Just make khernips with a match. No really. Itās the extinguishing of a flame in the water that makes it lustral. Donāt worry about the rest unless you really want to and have the time.
You donāt have to introduce yourself to any gods. They all want to be worshiped; just get to it.
Weāre not as intimidating as you think we are. We justā¦read a lot. You can read a lot too. Youāre welcome here. Weāll even help.
Books are expensive. Theoi.comās library is free.
Statuary is nice. It is also wicked pricey. Hereās what you need on an altar: A bowl for offerings, a vessel for khernips (can be near the altar rather than on it)
Wine, olive oil, honey, water are pretty universal libations. Youāre welcome.
Dispose of offerings however works for you. Just do it with respect, and youāre fine.Ā Oh but donāt consume offerings to cthonic (underground) deities, alright? Thatās bad times.
The gods demand Arete. That is your personal best, not the best of the person next to you, or your mother, or somebody you idolize on tumblr. Do your best.
This is a religion of Kharis. When you ask the gods for something, give them something.Ā Then, do not forget the thank you. Offer again if you are granted what you asked for.
Our tumblr community is pretty great, but we also are sometimes wrong. Find sources, and for godsā sake do not try to replace your studies with Tumblr. Read for yourself, learn for yourself, build your religion such that it best honors the gods and works for you.
If youāre like me, youāre constantly moaningĀ āHow do you pronounce THAT?ā. I know, friend, I know. Try a couple of these lessons on the ancient Greek alphabet.Ā It is NOT fool proof. It is an incredibly complex language, and pronouncing it aināt easy. But boy it will help with those particularly tricky epithets.
Oaths are serious business. Gods are easy to fall in love with. Be careful. Be patient.Ā
Real life pagans are way, way nicer than the ones on the internet. Go find them.
There are exceptions to most rules. Most of those exceptions are Dionysos.
āI donāt know what to sayāĀ āI donāt know how to write a hymnā We basically have a hymnal.Ā
No, ___ will not get jealous if you also worship ____. Itās a fear of us recovering monotheists, but I promise it does not apply to this religion. Itās kind of what POLYtheist means, and plus, most of our gods are related. Show the whole family some love.
āWhat is [god name] like?ā Theyāre pretty fucking cool. Go find out for yourself, and bring gifts.
The gods know we are mortals, and that mortals make mistakes. Apologize. Bring gifts.