Becoming a parent is an ego death for the mother. But not for the father. When a couple has a child, the woman becomes a woman and the man stays a man. In the sense that, the role of being a mother is inescapable. A baby is latched to you 24/7 in a way that isn't the case for the father. Even if you were pumping and so that the father could get up and feed the baby instead, you still are going to have to get up to pump to keep your production. There's nothing that a man can do that the woman doesn't already have to do. Most men continue their extracurricular activities as normal, having days out with the boys meanwhile women find that they can't even take a shower anymore without requiring advanced coordination. I mean heck, the fact that men can have multiple families but a woman never can, speak to this fact.
Prior to this, as just a couple without children - you can have gender equality. So if you don't already have it at that stage, you will definitely never have it when you have children.
But the act of having a child is an inescapable gender inequity. Parenthood can never be 50/50 even with a very involved partner. I think this is a very hard pill to swallow.
what the FUCK is wrong with you i was literally forced to join the imperialism genocide squad just so i could pay for college. they were going to like kick me out of imperialism genocide squad if i didnt bomb people. and then what would i do. not pay for COLLEGE??? work at a FAST FOOD CHAIN??? i was literally FORCED to kill enemies of the US empire or i wouldnt get payed. tankies just dont understand us soldiers are just like them, were all struggling to survive and pulling us back into trhe crab buckert doesnt help abnyone.
Is having a son really worth the risk? I don’t think so. Go 4B, don’t contribute to the cycle of suffering, be unwilling to birth an oppressor or a victim. We don’t need any more babies in this world, whether they be boys or girls.
I see willingness to engage with conflict as one of the ultimate signs of trustworthiness.
you can’t trust someone who fawns or freezes or falls into hysterics at the slightest hint of a conflict, or who equates conflict with abuse. Their “support” only lasts up until the point where they feel their interests don’t entirely align with yours, which upon reaching they will abandon you like the cowards they are.
Leftism is a rotten ideology thats been spoiling ever since Marx and Engels started writing books, leftism is nothing more than the idolization of old white men and the worshipping of long dead totalitarian regimes. There will be no international proletarian revolution, reading theory is not praxis, your leftcom book club will not make any new ground breaking theories, and your marxist newspaper will not spark revolution. We fight here and now with no end goal of some communist utopia. We live in the moment and our communes are not planned nor are they preparing for the future. They simply are, they are autonomous unions of mutual association and work towards no goal other than their own self interest. Communization or anarcho nihilism or insurrectionary egoism or whatever you want to call it is far more practical and realistic than leftism. Break Bones and Love Freely.
If you ever see one of those couples where you're like "wow he's such a piece of shit and she's so sweet, I hope she leaves him" I want you to know that they are two turds in a toilet bowl and that man is not holding her hostage.
The 4B subreddit is a goddamn joke. All these married women with children claiming to be 4B
All movements are quickly infiltrated by psyop agents.
I have no idea why people forgot about Catholicism's collective cover-up of CSA within the church and how nothing was done about it. I have no idea why people think Catholicism is anything other than the institution that sat comfortably by when fascism emerged in Italy.
no fr ive had numerous female friends and family that blew me off years refusing to go out or do anything together then turn around and suddenly start playing friendly now that they have kids they want a free babysitter for.
talking about how it takes a village to raise a kid when what the mean is they can't actually afford to have kids and think me being 1. a women and 2. childfree means im just expected to help them raise the kid i deliberately didnt have. I dont caaaaare that motherhood is hard im not doing their work for them, they can actually stop expecting every female friend, cousin or niece to do free labour. especially when they refuse to ask any men to look after the kid, including its own damn father.
Ahh that's fucking gross. Give them the cold shoulder totally. No woman around my age that I'm close to has had kids yet, but I'm just waiting for it cause I know it's coming.