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Visual representation of common sense.

If you're a feminist who actually wants change, I imagine you ought to be less worried about alienating the average women in heterosexual relationships who are very likely to prioritise their relationships with a man (close, personal, comfortable) over any cause (faraway, oppositional, risky, unknown), and more worried about alienating heterosexual women who are on the fence or already celibate and separatist.

But no, feminists are entertaining inter-feminist discussions about ridiculous notions such as "heterophobia," about how unfair it is that lesbians are supposedly having marathon sex on the daily who stop heterosexual women from having sex with statistically-proven-to-be-dangerous men, and being accommodating of downright embarrassing behaviour from women who are wailing about how badly they want to suck cock.

the only thing females can talk about is "love" and relationships and wanting to have sex? I have never been friends with men or have any male familiar so i dont know if mrn are the same. I feel exhausted of listening about their obsession with bodies and "relationships" its sickening. Are people something else? Knowing theyre empty vs seeing their emptiness so up close its bizarre.

I continue to observe how they create their own problems, when theyre finally free from their dramas they get even more desperate, its like they cant stand it, they run and jump right into the closest thing that can cause problems to them, they start destroying everything around lookimg for comfort looking for a new thing to complain and suffer about. They dont desire happiness. Or do they? If their happiness is suffering then thats their happiness.

the average man acts like a spoiled petulant disrespectful toddler because his parents and society let him do whatever he wants and men stop mentally maturing once they turn 3. you can't tell men "no" without them having a tantrum. you can't do your own thing without them butting in and disturbing your peace. you can't have fun without them because it hurts their feefees when you don't acknowledge them for one second. none of this would be an issue if the world wasn't so androcentric and if everybody realized men are too emotional to lead. they shouldn't even be allowed in public spaces due to how destructive they can be

"You can't blame that woman for what she did, she was conditioned to behave that way by the patriarchy!" (Radfems whenever they arbitrarily decide to remove agency from certain women and not others.)

Why does that matter? Nearly everything we think is a result of conditioning.

Our conditioning determines whether we stuff ourselves past the point of hunger because there's still food on our plate, and we were taught it's wrong to ever waste it.

Or if we think it's okay for parents to belt their children as a form of punishment, or for a husband to apply "domestic discipline" to keep his wife in line.

Or if we believe elders deserve a heightened level of respect.

Or if we think homosexuality is a sin based on what religion we were brought up in.

We are initially handed all of our beliefs by someone else, and when we reach the age of reason we are responsible for choosing for ourselves whether they're correct or not. Hear me, hypocrites: 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴!

Would you give your homophobic boomer neighbor a pass for their beliefs? Why not? They're only acting from their conditioning, and that makes them blameless for what they continue to believe, correct?

If a parent dragged their kids to church and terrorized them with the threat of hellfire and damnation if they didn't get right with God, you wouldn't blame them according to your principles, right? They're only repeating what their parents said, who repeated what their parents said, and so on. Why would you expect them to think for themselves and break the cycle when you don't expect the same from women?

Or is it that you're actually just a walking stereotype of the way women are supposedly allergic to reason, logic, and accountability, because the only people who you believe aren't responsible for overcoming their conditioning are women?

👆 Radfems embody this stereotype, and CLEARLY that doesn't embarrass them, but it does embarrass me and other women who try to apply our principles consistently. That's why I distanced myself. We are not the same.

For most western women;

Why would you take the risk of trying to find a male that won’t kill, disrespect or rape you, when you could just not?

Too many cases of women and girls being abused by male partners to justify it.

Identity Rant

If you are young do not be swayed by the whole "identity" shitck. It is a mumbo jumbo word salad to make people feel special, it is purely egoic, nonsensical, and sometimes fandom induced grown up play pretend. Notice how EVERYTHING has become an identity? Mental illness (sometimes physical), sex, sexuality... It all implies that this thing here, yeah, that thing? It can be identified into, you can "become" it on a knee jerk reaction and NOBODY will (at least in their fantasies) question it. And so far this is how it is! Combine it with internet shushing everyone up for questioning the validity of the said identities with threats of accusing them of being problematic and justifying wrong identification as "soul searching" or "exploration" and here you have it! Perfect business plan!

Not to mention how this whole thing has taken off with mental illness, and it becoming a new identity, a shiny, new, fresh, counter culture and subversive label you can PROUDLY wear for no reason. The only "gross" symptoms people managed to normalise were not being able to get up from bed and wash yourself, two of which are very easy to fake. Some people, and you have to admit it at this point, use the whole mental health awareness thing as new technique to learn new ways of manipulation and faking it. And if you question ANYTHING you are ableist. The whole "Men go to therapy to manipulate better" is true, but it also applies to a bunch of people here.

"masculine" & "feminine" are inferior terms

Really fucked with me learning that when Michel Foucault first arrived at UC Berkeley his friends tried to warn him not to participate in the local gay bathhouse scene due to the risk of AIDS, but that he did it anyway because he thought that AIDS was just a social construct. And when he inevitably got infected with AIDS as a result of unprotected sex he refused treatment insisting it was a pulmonary infection, and he didn't get diagnosed until his symptoms were so bad that he was forcibly hospitalised.

"AIDS is just a social construct" sounds like the sort of thing you would make up as a parody of the sort of stupid shit a post-modernist would believe. But the most famous post-modernist in history believed it, and ended up dying as a result of that belief. And given how respected he was, other men probably also died as a result of believing what he was saying. I get that they didn't know as much about AIDS in 1983 as we do today, but it been around for a few years already, so one of the supposedly smartest men on the planet should have had enough evidence to be able to overturn the hypothesis that viruses are just social constructs.

"being traumatized made me funnier!" no you just say out of pocket shit and people laugh as a stress response