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How to get a spring break glow up

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Today covering: life, beauty and mental.

Spring break it's like so short, but we still have to work on it, not to say it, but my First glow up happened during spring break and I'm telling you, boy if it did take a turn-

But it's not time for a juicy gossipy storytime , it's time to show you girls how to shine after the winter blues and start working for your summer self!

୨୧life୨୧

Let's start with life! How do you want your life to be from now? Try to think about a movie type of life, for this task you need a journal(a simple notebook can do it) , your phone and (optional) a pair of headphones and earphones, we're going to start manifesting by listening to subliminals and writing into your diary like you're living that main character life.

What you write doesn't need to be one of those delusional diary entries, but make your boring life sound epic by describing everything in details and giving it a dramatic turn, use your feelings!

୨୧workout୨୧

Ofc this has to be on the list, for workouts I suggest you rope jumping(works like wonder), pilates, Cycling at home(elle Woods type of way) and yoga for when you have little time and are stressed. Since spring is here you might as well take advantage of this, go for a walkkk, walking will be extra pretty with all the flowers blooming

୨୧beauty୨୧

What I mean for beauty it's becoming pretty to yourself without focusing too much on other people's ideal, focus in what makes you feel good, maybe you like flowers, then get flower nails, hair clips, tops etc… you might like the Shoujo aesthetic or the acubi or mcbling or y2k, it doesn’t matter add what you like to your overall aesthetic.

୨୧skincare୨୧

Stay Basic, you don't need that extra complicated skincare, just sunscreen, moisturizer, hydrating cream and a good cleanser

୨୧diet୨୧

Try to consume for fruits and veggies as the season comes up! And drink plenty of water, which also benefits your skin, also make sure to incorporate fibres and proteins

୨୧make up୨୧

Try new lip combos and maybe for creative looks like flower or butterfly make up, use make up as a for of expression! Bit if you want to use it for your physical appearance, just use blush, highlighter and clear mascara!

୨୧wardrobe୨୧

Time for shopping, crop top season it's back so invest into crop tops and light dresses, if you’re a more comfy girly girl, invest in a light pair of pants, in Italian we say “pantaloni in lino”, a very good and light material, spring long sleeves and baby doll tops.

୨୧mindset୨୧

“I don’t care…you’re you I am me” - jang wonyoung “be better or stay bitter” - thewizardliz start adopting this mindsets, there are a lot of videos on it, I also suggest you to watch TikTok’s compilations for motivation, this is a great time to shadow work and integrate new habits

Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

From now on, whenever I catch myself thinking about a man, I’ll replace these thoughts with positive thoughts about me !

I’ll get over this phase over centering my life around men. They’re not worth it.

SELF VALIDATION

First things first, if you validate your existence on externalities, you will never truly be happy. While it’s important to have values and to act on them, it shouldn’t be your main source of happiness. 

E.g. parent validation, academic validation, and male validation. So, here are some tips to validate yourself. 

VALUE YOUR OPINION. You should have the ability to make decisions and identify yourself solely on your opinion. Trust, giving people that ability to shape your decisions and curate your identity, allows them to dictate your worth. 

SELF LOVE OVER OTHERS. Ensure you are doing everything in your power to treat yourself lovingly. Even if it means sacrificing a few things in life. E.g. going to sleep early instead of cramming for a test. 

BE RESILIENT. When I say that, I don’t mean ‘don't let anything affect you’ but rather, build yourself up to the point that when someone/something knocks you down, you can bounce back easily. 

BECOME SELF AWARE. Know your strengths, and weaknesses, and be mindful of the truth. Be genuine when it comes to this because self-awareness helps us with becoming more in touch with our inner selves.

AVOID NEGATIVE SELF TALK. This can cause us to rely on others to hear good things about ourselves. Instead, say affirmations in the mirror.

STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. There’s a difference between genuinely being nice, and being a doormat. You shouldn’t have to bend over backwards for others, and they give absolutely nothing back. Invest that time and effort into yourself.

SOMEONE’S GAIN IS NOT YOUR LOSS. This is a mindset shift that will change the game. You have to stop seeing successful, wealthy, pretty or intelligent people as threatening your skills or talents. There is enough success for everyone.

DETACH FROM OTHERS. Friends, family, males, etc. Stop letting how other people treat you, dictate your mood for the rest of the day. The only factor your mood should depend on is you. What you do, say, and act is the only factor. 

KNOCK OTHERS FROM YOUR PEDESTAL. The only person that should be on top of your pedestal, is you. By doing this, you create an inferiority complex for someone else and give them superiority. 

OTHER’S OPINIONS ARE MOMENTARY. They will always move on with their day and see what needs to be done. They do not care about you as much as you think. So, do not even try to give them the time of day. 

BUILD BOUNDARIES. With others and yourself. Both are equally important because you value yourself enough not to do something you’ll regret. 

Woman to woman, I tell you this because I care about you:

• Get your degree, get your bag and be your own man. Be independent.

• Don't get married or move in with someone until your brain is fully developed (age 25)

• Be obsessed with improving yourself every single day. You can create your own dream life.

• Don't get pregnant unless you're emotionally, physically and financially ready.

• Be surrounded by people that make you wiser, happier and prettier.

• You are still young in your 20's, 30's, 40's and more.

• A relationship is partnership: Make sure he helps you too

• Always take care of your appearance

any must-have fall songs?

The weather by De lune

All in blue by Logan and Isabel

Next to you by Sam Evian

rises the moon by Liana Flores

Ylang Ylang by FKJ

any Lamp and Ichiko aoba songs

I really love listening to calm and quiet songs this time of the year.

[photos from Pinterest]

UMMMM did i just catch you making decisions based on a MAN?? i better not have. stand up girl, thats not it.

Thank youuu!!! I love it! ❤

Be high maintenance to be low maintenance: a checklist

daily

- AM and PM skincare

- shower (cold shower for the last 3 minutes)

- moisturize !!!

- floss, mouthwash, brush teeth, clean your tounge

- walk 6-10k steps

- 7-9 hours of sleep

- take your supplements

- drink 1,5-2 liters of water

weekly

- shape eyebrows

- wash hair 2-3 times

- exfoliate your body

- face, hair, feet and hand masks

- hair oiling

- full body shave (face and body)

- change bedding

- clean your room

monthly

- deep clean your room

- everything shower

- mani and pedi

- hair trim (every 3 months)

- teeth withening

- hair glossing

- laser hair removal

annually

- dentist appointments

- doctor checkups

- clean out your closet

- set goals for yourself