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in case you haven't seen it yet, here's the menhera 101 article by HoshiCandy from Kei Club Issue 3. not sure if i'll post the other menhera related articles from this issue or not, so consider checking the link in source if you're interested.
i'm also leaving a text transcription under the cut for anyone that may benefit from that
Menhera 101
Menhera fashion has quickly been gaining popularity worldwide! This fast growth has come with its fair share of misunderstandings about the community and style. Menhera artist and designer HoshiCandy is here with a lesson on menheraâs origins, history, and basics. Find more of her work on the pages before and after this article!
What is Menhera?Â
âMenheraâ can be thought of as âa person who seeks mental wellbeingâ.Â
The word âMenheraâ was born in Japan in 2001, on the âMental Healthâ board of anonymous forum 2ch, where users discussed their wellbeing. The users of this board were named âMental Healthersâ which was shortened to âMenheraâ.Â
The Menhera community covers anything that might cause one mental suffering, such as: physical illness or disability, depression, anxiety, eating disorders, bullying, hyper-sexuality, sexism, homophobia, etc. Importantly, there is no need for a formal diagnosis, as the focus is on how you feel, and that you want to feel better.Â
It is difficult to talk about these topics in Japanese society without being heavily stigmatized. Menhera is a community to speak safely without that stigma. Of course, this stigma and need for community when it comes to oneâs mental wellbeing is not limited to Japan, and that is why menhera has grown in the west as well.Â
Since the creation of the word in 2001, there have been several manga published with âMenheraâ in the title, many Visual Kei songs about it, Menhera idol groups, and several menhera fashion brands.Â
However, an unfortunate addition to all this has been the discovery of the word in mainstream media...
Just as the topic of illness is heavily stigmatized in Japanese society, the word âMenheraâ itself became quickly stigmatized and stereotyped as âan attention seeking, troublesome personâ or âan overly attached girlfriendâ (aka âyandereâ). If you were to speak to a Japanese person about âMenheraâ, this would most likely be what they would think you meant. This stereotype tends to be referred to as âMenhera Keiâ in Japanese which is why we avoid the use of âkeiâ for Menhera in particular.Â
Despite all this, the true menhera community has continued to grow.Â
Menhera Motifs
Artists in the Menhera community created many works of âVent Artâ art that expresses their feelings and suffering. When this art was printed onto clothing, Menhera fashion was born.Â
These are some themes you will commonly see in Menhera:Â
Medication
SuicideÂ
Self-harmÂ
Hospitals
Sex and BDSM
Social Media Addiction
HeartbreakÂ
Wearing Menhera art printed on clothing serves as a way of literally wearing oneâs feelings on oneâs sleeves. It turns invisible suffering visible, and fights against the stigma driven silence. This means that Menhera fashion is highly confrontational, with graphic depictions of illness symptoms. Although the onlooker may feel discomfort, the Menhera style says âthis is my true reality, donât pretend it doesnât exist!â
Depending on the feelings of the wearer, Menhera fashion also says âalthough I am sick, I can still be âkawaiiââ or âalthough I appear âkawaiiâ, on the inside I am sufferingâ.Â
Turning the invisible visible, forcing the silence to be broken, and challenging kawaii culture, these are the goals of Menhera fashion.
The Menhera Silhouette
Carefully avoiding a highly theatrical or OTT (over-the-top) look is important for maintaining the integrity of the goals of menhera. Menhera is a very casual style, with few accessories and light makeup. The key is for a coord to centre on Menhera imagery, whether vent art or text-focused designs, printed onto clothing.Â
Be careful not to dress up as the characters depicted in vent art, who are often costumey, gory, and OTT.Â
Menhera Coord checklist:Â
Printed Menhera art
Byojaku/Minimal makeup
Not OTT/Few accessories
Flat ShoesÂ
[optional] Oversized top
[optional] Hime bangsÂ
[optional] twintails
Colors can vary: a pastel yume look, or a gothic yami look, both are fine!
The makeup style is called âByojakuâ meaning âsickly/weakâ. Reddish colors are applied to areas around the eyes to give the impression of crying or illness. The rest of the face is kept plain without much color.Â
A Note of Caution
The Menhera community is about healing, and seeking recovery and wellbeing. It advocates getting help, medication, therapy, and receiving support through your recovery journey.Â
True Menhera never encourages or enables harmful behaviors, and never glorifies them. Menhera fashion is an alternative way of expressing your suffering without self-harm. Menhera fashion empowers the individual through their recovery, but does not empower harmful behaviors.Â
There are some, sometimes labeled by the community as âWannabe Menheraâ, who mistook the meaning of âmenheraâ after seeing its rise in popularity, as it being trendy to fake mental illness. They engage in behaviors such as posting self-harm photos (real or faked) to social media with the tag #menhera, and other attention-seeking behaviors.Â
While this is the opposite of what the Menhera community stands for, is harmful to the unfortunate viewers of these photos, and creates further stigma against the community...it cannot be ignored that these âWannabe Menheraâ, too, need help and healing.Â
The Menhera fashion movement is to help you feel comfortable, unashamed, and kawaii in your skin, scars and all. It is NOT for encouraging people to create new scars âfor the aestheticâ.Â
If you are struggling with mental or physical suffering, thoughts, or behaviors that cause harm to yourself or others, please seek help. If you do not believe you deserve help, you do, please seek help. If you believe you are faking it, you likely are not, your feelings are valid, please seek help.
Donât have access to therapy?Â
We found a comprehensive list of suicide prevention hotlines at https://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines [link no longer working]
There are also free and affordable counseling services online like Better Help and Pride Counseling! Look online to find what option could work for you!Â
Alternatives to Menhera
After reading all this you may be thinking âthe Menhera community sounds good but all the fashion is too restrictive for meâ and if so, youâre not alone! But the good news is that you donât have to wear Menhera fashion to be in the Menhera community.Â
Look up any of these alternative styles online for examples and more information:
Yamikawaii (âSickly-cuteâ) is essentially the aesthetic of Menhera without the activism, a corrupted dark kawaii. Unfortunately the word was trademarked and now suffers from copyright takedowns.Â
Yumekawaii (âDreamy-cuteâ) an aesthetic evolved from Fairy kei to describe everything pastel and kawaii, but with a slight edge, described as âfairytales with poisonâ.Â
Marekawaii (âNightmare-cuteâ) created as an alternative to Yamikawaii to avoid the copyright issues, and as a counterpart to Yumekawaii. Marekawaii is specifically defined as being open to your own interpretation and style.Â
Medikawaii (âMedical-cuteâ) a pastel kawaii aesthetic focusing only on medical motifs, such as medicine and hospitals.Â
Gurokawaii (âGrotesque-cuteâ) mixes frightening and disturbing imagery with kawaii. Kyary Pamyu Pamyu helped popularize it.Â
Iryouu Kei (âMedical Keiâ) a Visual Kei substyle with lots of gore and hospital theming, very OTT and theatrical, such as dressing like a nightmare nurse.Â
Living Doll artists see themselves and their bodies as a canvas to create art and express themselves, often with intricate makeup and body painting. This is a good one to look at if youâre into heavy artistic makeup.
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