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Twitter/X thread from Victoria Duncan on X:
"At some point, very early on, undiagnosed neurodivergent children are faced with a terrible dilemma.

They will tell someone they're in pain, someone they trust, and that person will say no they're not. That didn't hurt. It can't have. They're being selfish/dramatic/lying.

The child has to get their head around it. They feel pain, but a trusted caregiver says they don't and they're being bad for saying so. How can it be true?

There are only two, bad, options.

The child may choose to believe the caregiver and decide that they are wrong about their pain. They will make this choice again and again over the years and slowly learn to ignore their body until they are barely connected to it at all. They learn not to trust themselves.

Or, the child might not be able to ignore the reality of their pain. In which case, they have to give up on pleasing their caregiver by keeping quiet as demanded. They learn that adults won't believe or take care of them. They learn not to trust other people.
I think whichever choice you make, you carry the rest of your life, disconnected either from your own body and experiences, or from other people and meaningful relationships. Maybe both.

Anyway, diagnosis is the only way out of the dilemma. It's the only way your reality can be different from other people's without someone being at fault - is if you have a word like "sensory overwhelm" to explain the difference.

That's why diagnosis changes lives & why people want it so much.

This is about saying you're in pain because of sensory overwhelm, but it can also be about saying you're tired from sitting still or socializing or reading and someone says you can't be. Saying you "don't like" an activity you find hard, and having people assume the worst of you.

More Posts from Kaylaaplaf and Others

3 months ago

Reblog for a stupid pickup line in your inbox on Valentines Day

1 year ago
“Think Of Your Shoulders As A Rhombus”

“Think of your shoulders as a rhombus”

Source: privateanime on twitter

1 month ago

Can't express how stress free being open minded is.

Some lesbians use he/him? Oh cool.

Some people have people inside their head and sometimes it's fictional chars? Sick your brains like a pirate ship they're all working to run.

Some people like being treated like a pet dog? Bark bark bro.

Being fat isn't unhealthy but a perfectly normal type of body to have? Kinda beautiful how different we can all be.

Something doesn't make any fucking sense? Cool an opportunity to learn. And even if I can't figure it out it's cool we still have mysteries today.

1 year ago

Here's some notes on some of the upper body muscles so you, artist, don't need to look them up

Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up
Here's Some Notes On Some Of The Upper Body Muscles So You, Artist, Don't Need To Look Them Up

They are not medically accurate, just enough for artists to know the necessary muscles and how they work together

I 100% recommend doing the last exercise I did to be able to actually place the muscles

Here are my notes on the lower body muscles

7 months ago

Dear downydig,

Any secret knowledge on how to do fluid and dynamic poses? (Btw, I love ur art!! So comfy and cozy!!!)

Sincerely, Paper-Starz

Dear Downydig,

Hello hello! I have some advice! I did a thing on lines of action and the benefits of tracing in learning models a LONG time ago… the advice still holds up! Use shapes like ‘s’ curves, ‘c’ curves, and even sharper ‘U’s to give a fun fluid motion! Limbs and spine are the main help here, but the head sometimes comes into play ✌️

I have a little more to add, however! One of these pictures is my oc and the other is a king fu panda character but it’s still useful! When creating a pose, you can also use silhouette! Bonus points if the shape of the silhouette is different than the shapes that compose the character (in a way that matches the personality of course!)

Dear Downydig,
Dear Downydig,
1 month ago

didn't Voldemort say something like this

This Is The Kind Of Messaging You Really Want To Be Seeing From The Global Hegemon

This is the kind of messaging you really want to be seeing from the global hegemon

5 months ago

hey

how you draw eyes?

you draw eyes so pretty and i want to know how you do it

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((Alright strap in kids, this is gonna be a bit long. I’ll put the full thing under a read more to keep things clean. Here’s a quick explanation on how I do eyes!

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First of all, I work primarily in Paint Tool SAI2. If you already have SAI (which can be bought for around $52 USD here) you can upgrade for free to SAI2 on their website, which I’d highly recommend.

There are mimic brushes on Clip and Photoshop, but I can’t attest for their accuracy.

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These are my primary brush settings. I adjust the blending on the marker as preferred when painting. I use the marker to sketch, blend, and paint. I use the pen when I need to put down solid colors without blending or to add fine details.

Now for eyes. I love eyes because they’re super expressive and can be so many possible shapes and sizes. I’m going to assume you already have the fundamental knowledge of anatomy and how eyes work, and go into my process.

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It’s very simple. I start with a top and lower lid, or lash lines. From there, I can place the iris with the marker tool, keeping the opacity low, and adding a shadow for the top of the eye. Easy!

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Really, you can stop at this point, depending on how detailed your style is. OR, you can be like me, and hyperfixate on little details because it’s relaxing and fun to paint.

Below, I have several examples. The first is a base, where I put in a regular pupil and some basic shadows. From there, I have a choice on what style I want to go with. For stylized realism, I go on the right and add a lot of finer lines around the pupil, varying up the tones because eyes aren’t all one solid hue or shade. Study pictures of eyes, you’ll see they’re very complex and subtly beautiful.

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For a simpler look, like what I go for in my Inverted comic, I keep things more straightforward. A blended gradient from top to bottom, and then picking up several lighter and darker colors to add definition lines. Nothing excessive, just a little bit of flavor. I give the characters in my comic stylized unique eyeshines as well, because it’s fun. Cotton is one of the only characters I really define the eyelashes on, mostly bc his eyes are very important to his character and design.

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And, just because it’s fun, I sketched up a few different eyes in color, varying the technique a little each time. You can go wild with shapes, colors, and painting techniques. I hope this was informative, and I’d love to see the kinds of eyes you guys paint!))

2 months ago

I’m pretty sure that Australians don’t have more then maybe 30-50k MAX people on tumblr. Like American had some 30 million users in 2020 (aka basically probably peak over the last 7 2018-2025) while Australia only has 26-28million people depending on who you ask (27 to be safe) so I’m just genuinely curious how many of us there must be on here.

If you Currently live in OR were born / raised in Australia and ID as (born/raised + ID, as I know a lot of born/raised here don’t ID as Aussie) you are Australian in this poll!

Please reblog for bigger sample size

3 weeks ago

oh shit, it's 3/21/23, 32123, palindrome day

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