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Hewwo! I am aroace and trans and neurodivergent i'm also a minor

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1 week ago

If you're dating a transfem, especially a butch one or a tall one or a big one you gotta just... not treat her like something to be afraid of. Like in a world where we are constantly painted as rapists, aggressors, hysterical bitches, and monsters you gotta fuckin stop and wonder how many times your girl has defanged herself. How many times has she dipped her shoulders and bowed her head because she was scared of being 'the bad one'? How many injustices and slights has she let slide because she wants to be soft and to be loved?

What does it do to her when you're too scared to have the hard conversations with her? How does the person you love feel when you show her even at home she is reduced to a potential for violence? If you avoid her, what thorns and poison does she imagine within and around herself?

If you want to love us, give us the dignity of trust. Talk to us like reasonable adults and let us feel. Don't dodge us while you find the right words to say, don't scatter eggshells on the floor then make us feel guilty you're walking on them, don't use trauma as an excuse to traumatize.

kaylaaplaf
1 week ago

Thank god for Russian dash cams to bring us wonders like this

kaylaaplaf
1 week ago

Ain't we pretty?

Transgender Women…

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1 week ago

Off The Leash 🐱🐶🎤

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1 week ago
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1 week ago

I am allergic to milk

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1 week ago

FUCK. honestly just FUCK. We missed a very important day yesterday.

kaylaaplaf
1 week ago

I saw an opportunity and I took it

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1 week ago
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1 week ago

Reblog to hug prev poster (they need a hug)

kaylaaplaf
2 weeks ago
Twitter/X thread from Victoria Duncan on X:
"At some point, very early on, undiagnosed neurodivergent children are faced with a terrible dilemma.

They will tell someone they're in pain, someone they trust, and that person will say no they're not. That didn't hurt. It can't have. They're being selfish/dramatic/lying.

The child has to get their head around it. They feel pain, but a trusted caregiver says they don't and they're being bad for saying so. How can it be true?

There are only two, bad, options.

The child may choose to believe the caregiver and decide that they are wrong about their pain. They will make this choice again and again over the years and slowly learn to ignore their body until they are barely connected to it at all. They learn not to trust themselves.

Or, the child might not be able to ignore the reality of their pain. In which case, they have to give up on pleasing their caregiver by keeping quiet as demanded. They learn that adults won't believe or take care of them. They learn not to trust other people.
I think whichever choice you make, you carry the rest of your life, disconnected either from your own body and experiences, or from other people and meaningful relationships. Maybe both.

Anyway, diagnosis is the only way out of the dilemma. It's the only way your reality can be different from other people's without someone being at fault - is if you have a word like "sensory overwhelm" to explain the difference.

That's why diagnosis changes lives & why people want it so much.

This is about saying you're in pain because of sensory overwhelm, but it can also be about saying you're tired from sitting still or socializing or reading and someone says you can't be. Saying you "don't like" an activity you find hard, and having people assume the worst of you.
kaylaaplaf
2 weeks ago

Adults: Following rules is good, not following rules is bad

Little me: Okay :] *follows a rule*

Adults: Oh my god look at this loser. He doesn't know that this rule is Secretly Okay To Not Follow. Dumbass. Let's all laugh at him

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2 weeks ago
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2 weeks ago

#math made me go nonverbal


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2 weeks ago

Ewww sparkling water

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2 weeks ago

somehow I got 95/20 on an assignment

Somehow I Got 95/20 On An Assignment

I hope they never fix it and leave it this way forever

kaylaaplaf
2 weeks ago

oh shit, it's 3/21/23, 32123, palindrome day

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2 weeks ago

The gc is freaky and meanwhile I’m from this country

The Gc Is Freaky And Meanwhile I’m From This Country

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2 weeks ago

conspiracy theories ab giants are really funny because like . they would be big . we would see them


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2 weeks ago

Yes

Would anyone like to know some of my vocal stims?

kaylaaplaf
2 weeks ago

reblog if people r allowed to send u asks as if theyre ur friend. wanna tell me how ur day went? do it!!! ask me for advice? sure! ask a personal question? go right on ahead!

kaylaaplaf
2 weeks ago

Sups

Change a single letter and change the word game

I want to play a game with you all.

You have to make a new word by changing only one letter of the last word.

Dirt

kaylaaplaf
3 weeks ago

Black and red

Oh Boy Lookie What I Found Here

Oh boy lookie what I found here

kaylaaplaf
3 weeks ago

AHHHHH thank you

spectacular spider man on the internet archive you're welcome

kaylaaplaf
3 weeks ago
Today's Warm Up: A Well Meaning Ephemera Vs A Man Regretting His Husband's Gift Of Flying Lessons
Today's Warm Up: A Well Meaning Ephemera Vs A Man Regretting His Husband's Gift Of Flying Lessons
Today's Warm Up: A Well Meaning Ephemera Vs A Man Regretting His Husband's Gift Of Flying Lessons

today's warm up: a well meaning ephemera vs a man regretting his husband's gift of flying lessons

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3 weeks ago

Pixar’s 22 Rules for Writing

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kaylaaplaf
3 weeks ago

BAN ON CONVERSION PRACTICES IN THE EU. GO SIGN IT. DEADLINE IS FUCKING MAY 17. WE'RE STILL MISSING 800.000 signatures. FUCKING DO IT.

European Citizens' Initiative
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Give your support !
kaylaaplaf
3 weeks ago

do you guys know about the internet roadtrip? right now somewhere between 500 and 900 people are collectively 'driving' a car on google street view trying to make it to canada. it's fun i recommend it

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3 weeks ago

How

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3 weeks ago
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