Finding The Person That Is Too Perfect, Liking Them Turns To Loving Them, Then Finding Their Flaws And

i just think that if you’re telling any kind of story in which there’s a designated love interest, and you REALLY want the audience to be invested in that love story instead of going “hm, but i think they have more chemistry with the villain/sidekick/best friend/etc.,” the emotional intensity of that relationship has to outweigh every other relationship either character has. your protagonist has to have stronger feelings about their love interest than they do about anyone else. so often the emotional stakes inherent to the main love story (or friendship! or familial relationship!) are informed attributes - the author tells us that they have chemistry, that they’re best friends, that this dude would do anything for his family - but those emotional relationships aren’t central motivating factors that drive the story forward. if the protagonist spends more time thinking about their nemesis than their love interest, or if the conflict is driven by two people hating each other and that emotion is what drives their actions, your audience is gonna pick up on that! it’s the most interesting and emotionally intense relationship you’re giving us! it’s basic “show don’t tell” - people won’t just get invested in the dynamic between two characters because you say so. it’s on you, the creator, to make that relationship the most compelling one on the page/screen.

i was uncharacteristically thinking about adrienette family life, and then something possessed me to draw it

anyways, some days in the lives of the Dupain-Chengs. Featuring: sleepovers, and How To Manipulate Your Parents

Major Arcana Tarot Meanings

The Fool  – 0

Upright: Innocence, freedom, originality, adventure, travel, foolishness, carelessness, idealism, youth, spontaneity, lack of commitment, new beginnings Reversed: Recklessness, carelessness, negligence, stupidity, distraction, apathy, irrationality, lack of fun, hope or faith

The Magician  –  I

Upright: Power, influence, willpower, resourcefulness, skill, ability, logic, intellect, concentration and psychic powers Reversed: Manipulation, greed, unused ability, untrustworthiness, trickery, conniving, cunning, lack of mental clarity

The High Priestess  – II

Upright: Desirability, unattainability, mystery, sensuality, spirituality, thirst for knowledge, mystery, subconscious, higher power, creativity, fertility Reversed: Repression of intuition, blocked psychic powers, unwanted attention, uncontrolled outbursts and sexual tension, lack of self-belief, fertility issues

The Empress  –  III

Upright: Pregnancy, fertility, motherhood, sensuality, nurturing, creativity, beauty, femininity, nature, harmony, art Reversed: Insecurity, infertility, lack of confidence, lack of growth, overbearing tendencies, disharmony, negligence

The Emperor  –  IV

Upright: Older man, stability, dependability, fatherhood, father-figure, structure, protectiveness, authority, logical, practical Reversed: Abuse of power, excessively controlling, rigidity, stubbornness, lack of discipline, lack of control, absentee father, paternity issues

The Hierophant  –  V

Upright: Traditional institutions, traditional values, conventional, conformity, marriage, commitment, religion, beliefs, knowledge sharing Reversed: Challenging tradition, unconventional lifestyles, unconventional relationships, reversed roles, non-conformity

The Lovers  –  VI

Upright: Love, soulmates, kindred spirits, perfect unions, partnerships, relationships, major choices, romance, desire, sexual connections, shared values Reversed: Disharmony, trust issues, imbalance, conflict, disconnection, lack of accountability, disunion, detachment

The Chariot  –  VII

Upright: Victory, overcoming obstacles, success, ambition, determination, willpower, control, self-discipline, hard work and focus Reversed: Forcefulness, lack of direction, lack of self-control, powerlessness, aggression, coercion, being blocked by obstacles

Strength  –  VIII

Upright: Inner strength, courage, bravery, confidence, compassion, taming, control, overcoming self-doubt Reversed: Vulnerability, self-doubt, weakness, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, feeling inadequate

The  Hermit  –  IX

Upright: Spiritual enlightenment, soul searching, self-reflection, introspection, contemplation, inner guidance, solitude Reversed: Loneliness, paranoia, isolation, reclusiveness, withdrawal, anti-social, restrictive, paralyzed by fear.

The Wheel of Fortune  –  X

Upright: Good luck, destiny, change, karma, soulmates, decisive moments, cycles of life, fate, fortune, upheaval, chance Reversed: Bad luck, upheaval, disorder, external forces, lack of control, disruption, unwelcome change, delays, set backs, karma

Justice  –  XI

Upright: Justice, karmic justice, consequences, legal disputes, law, truth, honesty, integrity, cause and effect, life lessons Reversed: Injustice, karmic retribution, dishonesty, corruption, lack of accountability, dishonesty, unfairness, karmic avoidance

The Hanged Man  –  XII

Upright: Feeling trapped, confined, self-limiting, uncertainty, lack of direction, needing release, letting go Reversed: Discontentment, apathy, disinterest, stagnation, impulsiveness, negative patterns, detachment

Death  –  XIII

Upright: Spiritual transformation, new beginnings, letting go, endings, change, transition, sudden or unexpected upheaval Reversed: Inability to move forward, fear of beginnings, repeating negative patterns, resisting change, dependency

Temperance  –  XIV

Upright: Balance, peace, patience, moderation, inner calm, perspective, tranquillity, harmonious relationships, soulmates Reversed: Imbalance, self-indulgence, excess, clashing, lack of perspective, discord, antagonism, recklessness, hastiness

The Devil  –  XV

Upright: Addiction, depression, mental health issues, secrecy, obsession, cheating, dependency, bondage, materialism, sexuality, powerlessness, hopelessness, abuse, violence, assault Reversed: Detachment, independence, overcoming addiction, freedom, revelation, reclaiming power, reasserting control

The Tower  –  XVI

Upright: Chaos, destruction, sudden upheaval, trauma, unexpected change, disaster, loss, tragedy, revelations, confusion, pain, divorce, abuse, violence, bankruptcy, natural disasters, inevitable endings Reversed: Resisting change, averting disaster, avoiding tragedy, delaying the inevitable, avoiding loss, lack of insight, codependence

The Star  –  XVII

Upright: Hope, inspiration, creativity, calm, contentment, renewal, serenity, spirituality, healing, positivity Reversed: Hopelessness, despair, focusing on the negative, lack of faith, lack of inspiration, lack of creativity, boredom, monotony

The Moon  –  XVIII

Upright: Intuition, illusion, dreams, vagueness, instability, deception, anxiety, fear, misconception, subconscious, insecurity, clouded Reversed: Releasing fear, unveiling secrets, subsiding anxiety, truth, regaining composure, self-deception, blocked intuition

The Sun  –  XIX

Upright: Positivity, freedom, fun, success, optimism, vitality, joy, confidence, self-expression, good luck, enthusiasm, happiness, truth, openness, pregnancy Reversed: Lack of enthusiasm, excessive enthusiasm, sadness, pessimism, unrealistic expectations, ego, conceitedness, oppression, infertility

Judgement  – XX

Upright: Judgement, self-evaluation, awakening, renewal, composure, decisiveness, homesickness, snap judgements, apportioning blame, forgiveness, judgemental Reversed: Indecisiveness, self-doubt, malicious gossip, lack of self-awareness, unwillingness to learn karmic lessons, unfair blame, false accusations

The World  –  XXI

Upright: Success, achievement, accomplishment, travel, completion, fulfillment, sense of belonging, wholeness Reversed: Lack of success, stagnation, lack of achievement, disappointment, burden, lack of completion

I’m going to do it. I’m going to do it. This is it, I’m gonna do it. Presenting: THE EXPLAINING REALM OF THE ELDERLINGS TO RAZZ PROJECT SO THEY DON’T HAVE TO READ THE BOOKS BUT THEY CAN STILL ENJOY MY SHITPOSTING ABOUT IT

PART ONE: ASSASSIN’S APPRENTICE PART ONE-A: CAST OF CHARACTERS THE FARSEERS (The royal family of the Six Duchies, every member of this clan is a hot mess. I will also be including Farseers-by-marriage in this category). Nameless/Fitz/Fitzchivalry: The POV character, King-in-Waiting Chivalry’s bastard whose name is literally “Chivarly’s Bastard.” Prince Chivalry: Fitz’s father who never has an on-screen appearance. He was first in line to the throne but abdicates when Fitz shows up. Prince Verity: Chiv’s younger brother, the Nice Uncle who becomes the new King-in-Waiting. Honest as his name and good at sports. Prince Regal: Chivalry and Verity’s younger half-brother, the Mean Uncle. Vain and power hungry and has like negative three redeeming qualities. King Shrewd: Current king, kind of getting on in years but not yet totally decrepit. He’s an ends-justify-the-means guy but not in an evil way. Chade: King Shrewd’s older half-brother on the wrong side of the sheets. An assassin. Lives in the walls. Has a weasel. August: Fourth? In line for the throne, he’s someone’s cousin, I forget whose, but he can do the Skill, so he’s here. Queen Constance: Chivalry and Verity’s mom. Shrewd’s arranged-marriage wife. Dead. Queen Desire: Regal’s mom. Shrewd’s midlife crisis trophy wife. Suffers from what we will discreetly call “substance abuse disorder.” Is a Mythic Bitch. Patience: Chivalry’s wife. Has ADHD. Can’t have children. Weird, but nice. (Kettricken is grouped with Rurisk so he doesn’t get lonely). CASTLE AND STABLE FOLK (and Molly) Burrich: Fitz’s pseudo-father and keeper. Stablemaster of Buckkeep, former right hand man to Chivalry. Was an adventurer like you until he took a pig to the knee. Cobb: Burrich’s apprentice. That’s kind of it, but he’s worth mentioning. Hands: A stablehand and Fitz’s friend. Likes redheads. Claims to have fucked a million women. Hasn’t. Lacy: Patience’s serving woman and bestie. Makes lace, nods indulgently and will stab you. The Fool: Albino freak-child who serves as King Shrewd’s jester. People are kind of afraid of him. Sometimes appears to yell word-salad at Fitz or walk his dog for him. Galen: Potions, er, Skill-master. Walks around the keep sneering at people. Supposed to teach people how to Skill, but isn’t good at it. Skill Students: Will not become important until next book. Molly Nosebleed: A pugnacious street girl who lives in Buckkeep Town. Fitz hangs out with her when he can. MOUNTAIN FOLK Rurisk: Prince of the Mountain Kingdom. Took an arrow to the chest and kept on truckin’. Used to be friends with Chivalry, is a pretty stand up guy. Hope nothing happens to him. Kettricken: Rurisk’s younger sister, betrothed to Verity (and later married) late in the book. Picture Gwendolyn Christie. Now give her a sword and a sense of duty that’ll blow you into next Tuesday. Jonqui: Kettricken’s aunt. No nonsense. Thinks Fitz is cute. PETS Nosy: Hound dog puppy. Bonded to Fitz. Smithy: I think Smithy’s like a French Bulldog or something? Fitz calls him a “terrier” but he’s not a ratting breed, he’s kind of muscly… anyway, bonded to Fitz. Sooty: Fitz’s horse. Best mare, perfect cinnamon roll and can do no wrong. Vixen: Burrich’s dog and Nosy’s mother. Good dog. Slink: A weasel belonging to Chade. MAGICS (I know magic is not a character, but they do have to be explained somewhere) The Wit: The ability to “bond” with certain animals and speak with them, as well as sense life force and to do a kind of mental shove at people. You tend to act a little like the animal you’ve bonded to. Witted people are considered gross and animalistic and are run out of town or put to death. The Skill: Telepathy. Considered the “birthright” of the Farseers. Most people can sense it at least a little, but it takes inborn talent and a lot of careful training to do anything useful with it. Skilling apparently feels awesome but if you give in to the temptation to fully open yourself to it you can get sucked out of your own  brain. and… fuck I think that’s it, I intended this to be quick and simple but nothing is fucking simple in this series. I’m gonna go take a nap.

Another Boyfriend

Day One of Parkner Week: Road Work Ahead / Parades / Identity Porn

Summary: Harley takes a detour after school to buy some flowers for his boyfriend.

Only, he didn’t expect for Spider-Man to think that they were dating.

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“Here you go, young man.” The older man handed Harley the bundle of purple and white flowers, tied together in a nice bow. “Have a good time with your girlfriend tonight.”

“Boyfriend, actually,” Harley said, readying himself for some type of comment as he slid over his card.

The man took it, swiping in the register. “Everyone loves flowers of some kind. I’m sure he’ll love ‘em.” He handed Harley back the card, and Harley tucked it in his wallet. “Have a good time with your boyfriend, then.”

“Thanks, sir. Will do.” Harley gave him a wave as he exited the shop, turning down the street. He ended up having to make a detour to the Tower since there was apparently road work ahead, but he didn’t mind. It was a nice day that Harley hoped would turn into an even nicer night. Surprising Peter with flowers, they were going to dinner at a nice restaurant that Pepper had recommended to him, and then they were either going to see a movie or end up in the backseat of Harley’s car. Harley didn’t have much of a preference, as long as they hung out alone for once. Peter always seemed busy, for one reason or another, but now they had both made sure their schedules were clear for tonight, so they were finally going out on another date, one where Harley could call Peter his boyfriend without Tony breathing down his neck.

Harley turned the corner down another street, flowers swinging at his side. The Tower was gleaming in the sunlight above him when suddenly a face masked in red popped upside-down in front of his vision. White lenses widened and twitched to look down at the flowers in Harley’s hand.

“Aw, are those for me?”

Now, Harley has heard of Spider-Man, Tony’s protege of sorts. He has never actually met him face to face. The one time Harley had asked, two months after he moved to New York and two weeks after he started dating Peter Parker, he hadn’t gotten an answer and had just been laughed out of the lab. But he knew what Spider-Man looked like, he knew that Peter help work on his suit sometimes, he had just never met the guy.

Until now. And he really wasn’t making the best first impression, assuming weird things like this.

Harley narrowed his eyes, taking a wary step away from the masked man. “Why would they be for you?”

Spider-Man tilted his head, and when Harley looked up he could see that he was hanging from a web attached to the streetlight above them. “I mean… why wouldn’t they be?”

Harley’s nose wrinkled. “Because these are for my boyfriend, not for you.”

He could see the barest trace of a frown underneath Spider-Man’s tight mask, though it looked strange upside-down. A soft, disappointed noise left his mouth, a noise bordering on the edge of familiarity, but Harley couldn’t quite place it and it unsettled him. So he pushed past him, ducking underneath the dangling man. He stalked off toward the Tower to get changed before meeting up with Peter, determined to wipe all memory of that self-assured vigilante from his mind for a little while.

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Big Masterlist of genshin resources for help B))

I've posted several different resources on my blog but I'm consolidating them here for easy access and editing in the future, lmk if you find other good resources!

Master spreadsheet for builds of literally everyone, along with weapon and artifact refs- this spreadsheet helped me to learn how to build because the info is very clear and concentrated, so you pick up on patterns easier

Here is a link to a post i did detailing how artifacts work, since the text in-game can be a bit confusing

This is a link to a spreadsheet that helps you determine whether to use atk, crit rate, or crit dmg on ur circlet slot; its niche but useful. Disclaimer: idk whether special cases like noelles c6 is taken into account here, im pretty sure its not.

Paimon.moe- overall just a super helpful resource, its big functions are a character/ weapon buliding schedule (incase you are buliding muliple characters/ get overwhelmed/ need a resin spending schedule) as well as analyzing and charting your wish history so you can see how much you wished on each banner and when you got 4*/5*s. It is safe to use since you dont give a password, it doesnt inject code into the game, and all the code is open-source.

any room can be a panic room if you just give me a fucking second

"I make myself want to cry."

-FAY B.

Because it's just like. Darcy did everything Lizzy ever told him to, yknow? He asked how she thought people should kindle affection and she said dancing, so then he asked her to dance. She asked what he qualifies as an accomplished woman, he looked at her and the book she was reading, and said a well read woman. She said he should talk while they're dancing, so he asked about her and her sisters going to Merryton. She told him he should practice talking to people he's not already familiar with, so he came over and visited her the very next day. You know??? Do you see???? He has been shouting from the very start that he cares for her, in his own way, just as Jane shouted her love to Bingley, in her own way. And then when she was visiting Rosings and Lady Catherine de Bourgh, his own aunt, was being obnoxious and rude to her, he felt the shame of having undesirable connections just as she had in the beginning. Do you see it!!!! Mr Darcy has been ardently in love with her from the very beginning, and he's been missing the parallels between their lives the whole time!!! He's so pathetic and sopping wet it hurts!!!

While I sit, taking a break from being frustrated at genshin impact, I want to talk about something that you probably won't find in other areas. This post is for my hypersexual people out there, so if that triggers you, please move onto another post.

I recently had someone ask me, how to deal with hypersexuality if you do not want to masturbate, or look at sexual material or anything. And this goes for the younger people out here that might not be old enough to involve themselves in safe sexual communities. But you can be an adult and still find this advice useful, it's for everyone to keep in mind.

Hypersexuality is a coping mechanism, usually coming from a traumatic experience or something similar. It's also incredibly similar to OCD and the obsessive/compulsive part, with intrusive sexual fantasies/thoughts and compulsions like oversharing and sexual acts. And with it, you will feel shame, regret and self hatred, hypersexuality is not pretty and is very damaging to live with, especially if you've been dealing with it since you were a child.

When hypersexuality is triggered, you may be feeling...

small and like you need to be protected or else, like a kid, like condescended or put down

pain, you may be dealing with some sort of pain when it is triggered, you may have a hard time sleeping, and it's triggered, or you had a bad day

self hatred, you may feel like you cannot escape your shame and guilt, you may be spiraling and need some sort of reprieve to take you away from reality

or literally any sort of stress, it can be anything, and its usually something painful. You could be feeling lonely, you could be struggling with intrusive thoughts that make you feel aroused, anything.

So you will experience urges and intrusive thoughts. And a lot of it, a lot of what I've experienced, and I know others have, is self harming behaviors with the hypersexuality. It's not necessarily physical, it can be emotional self harm. Regardless, it's self punishing for "taboo" or "disgusting" acts. And its a very intense headspace that is hard to escape from.

There are things called endorphins, hormones/neurotransmitters that reduce pain and discomfort, that come from sexual acts. And they make you feel better and help you sleep. But that does not mean you do not experience emotional pain from engaging in sexual situations. It's self harming, and hypersexuality is known as an addiction, just like codependency.

So how does one deal with hypersexuality in a more healthy manner? How to not hate yourself so much when you get compulsions and intrusive thoughts? Well, there is therapy, but that's just an easy answer that doesn't work for everyone. And a lot of therapy is just this. It's self work and self care.

I'm not going to act like that is easy, nor is it pleasurable a lot of times. But it's healing and progress, it's something that is worth it in the long run. It's teaching yourself that sexual things are not taboo, and that you're not evil for doing it. It's learning to accept yourself and break down dissociative barriers if you have them.

In combatting this, here are some things to focus on:

Affirmations and self appreciating. No more telling yourself that you're gross or disgusting, no more viewing yourself in a negative light. There are positivity blogs and posts, surround yourself with that love and kindness, and no more falling back on "I'm gross for feeling this way".

Unlearning the lies that your inner child has been told. And this is specifically the lie that "sex is bad" or that it's taboo. Its just a normal part about having bodily needs. Even if you don't like sex, it's not inherently bad. Within this, educate yourself about the things you may have not learned in school. Let's stop feeling ashamed of ourselves when we experience arousal. Become more sex positive.

Learning self care and aftercare. Aftercare is mostly talked about in kink communities but it should be discussed more in general. It's about coming down from emotional highs after sexual encounters. And that means being gentle and kind with yourself. Take care of yourself, use the bathroom, etc. You don't even have to have had a sexual encounter to preform self care.

Along with the point above, self care is important in general. Create a safe space for yourself, have relax days, take time for yourself and treat yourself well. Hypersexuality is often the "replacement" for the need of unconditional love. This is why you need to be more gentle with yourself and to forgive yourself. Even if you cannot be with others, or trust others, at least you can do is be gentle and kinder with yourself.

Give your inner child a safe space. Watch kids shows, watch your favourite movies you loved as a child. Let yourself eat snacks or drinks. Let yourself play and have fun. Sit in comfy pajamas and make pillow forts, or take a nature walk. Surround yourself in things you enjoyed or wanted as a child. (I recommend The Little Prince if you want a good movie to enjoy.) Let your inner child be themselves, because more often than not, they're the one that feels unloved and unsafe here. No more shame, let yourself have fun.

And this is not a cure, this will not help you with everything. Sometimes you need actual therapy, actual medication, you need an answer. It's hard, the healing journey is tough because of the stigma and struggle with finding a therapist that is right for you.

I really recommend researching about OCD as well, you may not have OCD, but it's really similar to a lot of what hypersexuality is. And getting a diagnosis for that or getting medication for that, may help you deal with some issues you cannot contend with on your own. Especially with the lack of boundaries you may have. Especially if you have been in a toxic or codependent relationship/friendship or situation due to hypersexuality. You may learn better coping mechanisms through that as well. You are not a lost cause.

You will lessen the intense headspace with care and work, you are not a monster and you are not disgusting. Please treat yourself with more respect and kindness. Sex is not a sin, and nor does hypersexuality make you a bad person. Educate and treat yourself better. You are an equal and you deserve to be respected. You are not lower than anyone else, nor are you less intelligent or stupid. You are not an inferior being.

Here's to healing, the journey begins. May you grow and build a sanctuary for yourself. I hope you flourish. No more self hatred and no more shame. You are deserving of respect and you deserve the unconditional love that was not given to you. Only you can take the first step of this. It's not as scary or uncomfortable as you think it is.

TDLR: Please read the bullet points if nothing else. Hypersexuality is very similar to OCD, so OCD coping mechanisms may help you as well. Practicing self care, as well as unlearning shame and self punishing attitudes will help. It's not protective if you don't learn to respect yourself. Stop shaming yourself for sexual feelings. It's not your fault you deal with this. So it's time you build yourself a safe space/sanctuary in order to be more authentic and loving with yourself.