Let Me Get This Straight. He Plays The Piano, He Has A Tragic Backstory, He Is Doomed By The Narrative,

There should be an equivalent to asking "how's the wife and kids?" that's like "so how's that fictional man of yours doing?"

Ok I need everyone to understand that Buck and Eddie are both products of their upbringing. Buck was a child of neglect, which led to him having abandonment issues. While Eddie was a child forced to grow up too fast, which led to him having hyper-independence. Two different kind of traumas. Two different kinds of trauma response. Which would require two different kinds of help.

Buck and Eddie help each other overcome these things and because they are two different kinds of problems, the way they help will ALSO be different. Ever since they met, Eddie has always been there for Buck (don't even fight me on this) and Buck has always given Eddie what he needs. It will look imbalanced, but it's really not. They both need SOMEONE in their lives, just in different ways.

Buck doesn't need someone to take over his lease, or to take care of his son, or to help him figure out childcare, he needs someone to Not Leave Him Alone. Eddie doesn't need someone to tell him he's not expendable, or to be reassured he's trustworthy, or to be promised he's not going to be abandoned, he needs someone to Give Him a Helping Hand. And the moment they became friends they have been those SOMEONES to each other.

They are each other's persons. Equally.

Ableism is fucking everywhere. And it's so insanely normalized. I was watching a commentary youtube video about a pretty shitty person. And the person who made the video, someone I watch frequently, calls the person a sociopath, a psychopath and a narcissist. Over and over again.

We're people too, what the fuck? Having ASPD or NPD does not equal being a shitty, abusive person. I'm so fucking sick and tired of my struggles being used as a way to insult and label others as abusers.

I am not your fucking horror trope.

something i noticed with "anti-xyz" spaces is that.... there is no room for "anti-xyz" spaces, because those spaces will not be focused on support, fun, or community. it's just a cult used to diminish other people's self worth and esteem.

an example is in DID/OSDD/Plurality/Multiplicity spaces. I popped into the tag on tumblr to see what others' experiences are, and am met with something labelled "anti endo" etc. . And I think, if you're making a community, the only option is to be "pro-endo" or "pro-xyz" because that's the only way you're gonna meet individuals who are focused on safety, friendship, and community. Because if you constantly focus on how "you fan only be plural if you have trauma"- it is NOT your business to guess what another's persons trauma is! You don't need to know if a person is traumatized or not to validate their existence! You don't need to know other people's traumas! That is not your business, nor is that knowledge a suitable foundation on which to build a relationship.

The only choice is to be pro-whatever discourse. Because people are first. if all you focus on is whether or not your traumas are enough or real, you're just going to doubt yourself and cause unnecessary stress.

I've been itching to draw Coco in one of her special outfits for so long 🤧 something about the fashion in this manga I swear....

the neurodivergent experience:

20% of the time: wowwieee!!! i love my passions and interests!!!!! they make me so happy i want to jump up and down!!!!! weee!!!!!!! :3333333333

80% of the time: this mind is a prison

Friendly (or unfriendly if you're against this) reminder that this blog is supportive of ALL disorders. This blog does not think ANY disorder inherently makes someone a bad person, and is against any disorder being demonized. This blog wholeheartedly believes that a bad person having a disorder, yes, even if things that are also symptoms of their disorder are part of what caused harm, does not make the disorder a "bad" or "evil" disorder or excuse ableism and demonization directed towards the disorder.

Yes this includes personality disorders

Including npd and aspd

Yes this includes all psychotic disorders & disorders that cause psychotic symptoms

Yes this includes paraphilic disorders. All of them.

Yes this includes disorders that cause, or are even characterized by, attention seeking

Yes this includes disorders that directly have lying as a common symptom

Yes this includes dissociative disorders

Yes this includes any disorder with "gross" symptoms

Yes this includes physical disorders too

Yes this includes disorders that can cause loss of control of any kind- control of speech, control of body movement, etc.

Yes tis includes disorders that make someone "look scary"

This goes for literally any fucking disorder. There are not exceptions.

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An introduction by yours truly, Ash

Attempt 3000 of having a Tumblr I like.

I'm Ash, I am 20 year old. Disabled and queer. Chronically online and ill.

🎶🎵 I''ve got the best of both words 🎵🎶

Auto-diag is valid by the way, there's enough information to auto-diagonise yourself with some stuff, and you are the only expert on your life. Ask for help if you need it though

Some people need to chill.

I have two side blogs : @lonebabyone (agere), @onesburyinghole (vent)

DMs open and asks too, for anything.

This blog is primarily to have a space to express myself on subjects i like. More details under the cut.

I enjoy most humanitarians subjects, like psychology, sociology, history, philosophy, politics (because for anarchy i need to know about it urgh). I'm anticapitalist, i do enjoy some stuff produced by it tho (i mean look in which platform i am), antigovernment (authorities and stuff ew). I am for communities and for helping thy neighnoor, at least i'm trying. I'm just a human trying to live in this world and help others when i can. I'm also chronically online and ill so take that as you will.

I will tell you one time if i see you don't respect my boundaries, you will be blocked.

Anyways, I also love some stuff and here some of them if you want to know:

Witch Hat Atelier

Epic the musical

I don't want to be a magical girl

Gravity falls

Formula 1

Rise of the guardians

Amphibia

The owl House

Hazbin hotel

Helluva boss

Spiderman and adjacents

Batfam

Flash

Five Nights at Freddy's

Teen Wolf

Arcane

Ao3

Fandoms in general

Percy Jackson

How to train your dragon

Hunger Games

9-1-1

Winnie the Pooh

Winx

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The Music Freaks

Bluey

This list is inconclusive and doesn't really have an order.

Disagree? Respectfully, you can argue with a wall🫶