I'm Just In Love With This Edit, The Backsound And Kaylor Moments. You Know, I Love Their Friendship

A random collection of celebs comments that make you double take

1 - Teen Vogues asks Shawn Mendes about Joe Alwyn and the lie detector shows he is lying about something

See full vide below:

2 - The infamous interview with Jack Antonoff talking about how much he loves working with gay women. Here is the link to the audio from @thekaylordiaries:

3 - "Allegedly" - Jack at long pond studios

4 - Calvin Harris goes OFF about his beard

5 - Martha Hunt & Taylor Hill not knowing who Joe is

This is all I could think of right now but please add more

“and that’s how you’ve changed the song all too well for me”

I’m Not “The Archer”, but I’m Arching My Back to Reach As Far As Possible. Lol

(**DISCLAIMER: This is just my own personal opinion. I am not connected to Taylor in any way, so don’t take as gospel. I’m looking at this from the perspective of a closeted relationship, so any mention of her being gay or ‘closeted’ or ‘in the closet’ is alleged she herself has not said this. In addition, I am not calling this a breakup song or insinuating there was a breakup, so don’t come for me. Lol**)

I have listened to this song probably 1,000 times since it was released on yesterday and with every single listen, I get a little more emotional. To me, this is a song about doubt, self-doubt, anxiety & insecurity in a relationship and as a lover/partner. Feeling like you’re losing someone or that you’re going to lose them—not because of a fight or because someone cheated, but because you’ve been searching for this type of love for God knows how long and now that it’s here in front of you, it scares you. It’s kind of like when you suddenly win the lottery and you’ve never had such a significant amount of money. It’s overwhelming and you don’t know how to react to or handle it.

“Combat. I’m ready for combat I say I don’t want that, but what if I do? Cause cruelty wins in the movies I’ve got a hundred thrown-out speeches I almost said to you”

Perhaps in past relationships, she lost people because they were ready to take that next step and she wasn’t? Maybe she had painted those people in a specific light/in this perfect image in her eyes, but things happened that have caused them to change or changed her view of them and she didn’t know how to fix it, so she “jumps from the train and rides alone”. She doesn’t like conflict so she avoids it. She didn’t want to put up a fight then, but now she wants to fight, even though she doesn’t like conflict/confrontation. Taylor is ready for war. She’s ready to fight for the happy ending. However, her current lover places her on such a high pedestal and sees her so differently than she/everyone else does that she doubts herself as a lover/partner and doesn’t feel that she’s deserving of it. She’s a mess, but she’s the mess that her lover wants.

“Cruelty wins in the movies” because even though there’s almost always a happy ending, it’s not real. In real life, there aren’t always happy endings, so the ‘cruelty’ in that is that movies force-feed the notion that there is always a happy ending. People get so attached to this fictional concept that it’s almost like you’ve been lied to because, in real life, relationships just aren’t like the ones we see in movies. Love isn’t something that’s figured out in an hour and 30 minutes. In real life, Aladdin might not end up with Jasmine. Belle might choose an asshole like Gaston.

I think the “hundred thrown out speeches” are things Taylor never said to her lover because the consequences of telling someone how you really feel (rejection) are terrifying and now she wishes she had and realizes she still can. Maybe she’s admitting that she didn’t feel ‘emotionally mature’ or realizes that she can’t use naivety anymore as she’s getting older and in her own words:

Playing mind games is for the chase. In a real relationship or friendship, you’re shooting yourself in the foot if you don’t tell the other person how you feel, and what could be done to fix it. No one is a mind reader. If someone really loves you, they want you to verbalize how you feel. This is real life, not chess.

“Who could ever leave me, darling But who could stay? Dark side, I search for your dark side But what if I’m alright, right, right, right here? And I cut off my nose just to spite my face Then I hate my reflection for years and years

I think she’s so used to searching and ending up disappointed or being happy and having to sacrifice that happiness that she tries to find something wrong with a person or tries to find a way to hurt them so they’ll leave. However, her lover doesn’t bite and now there’s a lot of unnecessary pain/self-inflicted wounds that are slow to heal. Now, it’s like Taylor is realizing the person she’s looking for is the person she’s with and that it’s always been them. The one who could leave her when she’s tried to sabotage the relationship hasn’t whereas anyone else would have. In NYD she promised her lover that she would stay when they were lost and scared and turning away; but in The Archer, the tables are turned: the lover has stayed while Taylor is the one who’s lost, scared & turning away.

“I wake in the night, I pace like a ghost The room is on fire, invisible smoke And all of my heroes die all alone Help me hold on to you Screaming, who could ever leave me, darling, But who could stay? (I see right through me, I see right through me) Cause they see right through me They see right through me They see right through Can you see right through me? They see right through They see right through me I see right through me I see right through me All the king’s horses, all the king’s men Couldn’t put me together again Cause all of my enemies started out friends Help me hold on to you”

This part is where the song got really emotional for me. The anxiety, doubt, and insecurities she has about the relationship and the added weight of being closeted keeps her up at night. She paces like a ghost meaning she hides her feelings. “They” (people) hear her, but don’t really hear her. They see her, but don’t really see her. She doesn’t know who she is anymore, but she knows that this whole front she puts up isn’t the real her. She asks her lover if they can see through her as well. It kinda sounds like she’s crying out for help or to be saved. After all “to be truly seen is a far greater freedom than to be invisible.” (credit to Spade). This is also why I recommend the film “Beyond the Lights” to people.

The people who would normally help her can’t fix this. People she’d normally call for help aren’t there anymore. Not because of a falling out necessarily, but sometimes you’re the only one who can help yourself. Like Spade said:

“as I laid there unaware, the sun came to me and whispered its warmth into my broken parts | Slowly, I turned to her, and said “Are you saving me?” | She responded with truth “No, you decide your fate.”

She’s been the archer (the one who chases) and the prey (the chased). She’s been the archer (the one in control) and the prey (the vulnerable one). She’s been the archer—the one who’s taken shots and the prey—the one who’s taken shots.

Now, she’s confident. Now, she’s ready for combat.

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BRAZILIANS SWIFTIES NEED HELP!!!

As some of you might be aware, tomorrow the general sales for The Eras Tour in Brazil start and it's a complete MESS! This is a cry for help and our attempt to reach as many US fans as we can, since it's easier for them to be noticed by Taylor Nation! If you're a US Swiftie, bear with me because we desperately need your help!

Scalpers are mass buying tickets on site and online and T4F (Tickets For Fun) the company responsible for bringing Taylor to Brazil is being complicit with them. There are also scalpers finding ways around the website system and buying 100+ plus tickets when the maximum was 4 per social security number! General sales start tomorrow and scalpers are already camping at the stadium box office and threatening the fans who are pressuring them to leave and T4F continues to do NOTHING.

Now the situation has got even more dire and fans are being THREATENED with violence and even suffering homophobia! Two girls were also physically assaulted and a boy was beaten up with a BEER BOTTLE! WE ARE FEARING FOR OUR LIVES!

In this tweet fans are updating in real-time their account of what is happening!

We're trying to reach as many news outlets as we can, but up until now we haven't heard back from anyone and the police just got to the scene but it appears that NOTHING has changed! The stadiums, Allianz Parque and Engenhão are ALSO silent about this.

We are also using the hashtag T4F QUEREMOS RESPEITO to ask for respect and to pressure the company into doing SOMETHING! We're hoping that if it reaches Taylor Nation we have a higher chance of resolving the situation before people start to get MORE injured. PLEASE HELP US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@taylornation @taylorswift

taylor swift is actually for the girls who were known but never popular, fit in with many friend groups but never in the group chats, talked to at school but never invited to the parties, for the girls who have friends but still feel lonely because they were never their best friends favorites

Just heard that Taylor are joe have “broken up” and will release a statement soon. It’s finally happening 😯

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I GET SO HIGH, OH!

i love when taylor writes about kissing a girl named betty in her garden and on her porch in front of her stupid friends and when she writes about having an illicit affair with a woman who leaves her perfume she bought for her husband at home so her scent doesn’t fill up taylor’s place when she visits and when she writes about being seven and loving the braids in a girls hair and promising to move away with her so neither of you ever have to live in the closet anymore and when she writes about wearing betty’s cardigan while betty dances in her levi’s drunk under the streetlights and when taylor writes about girls-

I love your analyzes and your blog. think is a bit offensive the way you demand support for Taylor when she uses queerbaiting as mkt tool only to deny it 15 days later when the money from attention, GP, pink money and general swifties was made. Now she wants the country radio so james is straight. Taylor is a unique case of closeted because she wants to be in and out to profit from both sides. Taylor plans to be cruel and has nothing to with her coming out. I NOW country radio didn't ask for it

I understand that you are frustrated and you have every right to your feelings (yes, even to your offence). I would point out, however, that:

I do not “demand” anything. It is absolutely your prerogative to withhold your “support” financially (you do not have to purchase her music or her merchandise) or as a “fan” (you do not have to participate in her fandom online or at all). I would only ask that if you choose to stay, you consider that “coming out” is contingent not only on an individual’s personal safety and security, but often also on their psychological readiness. This is not only for Taylor’s benefit, but also for the benefit of anyone who is closeted. The only person anyone owes it to to come out is themselves - at their own convenience and only if they believe it to be in their best interest. No one is obliged to come out - ever. We should not be expected to make exceptions of ourselves in order either to correct the ignorance of a society that presumes straight is default or to satisfy other people’s curiosity.

There is an inherent contradiction in your claim that Taylor is both “queerbaiting” and “closeted.” If she is part of the LGBTQ+ community, she is unable to “queerbait” by definition. I will concede the possibility that I am wrong - perhaps she is not “closeted”- but considering that she has never confirmed her sexuality publicly, it is important (again also for the benefit of anyone who actually is in the closet) not to assume in the absence of any clear indiction to the contrary that she is therefore straight. Besides reinforcing the notion that queerness is necessarily performative - in order to be queer you must first announce that you are - as if the closet itself and the process of coming out aren’t first and foremost inventions of the cishetero-patriarchy and we couldn’t exist authentically without them (is Queen Latifah who has a wife and child somehow less queer because she hasn’t stated that she is?), the logical extension of your argument otherwise is that only people who are publicly out ought be allowed to identify themselves with queer culture. This would effectively be to exclude LGBTQ+ people from their own community. It is also antithetical to the stated aims of that community - the acronym LGBTQ+ has historically included anyone in the closet who wises to align themselves with the community without also outing themselves under the umbrella “ally.” As such, it is wrong to assume that all publicly identified allies are straight (or cis).

Whether or not country radio asked for it (and you don’t know for a fact) is almost irrelevant. It is still conservative and it still operates according to certain conventions that apply even without them being consciously articulated. As someone who started their career in country music, I can only assume that Taylor is well aware of these codes of conduct whether they are tacit or not (and, even if times are changing, it is not a stretch to imagine that her previous experiences of homophobia in that industry will have shaped her expectations of it in the present.)  

What she said in no way detracts from our ability to read the song as queer. That she wrote it from the perspective of a seventeen year old boy does not alter the fact that, when the song is performed, it is performed by Taylor, who is a woman singing about/to another woman. This is what most people’s first impressions will be and that by itself is significant. She also immediately followed up her explanation by stating that the protagonists (James, Inez and Betty) were named after her “friends’ kids.” As the lyrics themselves are, therefore, ambiguously gendered - if the actual James is (as far as anyone knows) not a boy, then fictional James isn’t automatically a boy either - I object to the claim that James is necessarily “straight” in consequence. 

Finally, I am not saying that you cannot be critical. But, if you have to fault Taylor for something in this case, let it be her failure consistently to acknowledge that her actions (negatively) affect her LGBTQ+ fans as well as herself. She is allowed to panic or to react instinctively and impulsively to something she has been conditioned to regard as a threat. However, it is imperative that her own internalised homophobia (?) should not be a pretext for homophobic attacks by her fans.