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Plot twist for all the "I'd kill myself if I was as disabled as you" crowd:

If you were in my position, you wouldn't BE spending all day in bed. You'd be abusing your body by forcing yourself to work a job and just "tough it out" when you make yourself sicker. If you had to put up with the level of medical abuse that I do, you'd just swear off the medical field entirely and claim "big pharma" is good for nothing and only wants your money and to keep people sick.

No one actually tells you to stay in bed and rest when you're disabled. Overcoming internalized ableism comes in many phases, one of which is making the radical decision to stay in bed and rest if you're disabled.

You wouldn't kill yourself if you were me, because with your attitude, you could never BE me, and that's really fucking pathetic.

Say it with me! Wheelchairs aren’t sad! Mobility aids aren’t sad! Mobility aids are instruments of freedom!

don’t go to grad school in classics it’ll ruin your ability to enjoy ancient history jokes on tumblr (which is really what matters) and you’ll find a part of yourself thinking things like “actually according to livy, remus wanted to name the city remora, so this joke about remus naming it reme is inaccurate” or “actually ea-nasir and the etruscans were separated by at least 900 years and even if you consider the villanovans as already being etruscan they don’t exist in the bronze age so this bronze age tumblr dashboard meme makes no sense” or “ugh nobody on this thread about the song of achilles understands the last 200 years of the homeric question or has even read the relevant passage from the homeric hymn to apollo” and then the other part of you will go “christ what an asshole”

Love referring to my disabilities as “the curse” and my symptoms as “the demons.”

Sorry, I can’t come, the demons (being an eepy little guy) require my attention (nap time) on account of the curse. (chronic fatigue)

Yeah, no, the demons (hypermobile ankles) decreed that I cannot wear heels anymore, on account of the curse. (connective tissue disorder)

I can’t stand up to fast or the demons (heart rate spike) will steal my vision. On account of the curse. (POTS)

i don't care how uncomfortable you are around cis men, queer cis men still need places to go, and sometimes, those spaces will be shared with yours. disabled and neurodivergent queer men and queer men of color especially need a place to go. the queer community isn't the "fuck cis men" community. that is the rad fem community. if you think cis men and people who read as cis men are inherently "too scary" or shouldn't be allowed in queer spaces, you joined the wrong community.

I want to release a line of concerning disability pride merch, starting with my patented “you say bedridden, I say pillow-princess” sticker and ending with a “lost a limb, gained a club” mug

Absolutely loathe the fact that modern doll collecting has become about consumerism and getting the next new thing while the idea of curating and choosing dolls to add to collections shouldn't be bound to when they came out tbh

MY TA SHOT SOMEONE IN THE FOOT AND THE PROFESSOR WAS SO FUCKING QUICK LMAOOO

Trump voters on tiktok are EXTREMELY mad about the following:

They just found out what tariffs are

They just found out what denaturalization is

They (particularly black and Hispanic trump voters) just found out that other trump voters are racist

Leftists and liberals don't want to be their friends (they are furious about this)

Leftists keep telling them they hope they get what they voted for (they are really mad about this too)

Do you know how many times a day I want to scream at people "THIS ISN'T FOR YOU!" ?

Just yesterday, I was ten minutes late to my tutorial class because for whatever reason, almost every single person in my lecture decided to use the elevator instead of going down one flight of stairs while me and my classmates -- the ones who didn't have that choice -- were stuck waiting for the next elevator.

I constantly have to navigate around people walking up the ramps -- or, worse, standing in the middle of them -- because they couldn't get off their phones for two seconds to use the stairs instead.

At least twice a week I end up in far more pain than usual because people who don't need them take up the accessible seats on the bus and I either have to stand there and wait for somebody to get up (Which is already hard on my body) or just wrap my arm around the pole and try to suffer through a few stops until somebody gets off (Which has already caused several dislocations). As much as people like to brag about how they'd "always give up their seat for a poor handicapped person", they're far more likely to stay right where they are and ignore you in favour of watching Instagram reels on their phone.

And I've tried asking people to move. Directly. Making eye contact and everything. They'll just look down at their phone and ignore me until the bus driver or somebody else says something. And only then can they magically notice me and get up.

Before I get a bunch of people leaping to yell about people with invisible disabilities: I know. I know there are people with invisible disabilities, I spent most of my life with only invisible disabilities. I can guarentee that not every single person in my lecture of 60 people has an invisible disability. This is not the problem.

The problem is that able bodied people see these resources and supports made specifically for physically disabled people and assume they're entitled to them. Most of them see it as something that's put in place just to comply with certain rules or laws or regulations as a 'just in case' thing. Nobody thinks that disabled people are actually out and about. We're an afterthought to them.

And I get it. I do. We all have our blind spots.

But seriously, this is getting ridiculous.

"you always have something wrong with you"

well yea, no shit. its like im chronically ill or something

Hey sorry that its been a while! I've been crocheting christmas gifts (still not done but decided to take a break to draw) I have wanted to do some pieces of my favorite Barbie movies for ages and so here we are starting with my #1 absolute favorite Barbie Fairytopia Mermaidia.

I love everything about this film. Nori is a icon, I really really love the part where she gives the true self berry to Elina. Elina is worried that she will lose her wings and Nori says, "Would that really be so horrible? You'd be you. Smart and Brave and everything that makes you special"

Idk that just really stayed with me.

i also think it speaks to some kind of entitlement others have to immediately, indirectly or directly, demand information from a disabled person as to why they can't do something. what specific needs or struggles or medical conditions do they have that stops them from doing an action? it's not enough that they set a clear boundary ("I can't do that"), people want to evaluate it. honestly it's kind of arrogant that they feel the need - like the inability to do something, literally a part of disablement, has to make sense to you, personally, before it's a legitimate excuse - oh i mean reason. sometimes people ask "why can't you do that thing?" but more often people hurl suggestion after suggestion at the disabled person, and force them through conversation to explain in minute detail why they can't follow your advice. it really feels like disabled people are being tested to see if they're actually disabled and not faking. if they don't explain why the most obvious advice that you, a stranger, thought up in a few moments is viable, then they're obviously not putting enough effort into trying to do the thing. i've literally seen this played out so many times with disabled bloggers here like beat for beat. i think some of you are ableist actually

It's strange how, after a while of living with fibromyalgia, I have to regularly remind myself of what healthy actually feels like.

I have to remind myself that most people don't experience pain every day.

I have to remind myself that going to the park for an hour is not a big outing.

I have to remind myself that most people don't have to decide between cooking and showering.

I have to remind myself that most people can achieve more than one thing a day.

After 5 years, what I see as my baseline has distorted. It's so easy to slip back into old patterns, to try to do more than I have the capacity for, to get angry at myself, to push myself too hard.

So I have to remind myself to be gentle and patient, to pace myself, to set boundaries, and to ask for help.

Shoutout to my family for making me feel guilty about using mobility aids and accessibility tools because it will “make me weaker”. Believe it or not I don’t really wish to be 26 and unable to shower standing up thank you

joe biden, you stupid fuck. listen to me. Crimes are legal for sitting presidents as long as they’re official actions. Listen: Joe. You have one chance

I finally made the meme I've had in my head for over a year

i want to take the time to talk about a series of disabilities that no one takes seriously or even recognizes as a disability, which is food intolerances, and allergies. if a person can get sick if they eat the wrong foods, they are disabled, as this illness will make them unable to function all because they ate the wrong food. it's not okay to guilt someone for seeking foods that won't injure them.

in 2022, i began to lose my ability to digest land meats (pork, chicken, cow, etc.), animal milks, and eggs. it started slowly but quickly progressed to every type of land meat. i am only able to digest seafood, plants, nuts, seeds safely without becoming horribly sick. i tried to buy cow's milk because it is cheaper recently and became so ill it was genuinely traumatic. i have never been that sick in my life before. i cannot safely ingest cow's milk, the cheaper option, because it will injure me for several days or even weeks at a time. this happens to me with all land meats as well.

i cannot eat eggs. i cannot fried rice that has egg, i cannot eat most sauces like mayo or ranch dressing because of their high egg content. i cannot eat anything dressed in mayo as a sauce. anything that is baked or brushed or washed with egg is a risk. my digestive system really hates eggs in particular and they are inescapable.

people who can't digest or process lactose, gluten, meats, seafood, eggs, nuts, seeds, beans, fiber, certain fats, proteins or sugars don't have their needs considered very often, nor taken seriously, especially when that person is poor. people with digestive issues need to be able to eat foods that don't hurt us- it's not our faults that alternative milks, breads, pizzas, snacks, sauces, dips, spreads, meats and more are significantly more expensive. we still need to be able to eat foods that don't harm us regardless of how much money we make.

that’s how you write a headline

I'm convinced Mythbusters needs a reboot. Misinformation or mythinformation if you will, is at an all time high. We NEED the show that promotes critical thinking to come back. It doesn't need the same cast, in fact I think it would be better with some fresh faces. Imagine all the good it would do if you could just show your crazy uncle the Mythbusters reboot episode that debunks his anti-vaxx conspiracy in an easily digestible and entertaining format.

*deep breath in*

*deep breath out*

Let AAC users say fuck!

Let them swear, let them say fuck and asshole and anything else they want.

Let them program their devices to say ‘fuck off’ instead of just ‘leave me alone, please’. Let them have language that’s adult or even offensive! Give them the ability to communicate the same as anyone else- let them have the option to be abrasive and even rude for when people are being assholes, let them swear casually so they can joke with their peers and say shit like ‘can you pass the damn ketchup’!!!!!!!!

Let disabled people say fuck!

collection of useful things tumblr has taught me:

even if you can't fall asleep, laying down with your eyes closed will still rest your body

you don't have to brush your teeth standing up

you don't have to do any chore standing up, from dishes to showering

you don't have to shower with the lights on

if you can't brush your teeth, flossing and a tongue scraper gets rid of plaque and bad breath

if you can't do that, mouthwash kills a lot of bacteria

eating "unhealthy" food is better than eating no food

you can make the same meal everyday for however long you still want it

some pills come in syrups or chewables if you can't swallow them

kids nutritional shakes can be a quick way to get fuel if you can't eat/don't have time

if walking hurts/exhausts you on a regular basis, canes and rollers are for you, no matter how young you are

we have free will—if doing something "out of the ordinary" makes life easier for you, do it

if you have even a dollar to spare, please consider donating to Alaikum's family.

they're a large family at only 10% of their goal to evacuate, and could use any help you can give!!

Either Or

You know what sucks? Having to choose an event for a day or a functional week. Like I can either go to a church thing and be bed ridden all week or I can barely make it each day as a mom. And even then its no sure thing that I am able to get through the week functionally. Being a disabled mom often means I'm barely surviving. And yet, my baby boy has no idea, he just keeps on smiling and laughing. Somehow being the happiest fella I've ever known.

there's something so raw and soul crushing about spending your late childhood+teen years suicidal then growing up and actually wanting to live, after an ungodly effort, only to see your health deteriorate because of chronic illness.