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How to tell if you are emotionally abusive

I feel we talk about signs of abuse from the victims standpoint but not from the abusers standpoint. In order to stop emotional abuse and recognize when we engage in unhealthy behaviors I made this list.

Do you react to important people in your life by ignoring them completely and not acknowledging their presence? Especially if they do something you don’t like?

Do you feel that your partner/friends/family members are the cause of your bad moods or frustration?

Does your partner/etc “do things the wrong way”?

Do criticize your partner/etc for being unreliable or a bad person?

Do you feel you have to constantly overlook your partners flaws in order to be around them?

Are you frequently accused of being “moody” or “hard to please”?

Do your partners complain that “nothing they do is good enough?

Do your partners appear to avoid you when you are angry or upset rather then comfort you?

Do you negatively comment on their intelligence or appearence? Either in private or in front of others.

Do you blame them when someone goes wrong?

Do you ever use phrases like “I could just hit you right now” or “I”m so mad I could punch something”?

Do you ever punch walls/throw things in front of your partner/etc?

Do you leave during fights and not inform of where you are going and when you will be back?

Do you behave the same alone with your partner that you do if you were in front of your friends or in public?

Have you frequently accused your partner of being too sensitive?

How often is your partner praised and complimented by yourself?

Do you think your partner spends too much time with friends and family?

Do you feel your partners friends and family are trying to drive you apart?

Do you actively comfort your partner when they are upset or angry even if you don’t really understand why they feel the way they do?

If your partner brings up a behavior that bothers them do you respond by discussing how to change it or do you respond defensively?

Do you have difficulty apologizing?

All of these things are abuse tactics. Obviously even the healthiest of us will do these sometimes but if any one becomes a regular habit that’s when the problem starts.

Happy pride!

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!

pride polls: gender edition

put your pronouns in the tags!

reblog to support another genderqueer!

(you'll probaby get a happy pride msg if i see u reblogged)

Shen Qingqiu when he hears this: Why are you reusing the human stick?

At Luo Binghe's Palace

Random Demon: *Insults Shen Qingqiu*

Luo Binghe: Can I kill him?

Shen Qingqiu: Of course not. Remember Binghe, a good ruler shows mercy.

At the Northern Desert

Random Demon: *Insults Shang Qinghua*

Mobei-Jun: Can I kill him?

Shang Qinghua: Of course not.

Shang Qinghua: Rip all of his limbs off. Now that would leave a message.

if you dont reblog then please leave.

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

peak entertainment

I made a list of Qijiu fics if anyone wants them

Google Docs

Shen Jiu x Yue Qingyuan Fics

A list of QiJiu fics Note: in making this list, i was ofc predisposed to my own personal tastes. I’m a sucker for fix-it/canon consistent c

Complete with tags, descriptions, and the link to each one.

hopefully this can be useful to those who are looking for more qijiu to read.

As much as I love Airplane manages to fix things between Liu Qingge and Shen Qingqiu during the well mission fix its, they tend to skip over the potentially hilarious ripple effects.

Consider:

Shang Qinghua manages to tell Liu Qingge that Shen Qingqiu wasn't trying to kill him before the misunderstanding can get worse and then babbles a bunch of other stuff about how everyone's misjudging SQQ and he's not a young master, etc.

-> Relations between all the peak lords get way way better

-> SQQ does not try to steal Luo Binghe from LQG at the entrance test

-> Airplane gets a frantic and enraged message from the System two minutes before the whole entrance test is over telling him Luo Binghe's not going to make it into CQMS

-> Frantic SQH arrives to find Qiong Dong disciples trying and failing to remove a frantic little lotus who refuses to stop digging because "someone will see, someone will take me, I have nowhere to go!"

-> SQH loudly announces he will take the kid because An Ding always needs the numbers

-> A bunch of the other stragglers (inspired by Binghe's refusal to leave) take this to mean them too and well SQH can't exactly back out of this or he'll loose Binghe.

-> An Ding disciples already collected enough new kids to fill the existing leisure houses so it's sleepover at Shizun's until the new ones are built

-> Liu Qingge and Shen Qingqiu glaring daggers at Shang Qinghua at the next peak lord meeting for "stealing" LQG's presumed new disiciple. Exhausted expressions from Yue Qingyuan for adding a dozen or so kids over capacity without warning

-> SQH gets back to his house after the meeting to discover no one told the new kids An Ding is for cowards yet: there's a bemused Mobei-Jun sitting in the centre of a children circle getting his hair braided by two little kiddos while he tames Binghe's mess.

-> Secret Demon Husband Defence Squad has now formed

-> System must now rethink everything about the plot

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oki i just had a funny airplane headcanon

what if airplane's original body looks like, practically identical to luo binghe's pretty boy phase? like an absolute beauty, but not exactly the most masculine looking

and airplane, who's ideal body type is muscular and tall and masculine and shit, always wanted to somehow achieve that

so yeah, he wrote mobei jun to be his ideal man. the type of body and personality he wished he had. but he wrote luo binghe to be like "what if i went to super hell and came out of it swol as fuck? what if i just had a training arc and then i was sexy and muscular and strong and cool?"

so luo binghe is just, pure wish fulfillment body-type wise

but it just makes for a really funny and uncomfortable situation when/if someone figures out what airplane's og body looked like LMFAO

like, bear with me, but consider like... some sort of wife-plot bullshit that "reveals your true form" or someshit, and no one knows quite what to expect when that beam hits shang qinghua, because "what's it gonna reveal? a hamster? lmfao" but then instead of that, it's a twinky version of luo binghe and everyone is THOROUGHLY confused

shen yuan obvs would catch on first and probably break a fan at the realization lmfao (especially bc now, due to his fondness for this appearance, he's forced to think of fucking airplane as hot. BUT ALSO, THAT FUCKING HACK OF AN AUTHOR WITH HIS FUCKING SELF INSERTING BULLSHIT)

luo binghe having a "what the fuck do i have OTHER long lost relatives?!?!" reaction

mobei jun like "hm... yeah i'd still tap that" bc his only real consideration is whether this change in appearance would change their bed arrangements lmfao

airplane out here like "oh. wow. i'm Fucked" bc he has no explanation for this shit

The peaks are so lucky Shen Yuan was not raised in the southeast US. Can you imagine, him calling his disciples and the other lords “sweetheart” “honey” “sugar” “baby”? Lives would be lost. Wars would be fought. So much laundry would need doing.