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How To Network 🤝📱💬

Have a Plan: Because everyone is important, it's really important to know what you're good at. Before you go to any networking event, figure out what you're good at – like things you can do well, what you know, and the people you know. Plan what you want to talk about, especially how you can help others, either now or later on.

Start with Who You Know: Talk to people you already know, like friends and colleagues. Ask if they can introduce you to others.

Go to Events: Attend conferences, seminars, workshops, industry meetups, and social gatherings related to your field of interest.

Use Social Media: Make profiles on websites like LinkedIn or Instagram to meet people in your niche online.

Elevator Pitch: Create a concise and engaging intro that highlights who you are, what you do, and what you're seeking. This way you can make a strong first impression.

Ask Good Questions: When you talk to someone, ask questions that show you're interested in what they're saying.

Provide Value: Networking is a two-way street. Offer your expertise, assistance, or connections to others whenever possible. When you start paying attention to what people can do, you might see that one person could help another person. Try to introduce people who you think have something valuable to share. When you make these good connections, you're helping the networking event go well. This will help you establish a good reputation and create strong relationships.

Say Thank You: After meeting, send a message to say you enjoyed the talk.

Follow up & Follow Through: If you said you would talk to someone later, make sure you actually do it and let them know you're still happy to help. If you promised to introduce one person to another, take a moment to make that introduction.These small things really matter to people, and just one introduction could make someone's life better.

Meet Different People: Don't just talk to the same kind of people. Meet people from different jobs and places.

Never dismiss anyone as unimportant: Don't think someone is not important just because of their job title. They could know important things or have helpful friends you wouldn't know about if you didn't give them a chance.

Join Groups: Be part of clubs or groups related to your work. You can meet more people there.

Be Yourself: Just be you. Don't pretend to be someone else.

Learn New Things: Keep learning about your interests. It helps you have better conversations.

Understand why you’re doing what you are doing.

procrastination

things i’ve learned: 

procrastination is an pain-avoidance response. predicting that the task is going to be painful triggers your coping mechanisms and you do whatever you can to avoid the task at hand. 

your emotions can’t be pushed away or ignored because your animal/emotional brain is trying to protect you from threats to your physical/mental health. if the task you’re doing is painful, you have to acknowledge those feelings. find the source of your anxiety and how you expect yourself to feel doing the task. then use dbt skills to help regulate emotions, actions and expectations.  

things have to be broken into smaller tasks. ask yourself: what’s the next action? what’s the next task? break it down into steps that are manageable. focus on what you want to achieve in the moment. no need to worry about the “bigger picture” when you’re directionless. 

Even when you're so hurt you never want to try again, even when you're so hurt that you don't feel anything at all, even when you're so hurt that you feel like you can't have hope ever again, even when you're so hurt you just want to isolate yourself and shut yourself out from the world, just know that the pain will ease.

If its not now, it will be soon. And its okay if not all the pain goes away immediately, little steps are fine too. Feeling less horrible day by day, healing more and more day by day, attempting to do and try more day by day. Even if the steps are so little that it feels like nothing is happening at all, you'll look back one day, and you'll know and feel how far you've come.

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apps that you should try out

Some of us are coming back to school really soon, so I am planning to create more school-related content! I had so much fun creating lifestyle and self-development topics such as overcoming self-doubt and minimalism, hope you guys love them too! 

Bear | free version

[note app]

Bear is similar to Apple Notes; however, it has so many more powerful tools. It allows you to create checklist, use different headings, organize your notes with tags, add sketches, hyperlink, and export to different formats.

Notion | free

[productivity]

Some of all you may already use this app already. You can create a workspace with different categories such as project plan, meeting notes, journal, to-do list and so much more. I would say that my life is no longer a mess after using this app.

Headspace | free version

[mental health]

This is such a beautiful app ~. Headspace has many different meditating sessions or courses that  focus on mental health topics such as acceptance, patience, coping with craving, managing anxiety, creativity, etc.

CrashCourse | free

[education]

CrashCourse (by John Green) has an educational YouTube channel, where interesting courses are provided such as psychology, literature, film analysis, economics. Supplemental flashcards and quizzes also make learning so much easier and more engaging!

Quizlet | free

[flashcards]

This is truly one of the classic apps that all students should have on their phones. Quizlet allows you to create your digital flashcards, remember new vocabulary or terms. You can also take the test at the end to see if you memorize them all.

Podcasts | freeee

[entertainment & education]

The content is amazing and it’s completely free! The podcasts are very informative and entertaining to listen to. My favorite podcasts are Crime Junkie, Dateline (I’m a true crime obsess), Planet Money, Science Vs., Guru, Help Me Be Me, and Bodies.

Moleskine Journey | free version

[productivity & lifestyle]

This app has everything I need digitally. It not only has productivity tools such as planners, calendars, reminders but also personal development such as journals and habit tracker. I don’t really have anything to say beside it’s amazing so please check this out.

Timepage | free version

[productivity]

Another wonderful calendar app by Moleskine! It has beautiful but simple design (divide into two parts: one column is the date and one column is for your tasks). One of the most amazing tools is the heatmap, which allows you to see when you are free and busy.

Emphasis | free

[pomodoro timer]

Simplicity and minimalism work. You can make a to-do list, start the timer and work on your tasks. It allows you to choose your color theme, alarm sound, and set suitable time for short and long breaks.

Webtoon | free 

[comic & entertainment]

This app is free but it is so amazing! All of apps above are all for productivity, so Webtoon is a fun app that allows you to read beautiful comics. My favs are I Love Yoo, Save Me, Aerial Magic, Magic Soda Pop, LUMINE, and Parallel City!

How to stop procrastinating

This has been requested so here we go! I have been studying for my finals for months now (and they are coming tomorrow!!!!) so I did collect some knowledge on procrastinating and how to stop it:

Realise that whatever you’re avoiding isn’t as bad as your mind makes it to be -Things are ALWAYS easier once you start doing them

Plan to do a small and not too intimidating portion of the task -Let’s say you have to read a book for an assignment. Then tell yourself to read 10 pages. Just 10. Later it will turn out to be easier to continue past that but now we need to trick your brain 

Count to 3 and GO! -This is one of the smallest things that changed my life. When I really don’t want to do something I just count to three and do it. 3 seconds don’t give you time to doubt yourself and be afraid

Change your surroundings accordingly -Try to get rid off as many distractions as you can and at the same time make sure your surrounding isn’t unbelievably boring and depressing. Try playing music without lyrics and try to make your study place aesthetically pleasing 

Get your phone away -Either delete your social media apps (that’s what I had to do eventually), turn off your phone or at least put it out of your reach (or a differrent room)

Ask someone to check up on you -If you can, ask someone to come and kick you in the butt if they catch you procrastinating

Take breaks that can’t turn into procrastination again -Go for a walk, clean something or just lie down on the floor but no phone and no scrolling! Nothing addictive or I’ll haunt you

Be kinder to yourself -Beating yourself up over procrastinating and calling yourself bad things will only make you feel shittier and less productive. Be gentle with yourself. Ask yourself to do things nicely

Sometimes it is okay not to be productive -Blogs like mine can make you think that working all the time is the goal. But it’s not true at all. Sometimes procrastination can be a side effect of exhaustion or a mental illness even. Get some rest if you need it

I hope I helped and have an amazing day!

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