Octiainyourpocket - A Deep-frozen Pocket-worm

i love bell hooks … so much

Quick tip

if you can’t manage a single night without your partner, you are unhealthily codependent

If you can’t manage an evening alone while your partner is out having fun, you are unhealthily codependent

The solution to this problem is not to prevent your partner from doing things but to get used to the idea that sometimes you have to be alone

Starfish the bed. Watch the worst movie ever. Take up painting. Knit. Masturbate. Enjoy your solo time.

I'm in love with their style!!!

Reblog if you're queer, have ADHD, or hate the government.

Nobody needs to know which one.

I’ve been in such a funk since the concert. I’m not even sure I enjoyed myself that much. maybe I did. I don’t know

Reblog if you think it’s okay to platonically say “I Love You” to your friends

Something so profoundly fucked up between the inverse ratio of shrinking middle class and ever increasing aggression of advertisement

INTP stereotype: genius Albert Einstein, inventions, revolutionary

actual INTP: spending 4 hours to colour the entire screen pixel by pixel using only the pencil tool set… and forgot to save, you idiot

fuck killing a victorian child by making them listen to hyperpop all you gotta do is make a white tumblr user listen to rap

Nietzsche believed that you’ve gotta be able to think about suicide before you can move beyond wanting to kill yourself because only once you’ve accepted it as an option can you make the choice not to do it, and the alternative, to deny the urge and ignore it, would inevitably cause you to cave to the unaddressed desire you have for it.

And the dude was right. 

The rogue’s gallery of psych students and junior practitioners on this hellsite have hijacked my post about not being mean to yourself to explain to people how actually what I’m talking about is cognitive-behavioral therapy, and how it involves disciplining yourself to never talk negatively about yourself and how it’s important to check with a therapist that you’re doing it correctly, and like, this is why I don’t trust and can’t stand these people.

Being your own friend is a holistic process, there aren’t exercises you can do or therapy methods you can apply, which is why most people relapse almost immediately after stopping CBT or DBT, because they haven’t actually made any progress in how they look out for themselves, they were merely thrust into a disciplinary regimen where they are taught to engage in habits which their therapist then holds them accountable to, and so, without that therapist, they fall apart again.

Not being mean to yourself doesn’t mean censoring self-deprecating humor, it doesn’t mean snapping a rubber band on your wrist when you have a negative thought, it means taking time to sit down and think about yourself as if you were another person, to really take stock of who you are from as objective a perspective as you can muster, and if you really want to grow, realizing that this person you see can’t grow if the person closest to them, which is you, spends all their time berating them and making them feel like shit.

Being friends with yourself is not a series of therapeutic exercises, it’s challenging yourself to evaluate why you’re a dick to yourself in a way you aren’t to other people, or maybe you are a dick to other people, and maybe you want to be a dick to yourself, which is goofy as fuck, but if you’re still suffering, maybe ask yourself why the fuck you want to be such a dick, the answers may surprise you.