Hoffman's Car

HEY HEY LISTEN THE VOICE OF THE MTA TRANSIT SYSTEM, ALL THE ANNOUNCEMENTS ON THE NYC SUBWAY LINE??

SHE'S A TRANS WOMAN AND TRANSITIONED AT 66!!!!!! THE BACKGROUND HUM OF MY CHILDHOOD, AND SHE'S LIKE ME!!!! WHAT THE FUCK

Serious complaining and recreational complaining are very different activities and they’re barely related to each other.

Serious complaining can mean “this upsets me, I want it to change” or “this upsets me, and I just want to get it off my chest and be heard” or simply “I am frustrated and want to vent until I feel better”.

Recreational complaining is fun social bonding and it doesn’t have to mean anything or result in change. It’s not the same as negativity because the purpose isn’t to make you or anyone else feel worse. It’s enjoyable in the way that snarking at bad movies with your friends is enjoyable. Social grooming without the fleas.

on self love + care:

1. "I treat myself like I would my daughter. I brush her hair, wash her laundry, tuck her in goodnight. Most importantly, I feed her. I do not punish her. I do not berate her, leave tears staining her face. I do not leave her alone. I know she deserves more. I know I deserve more." (i know i deserve more, michelle k)

2. “Don’t forget to love her. The little girl you used to be. Perhaps She lies within you. Untucked. Sleeping peacefully.” (nurture, kiana llanos)

3. "These days I wake up crying

holding myself in my arms

rocking myself like a mother

repeating

it's all right- i'm here." (rocking, nuela archer)

4. "There’s a little girl in my head & she screams 'unloved! unloved! unloved!' every moment of my life (@star-eaters)

"There’s a woman in my head now & she holds the little girl and says “I will take care of you and we will be alright” when the little girl screams and together they are learning how to trust each other" (@antidecay)

I'd actually love to see the original draft of this post

i think it's funny how ten years ago i was an average tumblr emo girl except not on tumblr and not really a girl yet

I wish allistic people understood that infodumping about a special interest is a lot closer to baring your soul than sharing fun facts

My cats have this meow that means "please come with me to fix this" after which they'll lead me to the problem in question, usually a empty (or 'empty') food bowl or a closed door they want open. They look at the 'problem', they look back at me, clear message.

What fascinates me is how this illustrates what they percieve as being in the realm of my 'power.' I control the food, I control the door, sure, but my cats love to sit on the balcony in the sun, and it has happened plenty of times that on a rainy day they come get me, go to the balcony and show me... the rain. "Please fix this" they say. "Please get rid of the wet"

"Silly kitty," I say, "I can't control the rain." I then walk into the shower and turn on the rain.

I see you, and in you, I see myself.

I’m so sorry. You are enough.