[8.11.19] Very Chilly In Glasgow But Very Warm Inside My Fave Café

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My first proper spread in a new journal, I’m trying to figure out how I want to set it up so it’s a bit messy :/ (also, little quote in bottom right is from @phoebe-does, not me)

Korean Self-Love Quotes/Proverbs & Life Lessons

남의 떡이 더 커보인다.

Literal Translation: The other person’s rice cake is bigger than yours

Meaning: don’t compare yourself or your life with someone else’s

Life Lesson:

Especially on social media, you only see the parts that other people choose to show - the highlights, but not the behind the scenes. You’re life is not better or worse than another persons. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you never know what that person is going through behind the scenes. Don’t try to trade your life in for another person’s just because of how things appear on the outside.

Vocab from proverb:

남 - another person, stranger

의 - possessive particle (‘s)

떡 - rice cake

더 - more

크다 - big

아/어 보이다 - to look, appear, seem

엎질러진 물이다

Literal Translation: It is spilled water.

Meaning: There is no use in crying over spilled milk.

Life Lesson:

A lot of things in life aren’t worth crying over, especially if it’s something that happened in the past. The past is the past and we have to learn to let go of the past. If you dwell on your failures, your shortcomings, your embarrassing moments, or any other terrible things you may have experienced in the past - It will keep you from living in the present. You Can Not Change The Past - no matter how much you think about it, so there’s no use “crying” over it. Don’t let the past determine who you are today. Whenever you catch yourself worrying too much about a past occurrence, tell yourself, “It already happened and I can’t control that, but I can control what I do today”.

Vocab from proverb:

엎질러지다 - to spill

물 - water

똥이 무서워서 피하니? 더러워서 피하지.

Literal Translation: you don’t avoid poop, because it’s scary. You avoid poop because it’s dirty.

Meaning: you should avoid certain things and people in your life, not because you are scared, but because it will disrupt your peace and happiness.

Life Lesson:

If at all possible try to remove or minimize contact with toxic people in your life - even if that just means distancing yourself from them mentally. Also avoid overtly negative and toxic situations whenever you can, because it can improve your mental health and overall happiness. Holding on to grudges, anger, sadness, etc. can also be harmful to your mental health - It may be hard to hear but some things you have to let go of. For yourself and your peace of mind. Forgive yourself of any past mistakes or failures and allow yourself to move forward.

Vocab from proverb:

똥 - poop

무섭다 - be scared of

아/어/해서 - because

피하다 - to avoid

니? - informal question ending

더럽다 - to be dirty

지 - shortened form of 지요 / 죠

(when speaker confirms something they thought the listener already knew)

말을 냇가에 끌고 갈 수는 있어도 억지로 물을 먹일 수는 없다

Literal Translation: You can lead a horse and go to a stream, but you can’t make it drink water through its own will

Meaning: You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink

Life Lesson:

You can’t force someone to do something that they don’t want to do. You can’t change someone who isn’t willing to change. You can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. There are many ways to say it, but the overall message is the same.

On the opposite side of the coin, It’s a great idea to be open and willing to positive changes and to growth. In life you want to always be growing and not static - unless your perfect (which no one is). Sometimes we may feel static and like we are going no where no matter how hard we try to move. In those cases, either you need to make a change and do something a bit different or you are moving forward but it’s just so slowly that you don’t notice it - taking a step back and looking at your situation objectively can sometimes help.

Vocab from proverb:

말 - horse

냇가 - stream (of water)

끌다 - to lead

고 - and

가다 - to go

ㄹ 수 있다 - can do

아/어도 - even if

억지 - force

(으)로 - by (explain methods)

억지로 - by force

물 - water

먹이다 - to feed, make eat/drink

ㄹ 수(는) 없다 - can’t

(the 는 adds emphasis)

That's all for this post! Which proverb is your favorite?

If you've ever wondered if you could buy ebooks on Korean websites like Kyobo, the answer is yes:

i love how theres no rules for pronouncing words in English, you literally just have to learn and hear someone say every single word

Hey phoebe, I have no choice but to keep up with my coursework and I'm having a hard time. Since the Covid lockdown began I've lost motivation, along with my appetite and the will to get out of bed before noon. My brain's in a fog of worry and sadness but I'm not sure how to push past it or stop beating myself up for not being productive.

wow that sounds so tough, my love. I would so recommend reaching out to mental health resources for online counselling such as beyondblue to help with your struggles. It’s not easy being in that place and the best thing you could do for yourself is seek professional guidance. 

Other things that help with low moods are setting a routine that involves:

- messaging friends and family (social fulfilment) - exercise (even 10 mins, try and get your heart rate up!) - journaling (get those unhelpful thoughts out of your head and onto paper) - to-do lists of a max of 3 things per day (It can be even as small as making your bed or having a shower) -self comfort (do things for you PURELY because you like it and you find joy in it, eg. watch a show you like, take a bath, these things don't have to be treated as rewards, you deserve to feel good)

You do NOT have to be productive every moment of every day. Start small and build back up. Set an alarm for 11am, make your bed and grab some water. That can be where you start, you are only human, my love. Be gentle with yourself, get one thing done at a time because that is all you can do. Focus on one task at a time till completion and thank yourself for taking time to do that for yourself. Everything you do is in appreciation of you and the opportunity you have been given to do the things you choose. I know what it’s like to be where you are, to have lost all sense of happiness and self. Build yourself up and start small, the first step is talking with loved ones about it. It’s easier to care for yourself once you realise that other people do as well, to remember you are valued, because I promise you, you are. <3 I love you. Please stay safe.

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My journal spread for this week | Hope you guys are doing well!

tag yourself as hogwarts houses, study edition:

slytherin:

into dark academia, can drink 100 cups of coffee in a day, competitive to a fault, most likely head of the school or school council, studies in libraries, night owl, listens to podcasts, loves mythology, is a teachers pet, is a perfectionist, probably is a tutor or has some education-related side hustle, opens the door for people.

ravenclaw:

loves the smell of old books, always on the go, fascinated by architecture, make pinterest boards of study notes, runs a studyblr, drinks herbal tea daily, secretly competes with slytherin, has surprisingly messy handwriting, gets stressed easily, shares their notes with everyone, helps their teachers if they are carrying too much stuff.

griffindor:

is 99% energy drink, watches tv in class but still manages to get good grades, procrastinates but manages their workload, makes beautiful flashcards, has a bujo, is friends with everyone, organizes after school study classes, calms everyone down before exams, studies last minute, listens to audiobooks, encourages their classmates to do their best

hufflepuff:

is trying their best, studies in groups, best friends with their teachers, writes poetry, collects cute stationery but never uses it, has the best study snacks, has their pet to keep them company when studying, loves making study playlists, thinks that taking buzzfeed quizzes counts as ‘studying’, sleeps in class, doodles on their notes