So I’ve Been Thinking Again, And I Wanna Make An Important Reminder For My Fellow Cluster B Folks And

Part of my NPD is built on the "toughen up" unhealthy trauma coping mechanism - where the grandiosity is an attempt at convincing myself I'm over it and trauma hasn't affected me that much. I believe this contributes to the low empathy. Since I've basically told myself "suck it up" about severe childhood trauma, hearing someone else feeling distress about something elicit an automatic response of "Why are they so weak? I got over it, why can't they?"

(Disclaimer: The idea that I somehow "got over it" is in fact a fucking lie I tell myself and have repeatedly fallen for)

NPD is also about having learned so much on how to present yourself because you were forced to perform at an age far too early for that, then growing up and looking down at everyone who cannot perform as well as you do and considering them weak and unprepared for life. How dare you not have the horrific experience of lacking any sense of self unless you’re praised and elevated.

You can still want positivity for your disability even if you genuinely struggle with the symptoms and wish you didn’t have it. Both of these things can co-exist and you’re valid.

from complex ptsd: from surviving to thriving by pete walker

“i respect pwnpd as long as they dont hurt people” ok. anyways here’s to narcs who unintentionally harm or hurt others!!

npd + psychosis culture is believing you play a pivotal role in reality that no one can know about for their safety but also REALLY wanting appreciated for it.

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People with psychotic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with personality disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with substance abuse disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with tic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with bipolar disorder are neurodivergent too.

People with dissociative disorders are neurodivergent too.

Neurodivergence isn’t just ADHD, autism, anxiety, and depression. (Plus those last two also get left out sometimes!) Neurodivergence is anything that affects your brain.

“Neurodivergent people hate loud noises” is actually just as valid as a statement as “neurodivergent people have delusions,” “neurodivergent people have tics,” or even “neurodivergent people have low empathy.”

was scrolling through the npdcultureis blog because of the post you rebloged so now I have some question

I’m familiar with the term fp/favourite person in relation to Borderline Personality Disorder but I’ve never heard the term ‘ep’. What does that stand for? And what is it’s significance?

EP (in NPD) stands for equal person. Basically people someone with NPD sees as equal to themselves and grandiose patterns dont affect the relationship as much. The NPD tends to fuck around less with EPs and narcissists tend to be attached to their EPs, prioritizing them and having a very close relationship with them. Narcissists can have multiple EPs as well (personally i have 3... i think)

Different from FPs in BPD which turns many BPD symptoms up, EPs tend to calm down narcissistic traits

Btw anyone is free to add onto this post with more information and shit

people with personality disorders: it was difficult to survive on the ground, so i climbed in a tree and now im stuck and can’t get down

mental health workers (and everyone really): it seems that they climbed in trees to manipulate us. they are fully capable of getting down but doing so would make it harder to abuse us, so they stay there

questioning npd culture is having to explain that being friends with someone because "its the right thing to do" IS your form of caring. if i didnt care i wouldve left you in a ditch months ago. if i didnt care i wouldnt even be telling you that i secretly groan whenever you show up and ruin whatever more important thing im doing. this is care, i promise you it is. please try to understand. please dont leave me

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