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take me to bed. by. cozier

“The greatest mistake we make is living in constant fear that we will make one.”

— John C. Maxwell

“Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter.”

— Samuel J. Hurwitt

“If I have learned anything over this last year it’s that you have to live your own life too so that if something we hoped for doesn’t work out, you still have two legs to stand on, you still have your own path.”

— T.S. Krupa

“There are things we don’t want to happen but have to accept; things we don’t want to know but have to learn; and people we can’t live without but have to let go.”

— Jennifer Jareau

“I don’t hold on to anything anymore. Pain comes at me and I take it, chew it for a few minutes, and spit it back out. It’s just not my thing anymore.”

— Dave Eggers, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius

“Don’t allow someone to treat you poorly just because you love them.”

— Unknown

“Repeat after me: My current situation is not my final destination.”

— Unknown

“If you can’t do anything about it, then let it go. Don’t be a prisoner to things you can’t change.”

— Tony Gaskins

“It eventually gets better, without any sort of explanation; you just wake up one morning and you’re not as upset anymore.”

— Unknown

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move on.”

— Tupac Shakur

“Don’t allow someone to make you feel that you’re not good enough.”

— Unknown

“Every time you judge yourself you break your own heart.”

— Swami Kripalvauanda

When you accuse loved ones of not caring about you, you may not realize it, but it’s hurtful.

I say this as someone who has been on both sides of this. I get the insecurity. I really do. But having now been on the other side of it, it is hurtful to be told that I don’t care about someone when I’ve been exerting energy to be there for them. I understand it’s from their own insecurity but it still hurts.

If you’re feeling insecure, it’s valid but this isn’t an okay way to deal with it. And it can actively damage your relationships and create self-fulfilling prophecies. Try to self-soothe. And if you can’t, it’s okay, but please seek out reassurance in a healthy way.

you do not miss them btw. you miss the version of them you created in your head to which they never lived up to

To avoid disappointment, stop seeing the good in people and start seeing exactly what they’ve shown you.

You are valid if you have trauma from dealing with online abuse.

"I cant draw" then do it bad who gives a fuck.....

ten years ago you were so scared of such different things, but you survived them anyway. the same goes for five years ago and two years ago. everything that has ever felt like a hurdle, you’ve passed through. so be afraid, identify your fears, and then allow yourself to remember that in just a little while, this will be another thing that you have overcome.

i wish you kinder, softer days that put your heart at ease

“Just for the record darling, not all positive change feels positive in the beginning.”

— S.C. Lourie

constant positivity can be a form of avoidance. it's okay to have negative feelings too.

Being a young adult is so strange. You enter a coffee shop. The 20 year old girl waiting behind you cried all night because she just came to a new city for university and she feels so alone. That 27 year old guy over there works a job he is overqualified for, he lives with his parents and wants to move out but doesn't know what to do about it. That one 24 year old dude already has a car, a house, and a job waiting for him once he graduates thanks to his dad's connections. The 26 year old barista couldn't complete his higher education because he has to work and take care of his family. The 28 year old girl sitting next to you has no friends to go out with so she is texting her mother. That couple (both 25 years old) are married and the girl is pregnant. The 29 year old writing something on her laptop has realized that she chose the wrong major so she is trying to start all over. We are not alone in this, but we are actually so alone. Do you feel me