So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?
Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.
What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?
Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.
Some safety rules.
First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.
• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.
• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.
• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.
What dirty talking is not
Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.
Don’t rush it
The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!
I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him enjoy and simmer in it.
Don’t worry about repeating yourself
You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.
And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.
And then what
I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.
So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.
Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”
And then what?
“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”
And then what?
“then I want him to….”
You get it.
Reliving the past
My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.
Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.
The commentator
This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”
If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.
The yes ladder
This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.
In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.
Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.
Example of a yes ladder.
“you like this huh”
“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”
“would you let me pick any guy i want?”
“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”
“do you want him to fuck me hard?”
“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”
“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”
“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”
“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”
“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”
“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”
You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.
The O-bomb
This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.
All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.
For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.
The story
My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.
This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.
Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.
The talk
Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.
How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.
The close your eyes and imagine
Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.
Example:
“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”
Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?
Putting it all together
Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.
Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”
When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.
Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”
Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”
Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”
Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”
Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.
Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.
By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.
“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.
“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.
Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?
With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.
There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.
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1. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had about a total stranger?
2. Do you prefer sex at night, in the morning, mid-afternoon, or NOW?
3. What’s your favorite way to be seduced?
4. What’s the dirtiest fantasy you’ve had at work?
5. How would you dominate your boss sexually if given the chance?
6. What do you do when you get horny in public?
7. Have you ever masturbated in a public bathroom?
8. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve thought about while touching yourself?
9. What’s the strangest prop you’ve used to get yourself off?
10. Do you remember the first time you felt aroused?
11. Who gave you your first orgasm?
12. Do you remember what that first orgasm felt like?
13. Have you ever had sex with someone whose name you never knew?
14. What’s your favorite thing about a quickie?
15. What the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?
16. Have you ever fantasized about fucking one of your teachers?
17. Do you ever mentally strip strangers just for kicks?
18. And then imagine, in dirty detail, what it would be like to fuck them?
19. Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
20. What inspires you to make the first move?
21. In your opinion, what does it mean to be good in bed?
22. Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend because you just couldn’t help yourself?
23. Have you ever pushed the boundaries of fidelity to the brink and then retreated just for the rush?
24. Do you have a go-to masturbation fantasy?
25. What kind of porn turns you on?
26. Have you ever had sex with your eyes closed?
27. Have you ever blindfolded or handcuffed your partner?
28. Does naughty talk get you aroused?
29. Are you sure about that, my dirty little forest nymph of a sex goddess?
30. What’s the dirtiest thing someone’s ever said to you during sex?
31. Have you ever watched another couple get it on without them knowing?
32. Have you ever watched another couple have sex with their permission?
33. How would you respond if a couple approached you to be their “third”?
34. What’s the most flattering thing someone’s said about your naked body?
35. When’s the last time you had a vivid sex dream?
36. What do you think an orgy would be like?
37. Have you ever propositioned a total stranger?
38. What does your ideal one-night stand look like?
39. How long does it take you to get yourself off, on average?
40. What’s the weirdest thing that turns you on?
41. Have you ever had a naughty dream about a close friend or family member?
42. Have you ever woken up humping your pillow?
43. When’s the last time you orgasmed in your sleep?
44. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you while hooking up?
45. Do you like touching yourself in front of the people you sleep with?
46. What’s the dirtiest text you’ve ever sent or received?
47. Do you prefer professional or amateur porn?
48. What’s your favorite blowjob technique?
49. If you had to pick, would you be a dominatrix or a submissive?
50. Is there anything you won’t do in bed?
I will always answer the phone when he calls me in the middle of cheating.
Telling my boyfriend that I love him, and that I miss him, while shamelessly lying to him about where I am and what I'm doing... just makes the joy of violating his boundaries and betraying his trust even more intense and satisfying.
If he only knew what was being done to me, while I fill his mind with false reassurances that nothing abnormal is happening... he would be shocked, devastated, and completely broken. The thought of this just makes my already blissful moans twice as deep, and twice as loud.
Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.
It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.
Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.
Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.
Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!
Starting out:
1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.
2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.
3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”
4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.
5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.
6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.
7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.
8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.
9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.
10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)
11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.
12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.
13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.
14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.
15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.
16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.
17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.
18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.
19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.
20. Sext other men and show your husband.
21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.
22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.
23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”
24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p
25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.
26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”
27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.
28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.
28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)
29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.
30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.
31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.
32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.
33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.
34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.
35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.
36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.
37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.
38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.
39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.
40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”
41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!
42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.
43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.
44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.
45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.
46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.
47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.
48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.
49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.
50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.
51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.
52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.
53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.
***Other adventures:
54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.
55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.
56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.
57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.
58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.
59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.
60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.
61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.
62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.
62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.
63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.
64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!
65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.
66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.
67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.
68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.
***ADVANCED:
69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.
70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.
71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.
72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.
73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.
74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.
***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.
74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.
75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.
76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.
77. Spanking.
***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.
78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.
79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.
80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.
81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.
***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!
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So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?
Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.
What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?
Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.
Some safety rules.
First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.
• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.
• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.
• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.
What dirty talking is not
Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.
Don’t rush it
The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!
I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him enjoy and simmer in it.
Don’t worry about repeating yourself
You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.
And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.
And then what
I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.
So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.
Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”
And then what?
“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”
And then what?
“then I want him to….”
You get it.
Reliving the past
My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.
Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.
The commentator
This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”
If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.
The yes ladder
This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.
In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.
Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.
Example of a yes ladder.
“you like this huh”
“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”
“would you let me pick any guy i want?”
“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”
“do you want him to fuck me hard?”
“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”
“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”
“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”
“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”
“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”
“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”
You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.
The O-bomb
This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.
All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.
For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.
The story
My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.
This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.
Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.
The talk
Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.
How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.
The close your eyes and imagine
Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.
Example:
“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”
Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?
Putting it all together
Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.
Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”
When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.
Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”
Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”
Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”
Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”
Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.
Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.
By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.
“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.
“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.
Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?
With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.
There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.
Benedict #1
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Today has been a fun day. I spent time at the pool trying to make as many friends as possible. I was quite friendly with one of the hosts and he was very sweet to me all day. My husband told me that I should offer to suck his dick for being so nice. Unfortunately he turned down my invitation (girlfriend excuse). It was hot to openly proposition him though.
A young guy was eying me at the pool all day. As he was leaving he asked for my number. I was disappointed he didn’t talk to me earlier. I love a mid-20s military man. I returned to my chair and suddenly he came back a bit later, grabbed me by the neck and just laid a kiss on me. He told me he had been wanting to do that all day. He then sat for a minute. He couldn’t get up because his dick was too hard in his swim trunks. I didn’t help by reaching over and rubbing it more. He kept trying to push it down and it popped back up. He finally calmed down and said he better see me later.
The night is off to a great start. I had a meet up last night with a 26 year old. We spent time at the bar sharing drinks and groping each other. I was impressed enough with what I felt. Due to the time, I didn’t want to miss out on heading out to the bars so we agreed to get back together today.
We met again for a quick drink and headed up to my room. He was infatuated with me and wanted to take some photos together so he could remember. He then picked me up and put me on the bed and began eating my pussy. I needed to taste him and he slid up to my chest and fed me his cock. He reached back and finger my soaking wet pussy while I continued to suck him. I shifted him to his back so I could show off my deepthroat skills. I stuffed both his balls in my mouth and he was in awe.
I wanted to be covered in his cum and he shifted me to my knees. He jerked his big load all over my tits and used his cock to spread it all over.
I’m all cleaned up and heading out now to hopefully find round two. Cross your fingers I run into some hot groups.
A guide to entering the Hotwife lifestyle
You are having an affair? Fall in love to your lover maybe? Daydreaming of him all the time? Constantly wet? Your husband gets hard when you tell him something about those things? And he wants you even more? You want to have them both in your life and don’t want to get divorced?
The Hotwife livestyle is solution for you then.
So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other man. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are.
If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny.
Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet.
Take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfilment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever.
A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with other/s with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The wife is free to play with other/s, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her.
Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact, his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before.
First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other man, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you.
If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! (When I say anything – I mean anything). And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you. He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other man, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!
As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that.
Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him.
Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.)
Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it?
First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman.
DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another man’s home, or bring a man into your bedroom (I know you want to try this – it turns you on). He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why).
When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You have to share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night.
It’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples and also your wild-card for your freedom. Share all of the details while he has an erection. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfilment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!). Absolutely the best way to tell him all things above is when you have sex with him (with intercourse or without). In the moment of coming he knows that your demand of having sex with another man in unavoidable.
It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him up-to-date of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved.
This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend even though it is most likely that this will never occur, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH.
When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine or a new lingerie.
Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc.
Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Let he jerks off besides you while you whisper what you will do that night to your lover. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together.
Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door.
After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet.
The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN!
Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have intercourse right away BUT you have to have some kind of sexual interaction with your husband. I the beginning try to have intercourse even if you are not in the mood. In later stages you can just give him blowjob or jerk him off while you tell him dirty details. I personally perform some of above and CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wife’s pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! It’s a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husband’s subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband usually wants you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. He cannot explain himself that he allows you to have sex with your lover but if you tie his hands and order him to clean you he doesn’t have choice. Right? This maintains the woman’s sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. My biggest turn on is to come back in a sweat lingerie with few drops of my lovers cum both on my breasts and in my vagina. Sometimes I sit on him and sometimes I just jerk him off. It turns me on when I tie him down while he is desperate and horny.
Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you.
After few months you will be bored of having sex with your husband all the time, especially if he is not good in bed like your lover. That is very delicate part of being a hotwife. In his head everything is about sex. Even though you love him completely (OK, you love your lover a little bit – aren’t you?), that’s not enough for him. He has to have a kind of sexual interaction with you more or less every single day. Sounds tough right? It is. Sometimes it makes me crazy and I hate him for not being perceptive for me and my body. But if you think that is a small price you have to pay for you pleasure and for your marriage (you don’t want to divorce – don’t you?). So don’t avoid those situations when he wants sex. If you are not in the mood just tell him to jerk off while you tell him some dirty details from your last date or, even better, tell he what you will do next time with your lover.
If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled.
There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.
Watch this all the way through. You will LOVE it!