Getting Past The Fantasy Part 1

This is a new alternate blog started because Tumblr has designated my original “The Hotwife Blog” as explicit, thus almost everything I post is flagged/removed unless it’s extremely tame.

This blog is about the Hotwife phenomenon. I began researching the subject many years ago seeking to understand what about a Hotwife was so sexually exciting, and if I was crazy for wanting my wife to be one. Was there something screwed up in my head, that my wife having sex with other men turns me on? At the time I had no idea there was even a term for my fantasy. I found out that not only is it the most common fantasy men have, but it is also a lifestyle that is much more mainstream than I ever imagined. I also found a lot of confusion and conflicting information.There are a lot of wife sharing lifestyles, many of which overlap or share some of the same basic ideas, but too often the Hotwife lifestyle and cuckold lifestyle are depicted as being one in the same. In actuality they are very different. Unfortunately, Tumblr is probably the worst offender at spreading misinformation. It is full of captioned photos linking cuckolding and Hotwifing. Not to mention most of these photos are of young women with perfect little bodies fucking hot young guys with big cocks, which doesn’t represent reality for most people. Add to that captions saying something to the effect of how the husband is a sissy and needs to lick the cum off her when she gets home, and you can get a really distorted view. I understand these are fantasies, but anyone looking for information about the lifestyle, especially women, could be immediately turned off before having a chance to explore the true lifestyle. I hope to clarify the classic Hotwife lifestyle with this blog. The following is a compilation of information gathered from across the Internet along with my own experiences and preferences. Hopefully, for anyone who happens to stumble across it, this blog will give a little clarification into this quickly growing phenomenon.

First let’s define the Hotwife. A “Hotwife” is a happily married woman who has the freedom to have sex with other men with both the permission and encouragement of her husband. However, while the wife is free to play with others, the husband remains completely monogamous to her. The husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits. The wife’s sexual pleasure should not be confused with romantic feelings for her sex partners. The other men just are sexual adventures, she loves her husband and both spouses understand the distinction between love and sex.

The hotwife shouldn’t be confused with other forms of wife sharing lifestyles including swinging and the aforementioned cuckolding. Swingers are typically couples that enjoy having sex with other couples, so both the husband and wife have sex with different partners. The term “cuckolding” is tossed around quite a bit these days and while “Hotwife” is often used synonymously with the term “Cuckoldress” within that lifestyle, it is a different idea. Cuckolding, while also wife-centric, focuses on demeaning and abusive behavior towards a submissive husband whom usually considers himself sexually inadequate. Where Hotwifing could be considered the polar opposite of cuckolding. It focuses on the wife’s experiences. Hotwives and their husbands are motivated by the sexual thrill, for its own sake. The exhilaration she gets having sex with other men and knowing that this excites her husband. Humiliation has no part in it. Recently the term Stag, for the husband, and Vixen, for the wife, have starting to be used to further define this lifestyle and distance it from Cuckolding.

Clearly, the Hotwife concept is at odds with cultural conditioning and human tendencies toward jealousy and possessiveness, so it’s no surprise most wives are shocked to learn of their husband’s desire. At the same time, most husbands wouldn’t allow their wives to become Hotwives. Although they may entertain these thoughts in fantasies; possessiveness, jealousy and cultural conditioning ultimately prevail. However, we know that some husbands seem to handle this without ill effects on the relationship. The jealousy often still exists, but comes out in their sexual excitement, rather than through fear or anger. And some husbands seem to just be immune to jealousy, either by virtue of their own personality, or by their confidence in the security of their relationship and the love they share with their wives. Surprising to most people, couples that participate in the Hotwife lifestyle aren’t unhappily married couples that have fallen out of love and are just looking for a way to fuck around. In most cases, the couples have been together for a very long time and are very much in love. They still have great sex just maybe not as often as they would like. By exploring this lifestyle they experience more physical and emotional intimacy and end up having better sex, having it more often and being more adventurous when they do it. That being said, these types of relationships are not for everybody. Many couples may dip their toes into these waters, and yanked them out again, because of jealousy and fear. Furthermore, if you have an unhealthy relationship, venturing into the lifestyle is just asking for trouble.

So why would a husband who truly loved his wife want to see her with another man? There are many answers and it varies from husband to husband. I think most are voyeuristic in nature, but the underlying answer is that it’s his love and deep emotional connection with his wife that’s at the core. It’s his wife having sex with others that excites him; not strangers having sex with which he has no emotional connection. He gets turned on seeing his wife excited and feeling free, in the throes of passion achieving greater sexual pleasure through the attentions of more than one man. It makes her more appealing and naughty, basically letting her inner slut out.

So why would a wife who truly loves her husband want have sex with other men? As with the husband, there can be many reasons. For some, they like feeling desired or they may enjoy being seduced. Others may simply enjoy the opportunity for sexual variety, the excitement of new sexual experiences, the “forbidden” nature of what she’s doing and knowing that it excites her husband. In many cases it improves relationships communication and intimacy, as well as, supercharging her sex life with their husband. Some women may immediately embrace the opportunity for sexual freedom, but most will take some time to weigh how it will affect her marriage and your feelings toward her. Many wives will suspicious that you have some ulterior motive… that its just a ploy for you to later say that since she is fucking other guys, that you should be able to fuck other women too. In this case, it will take time for her to truly believe that this is not your desire. It should be noted that, of course, many wives are not interested in becoming Hotwives, even though she may enjoy sex and may have had numerous sexual partners before marriage, and may even enjoy Hotwire role play, actually being a Hotwife is just not something she will ever be comfortable with. In this situation the husband should not push his wife into doing anything she doesn’t want to do. If for no other reason than it defeats the idea of the fantasy, but more importantly it will most likely damage your relationship.

Hotwifing has several levels of involvement by the husband. The arrangement between each husband and wife will be specific to them depending on the couple and what they prefer. There are no set rules; it depends entirely on the partners to set the boundaries and limitations. The wife may meet other men alone. The husband may never know or meet the other men. She meets them on her own, and makes all the arrangements without any involvement from her husband. The other men may or may not know about her lifestyle, or be aware that the husband knows about them. They may not even know she is married, if she chooses to remove her rings and pretend to be single. Sometimes both the husband and wife meet men together. The husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for the wife to meet her “dates”, but the husband is not involved in any sexual activities between the wife and the other men. Other wives will have sexual relations with other men in her husband’s presence, or even engaging in sexual play that involves all three, as part of threesome where she first has sex with the other men and then her husband, or both with her at once. Whatever the level of involvement, the husband is turned on by his wife’s sexual exploits, whether this happens with his direct involvement or with him just watching or hearing her recount later when she returns home from a date.

The rest of this blog consist of a collection of inspirational images collected from across the web that I believe embodies the true spirit of the Hotwife/Vixen lifestyle.

Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.

It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.

Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.

Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.

Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!

Starting out:

1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.

2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.

3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”

4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.

5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.

6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.

7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.

8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.

9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.

10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)

11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.

12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.

13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.

14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.

15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.

16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.

17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.

18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.

19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.

20. Sext other men and show your husband.

21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.

22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.

23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”

24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p

25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.

26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”

27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.

28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.

28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)

29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.

30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.

31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.

32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.

33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.

34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.

35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.

36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.

37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.

38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.

39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.

40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”

41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!

42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.

43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.

44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.

45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.

46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.

47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.

48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.

49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.

50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.

51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.

52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.

53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.

***Other adventures:

54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.

55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.

56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.

57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.

58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.

59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.

60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.

61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.

62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.

62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.

63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.

64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!

65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.

66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.

67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.

68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.

***ADVANCED:

69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.

70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.

71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.

72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.

73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.

74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.

***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.

74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.

75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.

76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.

77. Spanking.

***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.

78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.

79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.

80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.

81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.

***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!

NSFW QUESTIONS

Pleaseeeeee ask me some of these

1: Kitchen counter, couch, or on top of the dryer? 2: Your last sexual encounter: Good or bad, and why?  3: A fictional person that you think would be good in bed: 4: Something that never fails to make you horny: 5: Where is one place you would never have sex: 6: The most awkward moment during a sexual experience was when: 7: Weirdest thing that ever made you horny: 8: What is the best way to sexually bind someone: 9: What is the fastest way to make you horny:  10: Top or bottom?  11: We were about to have sex but then ________ 12: Is one orgasm enough? Are multiple orgasms necessary? 13: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find: 14: Weirdest nickname a significant other has ever called you: 15: Two things you like [or dislike] about oral sex: 16: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:  17: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?] 18: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: 19: Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had? 20: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience: 21: How big is too big? 22: One sexual thing you would never do: 23: Biggest turn on? 24: Three spots that drive you insane:  25: Worst possible time to get horny: 26: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans? 27: Worst sexual idea you ever had: 28: How much fapping is too much fapping: 29: Best sexual complement you ever got: 30: Bald, landing strip, Jumanji: 31: Is it good sex if you don’t nut: 32: Fill in the blank: “If they ____________, we are fucking. 33: What your favorite part of your body? 34: Favorite foreplay activities: 35: Love or Sex? 36: What do you wear to bed? 37: When was the first time you masturbated? 38: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself? 39: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside? 40: Have/would you ever have sex in public? 41: Have/would you ever had a threesome? 42: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate? 43: Have/would you ever masturbate at work/school? 44: Have/would you ever have sex on a plane? 45: What is one song you’d like to have sex to? 46: What is something nonsexual that makes you horny? 47: Most attractive celebrity? 48: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not? 49: If a child was born on the occasion of the last time you had sex, how old would that child be right now? 50: Has anyone ever posted nude pictures of you online? 51: What is one thing that NEVER makes you horny? 52: Do you have stretch marks? (How do you feel about them? Has anyone ever had a problem with them?) 53: Do you like giving head? (why/why not) 54: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in? 55: How would you feel about taking someones virginity? 56: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter? 57: Is there anything you do on Tumblr that you would not like your significant other to see? 58: Do you own any sex toys? (what is it? how long have you had it?)  59: Would you give your significant other unrestricted access to your Tumblr for a day? 60: Would you be offended if your significant other suggested you get plastic surgery? 61: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute? 62: Do you watch porn? 63: How small is too small? 64: Have you ever been called a freak? Why? 65: Who gave you your last kiss? Did it mean anything? 66: Would you switch phones with your significant other for a day? 67: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”? 68: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair? 69: If you could give yourself head, would you? 70: Booty or Boobs? 71: If you had a penis, what would you name it? 72: Have you ever been on an official date? 73: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?) 74: If you were a stripper, what would your name be? 75: Have you ever had sex in your parents bed? (Would you?) 76: How would you react if you found out your parents had sex in your bed? 77: What was your reaction the first time you saw a penis/vagina? 78: If you had a penis for a day, what are five things you would do?

Ok, so I have to give myself a little credit here for this idea. I try to write now and then about "keeping things fresh" and trying new things. I know, some of you are like, "you can have sex with three men, what else do you need?". And, well, yeah...you're right. But even then, creativity is what keeps things fun, even in this context.

If you've read this blog for long, you know a lot about us and my sex life. You know that I hate condoms and never have my men use them. You also know that while my husband knows that I often have sex with Ben, my "regular" FWB, and also Colin, my OG "FWB", that I could, if I wanted, have sex with another man of my choosing. Even without my husband knowing. It's been a little joke, a joke with some subtle meaning, that he makes sure I have a fresh condom in my purse, you know...just in case.

So, last night he comes home from work. I'm smiling, maybe even a little giddy. I make him wonder why. It's often how I am after a little "afternoon delight", especially when its spontaneous.

So, later in the evening, as I'm sure it's eating away at him what I did and with who, even though it's almost always Ben, he finds exactly what I wanted him to find, because I left it on his night table. A used condom, neatly tied off. The look on his face was something between, or maybe including: confusion, jealousy, angst, arousal, and multiple other things. He smiles, and says, "who?". I smile back, and in as sultry a voice as I can muster, I say, "make out with me, eat me, have sex with me and maybe I'll tell you."

We had a wonderfully erotic make out session. He ate me out with the vigor of a newlywed. He fucked me. As he's doing so, he just says, "is it someone I know?". "Yes", I say. To my surprise, he doesn't ask more. As we are recovering, lying side-by-side, I say, "It's killing you isn't it?" He smiles, "Yeah, but I won't admit it..."

I make him squirm for a few moments more as I brush my teeth. Then, as we're bedding down for the night, I turn to him. "Do you have any guesses?" He looks around. "Honestly, no...is Noah in town?" Noah is the young cute surfer that Maddy and I befriended some time ago with his buddy Trevor. Kyle knows Noah and I were a little flirty.

"No...but that could be fun", I say. Kyle looks bewildered. "I honestly can't think of anyone else I know that would interest you."

I kiss him. "That's because you're not thinking of all possibilities." He looks at me confused. I put him out of his misery. "Babe...it was Ben. We just thought we'd have a little fun with you tonight."

Business Trip

This business trip I’ve decided to try something different.
I travel for work often but never flirt with associates. 
But I decided this seminar was going to be boring so it would be ok to get my flirt on.
Dave was one of the guys who started chatting with me almost immediately and he is good looking, tall with a boyish charm.
We’d had lunch and a few breaks together and conversation, with some light flirting, flowed.
Yesterday he asked if I’d have dinner with him at the hotel restaurant.
I readily agreed but asked if he’d be interested in the Italian place a few blocks away. He said sure and I told him I had to take care of some office stuff but I’d be ready about 6:30 and to meet me in the lobby then.
Dinner went well and we were finished and heading back to the hotel, hand in hand, by 9:30.
Back in the lobby he asked if I would join him for a drink in the bar. “I’d love to”’, I said, “but I need to go to my room, call my husband and freshen up a bit. Come with me”, I said, “I won’t be long.”
In the elevator I told him I had a great time and stretched to give him a kiss on the cheek.
I excused myself to the bathroom and told him to make himself at home.
I finished up and he was sitting at the room desk with a glass of water. I grabbed my Bluetooth and told him this won’t take long as I called my husband.
The conversation went as it always does, “how are things, is the seminar good, meet any interesting people?” … I told him a group went out for Italian and I’m up in my room going to bed soon.
At that, Dave smiled. That’s when I surprised him by walking over to him, dropped to my knees and began undoing his belt. I pulled his cock from his boxer briefs and began stroking and licking him.
I have never done anything like this before, one, one the phone with my husband, and two, a work person.
I always keep work and social life separate.
Dave was hard right away and I’m still on the phone with my husband.
I stood and turned around and had Dave undo the zipper to my dress.
I turned again so I could watch him as I slid the dress off my shoulders. He was quite surprised when he saw I was braless. Having small boobs,I can easily get away with that.
I sat at the edge of the bed and Dave came over and started to take my panties off. I must have done or said something because my husband asked what I was doing.
I told him I was just getting undressed because once I’m off the phone I’m hopping into bed. At that he let me go. As soon as I hung up, Dave’s tongue was on my pussy. And he was very good.
Dave fucked me twice last night. It was sensual, it was primal, and it was a solid fucking.
He’s already texted me this morning and asked if I’d like round two.

A user on Reddit came up with a fun (and maybe useful) idea of making an escalating list of hotwife activities, and got some good feedback from other users. Obviously, it’s very subjective from person to person, so the list was never completely finished. But it’s worth giving a thought to, especially if you’re still pretty new or just starting out (or even wanting to start!).

0 - monogamous relationship

1 - talk about hotwifing with your partner

3 - looking at tame hotwife material

5 - reading or watching more erotic hotwife material

9 - making plans to take things further

10 - talk dirty about the plans

15 - pretend you’ve just met for the first time

16 - use a dildo on her after she knows about your fantasy

20 - upload a pic to /r/wifesharing

21 - upload pic to /r/tributeme

22 - wife putting on a webcam show

23 - let her flirt with other guys in person

24 - ask her to dress up and go out without panties

25 - asking a guy for his number

29 - ‘accidentally’ let a lucky guy see too much

30 - dancing in a club/bar with a guy

35 - dirty dancing/grinding

39 - let him feel you up a bit

40 - make contact with a specific guy via online/text

45 - send dirty messages (text/email)

49 - send a naughty pic

50 - make plans to meet up

55 - meet for a drink and flirt

60 - kiss another man

61 - put his hand on your thigh

62 - let him grab your ass

64 - let him touch your tits

66 - give him a handjob

69 - let him finger you

70 - give him a blowjob

75 - let him eat you out

79 - 69

85 - just the tip inside

89 - take it all

90 - (different kinds of sex)

100 - ???

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Some Nice movies to watch if you are into alternate lifestyle.

1) Mechanics of Desire -- One of the best! Husband can't get it up, so he encourages his wife to fuck other men, while he watches. The wife doesn't want to, but she agrees to save her marriage. The best scene is in the bar. They show the wife's face as she realizes this is really going to happen. Another great scene is just before the end of the movie, where the husband tries to set up the wife in the dirty bathroom of a gas station. I wish the last scene was longer.

2) Bitter Moon -- Leggy wife forces her paralyzed husband to watch as she seduces a black man. I wish they showed the man fucking the wife!

3) Depraved -- The only way a man gets off is by watching his fiancée with other men. The girl doesn't seem to mind.

4) End of Days -- A too short scene of an aggressive man (the devil!) kissing and fondling a woman right in front of her husband.

5) Tough Guys don't dance -- A man fucks a woman in front of her husband. The man likes it so much he convinces his wife to swap with another couple. There's a scene of the man with the other woman, and he hears his wife moaning from the fucking she's getting from the other man. The woman laughs, and says "I guess your wife really likes my BIG husband."

6) Unfaithful -- Pretty good, many scenes of a wife cheating on her husband.

7) Erosion -- A naughty wife fucks another man while watching her husband through the window. Later, she lets him fuck her again, saying "You like fucking another man's wife in the ass, don't you?"

8) Internal Affairs -- Two great scenes. In the first, Richard Gere is fingering a man's wife while talking to him across the table (the husband doesn't know what Gere is doing to his wife). In the second, Gere is fucking another man's wife while she talks to her husband on the phone.

9) Postman Always Rings Twice -- Jessica Lange cheats on her husband in this great scene. Jessica is wearing a garter belt and stockings, and you can see the man fingering her panty-clad pussy.

10) Sex and Consequences -- An older but very sexy Joan Severance (can you say cougar!) cheats on her husband with a much younger man. In one great scene, Joan encourages her lover to finger her to orgasm in a car. They should have made the scene longer, no way she cums that fast.

11) Husbands and Lovers -- A wife spends weekends with her lover. Great stocking scenes.

12) Intimate Obsession -- Jodie Fisher, a very pretty blonde wife, gets picked up in a bar

13) Damage -- Juliette Binoche (great legs) repeatedly cheats on her fiancée, with her fiancee's father

14) Survival Island -- Kelly Brook (very pretty face and a nice body) is stranded on an island with a muscular, handsome stranger (not her husband). She eventually succumbs to the stranger's advances, and lets him fuck her brains out. Later, she's reunited with her hubby, but you can tell she's addicted to the stud's hard body (and probably much larger cock).

15) Ken Park -- Wife (a cougar) cheats on her husband with her son's best friend. She tells her lover his cock is bigger than hubby's.

16) Door in the Floor -- Kim Basinger cheats on her husband with a much younger man. Kim isn't as pretty as she used to be, but her body is still very fuckable.

17) Les Valseuses -- a new mom lets two strangers fondle her in a train

18) Maria's Lovers -- Wife needs more than what her husband can give her. She's seduced on the ferry by a stranger (He pushes her skirt up to reveal her stocking tops. Then he pins her against the door and rubs her pussy over her dress. As he presses his cock against her, he says "You like the feel of that?). Later she lets the stranger fuck her.

19) Married People Single Sex -- Wives cheat on their husbands

20) Dead Calm -- Nicole Kidman and her husband are on their boat. A stranger takes over the boat, and sends hubby away on a damaged boat. Nicole lets the stranger fuck her, and even cum inside her! (What a slut! But she's got an incredible ass and legs.)

21) Eyes Wide Shut -- Nicole Kidman fantasizes about fucking a blonde sailor. A great dream scene of Nicole pulling off her panties as the sailor fondles her tits. Nicole admits to her husband that she would have fucked the sailor if he had asked her. Nicole has great legs!

22) Normal -- Camille Sullivan, a very pretty blonde with small perfect tits, lets a young stud fuck her. Just as they finish, her husband comes home early. Husband goes to the bedroom to find his sweet, pretty wife naked in bed (her lover is hiding behind the door). Husband fucks wife. What's great is you can tell from Camille's pretty face that she isn't enjoying her husband near as much as she enjoyed her young hard lover.

23) Price of Passion -- A good movie about a husband who likes to watch his wife flirt and make out with other men. A little like "Indecent Proposal." This movie would be better if the wife's sex scenes were longer.

24) Killer Looks -- One of the best wife watching movies. The husband encourages his wife to seduce other men. He likes to watch. The wife goes along with it, admitting that variety is exciting, but she's reluctant about it. Sara Suzanne Brown plays the wife with an alluring, southern accent. She has long blonde hair, a very pretty face, large shapely breasts and a flat stomach. Her legs are okay, especially in stiletto heels, but they're not long enough to qualify as killer legs. Does anyone know if Sara ever made any adult movies? Her face is so pretty, I'd love to see her lips around a big hard cock.

25) Scorned -- A great scene where the husband urges the wife (Shannon Tweed) to let another man fuck her to close a business deal. The agony on the wife's face as the man pulls up her dress and penetrates her is exquisite. I wish the scene was longer. (There's another great scene in this movie where a young blonde coed seduces her professor.)

26) Straw Dogs -- A great, long scene where a man forces himself on a wife while her husband is on a hunting trip. The wife initially resists but then enjoys it, lovingly stroking the man's chest and kissing him. Then, after they cum, another man (who was hiding and saw it all) fucks the wife in the ass.

27) Forbidden -- The wife fucks a young man in the car. You can see her wedding ring while her lover pounds her. Tracy Smith (aka Tracy Ryan) plays the wife. She's blonde with a very pretty face, and an incredible body. She's also done x-rated movies. In my book, Tracy is second only to Sara Suzanne Brown in hotness. (Sara has the prettier face and sexier voice, Tracy has better legs).

28) Tryst -- Great movie where the husband and wife go on vacation. The wife is clearly attracted to the French inn keeper, and the husband gives his permission for the French guy to dance with and then kiss his wife. The wife then goes down on the French guy. Later the wife urges her husband to take her from behind, to prove to him she still loves him. Very hot, I wish it had ended differently (with the French guy between the wife's legs.)

29) Voyeur Confessions -- Great scene where the boyfriend urges his hot girl friend to fuck another man. The girl friend is clearly reluctant, but she agrees and goes into a bar to pick up a guy. She brings him back to the hotel room and fucks him, while the boyfriend watches from the next room. Very hot, but too short.

30) Young Adam -- Wife fucks a young guy in the cabin of a boat, while her husband is upstairs steering the boat. This would be hotter if the wife was prettier and had a better body (she's too skinny with sagging breasts). This movie just proves that young handsome men like to fuck married women, even if they're dogs.

31) Zebra Lounge -- A couple decides to swap to make their sex life more exciting.

32) Trapped -- Charlize Theron plays the wife. She's so fucking sexy! She guides a stranger's hand up her shirt, so he can fondle her nipples. He says "your husband doesn't know how to handle you." "So you know how to handle me?" Charlize answers in a sexy, sultry voice.

33) Crash -- Wife fucks a man in the back seat of a car while hubby watches. Sexy stockings!

34) Cruel Intentions 3 -- A guy forces a girl to call up her boyfriend as he eats her out. A wicked scene!

35) Leo -- Elisabeth Shue lets a painter fuck her. You can see her wedding ring as she gets pounded by her new lover. Very hot! Elisabeth has made so many kinky, hot movies, you just know she's a horny slut in real life!