Getting Past The Fantasy Part 1

So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?

Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.

What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?

Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.

Some safety rules.

First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.

• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.

• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.

• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.

What dirty talking is not

Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.

Don’t rush it

The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!

I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him  enjoy and simmer in it.

Don’t worry about repeating yourself

You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.

And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.

And then what

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.

Ask me these probing NSFW questions ‘cuz I’m bored

SEXYTIMES EXPERIENCES

1. How many people have you had sex with?

2. Can you remember the names of everyone you’ve slept with?

3. With whom did you first do the sexytimes? Was it good?

4. What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?

5. What’s the worst sex you’ve ever had?

6. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve had sex?

7. Where’s the most unusual place you’ve masturbated?

8. Have you ever been caught doing the sexytimes?

9. If you masturbate, when did you start, and how?

10. Have you ever been caught masturbating?

QUEER SHIT

11. How would you describe your sexuality using only adjectives (describing words–busy, fluffy, squishy, etc.)?

12. Have you ever been in a queer relationship?

13. Have you ever been in a straight relationship?

14. How and when did you realise you weren’t straight?

15. Are you out to everyone you know?

16. Where do you meet queer folks to date? Do you find it difficult?

17. If your parents know about your sexuality, how did they react?

18. Does your best friend know about your sexuality? How did they react?

19. Describe your first queer kiss.

20. What’s the queerest shit you’ve ever done?

LET’S GET PHYSICAL

21. Are you happy with your body?

22. What’s the raddest part of your bod, and why?

23. What do you do with your body hair (pubes, underarms, legs, etc.)?

24. Do you have stretch marks? Where?

25. Describe your nipples in too much detail.

26. (Vagina-owners) Do you have an “innie” (small, tucked-in inner labia), or an “outie” (more visible/larger inner labia)?

27. (Vagina-owners) Is it very obvious when you’re turned on (swelling, wetness etc.)?

28. (Penis-owners) Describe the size and shape of your penis. Are you happy with it?

29. (Penis-owners) Have you tasted your own cum? Did you like it?

30. (Breast-owners) How does the size of your breasts compare? Is one bigger than the other?

SEXUAL FANTASY LAND

31. Describe your most unusual/taboo fantasy.

32. Do you fantasise more about real situations, or imaginary/impossible ones?

33. Who’s the oddest person you’ve fantasised about?

34. Do you ever find yourself fantasising absent-mindedly, or is it something you do on purpose?

35. Do you always fantasise while you masturbate?

36. When you fantasise, does it usually lead to masturbation?

37. Have you ever had sex with someone while fantasising about someone else?

38. Do you have any celebrity crushes that you fantasise about?

39. Have you ever fantasised about something by accident, and felt weird about it after?

40. Describe your most sexy fantasy.

KINKTOWN USA

41. How do you feel about BDSM?

42. What’s your most unusual kink?

43. In an SM context, do you prefer giving pain, or receiving it?

44. Do you consider yourself to be dominant, submissive, both, or neither?

45. Describe your most recent bondage experience.

46. In a BDSM context, have you ever referred to anyone as “daddy,” “mommy,” or any similar term?

47. Do you have a kink for any bodily fluids (pee, saliva, blood, tears, cum, etc.)?

48. Have you ever revealed a kink to someone and had them react negatively?

49. Do you have any kinks that you’re ashamed of?

50. How much money have you spent on equipment for your kinks (toys, whips, chains, etc.)?

COME FOR THE QUESTIONS, STAY FOR THE SUBHEADINGS

51. (Vagina-owners) Do you ever squirt when you come?

52. Have you ever come solely from penetration (anal or vaginal)?

53. Can you have an orgasm without your genitals being touched?

54. Describe how you like your genitals to be touched.

55. How sensitive are your nipples? Does nipple play turn you on?

56. Do you find it easier to orgasm with another person, or through masturbation?

57. Have you ever had an orgasm that you weren’t expecting?

58. Do you get off easier from rough contact, or gentle?

59. What’s the best orgasm you’ve ever had?

60. Did it take you a while to have your first orgasm, or were you an early starter?

ORAL FIXATION

61. Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Why?

62. What’s your favourite position in which to receive oral?

63. Describe your oral sex technique.

64. Do you find it easier to give oral to someone with the same genital configuration as you (eg., you both own vaginas/both own penises), or different?

65. Describe the worst oral sex you’ve ever received.

66. Describe the best oral sex you’ve ever received.

67. Do you ever simulate oral sex while masturbating (sucking on dildos etc.)?

68. How sensitive is your mouth? Is it an erogenous zone, for you?

69. Do you like 69ing?

70. Can you deep-throat?

EVERYTHING BUTT

71. Do you like it in the butt?

72. What’s the strangest object you’ve had in your butt?

73. Do you enjoy being rimmed?

74. Can you take a lot in your butt, or just a little?

75. Describe your most recent experience with buttsex.

76. Do you like doing stuff to other people’s butts?

77. (Prostate-owners) Have you ever received a prostate massage?

78. Do you own any buttplugs?

79. Have you ever had an embarrassing buttsex experience?

80. Have you ever pegged someone (ie., worn a strapon and fucked them in the butt)?

SHARING IS CARING

All questions assume you’ve done group sex of some kind

81. Describe your most recent group sex experience.

82. Have you ever had sex with more than two people at once (eg., foursome, moresome)?

83. Have you ever had an orgy? Would you?

84. Do you enjoy watching your partner(s) having sex with others?

85. Do you prefer to arrange group sex beforehand, or allow it to happen organically?

86. Have you ever felt left out during group sex?

87. Have you ever done a gangbang (ie., lots of people have sex with one person, but not each other)?

88. Have you ever teamed up with someone and given a double blowjob/double cunnilingus?

89. Have you ever been penetrated by more than one person at the same time?

90. Have you ever been ejaculated on by more than one person at the same time?

**BONUS DARES**

91. Post a selfie.

92. Post a naked selfie.

93. Tag your biggest tumblr crush.

94. Post your follower count.

95. Press ctrl-v, and post whatever comes up.

96. Tag your top five followers.

97. Post your most recent Facebook status here.

98. Post the last SMS you received.

99. Post the last SMS you sent.

100. Send me $500.

116 Questions

Have you ever slept naked?

What's your bra size, or dick length?

Where was or would you want your first time to be and why?

Have you ever shown anyone your body parts and asked advice?

Have you ever seen any of your relatives naked?

Do you prefer doing it in the dark or in the light?

What's your greatest fantasy?

Would you suck on anyone's toes?

Where do you think would be the weirdest place to have sex?

Would you have sex there?

What and who turns you on?

What celebrity would you have sex with?

Whose the sexiest male you know?

Whose the sexiest female you know?

How many people would you have sex with at once?

Have you ever put on a strip show?

Have you ever seen a strip show?

Have you ever seen any of your friends naked?

Have you ever had a fantasy about a teacher?

Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

If you could be a spice what would it be?

Have you ever worn your underwear two days in a row?

Have you ever compared your body parts to someone else's while you were both naked?

Have you ever took a piss standing up or squatting in the woods?

What was the weirdest place you have ever done something with someone?

Have you parents ever caught you doing anything?

Have you ever caught them?

Would you ever have sex in the ocean?

Have you ever gotten sand up you?

Have you ever run or walked around your house nude?

What do you wear to bed?

Have you ever done anything with someone in your parents bed?

Would you ever consider rubbing hot oil or cream all over your guy or girl?

Have you ever used lubricant?

Have you ever taken off your bra or underwear on a main road?

Would you ever do anything on a Ferris wheel?

Have you ever tasted cum or female juice?

How old were you when you got your first real kiss?

Have you ever done anything with anyone in a pool, hot tub, or bath tub?

Have you ever tied up or hand cuffed anybody?

Were you a witness to someone having sex?

Would you ever have phone sex?

Would you ever do anyone in a tree?

Would you ever have sex with your best friend?

Would you have sex withsomeone you don't even know?

Do you find physical pain like spanking an element of good sex?

Do you find older women attractive?

Do you find older men attractive?

Would you rather have sex with or without a condom?

Who was the person you kissed that was the best?

What excuse would you give your parents if they caught you having sex?

What color is your pubic hair?

Does your hair color match the color of your pubic hair?

Have you ever opened your eyes while making out?

How many people have you slept with?

Have you ever had anal sex?

Where on your body is your favourite place to be touched?

When was the last time you had a dirty dream?

If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?

What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?

What’s your favourite position?

Name a sex position you’d like to try

What was your best orgasm ever?

Have you ever sent nudes of yourself?

Are you loud or quiet during sex?

Have you ever tried using food during foreplay?

Have you ever made a sex tape?

What’s the first thing that sexually attracts you to someone?

When it comes to BDSM, how far have you gone/would go?

Do you ever read erotic fiction?

What’s your favourite toy?

Have you joined the mile high club?

Would you say you’re kinky?

Do you enjoy shower sex?

Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever masturbated?

Do you like to be spanked?

What was your most embarrassing sexual experience?

Have you ever fantasised about someone else during sex?

Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex?

Do you prefer eye contact or not during sex?

Do you like to kiss during sex?

Do you get tired after sex?

What’s a surefire way to turn you on?

Do you like dirty talk?

Have you had sex in a car?

Do you like sexting?

What’s the shortest and longest time it’s ever taken for you to have an orgasm?

Have you ever masturbated in front of your partner?

Have you ever been choked during sex?

Have you ever had a friend with benefits?

Have you ever worn lingerie?

Have you ever had sex outdoors?

Have you ever watched porn with someone?

Have you ever kissed multiple people in one night?

Have you ever had sex in a bathroom stall?

Have you ever tasted yourself?

Have you ever worn a butt plug?

Have you ever used a sex swing?

Have you ever had sex in a classroom or office?

Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

Have you ever been pinned down?

Have you ever had sex while drunk?

Have you ever had sex while high?

Have you ever orgasmed five times in one day?

Have you ever had morning sex?

Have you ever eaten food off of your lover’s naked body?

Have you ever used hot wax?

Have you ever worn crotchless underwear?

Have you ever had sex on the floor?

Have you ever had sex in front of a mirror?

What is your favorite porn category?

Do you like to have sex outdoors?

How long do you like foreplay to last?

Do you prefer being the dominant one or the submissive one?

Do you prefer rough or gentle sex?

Do you make noises during sex?

Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

Hot-Wife Evaluation?

Take a minute and have your hubby answer this quiz to understand how much fun you can have. The test offers him with simple ideas and scenarios.

Use scale to rate answers with how you feel about real life situations.

1 - I don’t like that.

2 - Like to imagine it, but not to do it.

3 - It’s very arousing to think about it. I would like to try it.

4 - That thought gave me a hell of a hard-on. I can’t wait to do it.

5 - That’s my darkest desire!

Scoring key is at bottom. Print, mix Hubby a drink, and give to complete.

Remember just rate the thought of doing in real life 

1) You and your wife are walking by the beach (or pool). She is wearing a very sexy and revealing suit and every man is looking at her body.

2) Your wife is telling you about her past experiences.

3) Your wife a flirty text or sext that a guy sent her.

4) Your wife asks you to help her take sexually suggestive or nude pics that she can sext others with..

5) There is a guy that likes your wife, she knows and she is acting ‘slutty’

6) Your wife is changing clothes with the windows opened, the neighbor is watching.

7) Some male friends, you, and your wife are in a private tub. Then she decides to take off the bra and remains topless.

8) Your wife ignores you when she talks to someone with whom she is thinking about fucking.

9) Your wife likes the idea of the threesome and is inviting 2 other people (a couple) to your house to have sex with and you can only watch.

10) Your wife is having sex with another girl but you are tied up and blindfolded.

11) Your wife is having sex with another guy and you are watching her taking him bareback.

12) A guy is banging your wife and asked her to cum in her mouth know she will likely kiss you afterward.

13) A guy asks you if he can remove his condom and go bareback in your wife. You know his intention is to cum in her and your wife looks to you to answer.

14) You are looking at your just-banged girl’s pussy and another man’s cum is beginning to leak out and she asks you to give her an orgasm orally.

15) You are touching your girl’s pussy, filled with other man’s cum.

16) You feel responsible and a duty to lick her mouth, boobs or pussy clean after you or another man makes a cummy mess of her.

17) Your wife instructs you to jack-off on your lover’s dick for lubricate her for penetration.

18) Your wife instructs you to lay on you back and lick her clit as she gets fucked doggy style. 

19) Your girl is fucking a guy and called you on the phone so you can hear.

20) Your girl fucked a guy and came home with her pussy still wet. She’s telling you about it.

21) You shave your girl’s pubic hair before her date so that she’s silky smooth.

22) The only time you get to be inside your girl is when she wants you to feel how her lover has stretched out her pussy.

23) Your girl, in front of you, tells others how she is allowed to play with other men while you are not.

24) You love the thought of eating someone else’s cum from her pussy.

25) You are swinging with another couple, the other girl is awesome, but you are only interested in watching the three of them have sex.

26) You help dress your girl before she goes out on a date.

27) You loving plan a reoccurring schedule for your wife to have a date night or hotwife only weekend and manage the calendar for her.

28) Your wife has you drop you off and pick her up on date nights.

29) Your wife instructs you to give her lover a few quick hand job strokes to keep him hard then to insert his cock into her before leaving the room.

30) You are not afraid of a little cum if it makes your wife happy and feel loved, validated, and pampered afterward. After all, is it really that different than saliva on a beer bottle that you share? 

Scoring:

110 + = Total Cuckold Slut - You are a Hotwife treasure!

95-90 = Ultimate Cuckold

85-80 = Basic Cuckold

75-70 = Cuckold

65-60 = Want To Be Cuckold

55-50 = Wife Sharer

45- Below = Not much interest

NSFW QUESTIONS

Pleaseeeeee ask me some of these

1: Kitchen counter, couch, or on top of the dryer? 2: Your last sexual encounter: Good or bad, and why?  3: A fictional person that you think would be good in bed: 4: Something that never fails to make you horny: 5: Where is one place you would never have sex: 6: The most awkward moment during a sexual experience was when: 7: Weirdest thing that ever made you horny: 8: What is the best way to sexually bind someone: 9: What is the fastest way to make you horny:  10: Top or bottom?  11: We were about to have sex but then ________ 12: Is one orgasm enough? Are multiple orgasms necessary? 13: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find: 14: Weirdest nickname a significant other has ever called you: 15: Two things you like [or dislike] about oral sex: 16: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you:  17: Have you ever tasted yourself? [If no, would you?] [If yes, what did you think?] 18: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: 19: Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had? 20: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience: 21: How big is too big? 22: One sexual thing you would never do: 23: Biggest turn on? 24: Three spots that drive you insane:  25: Worst possible time to get horny: 26: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans? 27: Worst sexual idea you ever had: 28: How much fapping is too much fapping: 29: Best sexual complement you ever got: 30: Bald, landing strip, Jumanji: 31: Is it good sex if you don’t nut: 32: Fill in the blank: “If they ____________, we are fucking. 33: What your favorite part of your body? 34: Favorite foreplay activities: 35: Love or Sex? 36: What do you wear to bed? 37: When was the first time you masturbated? 38: Do you have any nude/masturbating pictures/video of yourself? 39: Have you ever/when was the last time you had sex outside? 40: Have/would you ever have sex in public? 41: Have/would you ever had a threesome? 42: What is one random object you’ve used to masturbate? 43: Have/would you ever masturbate at work/school? 44: Have/would you ever have sex on a plane? 45: What is one song you’d like to have sex to? 46: What is something nonsexual that makes you horny? 47: Most attractive celebrity? 48: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not? 49: If a child was born on the occasion of the last time you had sex, how old would that child be right now? 50: Has anyone ever posted nude pictures of you online? 51: What is one thing that NEVER makes you horny? 52: Do you have stretch marks? (How do you feel about them? Has anyone ever had a problem with them?) 53: Do you like giving head? (why/why not) 54: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in? 55: How would you feel about taking someones virginity? 56: Is there any food you would NOT recommend using during a sexual encounter? 57: Is there anything you do on Tumblr that you would not like your significant other to see? 58: Do you own any sex toys? (what is it? how long have you had it?)  59: Would you give your significant other unrestricted access to your Tumblr for a day? 60: Would you be offended if your significant other suggested you get plastic surgery? 61: Would you rather be a pornstar or a prostitute? 62: Do you watch porn? 63: How small is too small? 64: Have you ever been called a freak? Why? 65: Who gave you your last kiss? Did it mean anything? 66: Would you switch phones with your significant other for a day? 67: Do you feel comfortable going “commando”? 68: Would you have a problem with going down on someone if they hadn’t shaved their pubic hair? 69: If you could give yourself head, would you? 70: Booty or Boobs? 71: If you had a penis, what would you name it? 72: Have you ever been on an official date? 73: Have you ever cheated on someone? (Why?) 74: If you were a stripper, what would your name be? 75: Have you ever had sex in your parents bed? (Would you?) 76: How would you react if you found out your parents had sex in your bed? 77: What was your reaction the first time you saw a penis/vagina? 78: If you had a penis for a day, what are five things you would do?

CHEATING WIFES/GFS PLEASE SUBMIT CONFESSIONS. SCREENSHOTS OF CONVERSATIONS.

So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?

Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.

What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?

Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.

Some safety rules.

First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.

• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.

• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.

• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.

What dirty talking is not

Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.

Don’t rush it

The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!

I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him  enjoy and simmer in it.

Don’t worry about repeating yourself

You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.

And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.

And then what

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.