It's been ten years since my husband and I began our sexual exploration, which has resulted in me having a long term sexual relationship with two other men. I know a lot of couples read this blog and are curious. I get your questions. I'll try here to explain a little, as briefly as possible, to answer the question: "Why do you have sex with other men? What do you get out of it after 10 years?"
First, I'll say that the reason has changed. At first, it was almost entirely because it turned my husband on. Turned me on too, of course, but...if it hadn't been a turn on for him, no way it happens.
Once I realized that the way we approached it strengthened our marriage, our communication bonds, and once I understood that I could have sex with another man without "falling in love" with him, then I began doing it for "us", but also for "me".
So, I find myself now ten years in and I can reflect on why I still do it. I love lists, so I'll make a list. It does not have a particular order. I'd place all of these as equal to each other.
Sex is healthy, and having this situation at hand leads to more overall sex.
It makes sex more interesting. Not that sexually monogamous sex can't be interesting, but it really can't be as interesting as when there's a third person involved. AndI don't mean just the physical. The mental/psychological aspect is even more important.
I love the attention from more than one male. I love guys. I love masculinity. The "friendship" I have with Ben and Colin are, outside of my marriage, my favorite relationships. I love talking to guys, getting in their brain. Having sex with them, especially when they know the boundaries, enhances that friendship beyond anything you could have non-sexually. Also, does it need to be said that it's just really super hot to get whisked away for a night or three with a hot man as his "date" or "girlfriend", and escape the reality of life for just a bit? Everyone has an escape--I think this is a very healthy escape. Being in their presence brings out the sensual femininity in me.
It gives me even more motivation to stay in good shape, physically, emotionally, spiritually.
It necessitates better and more communication with my husband. That's what this entire blog is about.
This is a hard one to quantify, but in my experience it makes me look at the world and my existence differently. I see the beauty and sexual appeal in a lot more. Almost like the difference between watching a black and white TV vs. super high def 4k. Even the curves in furniture can be sensual.
Did I mention the sex is good? It's better with my husband, it's better with Ben, than ever before. By that I mean the actual feeling of sex. The orgasm. It's better.
I enjoy giving to Ben (and before, Colin). Giving of my time, my talents, my ears, advice, and of course, my body. I feel like I'm a positive influence and a good friend.
That's a partial list, but everything else I could say about it falls under those general points.
So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?
Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.
What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?
Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.
Some safety rules.
First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.
• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.
• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.
• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.
What dirty talking is not
Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.
Don’t rush it
The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!
I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him enjoy and simmer in it.
Don’t worry about repeating yourself
You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.
And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.
And then what
I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.
So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.
Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”
And then what?
“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”
And then what?
“then I want him to….”
You get it.
Reliving the past
My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.
Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.
The commentator
This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”
If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.
The yes ladder
This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.
In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.
Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.
Example of a yes ladder.
“you like this huh”
“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”
“would you let me pick any guy i want?”
“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”
“do you want him to fuck me hard?”
“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”
“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”
“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”
“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”
“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”
“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”
You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.
The O-bomb
This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.
All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.
For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.
The story
My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.
This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.
Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.
The talk
Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.
How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.
The close your eyes and imagine
Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.
Example:
“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”
Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?
Putting it all together
Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.
Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”
When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.
Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”
Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”
Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”
Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”
Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.
Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.
By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.
“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.
“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.
Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?
With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.
There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.
Make her say good things about herself while you fuck her. Associate her pleasure with self confidence. Condition that bitch to love herself. 🥵🥵🥵
STOP NOW!
Take a minute and have your hubby answer this quiz to understand how much fun you can have. The test offers him with simple ideas and scenarios.
Use scale to rate answers with how you feel about real life situations.
1 - I don’t like that.
2 - Like to imagine it, but not to do it.
3 - It’s very arousing to think about it. I would like to try it.
4 - That thought gave me a hell of a hard-on. I can’t wait to do it.
5 - That’s my darkest desire!
Scoring key is at bottom. Print, mix Hubby a drink, and give to complete.
Remember just rate the thought of doing in real life
1) You and your wife are walking by the beach (or pool). She is wearing a very sexy and revealing suit and every man is looking at her body.
2) Your wife is telling you about her past experiences.
3) Your wife a flirty text or sext that a guy sent her.
4) Your wife asks you to help her take sexually suggestive or nude pics that she can sext others with..
5) There is a guy that likes your wife, she knows and she is acting ‘slutty’
6) Your wife is changing clothes with the windows opened, the neighbor is watching.
7) Some male friends, you, and your wife are in a private tub. Then she decides to take off the bra and remains topless.
8) Your wife ignores you when she talks to someone with whom she is thinking about fucking.
9) Your wife likes the idea of the threesome and is inviting 2 other people (a couple) to your house to have sex with and you can only watch.
10) Your wife is having sex with another girl but you are tied up and blindfolded.
11) Your wife is having sex with another guy and you are watching her taking him bareback.
12) A guy is banging your wife and asked her to cum in her mouth know she will likely kiss you afterward.
13) A guy asks you if he can remove his condom and go bareback in your wife. You know his intention is to cum in her and your wife looks to you to answer.
14) You are looking at your just-banged girl’s pussy and another man’s cum is beginning to leak out and she asks you to give her an orgasm orally.
15) You are touching your girl’s pussy, filled with other man’s cum.
16) You feel responsible and a duty to lick her mouth, boobs or pussy clean after you or another man makes a cummy mess of her.
17) Your wife instructs you to jack-off on your lover’s dick for lubricate her for penetration.
18) Your wife instructs you to lay on you back and lick her clit as she gets fucked doggy style.
19) Your girl is fucking a guy and called you on the phone so you can hear.
20) Your girl fucked a guy and came home with her pussy still wet. She’s telling you about it.
21) You shave your girl’s pubic hair before her date so that she’s silky smooth.
22) The only time you get to be inside your girl is when she wants you to feel how her lover has stretched out her pussy.
23) Your girl, in front of you, tells others how she is allowed to play with other men while you are not.
24) You love the thought of eating someone else’s cum from her pussy.
25) You are swinging with another couple, the other girl is awesome, but you are only interested in watching the three of them have sex.
26) You help dress your girl before she goes out on a date.
27) You loving plan a reoccurring schedule for your wife to have a date night or hotwife only weekend and manage the calendar for her.
28) Your wife has you drop you off and pick her up on date nights.
29) Your wife instructs you to give her lover a few quick hand job strokes to keep him hard then to insert his cock into her before leaving the room.
30) You are not afraid of a little cum if it makes your wife happy and feel loved, validated, and pampered afterward. After all, is it really that different than saliva on a beer bottle that you share?
Scoring:
110 + = Total Cuckold Slut - You are a Hotwife treasure!
95-90 = Ultimate Cuckold
85-80 = Basic Cuckold
75-70 = Cuckold
65-60 = Want To Be Cuckold
55-50 = Wife Sharer
45- Below = Not much interest
My First Post
Mmmh…so this is my first confession here and it’s a long one. I’ve been at this cheating thing for a while but never really thought of sharing my stories until recently. I really get a high out of doing the most fucked up things and the thought of sharing it publicly turned me on so much I decided to give it a go today. At this moment, my hand is resting against my throbbing clit this morning just thinking about one of the sexiest moments last night that I had in my cheating life. The past couple days, my bf has been out of town and I’ve been waiting to fuck any guy I can get my pussy on. Late last night, my bf was scheduled to come back to town and I was feeling especially filthy and wanted to do something that, if he knew about it, would not only hurt him but would really mentally fuck with him if he had any suspicions.
In the evening, my clit was throbbing badly so I called two of my guy friends who had tagteamed me before and asked them if they wanted to get drinks and then hookup. Ofc they said yes so we agreed on a time and I got ready. I put on the tightest black leggings I owned without any panties, the kind that has a bit of a butt scrunch and gives a whopper cameltoe. And also a tight tee without a bra. I then got out my vibrator and began playing with myself through the leggings because I wanted to actually soak my crotch in pussy juices before meeting the guys. I like to be wet and smell of sex when any guy first touches me down there - it really turns us both on.
After about 20 mins of rubbing and vibrating myself, I finally got out the door, and as I was walking to meet them, I could feel thick soppy wetness just soaking my crotch and it was making my clit throb even more. We met at the bar, had a couple drinks, and then one of my guys began touching my thigh as we sat at the bar. I took my cue and parted my legs a bit and he slipped his hand down to my crotch and his eyes widened as he felt that I was actually so wet, that as he pressed my leggings into my pussy, some of the wetness actually squeezed out and made a soft squelching sound. My other guy on the other side of me began touching me too and I was a literal waterfall.
We paid our bill and as soon as we stepped outside, guy 1 pulled me around a corner into a side street that was a bit poorly lit, and began desperately groping at my body before dropping to his knees and burying his face in my crotch. The other guy and I passionately made out, sliding our tongues in and out each other as he groped my tits and also kissed and licked my neck. Fast forward a bit and we agreed that the night was perfect for a bit of public fun, so we went to a small park nearby with a lot of trees that is usually very quiet at night, and here is where we fucked like never before.
They tagteamed me standing up, with one guy behind me shoving his cock into my ass and a guy in front of me, lifting my leg and thrusting into my pussy. No condoms, no BC, nothing. Just raw, wet, sloppy sex. I blew them both, I was facefucked, and both my holes were used and dp’ed. I especially loved it when the guys used my ass…I never let my bf use it bc I like to make him think I just don’t like anal, but in reality I just like it when other guy’s bareback me. We passionately made out and fucked for a long time before some park rangers came in to do their periodic check so we quickly left.
I checked the time and knew my bf had probably just got home (I told him earlier that I was out drinking with some girlfriends) so I told the guys to come with me to my apartment building, and right outside the building, in another dimly lit area, I told them again pull my now sex-covered leggings down and fuck me and spill their cum inside my ass and pussy. So that’s what they did, one guy released a massive hot load inside my asshole and the other pushed it deep into my pussy.
Then I did the sluttiest thing I’ve ever done - I told them I had a dirty idea, and they got so excited about it. I pulled my leggings up and began rubbing their cocks all over my crotch, smearing both their precum and cum remnants all over my cameltoe and ass area before dropping to my knees and taking them both in my mouth deeply. I made sure that my tongue had some cum on it and that their cock flavor was thoroughly in my mouth. I immediately brushed my hair back, made myself look mildly groomed, and went into my apartment and my unsuspecting bf was back home lying in bed with the lights dimmed. He was so excited to see me he jumped up and came to give me a kiss - and boy did I kiss him! I french kissed my lovers’ cock juices into my bf, making sure I rubbed the flavor of their dicks onto his tongue and throat. My bf looked at me and said “oh babe you seem hot and bothered, you must’ve missed me so much!” I winked at him, pushed him onto the bed, and then sat on his face with my leggings still on and grinded my lovers’ cock juices into his face, relishing the squelching sound of my pussy against the cloth. When I let him gasp for air he commented that I smelled so good and tasted a bit salty but that was okay. Then I told him to lick my pussy so he tugged my leggings down and as he ate me out, all the cum in my ass and pussy dripped into his mouth and I loved smearing myself all over his face. He said something about me dripping like never before and tasting salty-sweet but he never thought that what he was eating was cum from other men. I spent a lot of time facesitting him until I pushed out all their cum and I knew he had swallowed it. We fucked after that, raw also so he got their cock juices on his cock and then we both washed up, cuddled and went to sleep.
Now it’s the morning and he’s knocked out still while my cunt is so wet reminiscing about last night. I can’t wait to do more things like this again - cheating on him gives me so much pleasure and there’s nothing I love than taking my innocent bf, exploiting his trust, and breaking my commitment to him over and over. Ive already gotten other guys to sleep with me in our shared bed, cum on his clothes, piss in his drinks. I’ve even gotten guys to cum on his leftover food so much that my bf wondered if it had gotten a little moldy bc it was a bit strange tasting but he ate it anyway. I never use condoms, and maybe one day I wanna get pregnant from some guy and pass it off as my bf’s. I’ve taken so much inspiration from you cheating women on this sub, and all I can hope is to do you proud and ruin my bf more than anything else in the world. I’m so bad that if he ever found out the things I did, it would probably fuck up his brain so much he might go crazy, and that thought just makes me throb harder.
Anyway, that’s my LONGass story for y’all 😂 DM me if you have any questions or suggestions or just wanna hear me share how I fuck up my bf’s life - like I said I’m new here so I might be slow in responding but I’m excited to share!
(1) My First Post : sluttycheaters (reddit.com)
So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. If you’re not then you WILL reach that point if you follow what other wives like me have learned. If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny. Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may or may not have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet. He wants you to have sex with another man. Wow. Unsure about it? Don’t feel alone. I did too. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfillment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever. You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife. A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with others with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The level of her husband’s involvement can vary. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her. Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before. I assume you’re reading this because you’ve finally found out about your husband’s desires and you are contemplating the Hot Wife lifestyle. Good for you, but you may want some advice. First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you. If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you (maybe more than you). He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage! In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband: 1. You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them. They may not even know you’re married, if you choose to remove your rings and pretend to be single. 2. You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level. Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. Your husband could even be the one who finds other men or helps make arrangements for you to meet them (your “dates”). But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters, except possibly left to hear them via an open phone call while they are happening. 3. Having sexual relations with other men in your husband’s presence, or even engaging in some sexual play that involves all three of you, ménage à trois style. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all. As an extension of this situation, there can be involvement of the husband in the classic ménage-a-trois arrangement, or traditional three ways. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon. Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences. Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. It’s important to know where you, and to a lesser extent your husband, wish to take things, so open communication is important to establish your goals and boundaries. Just make sure that the “other” man fully understands everything as well. It’s important for him to know upfront where he fits into the couple’s relationship. It’s also important that he respect any boundaries you set out (you set the boundaries, NOT your husband). With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage. This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge. As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that. Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him. Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.) Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it? First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman. DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. That’s NOT what you want. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why). When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You can share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night. Send the message that you’re in charge. If you want, it’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!). It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved, but as a SPECTATOR and NOT a participant. This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH. When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household. Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc. Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together. If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain (living room, bedroom, ect). Dim the lights. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch. When the man arrives, EVERYTHING should change. Discuss beforehand what your husband’s role will be. Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you. First, have it prearranged for him to sit somewhere out of the way, so that you and your lover can carry on as if your husband is NOT THERE AT ALL (this is VERY important). I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. The excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting. When the man arrives at your home, don’t be timid and make small talk for an hour. This is a common mistake. It’s too awkward to prolong things. Everyone knows he’s there for sex. There’s no reason to delay. Since it’s all about sex, look for the first chance to break the ice and get started. This is part of your “take charge” persona that comes with the control you’ve assumed. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches. If I know him from previous dates I often give a full kiss to my “date” right in the doorway and linger, perhaps even lightly rub his crotch a bit, giving him a chance to return the grope. Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us. Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay. You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom. It’s up to you. You’re the Hot Wife. Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. It’s up to you. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge. Some wives like to NOT look at or talk to their husband AT ALL, especially during the first few times he watches. But some husbands want their wives to look them in the eye while they’re enjoying their new lover. It can be very exciting to tell your husband how GOOD it feels, how much BIGGER he is than your husband, and how much BETTER the sex feels. Cuckold husbands want their hotwives to have the BEST sexual experience of their lives, so let him know that is what you are getting. It can be extremely sexy either to ask if it’s OK for your lover to cum inside of you, or for your husband to hear you TELL your lover to cum inside of you. And be sure to let your husband know each and every time you orgasm with your new lover. On the other hand, you can try to totally PRETEND HE’S NOT THERE. Some watching husbands love this. They like to think they are anonymously watching you have a secret sexual affair. But in any case, they want to see you lost with your lover, while they get a front row seat to the best live porn they will ever experience. Here’s more advice for the first few times. ENJOY yourself! Don’t be shy or act inhibited. Don’t be afraid to moan and scream and cry out with passion. Pay attention to your lover exactly like you would if you were totally alone with him. Many women feel inhibited and reserved with their husband watching, but this hinders what you want to accomplish. He wants to see you in the throes of wild passion, without a care in the world (least of all worrying about your husband). It may take you some time to do it, but putting him out of your mind should be your goal. Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door. After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet. The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN! Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have sex right away, or even for days after (this is up to you two). He may even have masturbated earlier, while watching you. I know some husbands who just watch without a hard-on but then end up fucking their wives like madmen for days after the date. Many husbands will want to perform CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wife’s pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! It’s a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husband’s subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband may want you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. This maintains the woman’s sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. But each relationship is different. Do what’s right for you two. But as soon as the other man departs you must be right back in your husband’s arms and become his wife and lover again. Make sure he receives the love and pleasure and release he needs to REINFORCE his desire to watch you do it again. Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you. Chances are you’ll be having great sex with your husband for weeks after he watches, and he will be more attentive and loving than he was before you started these games. That’s just another benefit of the lifestyle. When that happens, you’ll become hooked on the Hot Wife lifestyle, and so will he. If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled. There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.
With your fantasy of your husband losing you for a night in a card game. Do you know he bet his wife or do you find out later?
There are variations of the fantasy but I typically envision it as follows: my husband and I are at a bar. He's watching his favorite team play on a game that's being shown at the bar. A group of guys who are fans of the opposing team notice us and start chatting us up. One of the guys appears to be interested in me and starts flirting with me in front of my husband. My husband is too into the game to really notice. The guy gets an idea. He starts trash talking with my husband about the game. It escalates to the point where he convinces my husband to place a wager. "If you really believe in your team, you'll put up $5,000, right?" My husband agrees to the bet. His team loses. I'm pissed at him for blowing $5,000. I get up to go to the bathroom. While I'm away, the guy says "I'll give you a chance to win your money back. He says to my husband "I'll let you take the favored team in the game that is coming on next. If the favored team wins, I'll forgive the bet. If the underdog wins, your wife has to come back to our place and strip for the guys." My husband agrees.
When I come back from the bathroom I notice all the guys eye humping me and giggling. I know something is up. So I ask my husband "why are they are staring at me and whispering to each other?" He confesses that he bet me but it's just to win his money back. There's no way the underdog team is going to win the game. I'm annoyed but take his word for it that it's going to work out, and momentarily relieved that the debt will be forgiven. My relief eventually turns to disbelief as the favored team chokes away the game at the very end. The guys are high fiving each other and taunting my husband. They say "meet us at this address in 15 minutes, but they make my husband and I ride with two of the guys from the group to make sure we don't try to drive off and get out of the bet.
The drive there is incredibly tense. I tell my husband I can't believe he got me into this. He better be prepared to deal with the consequences. Along the way, the guys pull in to a sex shop. He tells me to go pick out an outfit. At first I resist. So the guy says "ok, we'll pick one out for you then." I relent and go pick one out, wanting to at least maintain at least some level of control over the experience.
We arrive at the address, and the guy he lost a bet to tells me to go change into the slutty lingerie I just bought. When I come out the guys erupt in approval. Suddenly my mood changes. Seeing how excited all of these younger guys are to see my nearly nude body is a major turn on. They put on some "mood music" to strip to, and the show begins. I start peeling of clothes. I notice my husband is looking uncomfortable with how much I appear to be enjoying this. I decide to take it up a notch and begin giving lap dances. The guys are are loving it.
Eventually I'm down to just my thong. I'm grinding on their laps. Some of the guys are groping my breasts. My husband tries to interrupt. He says "ok, that's enough. The bet was my wife had to strip for you guys. She did that." The guys are like "the bet was that your wife would strip nude. She's not nude yet". I see the look of concern on my husband's face, as if to say "you're not actually going to do this, are you?" At that moment I decide I'm going to teach him a lesson. I bend over, and slide off my thong, revealing my fully naked body to the guys at the party. They erupt in cheers. I then resume giving lap dances.
When I get to the guy he lost the bet to, he bends me over his lap and starts spanking me. He then asks me to kneel in front of him. I comply. I unzip his pants and grab his cock. I ask him if he wants a hand job. He says "that's a good start, but I want you to put it in your mouth." I smile at him. Then I shoot my husband an evil grin just before I put my lips around the guy's cock and go to work. Eventually the guy fucks me in front of all of the guys at the party.
I will always answer the phone when he calls me in the middle of cheating.
Telling my boyfriend that I love him, and that I miss him, while shamelessly lying to him about where I am and what I'm doing... just makes the joy of violating his boundaries and betraying his trust even more intense and satisfying.
If he only knew what was being done to me, while I fill his mind with false reassurances that nothing abnormal is happening... he would be shocked, devastated, and completely broken. The thought of this just makes my already blissful moans twice as deep, and twice as loud.
A guide to entering the Hotwife lifestyle
You are having an affair? Fall in love to your lover maybe? Daydreaming of him all the time? Constantly wet? Your husband gets hard when you tell him something about those things? And he wants you even more? You want to have them both in your life and don’t want to get divorced?
The Hotwife livestyle is solution for you then.
So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other man. Welcome to our club. Hopefully you’re past the shock. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are.
If you’re like most of us, you were unaware that your husband had these desires. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. Ha! Too funny.
Depending on how long you’ve been married, things may have cooled off in the bedroom. Face it. The rut comes to every bedroom. If it hasn’t don’t be lulled into thinking it won’t happen to you. Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. Lucky you, even if you don’t know it yet.
Take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces? Don’t laugh at them. They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. If you read this and follow it you’re going to find yourself on a road that will return you to sexual fulfilment, feeling as confident as when you were first married, in love with your husband again and appreciating him more than ever.
A Hot Wife is a woman who is free to have sex with other/s with her husband’s knowledge, approval and encouragement. The wife is free to play with other/s, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her.
Sound crazy? Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine. In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. Of course cheating is a misnomer, since the wife’s actions are not hidden from the husband, and he is very aware of her activities. In fact, his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. It will turn him on like nothing you’ve ever done before.
First, go slowly. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly. What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other man, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you.
If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. Anything! (When I say anything – I mean anything). And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you. He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other man, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!
As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. It’s also about CONTROL. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Right? Well, now you can change that.
Hot Wife is about what YOU want. YOUR sexual pleasure. YOUR sexual control. I know it sounds strange. But once you’ve experienced it you WILL enjoy it immensely! Think YOU not HIM. As selfish as it may sound at first, doing so will turn him on more than anything you’ve ever done yet! The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him.
Now, here’s what to do the first few times. After that, once you’ve got a taste of it (and he’s thirsty for more), you can do as you damn well please. After all, you are the Hot Wife! (You won’t read stuff like this anywhere else.)
Remember rule #1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him. You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. Got it?
First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. Meanwhile you can have fun with your new freedom and let out the little slut that’s bottled up inside every woman.
DON’T let him decide what kind of sex or how much sex or who you should have sex with. Remember this - NO CHOICE and NO VOICE. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks. He should have no say in whether you go out to another man’s home, or bring a man into your bedroom (I know you want to try this – it turns you on). He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose. You want to be the one in control. Trust me, YOU will love it once it happens, and HE will too (even if he doesn’t know why).
When you decide you’re going to go out and meet someone, or have someone over, just tell your husband, in a very matter of fact tone. Don’t give him a choice in the matter. Say, “I’m having someone over tomorrow evening and we’re going to spend some time in bed.” Or say, “I’m going out with someone Friday night and I plan to go home with him afterward”. That’s it. You have to share as many details as you want (before and after) but don’t let him try to influence you or allow him to shape the event. Be firm. Make it clear that you are making the decision because it’s what you want. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night.
It’s fine to tell him what’s going to happen before you do it. That is a big part of the excitement for many couples and also your wild-card for your freedom. Share all of the details while he has an erection. But the idea is to show him that you’ve made a decision based on YOUR needs and desires, and his needs are secondary to your needs right now. Show him that you’re a horny woman who’s taken charge of getting yourself satisfied without him. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfilment will drive him crazy with lust for you (trust me!). Absolutely the best way to tell him all things above is when you have sex with him (with intercourse or without). In the moment of coming he knows that your demand of having sex with another man in unavoidable.
It’s also important to keep him involved every step of the way. Share everything. Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him up-to-date of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. It’s important to keep him involved.
This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend even though it is most likely that this will never occur, tell him. Let the suspense and excitement build. It’s a game. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH.
When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening. Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine or a new lingerie.
Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower. Have him put on your panties and stockings. I talk to my husband and tease him, I tell him to get me ready for the other man’s cock, etc.
Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man. Let he jerks off besides you while you whisper what you will do that night to your lover. Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days. It’s an important part of the game that has powerful appeal, and helps bond you together.
Here’s another tip - treat your lover like you treated your husband WHEN YOU WERE DATING. Ladies, you know what this means. Let your slut come out! Plenty of oral sex. Plenty of fucking. Multiple times if possible. Give him all he wants, until he can’t see straight and you can’t walk straight! When he’s done, continue to pamper him EXACTLY as you would your husband, right up until the goodnight kiss at the door.
After he leaves, you think you’re done and now it’s time for some sleep? Surprise girl! It’s not close to being over yet.
The next step is VERY important if you want to keep doing this. It’s important that your husband support your Hot Wife life, and that he be behind you all the way. So, even if you’re tired, you must immediately turn ALL your attention to your husband. Turn off the distant, sex-starved Hot Wife games you played earlier and become ALL HIS AGAIN!
Let him reclaim you as his own. Reassure him that you’re still his wife and that you love him even MORE for allowing you this night of pleasure! Depending on the couple, you may or may not have intercourse right away BUT you have to have some kind of sexual interaction with your husband. I the beginning try to have intercourse even if you are not in the mood. In later stages you can just give him blowjob or jerk him off while you tell him dirty details. I personally perform some of above and CLEAN UP duty. This is where the husband licks the lovers cum from the wife’s pussy or off of her breasts. It can be EXTREMELY arousing for both involved! It’s a primal reaction serving to both reclaim the wife and show the husband’s subservience to her pleasure. But even though they desire this, most husbands will not do this on their own. Your husband usually wants you to ORDER HIM to perform clean up duty. He cannot explain himself that he allows you to have sex with your lover but if you tie his hands and order him to clean you he doesn’t have choice. Right? This maintains the woman’s sexual dominance in all areas of the Hot Wife lifestyle. My biggest turn on is to come back in a sweat lingerie with few drops of my lovers cum both on my breasts and in my vagina. Sometimes I sit on him and sometimes I just jerk him off. It turns me on when I tie him down while he is desperate and horny.
Over the next few days, reassure him that you love him and care about him, that you’re his wife forever. Most importantly, remind him that you LOVE the fact that he lets enjoy this lifestyle. Tell him how much you enjoyed that night. Tease him while replaying the night over and over. Tell him you can’t wait to do it again. Tell him how self-assured and unique he is to be able to share you the way he does, and how you appreciate the freedom he gives you.
After few months you will be bored of having sex with your husband all the time, especially if he is not good in bed like your lover. That is very delicate part of being a hotwife. In his head everything is about sex. Even though you love him completely (OK, you love your lover a little bit – aren’t you?), that’s not enough for him. He has to have a kind of sexual interaction with you more or less every single day. Sounds tough right? It is. Sometimes it makes me crazy and I hate him for not being perceptive for me and my body. But if you think that is a small price you have to pay for you pleasure and for your marriage (you don’t want to divorce – don’t you?). So don’t avoid those situations when he wants sex. If you are not in the mood just tell him to jerk off while you tell him some dirty details from your last date or, even better, tell he what you will do next time with your lover.
If you do this, the lifestyle will become an important part of your sexual relationship and it will grow into the most exciting sex life you’ve ever enjoyed together. In time, his most intense sexual pleasure will come from you HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE, as crazy as that might sound. And what could be better for you? You get to take charge of your sex life. You get to explore new sexual horizons most married women never experience. Your husband will love and adore you more than he ever has, and you BOTH stay sexually fulfilled.
There is so much to experience in this lifestyle that you’ll never be bored. If you lay the right groundwork and do it correctly from the beginning, you can have a supportive, open-minded husband and the freedom to do whatever you want with his blessing. To me, there is no better marriage than one that is open and sexually permissive. Without my loving husband involved in my new life, I would probably have long ago been divorced and miserable by now. So get out there and get started.
This is a mix of all the best questions I’ve come across on here, with a few new ones suggested by my mutuals.
They’re are all in a random order so you won’t know which ones are being asked…
And they’re meant to gender neutral and for all ranges of experiences! (Let me know if any aren’t and I can edit it)
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Tag your biggest tumblr crush.
Do you eat ass? Do you like to have your ass eaten?
Have you washed your hands since you last had an orgasm?
Have you ever posted a nude to your own blog?
What’s the best orgasm you’ve had in the past few months?
Have you ever masturbated to someone you know who isn’t your partner?
What’s the soonest after meeting someone that you’ve slept with them?
What position or angle or specific technique never fails to make you cum?
When was the last time you watched porn?
What is the hottest thing someone has ever done with you in bed?
Do you prefer tongue or fingers?
Are you a top/dominant a bottom/submissive or a switch?
Have you ever had your own underwear in your mouth? Have you ever had someone else’s underwear in your mouth? Has your underwear ever been in someone else’s mouth?
What’s your go-to nude pic to send to someone. Describe the angle, lighting, body part etc.
Do you ever suck on a dildo while you masturbate?
Do you have a sideblog? Is it more or less NSFW than this one? Is it secret or can we see it?
Has anyone ever watched you masturbate live online? Have you ever watched someone masturbate live online?
Do you have anyone from Tumblr’s nudes on your phone right now?
What underwear do you have on right now?
What’s the most surprising discovery you’ve made about your own body?
Has a neighbour ever seen you naked? Did you like it?
What’s the hottest sex dream you’ve ever had?
Have you ever watched people having sex?
Are you open about your sex-life and sexuality?
Does anyone you know in real life know about this blog?
Do you have any of your own nudes on your phone right now?
When was the last time you had sex?
Have you ever masturbated to any of your friends? Do you think any of your friends have ever masturbated to you?
Describe a typical masturbation session.
How do you feel about threesomes? Have you ever had one, and if not, would you ever have one?
What’s something that turns you on, but you’re a bit embarrassed by?
What is the wildest fantasy you ever had that actually came true?
Have you ever gotten turned on at work (or while WFH)? What did you do about it?
Do you listen to audio porn?
Which one of your holes do you most want to be filled right now?
Are you loud or quiet when you masturbate?
Do you own any toys? What’s your favourite?
Have you ever confessed to someone that you got turned on by them? What about masturbated to them?
Do you have anyone else’s nudes on your phone right now?
Have you ever hooked up with a stranger or had a one-night stand?
Do you like being called a slut or whore in bed?
Have you ever been caught or walked in on while masturbating? Have you ever been caught or walked in on while fucking?
How do you feel about swinging or partner swapping? Does the idea turn you on?
Have you ever masturbated to a mutual’s selfies before? Tag them if you dare.
What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever asked someone to do while sexting?
Has anyone ever watched you masturbate in person? Have you ever watched someone masturbate in person?
If you had 5 mins alone to get yourself off right now, without your phone, what would you do and what would you imagine?
Have you ever sent a nude via DM here?
What’s a sex act you think is overrated? What’s a sex act you think is underrated?
When did you last have an orgasm? How did it happen?
Do you shave your pubic hair?
How often do you masturbate?
Where’s the most unusual place you’ve masturbated?
What’s the most amount of times you’ve orgasmed in a day?
Have you ever been so turned on that someone noticed?
Have you ever masturbated with someone?
Have you ever gotten cum on your clothes before? Did anyone see that shouldn’t have?
Have you showered since you last had an orgasm?
Who’s the most inappropriate person you’ve ever had a fantasy about?
Have you tasted yourself? If so, what did you think?
Have you ever masturbated to someone you know’s selfies before?
How long do you usually masturbate before you cum?
What’s the weirdest porn category you’ve ever searched for?
Are you noisy?
What are your top five favourite blogs to masturbate to? Tag them!
Describe your nipples. What colour are they? What size are they?
If you had 5 mins alone to get yourself off with porn right now, what would you type in the search bar?
What is your favourite pair of underwear like? When did you last wear them? Was it special occasion?
Are you masturbating right now?
Would you like to watch your partner have sex with another person? Would you like to have your partner watch you with another person?
Start typing out your dirtiest fantasy you can think of and don’t stop til you get so embarrassed you can’t go on any longer. Just make sure it’s actually something you’re into!
Would you ever fuck a couple?
Would you do a cum-walk?
Have you ever had an orgasm that you weren’t expecting?
What’s the messiest you’ve ever got when masturbating on your own?
Have you ever worn lingerie?
If you could fuck anyone at all right now, who would it be? Do you know them in real life? Do they know you like them?
Which mutual would you most like to fuck right now? Do they know? Tag them if you dare!
What’s the last object you put into your own body for sexual reasons?
Do you have any recurring fantasies you keep coming back to? Do you think they’ll ever happen?
Where’s the most unusual place you’ve had sex? Did you cum?
Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it?
What’s your dirtiest secret?
What’s the most embarrassing porn you like to watch?
Have you ever put your finger in your own ass?
Do you like slapping someone’s face? Do you like your face being slapped?
Have you ever used panties to masturbate?
Do you have sex dreams? If yes, when was the last one?
Have you ever slid into someone’s DMs? Did it work? If yes, what was your technique?
Who is the coolest person you follow here? Tag them.
What is your sexual orientation?
Have you ever fucked in public? Where was it? Did you get caught?
Do you have any piercings or tattoos?
Describe your body in a way that would turn us on.
Do you like being tied up?
What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever asked someone to do in real life?
What was your most shame-filled orgasm? Why?
What’s the messiest you’ve ever gotten during sex?
Admit something sexual that you’ve never told anyone else before.
Put your hand into your underwear right now and type a reply to this with your other hand. Say whatever you want, so long as you’re touching yourself as you type.
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Have you ever slept naked?
What's your bra size, or dick length?
Where was or would you want your first time to be and why?
Have you ever shown anyone your body parts and asked advice?
Have you ever seen any of your relatives naked?
Do you prefer doing it in the dark or in the light?
What's your greatest fantasy?
Would you suck on anyone's toes?
Where do you think would be the weirdest place to have sex?
Would you have sex there?
What and who turns you on?
What celebrity would you have sex with?
Whose the sexiest male you know?
Whose the sexiest female you know?
How many people would you have sex with at once?
Have you ever put on a strip show?
Have you ever seen a strip show?
Have you ever seen any of your friends naked?
Have you ever had a fantasy about a teacher?
Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
If you could be a spice what would it be?
Have you ever worn your underwear two days in a row?
Have you ever compared your body parts to someone else's while you were both naked?
Have you ever took a piss standing up or squatting in the woods?
What was the weirdest place you have ever done something with someone?
Have you parents ever caught you doing anything?
Have you ever caught them?
Would you ever have sex in the ocean?
Have you ever gotten sand up you?
Have you ever run or walked around your house nude?
What do you wear to bed?
Have you ever done anything with someone in your parents bed?
Would you ever consider rubbing hot oil or cream all over your guy or girl?
Have you ever used lubricant?
Have you ever taken off your bra or underwear on a main road?
Would you ever do anything on a Ferris wheel?
Have you ever tasted cum or female juice?
How old were you when you got your first real kiss?
Have you ever done anything with anyone in a pool, hot tub, or bath tub?
Have you ever tied up or hand cuffed anybody?
Were you a witness to someone having sex?
Would you ever have phone sex?
Would you ever do anyone in a tree?
Would you ever have sex with your best friend?
Would you have sex withsomeone you don't even know?
Do you find physical pain like spanking an element of good sex?
Do you find older women attractive?
Do you find older men attractive?
Would you rather have sex with or without a condom?
Who was the person you kissed that was the best?
What excuse would you give your parents if they caught you having sex?
What color is your pubic hair?
Does your hair color match the color of your pubic hair?
Have you ever opened your eyes while making out?
How many people have you slept with?
Have you ever had anal sex?
Where on your body is your favourite place to be touched?
When was the last time you had a dirty dream?
If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?
What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?
What’s your favourite position?
Name a sex position you’d like to try
What was your best orgasm ever?
Have you ever sent nudes of yourself?
Are you loud or quiet during sex?
Have you ever tried using food during foreplay?
Have you ever made a sex tape?
What’s the first thing that sexually attracts you to someone?
When it comes to BDSM, how far have you gone/would go?
Do you ever read erotic fiction?
What’s your favourite toy?
Have you joined the mile high club?
Would you say you’re kinky?
Do you enjoy shower sex?
Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever masturbated?
Do you like to be spanked?
What was your most embarrassing sexual experience?
Have you ever fantasised about someone else during sex?
Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex?
Do you prefer eye contact or not during sex?
Do you like to kiss during sex?
Do you get tired after sex?
What’s a surefire way to turn you on?
Do you like dirty talk?
Have you had sex in a car?
Do you like sexting?
What’s the shortest and longest time it’s ever taken for you to have an orgasm?
Have you ever masturbated in front of your partner?
Have you ever been choked during sex?
Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
Have you ever worn lingerie?
Have you ever had sex outdoors?
Have you ever watched porn with someone?
Have you ever kissed multiple people in one night?
Have you ever had sex in a bathroom stall?
Have you ever tasted yourself?
Have you ever worn a butt plug?
Have you ever used a sex swing?
Have you ever had sex in a classroom or office?
Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
Have you ever been pinned down?
Have you ever had sex while drunk?
Have you ever had sex while high?
Have you ever orgasmed five times in one day?
Have you ever had morning sex?
Have you ever eaten food off of your lover’s naked body?
Have you ever used hot wax?
Have you ever worn crotchless underwear?
Have you ever had sex on the floor?
Have you ever had sex in front of a mirror?
What is your favorite porn category?
Do you like to have sex outdoors?
How long do you like foreplay to last?
Do you prefer being the dominant one or the submissive one?
Do you prefer rough or gentle sex?
Do you make noises during sex?