Do You Know How To Tell If An ENTJ Likes You? (Romantically Or Platonically?)

Do you know how to tell if an ENTJ likes you? (Romantically or platonically?)

ENTJs tend to tolerate certain people if they feel there is some benefit for them if they do so, but if you observe for some time you will start to notice little details that show whether the ENTJ is comfortable with the person and focusing on them, or if they are somewhere else wondering when they will be able to escape.

When they like you platonically:

Attention. A pattern I have noticed in most Extroverted types, attention is outside, looking for something new, exciting or interesting. In this case, ENTJs have a tendency towards moving quicky from person to person if they feel there is something more important being discussed in another conversation, so if they keep paying attention and bringing up new topics of conversation, what I understand is that they are interested in speaking with you, rather that trying to get information from you or something like that.

Time. It’s no secret how obssesed with efficiency ENTJs can be, so if they choose to spend time with you when they could be perfectly fine minding their own business, they like you.

Silliness. It may sound strange, but ENTJ are big goofs at heart. Around people they like they drop their bussiness-like façade and start cracking jokes, doing random things and making puns. A lot of puns. 

They share their feelings. VERY IMPORTANT. I happened to be around when one of my closests friends was feeling really down, and because she trusted me, she told me what was going on inside her mind. ENTJs do not open up easily, even though you talk to them everyday, they might still consider you an acquaintance. But if they let you in on their feelings, thoughts and ideas, there’s no doubt they like you. They generally dislike showing weakness, so if you get to see them (When they are sad, for example), that’s another sign they like you.

I have met some ENTJs who, due to their inferior Fi, denied their feelings for some time before accepting them, or even pushed aside the thought completely because it was not “the right time” to focus on things like that. This is however an unhealthy ENTJ behaviour, and what I mean by this is that it might take some time for the ENTJ to realise what they are feeling, mainly because they will question whether this feelings make sense or not, so sometimes the signs they like you might be confusing as their feelings are also confusing to them.

When they like you romantically:

Sweetness. A secret no ENTJ would like you to know is how sweet and nice they are when they truly like someone. They smile a lot, say nice things and compliment the person and believe me, if you see an ENTJ acting like that, you won’t even believe they are ENTJ to begin with. 

Help. ENTJs have a tendency to believe everybody should be able to handle their situation by themselves, but when they like someone, they make the exception of even taking care of the problem themselves. For example, if you have trouble with your homework, normal ENTJ reaction would be to wait for you to figure it out, help you with some things they consider difficult, and leave you alone. But if the ENTJ goes out of their way to help you they will stay by your side until you finish, let you see their homework, or spend much more time explaining something to you.

Stands by you. They also do it when they like you in general, but when they like you romantically, it is much more fierce. They won’t hesitate if they need to take measures to make sure someone they like is okay. For example, my ENTJ friend will make sarcastic remarks when someone tries to pick on his INFP cousin, or straight up tell them to back off. I figure they do the same with people they like.

Time. But in a different way from above. They are much more flexible, for example they will change their schedule to suit you and make time for the both of you to spend together, instead of waiting until you both have time.

I hope this helped. Thanks for the question :)