So Much Of The Worst Dating Advice Comes From A Place Of Assuming Your Partner Is Manipulative And Deceptive

So much of the worst dating advice comes from a place of assuming your partner is manipulative and deceptive and then trying to counteract that psychological warfare in kind. Anyone who is in a genuinely happy long-term relationship can tell you that dating should not play out like an episode of Death Note. At it's best, it's just two people caring passionately about each other in a deeply human and honest way. The really insidious part of this advice is that if you ever meet someone who does genuinely care about you and doesn't want to play games, you'll probably drive them away by constantly assuming the worst of them. In your efforts to defend yourself from dishonest and scheming people, you become the most dishonest and scheming person in the relationship.