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we dont need body positivity we need body neutrality we dont need “gender instead of gender roles” we need the abolition of both we dont need “ethical porn websites” we need the eradication of porn altogether we dont need sex work legalised we need more options systematically in place for disadvantaged abused women we dont need cosmetic plastic surgery to be de stigmatised we need to normalise natural female features we dont need “race/sexuality blind feminism” we need intersectional feminism that recognises the different needs and traumas of woc and gay women
Women were never created from men's ribs, not ever. It is HE who emerges from HER womb. Framing the father as the life giver is a patriarchal lie, it's not true.
I understand all theories and psychological ideas behind analysis of serial killers but I must point out that lots of women get abandoned or abused in childhood but very rarely grow up to brutalize, slaughter, torture other people
I feel like we need to start really pushing for hate crimes against women to actually be treated as such. It's fucking insane that a man can beat/rape/murder a woman, call her sexist slurs during the attack, and then tell the police and press that he did it because he hates women, but somehow this isn't considered a hate crime. The only reason places don't want to do it is because there's so many that it would mean like 90% of hate crime victims would be women (literally the reason the uk gave for not doing it a few years back)
It's extra crazy because wasn't it something like 80% of mass murderers have a history of harrasment and violence against women and girls? You would think it would be a no brainer to treat these crimes seriously to prevent these men from getting out and committing even more violent and horrific crimes, but that would mean treating women as people and not shock absorbers for society I guess.
Having sex with someone actually is a big deal and involves a ton of vulnerability and I think it’s extremely troubling and gross and unhealthy and actually exceptionally dangerous that we pretend otherwise and encourage people to “be mature” by compartmentalizing/completely eliminating their deeper human emotions from their sexuality and that any other view is dismissed as prudish and invalid and unenlightened and childish and restrictive. I can’t think about this too much because it makes me rage but I hate how much porn and capitalism have destroyed how we understand and experience sexuality and intimate connections with one another so much.
whisper girls on pinterest being based.
I don’t think we as a society talk nearly enough about how intricately connected cats and women are. cats are associated with women so heavily, not just in English but in other languages as well. the stereotype of the ‘crazy cat lady’, the fact words to refer to cats are often also used to refer to female genitalia, ‘cat fight’, ‘catty’, etc.
Cats have suffered alongside women, too, which is not something I have seen brought up. Cats were targeted during the Witch Hunts as well, and suffered similar fates as the women they hunted. During this time, cats were nearly driven to extinction, and the mice and rat population go out of control— which is believed to have heavily contributed if not outright caused one of the most famous plagues.
To this day, I think we need to analyze if it’s truly a coincidence that cats are often portrayed as mean or uncaring because they do not behave the same way as dogs— “man’s best friend”— that their boundaries are violated for fun and then people criticize the cat for reacting, for self-defense. They will mutilate a cat so it cannot defend itself, and then abandon it when it is understandably upset, when it can no longer feel safe.
If you look at the statistics, more cats enter animal shelters than dogs, and tend to stay for longer. Personally, my local humane societies seem to have almost exclusively cats. In part, this is because cats are more effective at reproducing than dogs, and there are very little if any resources dedicated to to TNR. This is also because people will not spay/neuter their cats, and then will abandon the cat and/or just the kittens.
I do not think it is entirely coincidental that cats are so heavily associated with women, and they are villainized for not being dogs. That dogs are called “man’s best friend”, but somehow that does not mean cats are called “women’s best friend”— instead diamonds are, for whatever reason, despite women’s shared history with cats, and shared experience of being villainized for having boundaries. They are made the villain for being cats instead of dogs, they are called uncaring and “assholes” because the way they show love is not identical to the way a dog does.
I feel like there is no way it is entirely coincidental, the way cats are hated and the way they are so heavily associated with women, with females.
someone just pointed out that heterosexual women have higher chances of getting STDs, getting pregnant, and having their consent violated in some manner during sex than they have of even receiving an orgasm.
imagine putting yourself through that, just to be told by men that your value decreases when you have sex. 4b movement now.
male adolescence: haha if i could stop the time i would rape every single female in my class
female adolescence: i should kill myself for not having a thigh gap
A radical feminist’s reading list-
Classic
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan
Sexual Politics by Kate Millett
On Lies, Secrets, and Silence: Selected Prose, 1966-1978 by Adrienne Rich
The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
Fiction
The Power by Naomi Alderman
Salt Slow by Julia Armfield
The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
Native Tongue by Suzette Haden Elgin
The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler
Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado
The Gate to Woman’s Country by Sheri S. Tepper
History
Women’s Work: The First 20,000 Years by Elizabeth Wayland Barber
Caliban and the Witch: Women, the Body, and Primitive Accumulation by Silvia Federici
The Living Goddesses by Marija Gimbutas
The Creation of Patriarchy by Gerda Lerner
Who Cooked the Last Supper? The Women’s History of the World by Rosalind Miles
Women of Ideas: And What Men Have Done to Them by Dale Spender
Headstrong: 52 Women Who Changed Science-and the World by Rachel Swaby
Intersectional
Women, Race & Class by Angela Y. Davis
Ain’t I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism by bell hooks
It’s Not About the Burqa by Mariam Khan (editor)
Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color by Cherríe Moraga (editor) and Gloria Anzaldúa (editor)
Lesbian
Unpacking Queer Politics: A Lesbian Feminist Perspective by Sheila Jeffreys
The Disappearing L: Erasure of Lesbian Spaces and Culture by Bonnie J. Morris
Homophobia: A Weapon of Sexism by Suzanne Pharr
Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence by Adrienne Rich
Liberal vs. radical
Female Erasure: What You Need to Know about Gender Politics’ War on Women, the Female Sex and Human Rights by Ruth Barrett (editor)
End of Equality by Beatrix Campbell
Feminisms: A Global History by Lucy Delap
Daring to be Bad: Radical Feminism in America, 1967-1975 by Alice Echols
Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis of the Politics of Transgenderism by Sheila Jeffreys
Freedom Fallacy: The Limits of Liberal Feminism by Miranda Kiraly (editor) and Meagan Tyler (editor)
The Sexual Liberals and the Attack on Feminism by Dorchen Leidholdt (editor) and Janice G. Raymond (editor)
The Transsexual Empire: The Making of the She-Male by Janice G. Raymond
We Were Feminists Once: From Riot Grrrl to CoverGirl, the Buying and Selling of a Political Movement by Andi Zeisler
Pornography, prostitution, surrogacy & rape
Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape by Susan Brownmiller
Slavery Inc.: The Untold Story of International Sex Trafficking by Lydia Cacho
Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines
Being and Being Bought: Prostitution, Surrogacy and the Split Self by Kajsa Ekis Ekman
The Industrial Vagina: The Political Economy of the Global Sex Trade by Sheila Jeffreys
Only Words by Catharine A. Mackinnon
Know My Name by Chanel Miller
Not a Choice, Not a Job: Exposing the Myths about Prostitution and the Global Sex Trade by Janice G. Raymond
Women as Wombs: Reproductive Technologies and the Battle Over Women’s Freedom by Janice G. Raymond
Psychology & trauma
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman
Toward a New Psychology of Women by Jean Baker Miller
Theory
Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Gyn/Ecology: The Metaethics of Radical Feminism by Mary Daly
Last Days at Hot Slit: The Radical Feminism of Andrea Dworkin by Andrea Dworkin, Johanna Fateman (editor) and Amy Scholder (editor
The Dialectic of Sex: The Case for a Feminist Revolution by Shulamith Firestone
Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics by bell hooks
Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks
Against Sadomasochism: A Radical Feminist Analysis by Robin Ruth Linden (editor), Darlene R. Pagano (editor), Diana E. H. Russell (editor) and Susan Leigh Star (editor)
Toward a Feminist Theory of the State by Catharine A. Mackinnon
The Sexual Contract by Carole Pateman
Other
Without Apology: The Abortion Struggle Now by Jenny Brown
Close to Home: A Materialist Analysis of Women’s Oppression by Christine Delphy
Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed, Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenbery
Beauty and Misogyny: Harmful Cultural Practices in the West by Sheila Jeffreys
Are Women Human? And Other International Dialogues by Catharine A. Mackinnon
Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez
A Passion for Friends: Toward a Philosophy of Female Affection by Janice G. Raymond
How to Suppress Women’s Writing by Joanna Russ
Man Made Language by Dale Spender
Counting for Nothing: What Men Value and What Women are Worth by Marilyn Waring
hookup culture has men enjoying 100% orgasms while women only manage to orgasm 7% of the time
Relevant quotes from the full study:
"Research suggests that women may set the bar for satisfactory sex quite low - specifically, the absence of pain and degradation rather than the presence of pleasure and orgasm."
[Regarding men being more likely to engage in manual clitoral stimulation and oral sex when in a relationship, while fellatio was prevalent among hook-ups and relationships] "According to the authors, these findings suggest the orgasm gap is larger in casual sex because women are less likely to feel entitled to seek their own sexual pleasure and men are less motivated to provide their partners with pleasure..."
so what do women gain from sexual liberation and hookup culture? they get no orgasms, no emotional support and still get judged and slutshamed by society.
it seems to me that sexual liberation is a misnomer and hookup culture which is marketed to women as a way of expressing their sexual freedom and overcoming the unfair patriarchal standards women were supposed to live up to is actually a way to get women to accept less commitment and emotional investment.
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Almost every day I think about how if you raised a daughter exactly, precisely like a son, it would be seen as vaguely progressive, but raising a son exactly, precisely like a daughter would be seen as sexual abuse.
men be like "if women are really that intelligent, why are all major discoveries made by men? 🤓" as if they didn’t quite literally burn women alive if they were smart back in the day
every girl i know has had her "I'm not like other girls" phase and we all resent ourselves for it now, but we're not listening to what these little girls were saying. "im not like other girls" is a little girl's desparate cry for help to break out of the male made stereotypes and expectations that she's starting to notice, to be let out of the box that she's being closed into when she starts puberty. she misses the freedom she had when she was a child, when she was allowed to not care about her looks, when she wasn't self conscious of her body and her face, she'd rather be "one of the boys" than be forced to be a woman.
Im tired tired tired tired tired tired tired tired
I have two " friends" that I'm particularly mad at right now
I had a few problem with them for the past years but the more I still spend time with them the more bad it is for me
One of them is basically very egoistic and think other people are just toys, she called me a nazi because I'm not interested in having a romantic relationship without being really in love
The other one is full of lies, they always lie instead of taking their responsabilities and also use to tell everybody very personal things about me...
I know someone, who is a friend and we use to be close friends, when we talk together I get super anxious about almost every topic we talk about...
I try to avoid almost every topic... Like we can only talk about video games and very basic stuff otherwise I get anxious