𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐠𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐮𝐩 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃- 1𝑆𝑇 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

𝐹𝑂𝑅 𝐴 𝑆𝑈𝐶𝐶𝐸𝑆𝑆𝐹𝑈𝐿 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊 𝑈𝑃 𝐼𝑁 2025

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔 2025 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟, 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑏𝑦 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑘𝑒𝑦 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒 : 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑑𝑔𝑒, 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ, 𝐶𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑟, 𝑅𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠, 𝐸𝑛𝑣𝑖𝑟𝑜𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑃𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝐷𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙𝑜𝑝𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑇𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑀𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡.

𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝑑𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 4 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑠, 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑒𝑎𝑐ℎ 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑖𝑠 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑟𝑡𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑙𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑙 𝑢𝑝. 𝐹𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑜𝑛 2 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 𝑞𝑢𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘.

𝑇𝐼𝑃: 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡. 90 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒.

𝐽𝐴𝑁-𝐹𝐸𝐵-𝑀𝐴𝑅

𝐶ℎ𝑜𝑜𝑠𝑒 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝐹𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 : 𝐸𝑥𝑎𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠 :

✰ 𝐾𝑛𝑜𝑤𝑙𝑒𝑑𝑔𝑒 (𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑠, 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑖𝑛𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑒𝑑).

✰ 𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑡ℎ (𝐸𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒, 𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑏𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑟).

𝑆𝑒𝑡 3 𝐶𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝐺𝑜𝑎𝑙𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝐸𝑎𝑐ℎ 𝐴𝑟𝑒𝑎:

𝑒.𝑔. 𝐻𝐸𝐴𝐿𝑇𝐻 :

✰ 𝐷𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑘 2𝐿 𝑜𝑓 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑦.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑦 𝑦𝑜𝑔𝑎 𝑡𝑤𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘.

✰ 𝐵𝑢𝑖𝑙𝑑 𝑎 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑒

𝐾𝑁𝑂𝑊𝐿𝐸𝐷𝐺𝐸 𝐼𝐷𝐸𝐴𝑆

✰ 𝑅𝑒𝑎𝑑 1 𝑜𝑟 2 𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘𝑠 𝑝𝑒𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑛𝑡ℎ.

✰ 𝐿𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑛 𝑛𝑒𝑤 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑢𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑢𝑑𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔.

✰ 𝐿𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑜𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑇𝐸𝐷 𝑇𝑎𝑙𝑘𝑠.

✰ 𝐽𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 3 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

✰ 𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑛𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒 (𝐶𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑎, 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑡𝑢𝑏𝑒 𝑡𝑢𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑖𝑎𝑙𝑠).

✰ 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑢𝑝𝑑𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑛 𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑠.

𝐻𝐸𝐴𝐿𝑇𝐻 𝐼𝐷𝐸𝐴𝑆

✰ 𝐸𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒 3-4 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒𝑠 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘 (𝑦𝑜𝑔𝑎, 𝑤𝑎𝑙𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝐻𝐼𝐼𝑇).

✰ 𝐸𝑎𝑡 𝑏𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑐𝑒𝑑 𝑚𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑠- 𝑓𝑜𝑐𝑢𝑠 𝑜𝑛 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑒𝑛𝑠.

✰ 𝐻𝑦𝑑𝑟𝑎𝑡𝑒 : 𝑎𝑖𝑚 𝑓𝑜𝑟 8 𝑔𝑙𝑎𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑤𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟 𝑑𝑎𝑖𝑙𝑦.

✰ 𝐺𝑒𝑡 7-8 ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑟𝑢𝑝𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑠𝑙𝑒𝑒𝑝.

✰ 𝑆𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑚𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑜𝑟 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑒𝑥𝑒𝑟𝑐𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑠.

✰ 𝑇𝑟𝑦 𝑎 𝑠𝑜𝑐𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑚𝑒𝑑𝑖𝑎 𝑑𝑒𝑡𝑜𝑥 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦 𝑎 𝑤𝑒𝑒𝑘.

𝐻𝑂𝑊 𝑇𝑂 𝐵𝑈𝐼𝐿𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝐺𝐿𝑂𝑊-𝑈𝑃 𝑃𝐿𝐴𝑁

1. 𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝑇𝐻𝐸 21/90 𝑅𝑈𝐿𝐸 :

𝑃𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑦 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠.

𝑀𝑎𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 90 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑛 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑦𝑙𝑒.

2. 𝑇𝑅𝐴𝐶𝐾 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅 𝑃𝑅𝑂𝐺𝑅𝐸𝑆𝑆 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑎 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑒𝑟 𝑜𝑟 𝑗𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑦 𝑎𝑐𝑐𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒.

3. 𝑅𝐸𝑊𝐴𝑅𝐷 𝑌𝑂𝑈𝑅𝑆𝐸𝐿𝐹 :

𝑆𝑚𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑟𝑒𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑎𝑓𝑡𝑒𝑟 21 𝑑𝑎𝑦𝑠 :

𝐵𝑢𝑦 𝑎 𝑏𝑜𝑜𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢'𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑑.

𝑇𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑡𝑜 𝑎 𝑠𝑘𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑡.

𝑇𝑎𝑘𝑒 𝑎 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑑𝑎𝑦.

𝑆𝑇𝑈𝐷𝑌 𝑇𝐼𝑃𝑆 𝐹𝑂𝑅 𝑇𝐻𝐼𝑆 𝑄𝑈𝐴𝑅𝑇𝐸𝑅

1. 𝑆𝑇𝐴𝑌 𝑂𝑅𝐺𝐴𝑁𝐼𝑍𝐸𝐷 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑝𝑙𝑎𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑟𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑠 𝑙𝑖𝑘𝑒 𝑁𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛.

𝐵𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑚𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑎𝑙 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑎𝑛𝑎𝑔𝑒𝑎𝑏𝑙𝑒 𝑐ℎ𝑢𝑛𝑘𝑠.

2. 𝑀𝐴𝑋𝐼𝑀𝐼𝑍𝐸 𝐹𝑂𝐶𝑈𝑆 :

𝑆𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑖𝑛 25- 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑢𝑡𝑒 𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 5-𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑢𝑡𝑒 𝑏𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑘𝑠 (𝑃𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑑𝑜𝑟𝑜 𝑇𝑒𝑐ℎ𝑛𝑖𝑞𝑢𝑒).

𝐸𝑙𝑖𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑑𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠: 𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑛 𝑜𝑓𝑓 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑓𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠, 𝑐𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑘.

3. 𝑈𝑆𝐸 𝐴𝐶𝑇𝐼𝑉𝐸 𝑅𝐸𝐶𝐴𝐿𝐿 :

𝑄𝑢𝑖𝑧 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑎𝑑 𝑜𝑓 𝑟𝑒𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑠.

𝐶𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑙𝑎𝑠ℎ𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑞𝑢𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑟𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤𝑠.

4. 𝐶𝑅𝐸𝐴𝑇𝐸 𝐴 𝑆𝑇𝑈𝐷𝑌 𝑅𝑂𝑈𝑇𝐼𝑁𝐸 :

𝑃𝑖𝑐𝑘 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑑𝑢𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑚𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑑𝑎𝑦 (𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑟 𝑛𝑖𝑔ℎ𝑡).

𝐾𝑒𝑒𝑝 𝑠𝑡𝑢𝑑𝑦 𝑠𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡.

5. 𝑀𝐴𝐾𝐸 𝐼𝑇 𝐹𝑈𝑁 :

𝑈𝑠𝑒 𝑐𝑜𝑙𝑜𝑟𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑠 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑐𝑘𝑦 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑠.

𝑃𝑙𝑎𝑦 𝑠𝑜𝑓𝑡 𝑚𝑢𝑠𝑖𝑐 𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘𝑔𝑟𝑜𝑢𝑛𝑑.

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For your new year glowup…

Confidence Tips ⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

• Be optimistic, positive, and grateful. Gratitude and positivity are such good traits to have, having them, and expressing them will make you happier and more confident.

•Stop comparing yourself to others! Instead of being envious of another person’s success, learn from them and their success. Comparison is the thief of joy. Focus on your strengths, learn to compete with yourself rather than other others, celebrate others’ victories, and practice gratitude.

• Good posture. It is scientifically proven that having good posture will make a person feel more powerful, calm, and confident.

•Eye contact. I don’t think I need to explain this one too much. Eye contact is extremely powerful. Practicing eye contact in conversations will help you feel more confident, simple as that.

•Speak slowly and thoughtfully. This is actually something I am currently working on. Be mindful of what you are saying, and speak calmly. Don’t worry about needing to rush and spit out your words.

•Embrace and accept yourself. Many people think confidence is about changing everything about yourself until you finally like yourself. NO. Confidence is about loving and trusting yourself, realizing that you are enough.

Practice self love!!! Drink some water!!! Compliment yourself!!!

if self-care was a girl, she would…

she starts her mornings with a glass of water and stretches because it makes her feel good

her evenings are a mix of journaling, dancing in her room and turning her phone off when she needs time to be introspective

she’s empathetic and patient, specially with herself

she’s a great listener, but she never lets herself be a dumping ground for negativity

she’s not afraid to walk away from people who drain her energy and make her feel bad

her mantra is “i deserve to be cared, specially by myself”

she knows that healing can be messy and she’s fine with taking one step at a time or even going one step back because life is not linear

sometimes she stays in bed all day because she knows that rest is productive too

she celebrates small wins like taking her vitamins/meds, finishing a good book etc. because she believes joy is found everywhere

she values quality over quantity in every part of her life

she surrounds herself with people who respect her boundaries

her style isn’t about trends: it’s about what truly resonates with her

she values the present moment, even when it’s messy

she leaves every person she meets better than when she found them

she reminds you that you’re allowed to be a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time

she loves herself just the way she is <3

you're not reprogramming shit. you're choosing.

there is no reprogramming that needs to be done. you just choose. you are always just choosing. "reprogramming your subconscious mind".... as if God/consciousness can be reprogrammed. y'all CHOOSE to do that. you CHOOSE to believe you have to work on your self concept rather than just realizing you are perfect already so whatever you want is available to you now. you can just decide you have what you want. you can decide it's a part of you now because you are everything. "be not of the world but be of me." there is no need to let yourself get sucked into circumstances you don't want when you created them. you can create something else just by embodying. it IS easy. it IS simple. you say it's not so it isn't. God can't be reprogrammed so what exactly are you wasting your time doing? you can simply remind yourself of who you actually are as pure consciousness and make your decisions from there. even if you had a negative thought two seconds ago, who cares. choose differently. decide. decide. decide. nothing else. you are always deciding. you're deciding right now.

my pre ‘25; 1 month glow up ✶

SOCIAL

-Review your social relationship satisfaction.

-Spend time with people you love.

-Practice better communication & listening skills.

-Set boundaries to protect your mental health.

-Join a community in person or online to connect with like-minded people.

PRIORITIES

-What is of highest priority to you as of right now? Make a list of your priorities.

-What requires your focus?

FINANCIAL

-Review your Spending habits.

-Start budgeting. Use 50-30-20 budgeting rule.

-Start saving money to an emergency fund.

-Make a plan to pay off any debts.

DECLUTTER

-Clean up your living space so that your environment can bring you calm instead of chaos.

-Declutter areas that are needed.

-Declutter your social media feed.

-Unfollow those who don't bring any value or make you compare and feel bad about yourself.

IDENTIFY STRESSORS

-Make a list of what brings you the most stress?

-Identify your capacity/energy to deal with these stressors right now.

-Take responsibility, believe that you are one step at a time creating a life where you have it all together.

ROUTINES

-Routines help keep you focused. Create a morning and night routine to keep you in check.

-Check-in with yourself daily: How am I feeling? How does my body feel? What do I need right now?

SELF CARE

-Take care of your basic needs: hydration, enough food, enough sleep, and social connection.

-Develop a self-care activity list and pick and plan daily self-care activities in your calendar.

- Identify your needs and try your nest to meet them.

FIND BALANCE

-Focus on Gratitude.

-Focus on balancing your nervous system.

-Develop a daily or weekly spiritual practice.

-Practice meditation.

NEW DIRECTION

-Focus on the new direction your life is heading. Journal or script out your future as you would like it. What does it look like when you have your life together?

-Invest in learning new skills relevant to your career and interests.

How to actually manifest something

Decide what you want !

You can manifest anything literally anything ! Money, beauty, a boyfriend, your celebrity crush ?? All of them are possible !! Dream big cause you deserve it !!

Affirm <3

Affirm that you have it because you do, it could be robotics affirmations or mind saturation both works. Then these affirmations will become assumptions. Assumptions make your reality!!

Persist !!☆

Persist in the assumption that you have your desires! Even if you feel like it's never coming or you have doubts. Trust me it will come faster than you think.

Ignore the 3d !!!!

The 3d does not make your reality the 4d does! Getting validation from the 3d is useless. It's not your job to change the 3d, it is yours to change the 4d !! The 3d has no choice but to reflect what you assume eventually.

Stop overcomsuming

This is all you need to know to manifest yet you're still here scrolling like a loser instead of applying the law ? Waiting for a miracle isn't going to manifest sh*t. Go live your dream life already.

Other tips !! ::

Don't be too harsh to yourself ! It's normal to have doubts or constantly check the 3d.

If you're too lazy to affirm or just don't want to : subliminals !! You don't have to do anything but listen to them and you can do it overnight <3

Make pause if manifestation feels more like a chore than an actual fun thing to do to improve your life.

That's all !! Stay hydrated and AFFIRM !!!

If you have any questions feel free to ask (this is my first post ever btw)

Little things that improved my life 𝜗𝜚˚⋆

Accepting my sleep schedule. I'm a night owl; I focus at night, I'm calm at night, I'm motivated at night. For a long time, I tried to fight this since everyone always preaches getting up early, but since I started accepting my natural sleep schedule, I've been feeling a lot better and have become way more productive.

"drink more water". TEA. Tea is the secret here. I will be honest, I hate drinking water; it doesn't matter if I have a cute water bottle or a cute glass, I still hate it. TEA.

Replying quickly. I used to be one of those people who get a text message and think, "Oh, I'll reply to that later", and then just forget about it entirely. Now, I text back as soon as I see the message. This has not only improved my texting anxiety (which I cause on my own by now replying and then feeling bad) but also deepened my connection to my friends. <3

Keeping my circle small and being okay with that. Over the past months, I've had this sudden urge to expand my social circle and get to know more and more people, especially after I moved in August. However, this quickly ended in what I like to call my "social burnout". I was tired, annoyed, and overwhelmed. It took a few weeks for it to settle, but I've come to the conclusion that I would much rather have a smaller circle of people who I trust and love deeply than a huge group of friends, and that's totally okay.

Wearing what I like. Even though I live in a big city, I'd still say that my style can sometimes be a bit more extravagant than what most people wear, another point is that I'm very uncomfortable with pants so I only wear skirts, which is also considered a bit odd where I live. But over the past years, I've come to accept that and have become so sure of myself and found such comfort in my style that I now just wear whatever I like, and it makes every day a little bit nicer.

Reading and writing for pleasure. Reading books outside of my studies and spending time researching topics that simply interest me is such a great way to calm your mind. Same for writing, I always like to say that to write is to think; putting your thoughts on paper in cohesive and well-crafted sentences that you can then reread and think over again is such a liberating thing to do.

Reaching out more. fuck the whole "double texting" and "no contact" thing. If you want to speak to someone because they mean something to you, then just do it. Unless they specifically asked for space, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be in touch with them. Many even really appreciate it when you show that you truly care. Let's stop the nonchalant act, and instead, let's face deep emotions and true vulnerability. <3

As always, please feel free to share your own little insights and things that helped you improve comments! <3

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love ya ･:*₊‧✩

How to be confident

Confidence can get you incredibly far in life and make everything a lot easier; I consider myself a really confident person, so here are a few tips that might help you get there! <3

Eliminate toxic people. I don't care if it's your best friend, boyfriend, or mom; if they are stopping you from being the best version of yourself, it's time to say goodbye.

Fix your posture! Confident people have good fucking posture, and sweety, I just know your posture is not it rn, so please straighten that back.

Do what makes you happy. Who cares what people have to say about it? If it's good for you, do it.

Tell yourself you're that girl. Nobody will believe it if you don't do it, so hype yourself up!

Practice eye contact. I can just tell someone is confident if they can look me in the eyes while having a conversation. It seems much harder than it actually is; pick one of their eyes and just focus on it while you talk.

Speak with tone and expression. Talking in a quiet and monotone manner doesn't necessarily make you look insecure, but talking with expression just sounds more confident.

Make your hand visible. When you hide your hands, it makes you look insecure and uncomfortable.

Mind your own business. This one is really simple; I don't think I have to explain, lmao.

Don't tell people your insecurities because 99% of the time, they didn't notice them before you pointed them out.

Accept compliments. If someone says you look good, don't be like, "oh nooo, I look AWFUL" just say thank you and accept the compliment :)

Stop over-apologizing.  Only say it if you actually did something bad or feel sorry.

Visualize the person you want to be. It's pretty simple, think about who you want to be, then think about how that person acts, their routine, how they talk, etc., and slowly start adapting those habits.

Don't be nervous to ask for help. Instead, change your mindset; people want to help you!

Authenticity radiates, be true to yourself, and you will attract good people like a magnet.

No one is out of your league if you act like it. This entire 'league' thing is made up, so don't put yourself in a box.

Trust yourself. You have a bad feeling; you know it and act on it. If you feel like something is not right, it's probably not. Trust yourself.

Stay calm under pressure. It's crucial to not freak out under pressure; even if you do, try acting as if everything is under control.

When entering a room, don't be on your phone. Look around, introduce yourself, greet people, etc.

smile more :)

walk like you know where you're going, even if you don't lol.

Live for yourself. Constantly work on not caring what other people think. If you like it, you post it. If you want to go there, go. If you like that outfit, wear it. Make decisions for yourself, not for others to validate you. It's your world, and every decision you make is because you want to make it yourself!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

the hardest pill to swallow . . if you don't assume, it won't work

this isn’t tough love. this isn’t a scolding. this is just the mechanics of reality. this isn’t about blame. it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility (i saw this quote somewhere and i really liked it, anyway). reality is malleable, but only if you stop acting like you’re at its mercy. stop waiting for permission. stop refreshing the page, stop tapping the glass. it’s done. act accordingly.

consider your brain an old, glitchy computer, whirring in the corner of your psyche, choking on its own outdated code. your subconscious doesn’t know what’s real versus imagined, it only knows the instructions you give it. and if those instructions are "this isn’t happening, i don’t see it, i don’t believe it," well, congratulations, the system registers that as the blueprint. and it prints that out. over and over. like a bureaucratic nightmare, a kafka novel of your own making.

this is not to say that doubt is failure, doubt is human, doubt is a thrum in the background of any great creation. but if doubt is the occasional rainstorm, belief is the structural integrity of the house. belief holds. belief carries. belief is the scaffolding between you and the impossible, and without it, you are just standing in an empty field, waiting for architecture to spontaneously occur.

there’s a reason schrodinger’s cat remains the most infuriating hypothetical in quantum mechanics, because the cat is both alive and dead until you open the box. the observer collapses the wave function. and in this case, you are the observer. if you don’t believe it, you keep the box shut. if you do believe it, the universe is already rearranging itself around your conviction.

this is not new-age drivel. this is not a vision board with a quote about perseverance peeling off in the humidity. this is physics. have you ever thought about someone, and then they text you five minutes later? that’s the speed at which reality moves when you don’t get in your own way. you didn’t sit there clutching your skull, willing them into existence, you just assumed, with ease, with god-tier nonchalance. and because you weren’t scrutinising the timeline like a detective with a corkboard and red string and bloodied eyes, the message came through. the only thing standing between you and everything you want is the way you react to its absence. the hand-wringing, the despair, the creeping doubt, it’s a full-time job, and it pays in absolutely nothing.

which brings me to my next point: trying. trying is the problem. trying implies effort, and effort implies resistance, and resistance is another way of saying "i don’t actually believe i have this." and you know what people do when they have things? they stop worrying about whether they have them. a person in possession of an apple does not pace the room, clutching their chest, whimpering, "but do i really have it?" they just eat the apple.

and before you say, "but look at my reality, it’s contradicting me," i will say this once, and you must etch it into your mind like scripture: reality is old news. what you are seeing is just a delayed projection of past assumptions. do not react to it. do not engage with it. it is a rerun of a show you no longer care about. the moment you stop feeding into the contradictions, they wither. the moment you accept that what you want is already done, reality will course-correct. until then, it is an echo chamber of your previous doubts. ignore it like it’s a tabloid headline about a scandal that never actually happened.

flip the switch. decide, assume, move forward. no more "manifesting," no more "waiting." you don’t wait for what’s already yours. you don’t question a chair’s ability to hold you up before sitting down. you don’t send a letter and then agonise over whether the mail system still exists. you assume. you know. and so it is.

and before the panic sets in, no, this does not mean you must be a perfect disciple of unwavering belief. doubt will creep in, as it always does. you will have moments of existential dread, of scrutinising, of muttering "but what if" into your hands at 2 a.m. this is fine. this is human. just don’t let it become the dominant narrative. there will be moments where you feel like you're nowhere, like your manifestations have abandoned you and you're left with nothing but the weight of your own effort. do not, under any circumstances, entertain this lie. i will personally resurrect the fear of god just to drill this into you: do not. what you do instead is cry a little, wipe your face, and then lock the fuck in, because i swear on everything, sometimes, all it takes is a stretch of nothing to summon an abundance of everything. let the doubt pass through like an intrusive thought you refuse to entertain, like a pigeon that landed in your cafe but is not, in fact, your problem.

maybe this reminds you of when the soviets tried to scientifically disprove intuition, only to realise they had unintentionally proved it instead. maybe this reminds you of every ghost story you’ve ever heard, how the only ones who see them are the ones who expect to.

anyways. it's all already happening.