Latest Posts by themarissacooper - Page 2

Not Feeling Autistic Enough…

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Signs of Autistic Burnout

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Autistic Dating

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Meltdowns

Autisticality

I’m Still Autistic Even Though…

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i think the difference between the barbie's treatment of ken's in barbieland vs the ken's treatment of barbie's in kendom can be summed up pretty easily actually:

barbie's ignored ken, realistically they were given an opportunity to have their own lives and do what they wanted and they didn't do it. everything revolved around their barbie's, ken would only have a good day if barbie did or if barbie acknowledged him. they never tried to do anything they genuinely wanted to.

whereas when the ken's took over, they brainwashed the barbie's into liking them and doing things for them. they would bring them beers and act like waitresses, give them foot massages or watch films they otherwise wouldn't be interested in. they became mindless and existed to serve the ken's. they were no longer just friends with the barbie's, they didn't want barbie to love them back, they wanted to own them.

people talking about ken falling down the patriarchy pipeline out of neglect or loneliness but why couldn't the ken's form friendships and communities like the barbie's did? why is it up to barbie to ensure that ken doesn't feel that way? at what point is it acceptable to blame barbie for ken's feelings? barbie let ken come to her party, watched him beach, held him whilst he went to the hospital, agreed to let him go on her journey, says hi to him when she sees him, things friends do and things she's shown doing with all the other barbie's, but if he still feels loneliness after that because she doesn't want to kiss him or doesn't love him back, why is that barbie's fault? meanwhile the entire time ken is ignoring other ken's out of his fixation on barbie and is even trying to "beach" other ken's off and causing problems with other ken's to gain barbie's attention

to me it's the perfect representation of the real world in the sense that women will leave men alone, men will want to own women, and women will be blamed for men's neglect and loneliness but it's a paper cage they create for themselves because they refuse to see women as individuals and arguably they don't actively try to create and nurture communities in the same way women do. ken's story is sad yes, but it's a story of his own design and what makes it worse is that he blames barbie for it. not himself, not mattel, no the real world but barbie, who's friendly disinterest in him means that she should be the one who is blamed and punished

Anxieties! Attack!

Autistic Meltdowns

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Being autistic is being nine years old and wishing you had a best friend. Being sixteen years old and wishing you had a best friend. Being twenty five years old and wishing you had a best friend.

just saw a post by a notorious low support needs autistic on insta that said “autism doesn’t make people violent!” (referring to a problematic show) and a bunch of level 1s agreeing with her. and let me just say -

YOU DON’T SUPPORT AUTISTICS IF YOU DON’T SUPPORT PEOPLE WHO HAVE VIOLENT MELTDOWNS.

i frequently have meltdowns where i will scream, hit, and throw fucking chairs at people i love because of sensory overload. it’s absolutely not okay and not an excuse for my behavior, however, while being autistic doesn’t make you inherently violent, autism can cause someone to exhibit violent behavior to themselves/others during meltdowns.

we are constantly forgetting those with higher support needs in this community and it really needs to fucking stop. you can’t just say a blanket statement like “autism doesn’t make you do (blank) because i don’t do it/it’s a problematic behavior/it’s a stereotype.” you don’t support autistics if you don’t recognize that some of us get violent meltdowns, period.

Autism and Phone Calls

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Yk when you revisit a special interest of yours and you get that euphoria of "yes I still remember every single lyric in Hamilton and I'm so freaking proud of it" yeah that was me last night

YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE ANGRY/BITTER/UPSET ABOUT YOUR DISABILITY! 

You are allowed to feel any emotion you feel about not being able to do the things you once loved. It sucks, and it hurts, and your life may seem ruined. And it’s ok to just be upset by that, because it really does mess with your head.

Timothée Chalamet x Bones And All (2022) costume design by Giulia Piersanti

my favorite brand of jakey pics

Toxic people will not be changed by the alchemy of your kindness. Yes, be kind, but move on swiftly and let life be their educator.

Brendon Burchard

losing your skills and abilities to physical disability can be so scary. especially when you don't know where it's going to end. where the same day a year ago you could walk unaided and now you can't cook while standing. it's okay to be afraid, to mourn what you used to do and what you might have done. nobody is allowed to tell you that you have to be positive, be a "warrior" of your condition, or that you can't mourn.

when i’m overstimulated and someone tries to comfort me