250 deposit and 750 in cash later.
Not only did he comply with my screening. He sent over my deposit. The only pet peeve is that I had to ask for the donation up front. (Which is annoying) but other then that it’s all good. He was awkward at first but I slowly warmed up to him and we had an amazing conversation.
Thank you Mr L. Hope to see you again soon ♥️
These are all the methods that I’m aware of on how to screen clients in Canada. If you’ve worked here you’ve probably realized that clients aren’t too keen on giving out personal information but there are still some things you can do to keep yourself safe. If you know of another method, let me know and I will add it to this list! Of course these methods may also be relevant elsewhere.
1) The first thing I do when a client contacts me is google their phone or email or both and see what comes up. I also search their phone number on Facebook. You can also add them to your phone as a contact and find their Instagram/what’s app profile through that. This is how I often find out that I’m getting a fake appointment. I’ve had women and teenage boys contact me and this is how I weed them out. BUT….now that burner numbers are more and more popular this can lead to mix ups. I’ve had clients give me their number and then I search it and it comes up as a woman and I call them out, and they say that’s not them and have sent me alternative methods to prove their identity. Burner numbers get tossed around so much now that the info you find about it online may or may not be the real owner.
2) References
You can ask clients for one or two provider references. I always remind my clients to please ask or give their other provider a heads up that they will be using them, this usually allows for faster communication and also it’s just polite. When you get the contact information from your client, make sure it’s a REAL escort. If you search her email or phone number and nothing comes up, she is a fake reference. If she is a real escort you can send her a message that goes something like this
“Hey there :) just emailing you in regards to Jim, he said that you were a reference of his.
346-737-2222
Jimjohnson76@gmail.com
Thanks!”
It doesn’t have to be fancy or formal but it does have to be polite.
3) Email money transfer
Clients can email money transfer you a deposit or full payment to a discrete email addresss without getting any of your personal information. This also allows you to get their full legal name when you go to accept the transfer. I have two email addresses, one for my escort persona and a second discrete one that married men can send money to that looks like they’re just sending it to a man-bud. If a client wants to pay for their appointment via email money transfer be sure they send it ahead of time. I’ve had clients send transfers that took 1 hour + to get to me. Do not do anything until the money is in your account.
4) Hotel room call
If a client wants to book me for an outcall to their hotel room, which 80% of my appointments are, there is a super easy way to screen them. I often don’t even tell them I’m going to do this until the day of so that they don’t have time to argue. I tell them I want to call them on their hotel room phone to confirm our appointment and I need their full legal name to do so. Once you get it call front desk (from a burner number) and ask to be transferred to whatever room he is in. Front desk will ask for his name, you give it, if it’s correct they will transfer you through and you’re good to go. Usually I just say “hey confirming we’re still on for tonight at X time for Y hours” and tell them I like to hear people’s voices over the phone before we meet, which I do. Often clients give you fake names when they first start speaking to you so to avoid the awkwardness of them admitting that I usually ask “what name is the room under?” As opposed to “what’s your real name?”
5) Ask for a piece of mail with their name on it
Stolen from @bossyprada. If you’re doing an outcall to residence, ask for their name & address as well as a piece of mail with their name and address on it.
6) LinkedIn profile, work profile, Facebook
You can ask for their name and a link to their social media, LinkedIn or work profile. Use with caution as people can make fake accounts. I’ve seen some girls ask for LinkedIn + an email sent to them from their work email or LinkedIn + photo ID. Which brings us to…
7) Review board profile
I don’t really like this method, but often clients will give their review board profile username and you can check their activity on there and decide if you want to see them. Good things are him writing positive reviews, leaving nice comments etc Red flags: he writes critical reviews, complains about escorts et…if you see someone off a review board, be prepared to have a review written about you
Canadian review boards: PERB, CAF, TERB, MERB
8) Photo ID. You’re not going to get this from a lot of guys. I offer it as an option if someone is new and has no references and doesn’t want to send a deposit. I also never travel with a client without a copy of theirs ID and license plate.
9) Gut feeling. I’ve done plenty of calls that were just gut feeling. Rule of thumb, if it feels wrong something is wrong. Trust your gut.
How to stay safe on calls: The best option is to always have someone know where you are. However for most of this isn’t an option, so always let your client think someone knows where you are, even if you’ve seen them a million times. I always text people when I first get to an appointment and then I say “oh sorry I’m being rude, just letting my girlfriend know how long I’ll be here” you can also pretend to be on your phone. You can set your timer on your cellphone to sound like a ringtone and pretend to answer it when you and your clients time is up. There are also “fake a call apps” available for download.
Stay safe everyone! Xox
Where are all the hoes at? 🤣
Will update in a week or so after testing it out a little more!
This is a comprehensive post about escorting! Under a readmore of course. Part 2 will include information about websites, how to cover your ass, pricing, payment, LLCs & DBAs, taxes, and how to up your game.
I. SETTING GOALS & EXAMINING WHY YOU WANT TO GET INTO IT
This should be your first step. What do you want to accomplish? Make sure that it isn’t out of desperation because you may put yourself in danger. If you are desperate, clear your mind. Escorting is fast money, but not all of it is good money. Please stay aware of that.
II. RESEARCH YOUR AREA
Is your area a place that you can market yourself in? Are there enough wealthy men looking to spend? If there are, you’re gold. While you’re at it, look up the legalities of escorting in your area. It’ll determine how you should operate. If you’re in the US, please educate yourself on the SESTA/FOSTA laws.
III. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ESCORT/ADVERTISING
Do you want to be on a website (i.e. Eros), or freestyle? How would you go about either in your area? If you’re in a smaller city, freestyling in person may not be viable for you compared to someone in NYC. If you’re in a larger city, it may be easier for you to freestyle. More fish in the sea. It depends on your area and what you’re most comfortable with. If you will be advertising, will you use Twitter, Fetlife, Niteflirt, etc. as addons? If so, take extra precaution that your info can’t be tracked back. I don’t know much about Eros, so I’m not going to write a guide on how to use it. However, I will discuss freestyling.
Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, or anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. If you have a good bio and great pictures, you will be fine. Don’t mention money on the app, get his number and discuss money using your fake phone/fake number. If he doesn’t bite, goodbye. If he does, you have a client. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though (i.e. they look poor as shit. Always pictures in public settings like public bathrooms). Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford, and make it specific to neighborhood if you can.
If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays (when no specials are being run) to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. However, you can freestyle at places beyond bars and restaurants. Bookshops, coffee shops, anywhere in affluent areas with men of quality. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it.
You should also determine whether you’ll be doing incalls or outcalls.
IV. FIGURE OUT YOUR BRAND
How will you market yourself? This will be your genuine brand, the person your clients will see you as. Because of this, it should be something you can emulate easily. Are you a girl next door type? A vixen? An erudite? A mix of them? Whatever you choose, don’t stray from that lane. You should eat and breathe your persona whenever you are “on”. I recommend looking up the 13 Feminine Seduction Archetypes and seeing how you can play into yours. It’ll make snapping your persona “on” much easier. Also, you should pick a name based off of your brand. Ensure it’s not common, or taken by a popular escort. You should want your own shine.
Branding will not include all of your essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of you that your clients will most enjoy. To effectively brand, you have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research (again) on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re monied and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?
Figure it out.
V. PICTURES
This is based off of what you are trying to market yourself as. However, you should choose different settings and poses that will appeal to your ideal client. If you are just starting and don’t have money for professional pictures, find a sub that can do your heaux pictures if you dominate them (real shit, there are men like this) or use well-taken selfies (NOT OF YOUR FACE & HAVE THEM TASTEFULLY DONE). Something I am valuing in my pictures is color theory. I am marketing myself as a getaway, so I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks are my prime colors. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. If you’re marketing yourself as the girl next door, your pictures will be vastly different from mine. However, you should always have uniform lingerie, some body makeup on, and some nice heels. It doesn’t have to be expensive as long as it’s good quality. Ensure that your clothed pictures get the same energy. PLEASE no spandex dresses or anything of the sort. The type of clients who’ll enjoy that will be low quality. If you’re not going with a hoetographer, learn how to blur your face out. Don’t pose in any reflections that would make blurring more tricky, and don’t pose in your apartment if you can help it. If so, do not give a big profile of the room out. If you know how to use Lightroom and Photoshop, all the better.
If you’re trying to be more high-end, do more clothing pictures than you do seductive/lingerie/naked pictures. Show the assets tastefully. Trust me. The more thought you put into your photos, the more your clients will pay.
VI. SAFETY
Do you have any friends that you can check in with while you’re with a client? If not, can you download apps that allow an app to check on you (i.e. Life360, bSafe, Kitestring) and call for help if you don’t check in on time? Do you have access to a taser, gun, knife, or pepper spray, and do you know how to use them? Have you taken a self defense class? Do you have a fake phone or fake number you can use? (Hoe emails can come later–use ProtonMail) If you’re doing an incall, have a trusted person with a key to your apartment just in case. Keep all personally identifiable information away from reach and locked up. Personally, I keep a separate apartment for incalls so that they don’t know where I live. If they do, they are one background check away from knowing your real first and last name. (I rented out this apartment through my LLC, so if they tried to backtrack into the apartment’s history, all they can find is my LLC name. That only links back to my DBA. My DBA can only be traced back to my name if they personally went to the county clerk’s office and illegally obtained it. You should work on being as anonymous as possible. I’ll talk about how to set one up later in the next post.)
If you’re doing an outcall, do a check of the entire place with weapon in hand to ensure that he is the only one in the room. Stay in large hotels with staff that’ll give a damn about you. Never go to his house, never do any drugs or get drunk. Have a “get out” plan and be able to formulate a quick one in your head. ALWAYS make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach.
VII. SCREENING
I felt that this deserves its own bulletpoint, although it does go hand in hand with safety. YOU MUST SCREEN. I don’t care if they’re a celebrity, you don’t know them. SCREEN. Ask for their first, middle, and last name, and their real number. You can ask for their home address, work address, anything or everything that will help you find info on them faster. Use Zabasearch, Stud or Dud, Whitepages, Google, Facebook, LinkedIn, PeopleFinders, LipstickAlley (if they’re a known hoe), Instagram, anything and everything that gives you their information. If you don’t have a good feeling about someone, TRUST IT. Don’t skimp on this step at all. If you find anything you don’t like, decline to see them.
It’s about that time again! Here are some ads that worked for me in the past.
1. Sophisticated Yet Selective
I carry myself in a sophisticated manner, however, there’s a difference between being confident and conceited and I consider myself as someone who is confident.
I am definitely interested in a long term relationship, someone who understands the concept of a relationship. I am a firm believer in kindness and respect for one another. I believe it’s the mans job to keep his partner happy in all aspects and I just haven’t found him yet.
If you are between the ages of 45-65, then I would love to hear from you. Let’s get acquainted over dinner and a cocktail.
2. Memories Over Mimosas
I am looking for a selective business man who isn’t opposed to meeting for a beverage and discussing a possible relationship that includes traveling, shopping, including in decadent, gourmet meals.
I enjoy private getaways, champagne, and enjoying life’s pleasures without any worries in the world.
3. Cocktails & Company
I am a beautiful, charismatic, outgoing, younger inspiration. It would be great to meet a gentleman who is witty and sharp.
I know how to hold a stimulating conversation followed by a glass of Merlot. You need a woman who’s seductive by nature yet charming and fun to be around.
4. Experience & Indulge
I am in search of a companion/friend and see where it would lead. I am a beautiful woman that can keep you on your toes.
Let’s take a 3 day trip to Vegas and stay at The Wynn or go to Key West, Florida and enjoy a margarita under a Tiki hut. How about somewhere romantic like Paris? I love the setting of a 5 star restaurant which includes a very impressive wine collection and succulent dishes. The world is our playground and I am ready to explore the world with someone very special.
5. Sophisticated Vixen
I am a fan of plays, museums, and traveling.
I am just sassy enough to keep you intrigued and have much to offer someone who would like to enjoy the finer things in life with me. Enjoy laughter and engaging conversations. An entrepreneurial spirit is especially intriguing.
I would like to meet a gentleman.
6. Lonely Lunches & Dull Dinners
Are you a older, successful man? Successful yet lonely every night? Can’t find a woman to spend the special moments with?
If you are interested in providing for a woman that’s worth it, then please take a chance and I promise it’s worth the wait. I would like to see someone that’s serious about creating and capturing special memories.
So let’s meet for a couple of drinks.
7. Charming Young Lady
I am searching for a long term commitment.
I would love to find someone who likes to enjoy life the way I do. Someone who isn’t overbearing or jealous. Most importantly, someone who is secure enough in themselves not to feel challenged by my ambition.
Hopefully, you are sincere and that just needs that extra friend in life that reminds them of how great things can be, I want someone to appreciate the good in life and can be adventurous.
8. Taste of Elegance, Touch of Class
Intelligent, gorgeous and ambitious are a few words that best describes me.
My hobbies/interests include the following:
1. Literature
2. Performing/Fine Arts
3. Traveling
4. Photography
I always have a thirst for knowledge and I am ready to explore.
I would love to meet a man who truly knows how to treat a lady, someone thoughtful and giving and who knows what he wants. I want to be treated with the utmost respect and will make sure that this is reciprocated. Please be a gentleman as I hope chivalry still exists.
9. Dress To Impress
Would you be interested in a woman who is mature and poised? I am seeking a gentleman who is confident, kind and considerate. You must know how to treat a lady.
I have been described as an exotic indulgence. I will always welcome you with a warm, inviting smile along with a bubbly personality.
10. Your Main Attraction
You need a woman who is stunning and a bright, captivating smile. You will never want to take your eyes off of me. Let me accompany you over brunch brunch, happy hour or dinner and we cover topics such as politics and culture and of course, you’ll get to learn more about my future aspirations in life.
The question is, are you up for a challenge?
baby wipes - can be used to take makeup off quickly. use before & after sex,easily wipes up boob sweat and is just good for freshening up overall
throat numbing spray - makes deep throating easier (especially if your gag reflex is bad)
aquaphor - makes lips soft and is good for any rough patches of skin
clear or light pink gloss - super flirty and cute and makes your lips look nice & pouty
salux cloth - exfoliates skin really well and will make your skin soft as fuck. it’s like a loofah but better. it’s also long so you can exfoliate your back as well.
schick intuition razor - it has a little moisturizing bar on the razor so u don’t have to use shaving cream. so moisturizing and makes you smooth as fuck. one of the best razors imo.
dr. bronners peppermint castile soap - literally makes you feel so clean and minty! if u have a vagina do not put this inside of it bc it will throw ur pH way off)
baby oil - put on wet skin to keep moisture in and make you soft af. also good if u wanna put oil on your ass & titties during sex (also be sure not to get this in your vagina bc it will give u a fuckin infection and it also it deteriorates condoms)
perfume oil - lasts longer and is is stronger than perfume (i recommend the “crown perfume” brand)
body butter - thicker than lotion and makes you wayyy softer (heres a diy recipe)
rosewater - smells like rose (obviously) and works good as a toner,setting spray,and makeup “refresher”. works well for all skin types.
aloe vera gel - great under makeup as a moisturizer & primer if you have oily skin. it absorbs fast and prevents wrinkles and makes ur skin look nice & plump. i’ve heard it can be used to shave with as well. (make sure you get the clear one, not the green or blue gel. and make sure there’s no alcohol added)
chlorophyll - basically a body deodorizer, that you take internally. comes in liquid or pill form. it’s a natural remedy for vaginal odor & bad breath. it’ll make you smell better in general though.
bentonite clay/aztec healing clay - detoxes skin and is good for break outs.
I went from wanting to be married, pregnant, and with a mortgage by the age of 30 to wanting to be a business woman with 2 fully paid houses and $1 million in liquid by the time I’m 30. Fuck the idea that women have to live the suburban dream and have a timer to do so.
I was a hour late to see my favorite regular and now I’m scared he won’t book me again. He didn’t seem mad but i can tell he was kinda pissed. He forgave me after I gave him this bomb ass head but still I’m such a dumbass. Pray to the universe he don’t book another bitch