I Have Manifested A Steady, Infinite Source Of Money For Me And My Family.

2019 is very personal, i owe myself alot.

Do anybody got so good recommendations for professional photograph retouchers? This man tried to make look like a whole different race 🙃. I told him to just focus on the skin (Smooth it out), Take care of the flyaways and smooth my makeup a bit. Tell me why I look like a whole different skin tone 😂. I was like who is this women? It’s 2020 and y’all still don’t know how to work with black women skintone?

Thank you! Is it okay if you could give me a bit of advice? I think I want to take the suggestions I’ve read on free styling for more of a spoiled girlfriend route instead of being a sugar baby but I’m going to start free styling this weekend and I wanted to know if you had any other important suggestions you would like to offer.

Note: I want to add that this person sent me a personal message (before sending me this ask) so I will be a addressing a few things that weren’t included in the ask.  

My biggest suggestion to you is to remember that free-styling is usually a numbers game. You may not hit it big on your first day/night out so don’t give up on your first try. The first few times you’re out free-styling is really just about you getting use to it and getting comfortable with talking to men. A lot of girls give up on free styling too soon because they didn’t reap any rewards the first or second time they tried. DON’T BE THAT GIRL. Don’t give up on it.  

Now onto my suggestions:  

Plan ahead. Pick out the places you’re going to visit ahead of time (don’t wait until Thursday night to start looking). I like to pick out a few places to go to that are all close to one another or a place that may have multiple bars/lounges/etc. That way if one place is dead (or I need to get away from a man) my entire night isn’t a total bust because I have multiple places/areas to go to.  

Be sure to look at the photos (my favorite place to do this is Yelp because people aren’t trying to stunt on Yelp like they do on IG lol) get an idea of the kind men that frequent this establishment (look at how they’re dressed). You may also get an idea of the attire you should be wearing (if you were unsure).  

A quick note on attire: I personally like to dress a bit more on the “conservative” side when I free-style; instead of a mini skirt, it’s knee length, makeup may be the “bombshell” look (especially if I’m going out at night), but it’s done in more neutral colors, etc.  

Look at the menu. Aim for places that are $$$ or $$$$ on Yelp, Open Table, TripAdvisor. Even better is to look for places that are recommended for business travelers (if that’s your type). Knowing what you’re going to order ahead of time also makes things easier (I’m one of those people that will read the entire menu 3 days before I go lol).  

Have some money with you. Enough to at least buy yourself 2 drinks and a tip. Hopefully you won’t need it, but you never know. Sometimes it’s a slow night, and this is just my personal opinion but I feel like if you’re sitting at a bar with a glass of water or club soda and lime, it’s a tell-tale sign to a trained eye that says “I have no money and I’m waiting on someone to buy me a drink.”  

Be nice to bartender/waitress. Make some small talk during the “down” times when you don’t have any POTS to talk to. The bartender/waitress may end up being your best resource when it comes to free styling. Remember, they work here and they know everyone that comes here. And when they see a pretty woman sitting at the bar they’re already halfway assuming that you’re there to catch a man with money. And in this case, the stereotype works in our favor. Usually if you’re nice to them (and tip them well) they’ll be nice to you and “tip” you well. They’ll let you know the best day to do your “hunting” and they’ll let you know who you should avoid and you should chat up.  

Also, know when to leave the bar/lounge/lobby. Sometimes it’s just a bad night. Maybe the bartender is being an ass or you’re not meeting any POTs. Pay for your drink and just try another place. Don’t feel like you’re stuck to one place just because it was your first choice.  

Now, I know that you were nervous about what to actually say so I’m going to make another post about what to do once you’ve gotten a guy’s attention!  

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What’s the Game Plan?

Disclaimer: This is purely for me, do not come on here with any judgement about how I’m choosing to conduct business. If you see anything here that might be helpful to you, then by all means, implement it. If not, move on.

Escorting Persona

Changing (Back) My Wardrobe

I’m going back to dressing how I normally did when I was freestyling and just in my regular life for events and such. Dressing how I originally did. Time to bring out the Victoria Beckham, Cushnie et Ochs, Brandon Maxwell, Milly, Roksanda, Stella McCartney, and Jason Wu pieces that have been just sitting in my closet. I’m also going to hold back on certain shoes because they look so trashy now.

New Photos & Photography Styles

Black Lotus — For sultry images. Will be doing in the next 2 months with very dark and classic pieces.

AT Glamour London — For glossy and polished photos. He’s lovely to work with and I can’t wait to collaborate with him again. I can’t use the past photos he shot of me (even though they’re sooo amazing) for privacy reasons. I’ll be doing so when next in London in the next couple of months.

Hello Miss - For the really light and vibrant style. I’ve sort of just missed his Canadian tour since I was away. He’s still available for another week, but our schedules are conflicting, it’ll have to be if he’s back next year (unless I tour Australia early next year).

Inamorata Photo - For the pov aesthetic. Specifically “The Date” package. I’m thinking February 2020 since I’ll definitely be in NYC.

Strategic Engagement

I currently try to follow all SW’s that follow me, however I really can’t relate to some of the content on my timeline. I feel like it comes across as rude to not follow back a SW that follows you, and I feel almost guilted into following back girls that are new and have no following. I genuinely would love to RT and support everyone, but some of the content does not match up with my intended branding and I’m 1) not trying to get shadowbanned for RTing nudity/profanity/pretty much anything that goes again twitter guidelines and 2) the content is not something that MY targeted audience would appreciate or interact with. Yes, this totally sounds like a whorearchy thing, and maybe it is. I feel like no one is willing to admit it, but I simply can’t relate to a lot of the people on the platform. As terrible as it sounds, I have to stop interacting indiscriminately. Perhaps I should start utilizing the mute button.

Advertising

I still have to figure this one out since I’m not a fan of advertising. I made a lot last year and I basically never advertised. A good chunk of my income this year has come from monthly “arrangements”, my regular clients that I met last year from not-advertising, and touring Asia & Europe. I’m thinking I’d like to start advertising in the US as a large percentage of my North American clients are from the US and far outweigh my clients from Canada. However, the well known sites are not an option for me considering there are raids with Eros and I’m not interested in providing my ID to multiple sites. Tryst works locally and in Asia, but it’s otherwise useless elsewhere. Slixa is a waste of time and gets almost no traffic, plus they’re very discriminatory (that’s a conversation for another day). I really like Scarlet Blue for when I’m touring Asia & Europe. I got the required vouches for P411 but I’m not sure if I want to give up my ID to use it; I’ve heard varying feedback and opinions from providers, some love it and others absolutely loathe it. I also can’t guarantee that they won’t have the same issue as Eros or TER. At this point, Twitter might be my best bet which brings me back to my dilemma of hating social media. However, I’ll try my best to push out content and build a following.

Escorting and Social Climbing

Touring Internationally For Events

This is general advice and can be implemented by anyone. It’s tried and true, I did this. This, by far, has been the most lucrative aspect of this industry. It’s extremely tiring both physically and psychologically, but last year I toured for 2 months, took a two month break, then toured for another 4 months; I was basically a shell of myself by the end, but I made a tremendous amount of money and made great connections for personal life and work life. I did a similar thing this year, but the longest I’ve gone is a month and a half straight without a break, and I think for my own sanity I’ll try not to over exert myself going forward. I’ll probably make a separate post about touring.

One thing to keep in mind, touring is VERY expensive. Not only are you paying (or getting someone else to pay) for flights and accommodations, but you’re also paying to get into these events. There are expenses attached to going out to meet people. You can’t just go and stay in your hotel room all day. The only reason I can justify spending what I spend is because I almost always make back 4x what I spent, typically more.

Touring somewhere specific two or three times, possibly more, is a good idea. Once when there’s a known event or influx, and another time when it’s devoid of travellers or event-goers. I’ll give examples of what I did last year and this year. For Singapore, go during April for the Yacht Show, in September for the Grand Prix, and then also going in June/July and November when there is essentially nothing going on aside from locals, expats and business travellers.

Try to diversify where you go and coordinate the events so you can constantly tour for prolonged periods of time. If you’re crazy like me, you can try this and I guarantee you’ll make an absolute killing. In fact, this is pretty much all I’ve done this year and I’m making good money. Expect to be away for 2-3 weeks. Go to Hong Kong end of March for Art Basel, head to Singapore afterwards for Yacht Show. You can go back home at this point to rest and gather yourself and prepare for the next phase. Expect to be away for 4-10 weeks. Head to Cannes/Monaco for the Film Festival and Grand Prix. Head to Paris straight afterward for the French Open. Take a one week break then head to Switzerland for Art Basel. Take a 2 or 3 day break then head to London for Royal Ascot and overall heauxing in the city. Take another one week break then head to Paris for HCFW. Leave on the last day and head back to London for Wimbledon. By the end, that will have been about 8-9 weeks. You can vacation or just go home at this point. I came home after Wimbledon this year and didn’t work for the rest of July or August. Basically, this has proven to work since I’ve don’t it twice so I’m thinking I’ll be implementing it again for next year and possibly the year after if I’m still in the industry.

More After I Exit

Attending Events For Personal Reasons

TED is something I’ve been going to for fun and because I personally enjoy it. It’s mostly dominated by men and they’re everywhere. A lot of people within tech and other industries. I’ve met a few “clients”, who don’t know they’re clients through attending. It’s somewhat of a mistress or part-time girlfriend situation with them. I want to start attending more conferences and events of this nature. I’m going to look into doing anything having to do with the non-profits, NGO’s, and charities. I’ll have to find a way to attend more galas and invite-only fundraisers. This is, however, more for social climbing for personal and business relationships.

A Morning Manifestation

i am a divine being.

i am consistently divinely guided & protected.

i attract an abundance of wealth, an abundance of love, an abundance of prosperity, & an abundance of blessings every single day.

i am the creator of my reality.

i am healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, & spiritually.

i am in tune with myself.

i continue to heal, grow, & progress, & i allow myself to do this.

i am warm & kind to others, but set firm & tangible boundaries.

i align myself with my values, & with the values of my highest self.

if it is meant for me it will come to me, & if not, something better is on its way to me.

i am one with my power: my mind, my body, my soul, & my spirit are aligned.

i free myself of resistance & all which no longer serves me.

thank you universe, i am eternally grateful 🤍🪐

My Twitter is to grow my business not another provider. (No offense)

I repost other girls shit and they never repost mine. Which I don’t even care but I notice it. So this is why I’m limiting my Rts. I created it to interact with my clients.

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