As A Bi Person, The Bisexual Flag Brings Me Infinite Joy And Always Puts A Smile On My Face, However

Bi women can’t talk about being in relationships with men because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon gay and lesbian people. Bi women who previously identified as something other than bi can’t talk about the process of realizing they were bi because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon lesbians. Bi women can only talk about being in relationships with women if they add 15 caveats about how they hate other bi women now and have discarded their bisexuality. Bi women in relationships with bi men or with lesbians have to swear up and down that they aren’t fetishizing their partners. 

Bi women can’t talk about being happy (either single or in a relationship) because then people will take that as us having no problems in the world. Bi people can’t talk about mundane issues such as media representation or language about bisexuals because that’s too trivial. Bi women can’t talk about their sex lives or wanting to be polyamorous because that’s seen as too dirty and too gross and too predatory. Bi women can’t produce or consume “sappy wuhluhwuh content” because that’s seen as defanging and disrespecting lesbian identity and yet they can’t talk about bisexual social alienation/trauma/invisibility/loneliness because “invisibility is a privilege” and because “those things are just stolen terms from gay and lesbian people”. 

Bi women can’t talk about being unicorn hunted on dating apps because apparently they don’t face that issue and instead perpetuate it and force lesbians to have threesomes with their male partners (apparently). Bi women can’t talk about intracommunity biphobia without being told that we aren’t radical for dating men and that LGBT spaces are safe gay spaces that we’d be invading. 

Bi women can’t call themselves gay even when they’re in gay relationships. Bi women can’t call themselves tops or bottoms even when they’re having regular gay sex. Bi women can’t call themselves queer because that’s a slur but oh wait, it’s okay when other people weaponize that word against us. Bi women can’t call themselves masc or femme because they’d be stealing those terms from lesbians but oh wait they can’t call themselves tomcats, does, or stags because those terms are cringeworthy imitations of butch/femme. Bi women can’t talk about gender expression without being told they’re appropriating “real” gay culture. Bi women can’t talk about femininity without being told they perform it for men and bi women can’t talk about masculinity without being told that being bi makes it impossible for them to be masculine. 

Bi women can’t talk about how unique relationships between bi women and bi men or bi women and bi women or bi men and bi men are. Bi women can’t call their relationships “bisexual” relationships because that’s somehow “anti-materialism”. Bi women can’t talk about loving their male partners because that’s anti-feminist but they can’t talk about hating men as a class or their trauma with respect to men without being told that it means they must actually be “lesbians suffering from comphet”. 

Bi women can’t talk about solidarity with LGBT people without being seen as selfish, nor can they talk about just bi women without being seen as selfish. 

Bi women can’t talk about the material, systemic, and sexual violence we face because apparently it isn’t real, no matter how much empirically validated proof we offer, and if we do talk about it, we’re stealing lesbian specific experiences or erasing lesbian specific experiences or trying to claim gay and lesbian specific experiences. 

Bi women can’t talk about our place in overall LGBT history (because we were apparently invented in 1998) and we can’t talk about bisexual history (because that’s *spins wheel* taking the focus off the REAL radicals in the community). 

Bi women have to be politically perfect all the time and have to allow people to scrutinize their personal lives and interpersonal relationships and sexual histories/traumas but it’s okay for people to not be in solidarity with us or to even offer us an ounce of empathy (and if we ask for it we’re whiny, selfish, and crying about non-issues). Bi women have to hate themselves and each other and hold each other responsible for all the world’s problems 24/7 but can never hold people responsible for biphobia. 

Bi women can’t even talk about any of these things on their own blogs, in their own spaces, on their own time, with other bi women, because that’s just too much.

There really is no winning. 

bi femmes with this attitude are so badass and i love you all

~ sincerely, a bi butch

im a bisexual FEMME and im not going to apologize for using a "lesbian exclusive term". I bet u don't remember when we were included in the les community before the separatist movement. it's our birthright as sapphics. I'm not going to say sorry and I'm not going to stop. end this biphobic rhetoric. WE BELONG HERE AND WE ARE NOT LEAVING.

Starry Bi 💙🤍💜 Glimmer Icons

Made with this starry bi flag!

anyone who recognizes this video will probably know who i am just by virtue of me posting it, but i don't care. this is my favorite bi character edit of all time and it never gets old!!!

it was also posted just before my birthday lmao

EDIT: don't worry if the post gives you a "this media could not be played" error message. i'm pretty sure it's an API thing. the video is still there, just go directly to the page instead of watching it here

sorry, and i mean this lightheartedly, but the article title is so fucking funny out of context bc of the wording of “use” instead of “reclaim”

use this reaction image when ur bi bestie starts making jokes and it makes u biphobic 🫵🤨 /j

Bi Dykes have my whole heart + check out this amazing article I read explaining bi sapphic’s (aka selenic’s) reclamation of the slur dyke!

a snippet from the article I adore :3

We have a language philosophy who focuses on slur reclamation on our side. Twitter biphobes who insist selenics can’t reclaim dyke have like no research on their side <3

bi + flag colors

Bi: Attraction to two or more genders; Attraction to same and different genders

we have reached a new level of hatred for bi women even i thought unimaginable. you're criticizing fascist cops? yeah well, you like bi women and that's obviously more harmful. gotcha!

like, i haven't even watched TLOK so maybe there's something i'm missing about a certain aspect of their relationship (i honestly don't know, maybe @bisexual-coala could confirm), but instead of choosing to point out something that might be legitimately problematic, your discomfort is with bisexuality...

and as one of my twitter mutuals pointed out, this is one of the few times i've seen korassami not get erased as lesbians ─ because now it's apparently bad to like them instead of the actual les4les couple*!

don't ever tell us prejudice towards bisexuals always has a reasonable, founded basis again. 🖕

*this is not me sharing my opinion on caitvi or claiming you should(n't) like them. however, it's usually a good idea to be critical of certain elements in media.

Bisexual Magazines!!

Hello bisexuals, I have made a carrd archiving a few bisexual magazine series published in the 1990s. If you are interested in bisexual history and want to know more about it then I suggest you check it out 🩷💜💙 (It looks better on PC/desktop site view)

Desert Sunsets (by drxgonfly)

Poison Bivy Icons 🩷💜💙