Photos Not Mine, From Pinterest (however, The Added Text And Filtering Is Done By Me :)

Bi Butch + Bi Femme flags!

This is not to discourage anyone from using the most commonly used bi butch and bi femme flags, but rather, I am personally uncomfortable with some views from the creator of those flags and I wanted to make butch and femme flags that weren’t “blue is masculine and pink is feminine”, and with the bi butch sun and moon mace, and the bi femme moon lipgloss symbols I made! (the symbols on all my flags are with various free to use images from png sites!)

My beloved bi butch bestie @bisexual-coala advised me while making the bi butch flag! especially the brown colour for butches, and I wanted to use purple and a strong shade of red for the bi femme flags!

Flags are symbols f2u! I hope you enjoy my take on them!

The other side of the token of the repost yesterday (the "Why bother write characters in heteronormative relationships?" One). This was created by one of my favourite bi content creators on YouTube. I don't agree with every single detail, but I agree on the essence.

what always made the most sense to me aside from this is reclaiming the 2 in bi not as actual genders, but as hetero & homo attraction.

i love how no one on this site knows anything about lgbt history. fucking obviously "bi" literally means "two," but that label was put upon us by cishets who only recognize gender as two sexes with the purpose of pathologising us. we reclaimed it and redefined it to suit the ACTUAL meaning of our sexuality, which, as according to the bisexual manifesto (1990), which was literally even titled Anything That Moves, bisexuality has always been an attraction to all genders. every single one. not any 2, not 2 or more. all genders.

Bisexual Feminist Blinkies! 🩷

All blinkies made by me, but I found all the formats on blinkie.cafe!

the bisexual pride flag was unvelied for the first time on december 5, 1998

the pink represents same gender attraction

the blue the attraction to different genders

purple, the resulting overlap of the two color, represent bisexuality and its uniqueness and entirety

bisexual people can have overlap experiences and history with other communities but we are also a separate and unique sexuality and identity, we are not “half straight and half gay” and we shouldn’t be perceived or treated as such. just like we see purple as its own color.

it was designed by michael page who took inspiration from the “bi triangles” also called “biangles”, created by liz nania in the 1985

it was important for her emphasizing both bi visibility and its existence outside of binary AND how we have always belonged in the queer community

original thread source

actually here’s some nifty links discussing butch/femme history and how it’s not lesbian exclusive and never has been

this one includes quotes about butch mlm, who have been using the term butch since at least the 1960s

this one discusses bi women using femme, even when they’re with men

this discusses the history of femme and butch in wlw spaces

this discusses how claiming butch/femme is lesbian exclusive is antiblack and racist

this one talks about femme as a term for all lgbt people (includes the d slur and f slur)

some more discussion of bi femmes

here’s a long article about femme bisexuality

some more quotes about bi femmes and bi butches, including a quote from leslie feinberg about butch bis

this talks about femme as a community wide term

this one is about butch bisexuality (d slur)

this is about femme bis and butch bis

read about polari

this is about butch/fem(me) history

here’s this about ball room culture, and this, and this

aaand here’s butch is a noun

just so everyone is aware, being bi4bi isn’t necessarily an exclusive attraction (though to some individuals it absolutely can be!) as much as simply a preference, priority, or otherwise a lifestyle that someone who is bisexual/biromantic/etc. is willing to choose or participate in. (for example, i am bi4bi in both sapphic & duaric contexts but also open to bi4les.)

that being said, these are SO PRETTY and i can’t stop staring at them!!! i’d totally use one or two if i didn’t already have a permanent set picked out. maybe for a blog layout here one day!! 🩷💜💙

bi4bi wallpapers!

requested by @thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra

Bi4Bi: Bisexual 4 Bisexual. A bisexual person who exclusively attracted to other bisexuals; A bi person who emphasizes or prioritizes their attraction and relationships with other bisexuals. A celebration of bisexual love. This is not fetishism, or an implication that bisexuala are any more or less valid than any other orientation. Rather, it stems from issues of safety, trauma, oppression, or other personal reasons.

GLIMMER ICONS ✨💝

Row 1: Sapphic 💖🤍💖

Row 2: Bisexual 💖💜💙

Row 3: Bi-Dyke 💜💛❤️

bi flag colorpicked from the original '80s triangle symbol!

Bi women can’t talk about being in relationships with men because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon gay and lesbian people. Bi women who previously identified as something other than bi can’t talk about the process of realizing they were bi because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon lesbians. Bi women can only talk about being in relationships with women if they add 15 caveats about how they hate other bi women now and have discarded their bisexuality. Bi women in relationships with bi men or with lesbians have to swear up and down that they aren’t fetishizing their partners. 

Bi women can’t talk about being happy (either single or in a relationship) because then people will take that as us having no problems in the world. Bi people can’t talk about mundane issues such as media representation or language about bisexuals because that’s too trivial. Bi women can’t talk about their sex lives or wanting to be polyamorous because that’s seen as too dirty and too gross and too predatory. Bi women can’t produce or consume “sappy wuhluhwuh content” because that’s seen as defanging and disrespecting lesbian identity and yet they can’t talk about bisexual social alienation/trauma/invisibility/loneliness because “invisibility is a privilege” and because “those things are just stolen terms from gay and lesbian people”. 

Bi women can’t talk about being unicorn hunted on dating apps because apparently they don’t face that issue and instead perpetuate it and force lesbians to have threesomes with their male partners (apparently). Bi women can’t talk about intracommunity biphobia without being told that we aren’t radical for dating men and that LGBT spaces are safe gay spaces that we’d be invading. 

Bi women can’t call themselves gay even when they’re in gay relationships. Bi women can’t call themselves tops or bottoms even when they’re having regular gay sex. Bi women can’t call themselves queer because that’s a slur but oh wait, it’s okay when other people weaponize that word against us. Bi women can’t call themselves masc or femme because they’d be stealing those terms from lesbians but oh wait they can’t call themselves tomcats, does, or stags because those terms are cringeworthy imitations of butch/femme. Bi women can’t talk about gender expression without being told they’re appropriating “real” gay culture. Bi women can’t talk about femininity without being told they perform it for men and bi women can’t talk about masculinity without being told that being bi makes it impossible for them to be masculine. 

Bi women can’t talk about how unique relationships between bi women and bi men or bi women and bi women or bi men and bi men are. Bi women can’t call their relationships “bisexual” relationships because that’s somehow “anti-materialism”. Bi women can’t talk about loving their male partners because that’s anti-feminist but they can’t talk about hating men as a class or their trauma with respect to men without being told that it means they must actually be “lesbians suffering from comphet”. 

Bi women can’t talk about solidarity with LGBT people without being seen as selfish, nor can they talk about just bi women without being seen as selfish. 

Bi women can’t talk about the material, systemic, and sexual violence we face because apparently it isn’t real, no matter how much empirically validated proof we offer, and if we do talk about it, we’re stealing lesbian specific experiences or erasing lesbian specific experiences or trying to claim gay and lesbian specific experiences. 

Bi women can’t talk about our place in overall LGBT history (because we were apparently invented in 1998) and we can’t talk about bisexual history (because that’s *spins wheel* taking the focus off the REAL radicals in the community). 

Bi women have to be politically perfect all the time and have to allow people to scrutinize their personal lives and interpersonal relationships and sexual histories/traumas but it’s okay for people to not be in solidarity with us or to even offer us an ounce of empathy (and if we ask for it we’re whiny, selfish, and crying about non-issues). Bi women have to hate themselves and each other and hold each other responsible for all the world’s problems 24/7 but can never hold people responsible for biphobia. 

Bi women can’t even talk about any of these things on their own blogs, in their own spaces, on their own time, with other bi women, because that’s just too much.

There really is no winning.