Okay But Like. Queerphobia Is Queerphobia. Disrespecting Microlabels/MOGAI And Not Welcoming Them In

okay but like. Queerphobia is queerphobia. Disrespecting microlabels/MOGAI and not welcoming them in the community accomplishes nothing. It’s just queerphobic. The arguments you use against them have been used against you, but by appealing to the monogamous cishet society, you assimilate. They see you as “one of the good ones”, not as fully equal. You are not paving the way for acceptance of queer identities; you are paving the way for toleration of “understandable” and cishet appealing queer identities. Identities where it’s possible for them to pretend you’re not very queer at all.

The arguments of “that doesn’t exist, you can’t just do that, you can’t be a boy or girl and look like that, this is just an attention seeking liar or abomination” towards nonbinary people in general, nonbinary microlabels, and gnc trans people has been and will be used against you. You’re not being completely accepted by society, you are blending in. You are just as queer as the people you mock, and they are just as queer as you.

But because they don’t “make sense” or “aren’t normal” or are “weird” or don’t clearly and visibly conform to cishet ideals, they are easier to turn the flame on. That flame is still there. That burning disgust and hatred of open queerness is still there. But because you are like them, because you pass and are “normal enough” to them, you have some ability to redirect the heat.

You have the privledge of passing, of being understandable to what they consider normal and acceptable, and that acceptance and toleration is at risk if you’re lumped in with clearly non-passing or conforming queer people, so you join in on their oppression. You say, “don’t hate me, hate them, I’m the normal one” when you used to not be. You bear burn scars and don’t want any more, so you push the flame to people that are easier to burn.

That heat and hatred is not gone, it’s just not directly pointing at you anymore. If someone were to use those arguments against you, which they have, you’d be hated just the same, which you were. You are not abolishing the flame, you are just redirecting it.

MOGAI, xenogenders, neopronouns, microlabels, all of them are in our community, and they always have been. Their ability to be specific and happy with their labels because they have the comfort and space to openly explore their gender and sexuality in much more depth, is not a disgrace to what we’ve built, but something to be celebrated. They feel safe enough to and have a community for terms to describe themselves as much as they want, and that is far from a bad thing. Discovery is a long and difficult process. Whatever they find and whatever they try, if it stays or not, is valid. What helps them is valid. Their queerness is valid.

All you are doing is separating yourself from that community, our community, so that you are not burned with them.