When Will Y’all Learn

If you think “cishet invaders pretending to be LGBT” is a real problem that justifies discouraging people from reaching out to their local LGBTQ+ communities, we can’t be friends.

okay but like. Queerphobia is queerphobia. Disrespecting microlabels/MOGAI and not welcoming them in the community accomplishes nothing. It’s just queerphobic. The arguments you use against them have been used against you, but by appealing to the monogamous cishet society, you assimilate. They see you as “one of the good ones”, not as fully equal. You are not paving the way for acceptance of queer identities; you are paving the way for toleration of “understandable” and cishet appealing queer identities. Identities where it’s possible for them to pretend you’re not very queer at all.

The arguments of “that doesn’t exist, you can’t just do that, you can’t be a boy or girl and look like that, this is just an attention seeking liar or abomination” towards nonbinary people in general, nonbinary microlabels, and gnc trans people has been and will be used against you. You’re not being completely accepted by society, you are blending in. You are just as queer as the people you mock, and they are just as queer as you.

But because they don’t “make sense” or “aren’t normal” or are “weird” or don’t clearly and visibly conform to cishet ideals, they are easier to turn the flame on. That flame is still there. That burning disgust and hatred of open queerness is still there. But because you are like them, because you pass and are “normal enough” to them, you have some ability to redirect the heat.

You have the privledge of passing, of being understandable to what they consider normal and acceptable, and that acceptance and toleration is at risk if you’re lumped in with clearly non-passing or conforming queer people, so you join in on their oppression. You say, “don’t hate me, hate them, I’m the normal one” when you used to not be. You bear burn scars and don’t want any more, so you push the flame to people that are easier to burn.

That heat and hatred is not gone, it’s just not directly pointing at you anymore. If someone were to use those arguments against you, which they have, you’d be hated just the same, which you were. You are not abolishing the flame, you are just redirecting it.

MOGAI, xenogenders, neopronouns, microlabels, all of them are in our community, and they always have been. Their ability to be specific and happy with their labels because they have the comfort and space to openly explore their gender and sexuality in much more depth, is not a disgrace to what we’ve built, but something to be celebrated. They feel safe enough to and have a community for terms to describe themselves as much as they want, and that is far from a bad thing. Discovery is a long and difficult process. Whatever they find and whatever they try, if it stays or not, is valid. What helps them is valid. Their queerness is valid.

All you are doing is separating yourself from that community, our community, so that you are not burned with them.

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Is this person trying to say that being ace or aro makes you less of your sexual orientation…? This is just,,, so silly. A gay ace or a gay aro isn’t “basically” gay, they are gay.

Being gay doesn’t make you any less ace and being ace doesn’t make you any less gay. They aren’t contradictory! Same goes for every other sexual orientation and with being aro

~Mod Pluto

I agree with the labels not being contradictory towards whatever orientation you may be yet I have to add

heteromantics are queer and thus LGBTQ+.

You don't have to like the same gender to be queer you just don't follow amatonormativity and/or heteronormativity. Let me add, this is typically not by choice like how asexuals and aromantics don't have a choice in not feeling attraction.

They have a different experience than that of heterosexuals. You may not notice, as I am going to assume that you are an allosexual/romantic by your word choice, but this world is heavily sex and romance crazed.

I am an aroace demiboy and you won't believe how hard it is to live in a society like this. We do face oppression like you as well, I'm not going to argue which is worse homophobia or aphobia because oppression isn't a contest but we do have to face discrimination as well.

Not just corrective rape and conversion 'therapy', but some doctors even put ace patients off of meds if found to lower their libido. There is nothing wrong with feeling no sexual and/or romantic attraction yet we feel broken for years. When we hear the terms asexual or aromantic we realize there is nothing wrong with us afterall.

You have to remember that this community was made to protect everyone thrown out by the amato/heteronormative society. Asexuals and aromantics experience oppression and need support just like everyone else in the LGBT+ community. Instead of infighting and saying who gets to be allowed in or not lets actually fight discrimination.

Asexuals and Aromantics are an important part of the community.

Is this person trying to say that being ace or aro makes you less of your sexual orientation…? This is just,,, so silly. A gay ace or a gay aro isn’t “basically” gay, they are gay.

Being gay doesn’t make you any less ace and being ace doesn’t make you any less gay. They aren’t contradictory! Same goes for every other sexual orientation and with being aro

~Mod Pluto

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Sad but true.

Reminder that it’s okay if you only use one set of pronouns !!

It’s also okay to use multiple sets of pronouns !! TONS of pronouns !! 

It’s also okay to use NO pronouns !! Or ANY/ALL pronouns !! 

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