Coming From A Country With Very Heavily Censored Literature And Media, And Therefore Has To Resort To

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get okay with being some level of burden on others, seriously

do you ever see something that hurts you kinda but it's such a ??? stupid thing to be upset over ??? so you're just there like hm .

as funny as all those “lan wangji hates bugs” headcanons are, i actually love the opposite: lan wangji loves bugs. he can identify a beetle at a glance and he always takes a few extra seconds to admire the spiders that get into the jingshi that he scoops up before he puts them outside. when he was little there was an orb weaver that took up residence beside his window and he called her maiden spider for as long as she lived. they were a special interest of his for a solid few years before bunnies, and he’s still an encyclopedia of bug facts.

but you know who doesn’t like bugs? lan xichen.

so:

lan wangji, age 8, holding up a weird-looking cricket he found: xiongzhang look

lan xichen, age 12, sweating bullets: how nice, wangji

watching word of honor was fun because i knew all the spoilers but none of the actual plot. yes i know everyone who dies in the penultimate episode. what’s a glazed armour. yes i have seen 30 different gifsets of every wenzhou scene including the epilogue. who’s zhao jing

‘So everything sucks’ mental health toolkit

Hello everyone, I lost half my family last year between March and November, three of whom were elderly, and it was Not Much Fun Actually BUT I have had the horrible thought that many people this year are going to be in the same boat I was in in 2019, so here is how I coped:

Write everything down. I mean it. Anything you’re feeling; the grief, the worry about their health, how much you love them. Put it down on paper. Exorcise it. Don’t just let the bad feelings and the sadness fester. It doesn’t have to be exquisite poetry, just catharsis. 

Call your relatives! Especially the elderly ones. After the first 3 bereavements I got much closer to my grandma. Her passing wasn’t made harder by the fact of having spent more time speaking to her; it was eased because I knew that she knew how much I loved her. 

BE SENSIBLE. You want to see your family now. I get it. My uncle was given 3 weeks to live and I caught norovirus. I couldn’t see him for a week. It sucked. But I had to stay at home, because if he caught it, he’d die. Covid-19 is the same principle. Phone them instead. 

Talk to your family and friends about how you feel. Grief is a really, really lonely place sometimes. I didn’t know anyone going through what I was going through. This time, we’re all in it together. Share your feelings. Reassure each other that you’re valid and heard. 

Be kind to yourself. There’s going to be days, especially with all this social upheaval, where you just can’t. This is OK. You’re a human who has worth beyond your productivity. Let yourself feel sad if you have to. Eat a bit of chocolate. Have a bath. Then do the laundry.

Keep being human, in all the ways you can. Keep cleaning the house. Get up every morning and get dressed. Go to bed at a sensible time. Eat healthy, regular meals. Keep yourself strong, not just in case you get the virus, but to remind yourself that you can and will endure. 

As clichéd as it is, remember that you have survived everything in your life up to this point. You can get through this. There will be a time when it’s over. I thought 2019 would never end. It was funeral after funeral. I thought I wouldn’t make it out the other side. I did. 

Check in with people and ask them to check in with you. My friends literally got me through 2019, even though I wasn’t always up for seeing them in person. We phoned and texted. Build a support network. Being socially isolated doesn’t mean being lonely. 

I think that’s pretty much it, but a final reminder that we humans can endure so much more than we think we can, even when it feels like it’s relentless and it will never stop. It will. The only way through it is, well, to go through it. I hope everyone is staying safe and well!!

like no one cares about your insecurities and deep rooted issues SHUT UP

sometimes i just want to talk to people and it being fun rather than me oversharing and killing the convo

*walking around between my mutuals desks* hi how are we doing over here? you guys need anything? *leans down and peeks at your posts* oh youre doing a great job with that picture! awesome job colouring :) is he a character from the cartoon you like? ohhh its called anime? well he looks so cool you did an awesome job.

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