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hey, other trans women, group pep talk here:

not liking being seen as a man doesn't give you the right to treat men like shit.

not wanting to be associated with manhood, personally, does not mean you get to treat people who DO want to be associated with manhood like shit.

not wanting your body to have high levels of testosterone does not give you the right to tell other people that testosterone is a "poison" or that it will "ruin your body". testosterone was bad for you. it's not bad for everyone. i was forced on to estrogen HRT as a teenager due to being intersex and i literally fucking hated every single moment of it because it made me miserable. estrogen is not "pure" and testosterone is not "evil". estrogen almost ruined my health and my life.

you are traumatized by cisheternormative patriarchy. you are not traumatized by the concept of manhood.

trans men are not talking about their struggles with corrective rape, misgendering, transandrophobia, misogyny, violence, homelessness, substance abuse and domestic violence to diminish what we go through. we BOTH face these issues and for some reason you're just literally choosing to erase what an entire group of people that you don't occupy goes through for... what exactly ?

hating trans men and misgendering them and treating them like shit is transphobia.

what are you trying to accomplish here? do you give a fuck about trans rights at all? or is this about feeling powerless in cisheternormative society, so you feel you have to control someone else?

if trans women talking about the experience of being a trans woman doesn't take space away from trans men talking about the experience of being trans men, then the opposite isn't true, either.

if the concept of transmisogyny doesn't take space away from people discussing transandrophobia, then the opposite is also true.

do y'all hear yourselves? hating trans men won't make cisheternormative society like you better. hating trans men won't make transmisogyny go away. throwing trans men under the bus won't make queerphobes treat and accept you better. all you're doing is being transphobic. who does that help exactly?

ask yourself: are you in this because you want to express who you are on the inside, or are you in this to be a bully? if the only reason you're here is to treat men like shit because you don't like being seen as a man, the door is right there. kissing up to rad fems won't make them see you as more of a woman, just so you're painfully aware. they will always hate us. stop sucking up to people who literally want you to die.

trans women aren't the only trans people who suffer under cisheternormative patriarchy. accept this and move on. stop finding every excuse you can think of to misgender other trans people. it's not going to help you heal from your dysphoria and the trauma society has given you.

Maybe you expect trans guys to be misogynistic because you think they'll reject femininity and femaleness in the same way you reject masculinity and maleness. But for all the "testosterone is a poison, masculinity is toxic, being a man is disgusting and being a woman is better in every way" rhetoric I see coming from certain trans women and transfems, I absolutely do not see anything similar coming from trans men and transmascs about estrogen and femininity being disgusting and horrible and corruptive even though we had those things pushed on us just as much.

You people are genuinely so exhausting.

I don't make many original posts here or additions mostly BC I'm a fuckass adult with a lot of shit to juggle but genuinely the state of shit is so sad. Just like the fucking everything. Environment shit political shit war shit everything feels like it's burning and we're still doing fucking queer discourse.

Lol. You can first block transmisogyny-ratio-reader and then use the blog to actually follow people who are not raging bigots against anyone who's not a trans radfem

update 3 hours later: The blog is now transmisogyny-ratio-reader2! Which she's using to block and ban evade to keep spewing her bigotry.

So many people are so against transmasc headcannons that it is genuinely sad. I have seen so many people accusing trans men of “erasing women” and saying that a trans man existing is somehow less progressive than a cis woman. Saying that every character would just be better if they were a woman. I have also seen a lot of “the only headcannoning that can happen is if it’s a trans woman”, but for the most part I have seen people angry about “erasing cis women”.

My first experience with this was very early in my trans journey, back before I’d realized myself. I had read a book about Peter Pan being a trans man originally called Wendy. It was the first time I had ever seen a trans man represented in media. It felt so right and exciting that I immediately went online (never a good idea) hoping to experience more about the book.

I found two videos about the book, one by a poc trans man saying it was a really good book and that others should read it but not really diving into the themes very much, and the other was by a white nonbinary person that spent the entire video hating on the book. Accusing the author (a trans man) of being a pedophile and of erasing woman, just going on an on about how horrible of a book it was. Adding that any man who liked a trans man was just a pedophile because trans men look like children. I was going through a really rough part of my life, feeling really suicidal and conflicted about being trans. And here was this video destroying the one bit of positivity I had and spouting the very things that had been making me feel so conflicted about being trans in the first place. The very things the world was screaming in my face.

I wonder if I would have figured myself out much sooner if I hadn’t had to experience that.

I'm very, very sorry anon. You didn't deserve to be put through that.

this might just be because i'm a tee-em-ee or wtv but personally. if i'm being 100% genuine. i think "transmascs have an innate biological want to return to their birth sex and become terfs" is more bioessentialist than "transfems are capable of hurting other people because transfems are people, and people are capable of hurting others"

edit: some dumbass bitch called me a nazi and a fascist for this post. btw

Unfortunately I recognise her and yes she is that one

what the fuck